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Hey there, Pineapple people, and welcome to the Swing Nation podcast. We are your hosts, Northern Guy. And Southern Girl. And today, we have another episode of tuesday talk we do how about that intro though how about that intro i absolutely love it lacy lacy's obsessed i'm kind of i love how it's like professional that like at the end it's like me poking fun at you because like that's kind of what made the Tuesday Talk jingle a thing. They nailed it. You want to, when we got this and we heard it and we listened. So shout out to who sent us the jingle is Mr.
Sweets from the Sweet Side of Life podcast, which is another Swingers podcast. Yeah. Which is actually one I had not listened to. No, we literally were just looking it up.
So we'll have to check it out sometime next time we're in the car and uh you know headed the secrets or something we need to listen to mr sweets from the sweet side of life's podcast so go go listen to their podcast first of all uh huge this guy obviously knows how to do audios that way more than i do yeah because that that was pretty uh i wonder if he was like an ai or something i don't know it was good it was very good very very good so appreciate that so but anyway lacy heard this jingle and she's like that's our jingle yeah she's like just cancel the whole thing we're gonna use that every episode and it's gonna be great i don't think anybody's gonna top it which i don't disagree with you i very very much like it and i think we could use it in every episode and it'd be fine but now this is it's becoming a thing so you want people to continue so like what if we play some like if we get a couple that we play some going in and then like play some going out like i don't know if we're gonna get that many you think we're gonna be playing like five Tuesday talks no i was thinking like you said a couple going two okay like one going in and one going i don't know anyway thank you i love it it was great all right so if you're listening and you can one-up mr sweets yeah i think you can be that or if you just want to i like the people that sing i like it all like i am kind of like addicted to this i almost like this part of the tuesday talks better than i like the actual episode i just like what what are people gonna come up with i don't know what's gonna happen yeah no i like it yeah all right so we'll keep the tuesday talks going if you have a tuesday talks jingle that you'd like us to play on the podcast um you can call in and you can sing your little jingle and the number for that is 972-302-7716 or he actually put this in like an mp3 yeah and emailed it to us professional yeah it's in which i appreciate because i'm just gonna i played the raw audio over the microphone here so me and lacey can kind of listen to it and refresh our brain but i'm just gonna drop the actual audio so you get like the good quality like the crisp you get the real deal um when you listen to the podcast okay so this week's question we're actually gonna go back on our own word so i've been telling all the people hey if you want to get a tuesday talk question in you got to call in you got to call in you got to use your voice we want to hear you it's more authentic we feel more connected with you um do that we're going to prioritize those i vetoed you but you you're like i have to do this tuesday talk i think it's a really good one and i'm glad somebody asked it I mean, honestly.
Right. You read this email But you're like, I have to do this Tuesday Talks. I think it's a really good one, and I'm glad somebody asked it. I mean, honestly. Right. You read this email, and you're like, we have to do this. I've been thinking about it, to be honest with you. They sent it on the 18th. It's like the 28th. They sent it like 10 days ago. You've been thinking about it? I have been. Yeah. Okay. Because I don't know. I don't necessarily know the answer, and we're going to kind of like talk through it.
But I think that's like a good question and i think a lot of times people like anyway i'll read it and you'll get it okay so let's hear this week's question okay um tuesday talk hi dan lacy sorry if this has been asked our question might be several parts one assume you're at an event if you guys are interested in a couple how how do you guys handle it? Who initiates the convo, Dan or Lacey? Who makes the first move? Sidebar conversations, question mark. One, and then in parentheses it says Dan or Lacey. Authority to initiate an interest. And then a nod, a wink.
At events, do you prefer your own inner circle or group, or do like new people are you there to work or play or both we only asked because we felt like we were occupying a lot of your time when people were waiting to speak to you at an event we weren't sure if we were you were there to work or play or both love y'all show keep doing what you're doing into hell with the haters and the um email address is inquiring minds inquiring minds wants to know so when i'm like interested who the hell who the hell is this who are you yeah like a good mystery we talk to and they want to know if we put they seem like they're maybe interested a little bit okay so there's a lot of questions we just start from the beginning there i actually want to start from the end oh i kind of want to start from the end okay like um are we there for work or play or both yeah both um well that both so 100 we're there for both and then but you also said they felt bad for holding us we were only.
We felt like we weren't occupying a lot of your time. People were waiting to speak to you at an event, and we weren't sure if that was working. That was the part I wanted to address, right? And I think we'll go through every bullet point, and we'll talk about it real quick. But the overarching, it seems like this person had a conversation with us at the event.
And during that conversation, they felt like they were holding us up or keeping us from talking to other people or keeping us from doing whatever it looks like there were people waiting right per their email yeah okay so what what are your thoughts on that the idea of that that they we were they felt like they were doing like they were holding us up well one we're always there to work work throwing a an event that's safe and fun that always comes first but we'd like to play if if we can you know it doesn't always happen but if we can we'd like to um it is hard because a lot of people demand our time and not to say demand not in a bad way um it just is what it is sometimes there are people waiting sometimes our group of friends and us might be walking out to go somewhere and we get stopped so then they get stopped and so it holds up but i don't want anybody to ever feel bad for that at all you know um we don't feel bad i i guess like the only thing i would say i feel bad is i feel bad that you felt that way what do you think i mean like that was your point No, that was, your point was 100% my point.
So, yes. So, at events, especially events like Secrets, any Swinger Society event, we are the ones hosting the party. Yeah. So, we're running the DJs. We have the entertainment. We are somewhat how involved in the door check-ins if there's a room issue. So, there's all these behind-the-scenes things that people maybe not realize are going on. And me and Lacey have our hands in all that stuff.
Now, we we have employees who are amazing and awesome and they take care of a lot of those problems for us but we still kind of have our eyes are always on and our ears are kind of to that all the time um and so it could be that you stop us and we're getting ready to go check on the dj or go check on a merch booth or go fix a room issue or you know we could be on a beeline to do that and you stop to say hi and so we stop we try to stop even if we're doing that we will stop and we'll say hi to you but i can see how somebody would get the impression that like i felt like i was bothering you i felt like i was stopping you well and i've got criticism like people have complained about me because they said that i was mean because i didn't, like, stop and give them 100% of my attention.
Yeah. And you never get that issue. I do. Maybe because I'm a female. I don't know. I think you're judged differently than I am. Yeah. For your gender and probably other reasons. Yeah. So I do get that a lot. And we've had several people complain that they felt like I did not give them enough of my time. Yeah. And I can think of other times like the room crawl. Some people come through the room crawl and say hi to us and they want to sit there and talk for 20, 30 minutes. You've got 30 people in line. Right. The room crawl is only an hour. So we kind of have to rush people through.
And it's not because we don't want to have a conversation with you it's because we're just trying to facilitate the room crawl and get everybody through yeah um and so and one of the points you brought up is that often you know maybe we're headed from the club to go have an orgy with our friends and somebody stops to say hi love it but we're also holding up all of our friends to go have an orgy yeah so we're kind of you know we're talking to you and we we are engaged with you um but we feel we also feel bad about holding up our friends yeah yeah um so i just want to address that and to your point please stop us please talk to us um you know if we seem busy you know and say hey i see you're busy and you know thanks for stopping and we'll you know we'll say hey thanks for coming and we appreciate you being here because i tell you i love oh it means the most to me when they stop me the best people lifestyle people the best people we want to have conversations with you um but it is difficult um now if you want the best times to talk to us thursdays yeah sundays at secrets thursdays and sundays at secrets not saturday midday uh any event we go to that's not a swing or side event you know if we go to a eye candy uh uh naughty in orleans a bliss cruise a hito a hito is a great time to talk to us because it's usually a small group um those are all the best times to talk to us uh you know secrets if you see us in the pool that's usually a good time because that's that's when we're trying to socialize when we're trying to mingle uh is when we're in the pool and stuff like that so i don't know but please stop to us please talk to us never feel guilty or bad about that we want to talk to you so i just want to start with that um now let's go through some of the bullet points that they actually asked okay so we're assume it assume we are at an event and you guys are interested in a couple how do you handle it um usually so it says do you initiate so first of all let's say how do we handle it if we're interested we will communicate that to each other to each other so i'll be like she's hot as fuck we need to go talk to her sometimes it's as easy as that like we see a couple sometimes we might talk to you and you walk away and then we're like oh my god she's beautiful the same way every other couple does you know our time is very limited and so sometimes we'll say fuck they're hot and we're like okay if that happens right if it doesn't okay you know but like so we will just kind of keep our eye out this new thing of us being swinger lifestyle influencers you know z level celebrities celebrities in the lifestyle or whatever it almost feels about not real sometimes so like it when a hot couple comes up to me and a hot girl is talking to me and she seems interested i don't know how to handle that like it doesn't doesn't compute in my brain having the podcast and having somewhat of a following it kind of like do they just like the podcast do they want to fuck me well that's that's my other point like are you talking to me because you genuinely enjoy the podcast and what we do you generally enjoy the event and you just wanted to have a conversation because you you enjoy being there or are you trying to talk to me because you have an interest in fucking yeah that's a hard i don't know what you're doing so so like on one side these people that of us.
We're also asking that of people. We don't know, you know, and some people are very blunt. They're like, we want to fuck. And some people are just like really shy and beat around the business. So we're also trying to figure that out. Okay. So let's, um, do we, do one or both of us initiate a combo? It's not that cut or dry.
Some, like we don't have rules around that if i'm into someone i'll be like i'm gonna go talk to them i will say historically lacy is usually the more shy person so it is often that i would initiate the conversation yeah but i will say here in the last six months a year um i think the busier we get at events we tend to get pulled apart more and you've gotten much much better over the last year or so being social i have but if i really like you i usually will freak out and just like ignore you because i don't know what to do with that i'm working on it but it's almost like i get intimidated like if there's a super hot guy you know and like i'm really into him it's like i don't know what to do with my hands you know and i'm like what the fuck do i say what i you know if it was somebody that i just okay like and like you know if we fuck great if we don't it's okay yeah i'm a little bit more comfortable right so if lacy's talking to you and she's not super awkward she's not into you if she's acting super awkward she totally wants the bone yeah i do um but we don't really have rules on who initiates it's kind of whoever can you know and it's really not something we don't really think we it's not i guess because we've been doing this for a while it's not something that we really i'll also say we don't necessarily if we do initiate we're not always looking for a couple for couple thing either like it's okay if you just think a guy is hot you can go talk to him yeah and if i just think a girl is hot i can go talk to him yeah now lacy's more likely to be jealous if i'm talking to a hot girl and she's probably but but that girl doesn't have to worry about it i'll tell you in private like i'm not gonna be mean to her you know but we're always generally speaking we're looking for an orgy at the end of the night, you know, that's because we, our time is limited.
I mean, honest to God, our time is limited and we like fucking, you know? And so like, if we can get four hot couples that we like all four couples, let's just go fuck and we can take turns. I mean, maybe we're selfish. Maybe we don't. I mean, I don't know. It's like're right. It's like when I only fuck one couple, I'm like, well, shit, we could have fucked three. We are pretty open to any combination of things. Yeah. Okay. But if we really are into you and the only way this is going to happen is if we go to a private room, just say that. Yeah.
Because some people are like, well, we're not into group play. Okay.
Say, we want to fuck you if we can just go back to our room you know just communicate that to us and we'll try to make it happen if we can't okay so um who makes the first move i think that kind of goes with that last one yeah it's kind of open you tend to be the move maker you're the one that whips out your dick and it's like are we going to the orgy room i'm usually a little more upfront about it than lacey is she plays a little more coy but yeah it could be either yeah um she'll surprise you once in a while sidebar conversations what does that mean like is that like i think it's like is it okay like yeah yeah because we've been doing this for so long like for the most part we don't like a lot of times we're not even together and we've kind of been forced into this role we're definitely the same room full swap couple but because events are so big and so crazy and we almost have to like divide and conquer there's a good chance that we're not together right you literally go take a nap while i'm making girls squirt on the side of the pool yeah but that's for work it's not really yeah yeah i mean you enjoy it don't even lie of course so yes sidebar my dick is probably throbbing but yeah yeah you know sidebar conversations are totally okay one either one of us have the authority to initiate yeah but we're gonna at least give a filler right right so if we are gonna kissing you know maybe you know some some fondling i think all of that is kind of in play with us like if you do that without asking me or yeah i'll kiss guys especially like at the pool and you're like over the dj maybe you might rub his dick a little above or maybe below i think i've probably even got blowjobs on at the pool before from people that were without really i would generally try to ask you first but sometimes it just happens you know, secrets is definitely a grayer area for us because your job is to entertain and to work and to make girls come and get people turned on and get people in a sexy mood.
So a lot of times there is some gray area around there. But a lot of times you're doing that because that is our job. You also do enjoy it.
Yeah, I every there's no like oh my gosh i i gotta go make somebody come no you enjoy it i gotta get the pool party going so yeah i think we can initiate i think within reason i think we kind of know that limit but if we are going to do a full swap behind closed doors or in a playroom me and lacy are gonna have a conversation about that before it happens oh for sure and honestly i'm probably not gonna suck some guy's dick i mean like maybe if you're right like on the like same thing with me yeah i would if a girl's gonna suck my duck generally speaking i'm not gonna say it hasn't happened without you we try to lock eyes listen i turned down i know we know i've turned down blow jobs because you weren weren't there yeah oh um we definitely will at least lock eyes or something um because the next question is like a nod a wink we do pretty well like non-verbal um communication like even in a like a full-on swamp situation like poke to like point at a girl and like make a dick sucking motion and you'd like give me thumbs up or thumbs down yeah yeah so we're we're okay with that um so yeah i mean does that answer the question i mean was that all of them yeah that's it oh you rocked through that yeah yeah um those are pretty good questions but yeah oh wait we left one out okay at events you prefer your inner circle group or do you like new people great question answer uh i would say both we like having sex with multiple people so if we could bring like half new people and half people that we know that that's the perfect orgy that's the perfect orgy um we you know we also get flack for people saying we don't play with new people which is not true but then we also get flack for fucking new people every time so we're never gonna make them all happy but truth be told um i didn't i didn't know people's hot it's fun why not i think we are in this lifestyle genuinely speaking because we enjoy new experiences correct we enjoy doing new things meeting new people new energy but a sure thing is worth bringing on you know like when you have genuine connections with close friends that's great sex yeah and it's guaranteed great sex you know it's gonna be good you know it's not gonna be drama you know everybody's gonna come it's gonna be a wonderful time so there's you would never turn that down so like you said the ideal is you get some new people that you haven't had experience with before they're there with some people that you know are going to be reliable and be part of it and there's an orgy that that would be our ideal night now that being said we've had great one-on-one times with couples we've had great one-on-one soft swap slash no swap times with couples uh we could have a great time just making out with people that are you know like so you know you having sex with a lesbian couple like there's all kinds of things and that's we really really enjoy exploring new things um new energy we just did something new which hasn't came out yet at moonshine mountain too like we even pushed it even further so we're all that's a little um hint so we um i don't know i think we're just swingers true and true like we want to fuck sometimes we get too drunk we have to go back to our room because we got too drunk or sometimes we're exhausted because we worked our asses off we have to go back into to our rooms but sometimes one of us gets triggered and gets jealous and we get in a fight like all this shit this is lifestyle shit we the issues you if you've been in lifestyle for more than a week and you've had issues at some point me and lacy probably had those same issues and we're working through it and we're not perfect and we're making mistakes but that's what the lifestyle is all about and that's what we're here to talk about yeah in a perfect world we'll throw off a great party everybody will have fun everybody will consent it's amazing and great and then we get to fuck a little right around midnight the party's about over you know i mean so where we go and what we do that's all that's up to us yeah now if you you know if it's 11 or 10 o'clock at night and you're trying to go off and play we probably probably can't yeah and it's not because we don't want to fuck you it's because we need to make sure the party gets you know gets through gets done and everything goes well and if you'll notice we tend to go a easier during the day.
So that way we can make sure that the party is going. And then at night, you know, turn like 11-ish. So hats off. Once that main DJ is on the stage and everything is smooth as butter, it's go time. Yeah. 100%. You can be a little tipsy and still make sure everything gets shut off and broken down at the end of the night. You have. I've been there, done that. You've broken down a 360 camera drunk like nobody says this. Hey, it still works. Yeah. We're getting it done. But it's a great question. Yeah, I'm really curious who inquiring minds are. I think they're hot. Do you? I have no idea.
I kind of have an idea. I'll tell you off camera. But it's not... It was somebody from Not The secrets, but the secrets before. Okay. Interesting. Interesting. But yeah, definitely. We had such a great time with the last secrets. And we cannot wait to tell you about Moonshine Mountain because that was epic. All right. Anything else? No. All right.
So if you have a Tuesday talk question or a Tuesday talk jingle and you would like to get that to me and Lacey that phone number one more time is 972-302-7716 okay you can also email us your question or your jingle and the email for that is the swing nation at gmail.com you can find us on tiktok and instagram and facebook and clapper and only fans and all the other places if there's a social media platform we're probably there you can message us on those platforms i can't guarantee we'll see it or we'll answer you i promise you we try our best but it just there's so much we get so much spam and so many dudes saying hey wanna fuck uh that sometimes we miss stuff so anyway please reach out please uh give us your questions we want to hear from you I think with that in a world full of apples be the pineapple bye if you've enjoyed our podcast and want to support us leave a 5 star review wherever you wherever you're listening.
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