Tuesday Talks: Will this Lifestyle Accept My Penile Implant?

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Welcome to the nation, dive into delight It's Tuesday Talks, groove all through the night Non-monogamy, swingin' bright Join the covo, it'll feel just right Tuesday Talks, we're open and free sharing stories of our community tune in close for the thrill you'll see swing nation's where you want to be in five four three two one hey there pineapple people and welcome to the swing nation podcast we are your host northern guy and southern girl and we are back with another rendition of tuesday talks we are talking tuesday um we actually didn't listen to the jingle this time we didn't i'm gonna surprise you you're not gonna know what jingles going on there it's two days before christmas we are we are jingled out we're a shit show yeah it's just like the last we're in the last last ditch effort to get everything done we only have to record like five podcast episodes that's all no big deal before we go on vacation all right so we're going to go straight to the phone lines and we're going to hear what this week's Tuesday Talk question is. Hi, Dan and Lacey. First time listener, and i just listened to the episode about uh penis size and i wanted to ask a question about something kind of related to that i'm in my early 50s been married 33 years the same beautiful woman woman. And the last several years, I've struggled with ED. This is not a psychological thing. Last year and a half, I've been on a journey to get this fixed. It's medical issues stemming from diabetes and that sort of thing but i'm at the point now where they're about to schedule a penile implant surgery and was just wondering how that will be perceived in the community if you think that'll be an issue for some people, I don't know, just nervous. I will say that my wife stuck by me through all this, me being stubborn and stupid, until I finally decided to do something about it. And I honestly think that us getting more open and honest discussing it is what kind of prompted us to start into the lifestyle this year. But just wanted your thoughts on how that would maybe be perceived in the community. Thanks. That's kind of a powerful message, huh? Yeah, it is. Did it kind of make you a little? A little, yeah. I could feel like his emotion. Yeah. And see, this is why size subject, but this is why I like phone calls, right? Yeah. Because if we had just read that, you wouldn't have got the same out of it. You wouldn't have got the same amount of money out of it. You could hear in his voice that this was a painful kind of thing to talk about. I don't know. yeah if we had just read that you wouldn't have got the same out of it you know you wouldn't have got the same amount you could hear in his voice that this was a painful kind of thing to talk about it sounded like it to me and you know what's crazy is like side note yesterday dan and i were having a conversation as we were driving about if we got to a stage in life where like one of us was sick and we weren't really actively swinging and then the other or you know, needed someone to like, how would we handle that? It kind of seems like same thing kind of happened to him. And so that, I don't know, it was just kind of neat to hear somebody talk about it. And we literally were just talking, having this conversation yesterday. Nobody's sick for the record. We're not sick, but we were just having a, we were just in discussion. That's all. Yeah, no, we've been, you know, we've've it's been sickness all around us so i think it's made us think of of things like that but anyway the listener called in he has an issue with with ed um like a real issue not yeah not a you know not performance anxiety it sounds more like this is a medical issue um and it's gotten to the point where he's thinking he's going to need a penile implant and he's worried about how that will be perceived in the lifestyle yeah so you have any thoughts on that um i cannot speak for all females um and i'm assuming he's a straight man i don't know he might be biased but i can't speak for other men because i'm not a man but i would think it was cool. And I would be interested in it personally. That's just me. Like if he had a cool attitude around it and was kind of confident in what, you know, he was working with, like that would make, I would be intrigued. And just side note, I've actually seen a guy and we talked about it on this podcast. We go back, it's been years ago. we were at the Red Room in Nashville and there was a guy there who had an implant and he, it was like a party trick. And he whipped it out in front of everyone and was like, who wants to press the button? And literally you just squeezed like one of his balls and like it's fluid that goes into the penis too. I don't know if that's how his is going to be, but this is how this guy's was. And it was super cool. And I did it. So I squeezed them all. You pumped them. I did. I did. And I thought it was cool. I thought his penis looked like a normal penis. Otherwise, I would have never known by looking at him that it was you know that it was an implant i kind of look at it as the same as when guys take trimax some guys would say hey i'm going to the bathroom take my shot i have no issues with that i'd almost rather you be honest and say i'm going to do this then like be weird about it and sneak off so kind of the same thing i think open on being open and honest is the best way to go no yeah it's really interesting um this is another thing i love about the lifestyle community right and i think even in monogamous relationships it sounds like he's had you know issues with ed for a while now it sounds like something maybe um him and his wife didn't talk about much or maybe you know maybe it's just something that a conversation most men don't like to talk about that yeah totally get that it sounds like well you know from discovering the lifestyle and then starting to talk more openly about fantasies and and then you know then he he got the strength and courage to kind of address this issue and now it's looking like he's going to need need an implant um i love all of that right it's just such a good news good news story. It is one of the many things that can come when you open up to your partner about your needs and wants and desires and fantasies. But the great thing about the swingers lifestyle is we embrace everybody. And I think there's so many people out there that have hangups around sex, whether it's you have stretch marks, whether it's your body, your saggy boobs, boobs your tits or whatever that we all have hang-ups this is just another one of those and i think to your point in the lifestyle we celebrate yeah differences right and and we are so curious about new things right i don't think you've ever had sex with somebody with a penile implant no i'm definitely curious to try it right i'm really curious and you. And you're right. We had friends that had – he had one, and he showed it to you. And he even talked about it. Like, it becomes a thing at parties sometimes. Yeah, didn't he say that, like, more women has touched his dick and balls, and men, for that matter, since he's had it than before? But he also has, like, a really cool attitude around it. It's almost like he's proud of it. It's like a story to tell. Kind of like if you have a huge scar or, you know, just something odd. And that's how he kind of embraces it. And personally, I find that charming. It kind of makes everyone around you relax. If you kind of make it like into like a big, like major ordeal, I think that will make everyone kind of tense up and get weird. So people will off of his energy so that would be my advice no i completely agree and uh you know from personal experience there's there's usually a lack of hard dicks around yeah so if you were able to just kind of push a button and get yours hard and you could go all night long i think that would be very welcome in the swinger community um i think people would be curious about it and and i think it would just like you're saying if you're open and honest and just if it wasn't a big deal for you i don't think it would be a very big deal um for other people i'm sure there's a few bad seeds in there oh god yeah that might have an issue but overall i think you'd be very welcome yeah and you know when you tell people i would just be very like not make it a huge thing like hey by the way i've got really bad diabetes it affected my erection so i want to fuck all the bitches so i got a penile what's it called implant implant you know kind of make it fun don't you know like penis pump yeah whatever you to make it fun um i think that would be a fun way to like introduce it like i have a come up with like a i've got a mechanic cock i mean just anything to make it fun you know like you said we embrace the difference and i mean i'm down i'll push your button any day of the week you just come find me yeah and i think you know we can apply this to so many things we've seen people at events that um are you know have some kind of disability people in wheelchairs people missing limbs um and so i think for those people exploring their sexuality is probably a hard step you know i mean and so i think i love that lifestyle um clubs lifestyle parties these hotel takeovers is kind of like a safe place for people to go and explore and know that they're going to be accepted yeah it's one of the many things i love about the lifestyle and i i definitely think um this caller would feel welcome in those spaces i think so too i wish him nothing but the best of luck i think that's exciting for him and his wife yeah i do too and okay and then the second point you kind of started off with this me and you have been talking about we talked about this a little bit um the last week and you touched on this i think there are people for whatever reason that are in sexless marriages and it could be because car accidents or medical issues or things like that and i think a lot of people turn to the lifestyle when that happens because let's be honest even if if i was physically incapable of having sex i would think i would still be a sexual person right so even if i couldn't fuck you i would still think i'd want to be part of sex in some way whatever that would have guys come over and fuck me and you'd watch yeah yeah absolutely or something like that yeah you'd finger me or choke me or make out with me or whatever the thing might be yeah and i think that's i think that's worth talking about a little bit too that i'm sure there are people that are you know maybe listening to this podcast i know there are people that are out there in society that for whatever reason they're incapable of having sex but maybe their partner still could and they're and they're maybe they think they if because they can't physically have sex with people that this wouldn't be a safe place for them yeah even maybe in maybe they even are curious about their partner still having sex i think this is a safe place for that yeah we know several people we had a friend that um he was in a car accident and it left him with he lost a limb and while he was recovering he would have guys come over and fuck his wife and that was like that's honestly how they got in lifestyle they were a hot wife couple and then we know another couple who she had a medical condition she didn't go into detail about what her medical condition was i didn't ask it wasn't my place but she said essentially they couldn't have sex but she knew that he needed he needed it so they would find single girls to come over and fuck him and she would you know partake a little but just kind of be there and that's kind of what got them in the lifestyle now they're a full sock couple so it's definitely like an avenue to the lifestyle for sure and in a lot of ways can probably i don't want to say save a marriage because we don't ever say go to the lifestyle to save a marriage but it can definitely help in that area well i think it could let's be you know they say like the top two reasons for divorce is sex and money right like that's the two top reasons and sex is a really important thing in a relationship and i think just because somebody has gone through something where they're that now incapable of having sex themselves doesn't mean you can't be sexual with your partner in some way. And if that might entail bringing in other people to be part of that so that you can, you know, you or your partner can experience more. I think as long as everybody's, open honest on the same page communicating it's all up front and honest i think that's okay i think it's a good thing yeah i think it's one of the things our life you know this lifestyle this this relationship structure can bring to a relationship that monogamy really can't yeah i agree so i think it's just something worth talking about so thank you for calling in yeah that's a great question if i can refresh you if i can ease your mind to anything i have no doubt you'll be welcome and in this community for sure you're definitely welcome at our parties and if somebody gives you any shit about your implant come tell me yeah and they'll never come to another party again yeah for sure you know that's and that's anybody and i i really you know what we are trying to build me and you are trying to build, is, you know, fun parties that are a good time. We bring a little bit, I think, of a younger crowd, a little younger energy, you know, this EDM kind of festival kind of vibe. Even though we're 40. Even though we're 40, right. But I also think, you know, the second part of that is we want to be the safe place for everybody. For sure. I don't care if don't care if you're gay i don't care if you're a lesbian i don't i don't care who you are how you have sex as long as you're a consenting adult i you you are safe at our parties i want you to feel safe with our parties and if you ever come to one of our parties and you do not feel safe or you do not feel welcome or somebody said or did or made you feel uncomfortable you can email me at dan at swingerside.net and i will make sure that never happens again yeah and i think i think that's a message that needs to get out there um more agreed so if you're one of those people um and you want to come to an event you can go over to swingerside.net and we got we got events coming up all over the place yeah so the next one that we really have is january 11th us dj life of spice and his beautiful wife and pineapples after dark which is also a podcast and also an event group we are all co-hosting a night of spice at trapeze alana so that's going to be january 11th we you buy your tickets straight from trapeze so yeah so this is you cannot pre-purchase tickets at trapeze alana so show up early yeah they open at eight if you want and sometimes there's like a line around the building almost yeah and i have a feeling this is going to be one of those nights yeah but it'll be a fun night it'll be like half working half fun for us because it's kind of low key so we're super excited trapeze would is what we consider our home club even though we only get to go like three times a year it is our favorite so we hope to see everybody there yeah dj uh dtf might make an appearance i think i'm gonna open up for life of spice i'm gonna bring the heat you have heat. You have been practicing. I've been practicing a little bit. Yeah. Okay. And then next month, Club Colette. Yes. Do you know the dates for that? I can tell you. January 24th and 25th. January 24th, 25th, Club Colette. And then in February, we're going down to Miami. We are. Which is going to be fun. We're going to hold meet and greets on a nude beach, all over beach. Apparently has a portion of that beach that is clothing optional be fun we're going to hold meet and greets on a nude beach all over beach apparently has a portion of that beach that is um clothing optional so we're going to be there throwing throwing a meet and greet during the day and then we're going to be a miami velvet at night and the dates for that february 21st and 22nd okay and then if you have a tuesday talk question maybe you have uh you know i i love this because we get so many questions that i never even want to thought of yeah this is probably one of those yeah um so if you have a question you can call us at 972-302-7716 one more time 972-302-7716 and if you don't feel comfortable sharing your voice on the podcast even though we want to hear it uh you can email us at the swing nation at gmail.com, the swing nation at gmail.com. And we'll get to as many questions as we can. Yep. All right. We hope to hear from you guys soon. 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