Send us Fan MailTuesday Talks: Where Should Newbies Start Their Swinging Journey? | Episode 54In this episode of The Swing Nation Podcast, the top-rated podcast about non-monogamy and swinging, Dan and Lacy are back with another Tuesday Talks listener question that’s as sweet as it is spicy!Laura calls in to share that she and her husband—together since 7th grade and completely new to any experience outside their marriage—are feeling excited and turned on about exploring the lifestyle together. With a big trip planned to Hedonism for Young Lifestyle Week, they’re wondering… where’s the best place to start?Should they try a swingers club first? Dip their toes into online connections? Or wait until their tropical getaway with Dan and Lacy?In this episode, Dan and Lacy offer real, thoughtful advice for brand-new couples entering the lifestyle world—covering confidence, communication, and pacing—to help Laura (and anyone in a similar spot) feel empowered and ready to take the leap.If you re just starting out or reminiscing about your early days, this episode is packed with encouragement, insight, and the supportive guidance you’ve come to love.- The Swing Nation - Main Website Quick Navigation Website: -- (Find all our social media links more!)- Swinger Society - Our Website to meet, connect events Swinger Society Discord Our Facebook Group- Swinger Websites -Kasadie 90 day free trialUsername: TheSwingNation SDC 14 day free trial Username: TheSwingNation** Use code 36313 for 14 days free! ** SLSUsername: NorthernGuynSouthernGirl- Merch More -Order Your Merch Here!- Lacy’s Fun Links -VIP OnlyFansPREMIUM OnlyFans-- THANK YOU TO OUR SPONSORS --Wisp : Making sexual healthcare inclusive, cost-effective, and accessible—for everyoneUse Code SWING at checkout for 15% off your oder!Shameless Care: ED Medication and at home STD testingUse Code TSN at checkout for $30 off your order!Promescent® Make Love Longer, It’s Time for Great SexUse Code SwingNation for 5% off!Sing it Bikinis: adjustable one-size styles, thoughtfully crafted to flatter every body type.Support the show- Thank you for the support! -
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Speaker1: This podcast is intended for adult audiences. Over the age of 18, it contains adult language and situations. The views, thoughts, and opinions expressed in this podcast belong solely to us, and not of any employer, organization, committee, or other group or individuals. This podcast is not intended to be taken as professional advice. Welcome to the Swing Nation Podcast, a podcast by swimmers for swimmers. We'll be right back. Welcome to the Swing Nation podcast, a podcast by swingers, for swingers, where we look to educate others and push back on the negative stigmas and misconceptions associated with our lifestyle. Come with us and share our pineapple journey as we travel the globe, interview the activists, learn and grow together. Join the nation. So Lacey, people are asking, how do they get to go to a party or an event with us? They check out swingersociety.net. You create a profile, you sign up for an event, and you come hang out with us. Super easy. That's right. If you want to party with us and the other faces and names that you know from social media and TikTok, head on over to swingersociety.net. Can't wait to see you there. hey there pineapple people and welcome to the swing nation podcast we are your hosts northern guy and southern girl and today we are back with another rendition of tuesday talks Thank you. pineapple people and welcome to the swing nation podcast we are your hosts northern guy and southern girl and today we are back with another rendition of tuesday talks we are talking tuesday that's all you got that's all i got i think it needs like a drum line or something that was pretty good yeah something like that that's pretty good okay let's listen to this week's question let's go to the phone line and find out this week's tuesday talk question hey dan and lacy my name is laura and my husband and i have been together since we were in seventh grade we never broke up so we have not had sex or even kissed another person before we have a very happy marriage and are rock solid and we both feel like we made the right choice by joining the lifestyle and honestly since our decision just talking about it has made our sex life so much hotter and we're so freaking excited to see what's next anyways sorry so my question is for a couple like us who have never been with anyone before how would y'all suggest the best way to start should we go to a club find someone online or just go all out at hito also want to let y'all know we do live in the dfw area so call it is close and we are going to hito for young lifestyle week for my 32nd birthday we love the podcast and it has really made this journey so much easier so thanks so much and we'll see y'all in Jamaica. Bye. I love that question. Speaker2: I love it for a couple reasons. Oh, God. One, they're going to be at Hedo with us. Speaker1: Yeah. Speaker2:
And two, they mentioned they're from the Dallas area, meaning they're near Club Colette,
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which is a club that we do takeovers at. And I also find it intriguing that they've been together since the seventh grade. Yeah, that's pretty impressive yet to fuck anybody or even kiss anybody besides their spouse that's really impressive it's super impressive yeah um so they want to know they've entered this they're starting their lifestyle journey they're already fucking like rabbits just just thinking about which i love just how bad out is that yeah just thinking about the possibilities yeah but they want to know you know where should they take their first step i have some ideas but if you want to go first well i think let's talk about hito for a second. I'll start there and then maybe you can jump in. Hedo, even for the most experienced person can be, or couple, could be a lot. Now, don't say that to deter you because we have met couples that have never swapped before and went to Hedo and had a fucking amazing time. So, I think even if you showed up at Hedo, never going to club never doing anything i think you're gonna have a blast you just can't not you know um but i think to get the most out of that experience i think even if you don't fuck anybody before hito getting a little bit of exposure and a little bit of like kind of like culture of the lifestyle would probably do you some good that's my take what is your take so your take is they should go to like a club at colette or they should go what you know dallas i think there's other clubs yeah and hotel takeovers and stuff you're saying they should go experience something yeah or even maybe meet up with a couple or two yeah or just so that they dip their toes a little bit before they go. They don't even have to dip a toe. I think just being around other people, walking through a playroom, seeing a dance floor, stuff like that. I think just that exposure in itself would be, I think anything that they do is just going to help them have a better experience. Because I think if you walk into Hedo and you have no idea what you're getting yourself into, those first few days are going to be like a culture shock. You're going to be like, holy fucking shit, what did we do? And I think if you expose yourself a little bit to that prior to i think you're going to have a little bit quicker um transition period now typically typically i mean i follow what you're saying yeah and what you're saying is not wrong and typically i think i might even agree with what you're saying i think it makes it makes some sense right you're like saying don't jump in like you know that's a lot there's gonna be a lot going on like go dip your toes get a taste for it you know make sure it's something you like before you go jumping in into hito and that that makes sense but i think what you're not accounting for when you say that is she's not just going to hito she's going to hito with us with swingeringer Society, with Topless Travel, with Party Mark, and with my frisky business, which is another amazing couple and group. So think about this. Hedo isn't just – it's not just Hedo. This is lifestyle boot camp, right? Yeah? If you needed to like learn everything you need to know about the lifestyle in a week, it's going to happen at Hedo. Like you're, you're going to learn. Okay. But stop and think though. They have been together since seventh grade. They've never kissed anybody. They've probably only seen people have sex on porn. They've probably never even seen people have have sex in person you mean to tell me you want to expose them to the nude pool at hedo where people are fucking on the deck but listen what i'm afraid of is they're going to go to some other party right in dallas they're going to go to some club on on not us when we're starting to take overnight and maybe it's going to put a bad taste in their mouth. Maybe they're going to have a bad experience. I think they have to go. Maybe it's going to start them off on the wrong foot. I think you go in with an open mind. I say, if it was me, I say, go to a club in Dallas. Pick one. I don't care which one. You go to one. You're going to communicate your rules and boundaries before. I say you don't kiss anybody. anybody maybe some light dancing I'll give you that outside of that that's it you you that is it it is a date night for you too you go out to dinner you dress up you go out to don't go buy a theme outfit don't do any of that where's your cutest black dress just be easy you go out to dinner you have a glass of wine you know just to knock off the nerves a little. And then you go to the club, you dance, you mingle, you have no intentions of bringing anyone home. You have no intentions to see anything. You're just there to observe. You dance for a couple of hours. And then before you go, you make your rounds through the playroom. You're going to stop. You're going gonna take it in then you're gonna leave and you're gonna go home and you're gonna have the best fucking sex of your life because you are so turned on because all you just watched all of this amazingness and then for the next month all you can think about is oh my god i can't wait to go see that again i cannot wait this is gonna he does just just gonna be so much better that was like amateur hour wait till we go to the big leagues i mean if they're fucking like rabbits just talking about it imagine them walking through a playroom all right you're probably right yeah like you're probably right but here's what i'm just what i'm saying is either way we've assembled the dream team for this hito takeover yeah and the other thing i'm concerned about is if they go before hito i might not have a chance at being the second person that she ever had sex with oh my god like if you're such a dirty dog they end up hooking up with somebody now my chances of having sex with her oh she's basically a virgin you know i mean like then i don't get a chance so maybe it's a little selfish you're fucked up but i do believe that our dream team will ensure the best case scenario for them to have a and our friends and everybody that we know that's going best case scenario for them to have a positive lifestyle experience okay but i want you to pause for a second okay i can't say her name because I don't know if we have like a nickname for her, but the really hot, she has an amazing body, blonde, curly, like waving. Who wouldn't go to the nude pool. Who, they had never done anything in the last, so this was their first thing. Right, and look at her at the end of the week. Okay, but hold on, hold on. That's a success story. Let me finish. The first three days, she would only go to the prude pool because at the nude pool you have to be completely nude she she went to the prude pool which is calm it's relaxing it's everything vacations are made of but it's not hedo by the third day the group had encouraged her enough to take it off get in the water by the end of the week she was fucking right other people by day seven she was ready for gangbang i mean that's the perfect story that is a success story but wait but she missed out on the first three days of keto you know how much keto is a day you're not wrong and now i'm just saying okay but i will say she keeps she comes back every year i think they're coming in the summer i don't know i think going to be there. And if they are, I will introduce you to her so you can have a conversation. But then I just think that you lose those first few days of being anxious. Hell, the first time we went to Hedo, we had been in the lifestyle for years. I changed my outfit like six or seven times to go take it off. To go to the nude pool, yeah. You literally walk the your clothes off and i changed my outfit that many times i was so nervous and this was an experience we had the podcast at this point yeah we yeah we just started yeah yeah um so yeah so okay you're probably right they should probably go get some lifestyle experience before they go to the hedo but i'm just saying at hedo we have assembled the dream team and there's a chance that i might fuck her i mean maybe if it's you know if we vibe in and she's interested yeah there's an 80 chance i'll be interested just if we're keeping track of the score i don't even i don't even know what to do maybe 90 percent just because of the scenario itself yeah plus 10 percent but um okay let's not make this about me i derailed it a little bit you derailed it 100 she's probably blushing at this point yeah okay but as a general rule i don't I don't think there's a wrong no place to start your lifestyle journey yeah I think whether it's you go to naughty New Orleans you go on a bliss cruise you go to Hedo you go to a hotel takeover you go to a club you just got to start somewhere and I think my one caveat would be if you do start somewhere and have a bad experience don't let that be your last experience yeah right because it just might be that wasn't the club that wasn't the the vibe that wasn't the energy it wasn't the group the crowd for you there is a group a crowd or an event for you somewhere in the life you just gotta find it as long as you as long as it's like you don't go to an event you're just like oh this the idea of swinging and swapping like oh my god if you're fundamentally against that then yeah right if it fundamentally turns you off then okay your lifestyle is not for you but if it's just you had a bad experience with the energy or the vibe or the people that were there um try something else yeah i think that's the real answer so i think they just honestly if it if it was me i would say talk to your spouse find out like how is your anxiety going into this trip she sounded pretty upbeat and positive her husband might be a little nervous you know um and and to be honest that's typically lifestyle women typically have a blast and so much fun and men especially starting out kind of struggle with like a little bit of ed a little performance things like it takes them a little a little bit of time to kind of work through all of that so if it was me i would talk to my spouse and say where's your head at would you feel better like i don't think you can say it's always the man or always the woman i'd say generally one is very excited and one is more hesitant but you are right i don't mean there's a little more pressure on the man yeah perform that's what i mean like i agree one or the other is always the one that are more interested in going but once you're there i feel like it's very easy for women men have a little bit the woman's the center of attention everybody wants to fuck them you know they just need a little bit of lube and they're good to go um there's a lot more that goes into it on the man's perspective and we see several times where the man is the one that's super excited and kind of pushing um his his wife to join the lifestyle and then once they join she's like oh my god this is awesome and he's like oh wait a minute this is this isn't what i thought it was this is a lot more pressure for me. So I would just check with your spouse. Talk to them. See where their head's at. And then I think together you can make a good decision for you. Because it's ultimately up to you. And I don't think there's any bad way to do it. So you're good either way. And we're going to have so much fun. I agreed. And then since we've got a minute or two left, I'm just going to plug this. Hedo is sold out. Yes. So all the rooms in the resort, which I don't know if we've ever been there a week where it was sold out. So super excited about that. But two, if you are interested in doing like a Bliss Cruise, a Naughty New Orleans, a Hedo or something like that, go to swingerside.net, get signed up. We will kind of walk you through the experience. Yeah, you can, can all of these events you can go directly to their websites and book and go which there's absolutely nothing wrong with that we try to take because we're not as big as these huge groups we try to take a smaller group it's a little bit more individualized we typically will have um depending on the size of the event, we will have groups like on Discord so we can talk amongst ourselves. We'll have a chat room for the event. Yes, chat room. With just the people that are going. Sometimes we'll do Zoom calls or voice chat where we can see each other and talk, get to know each other before the event, kind of help with those jitters you get um especially the things like bliss and um you know you get pretty awesome swag packs because you're going with me we have meet and greets we have things that we don't do like if you just book through bliss they'll have their own individual stuff that you could go to but this is a little bit different so that's why you know when you book with us you get that a little more personable yeah and honestly like from a personal standpoint we have a better time um at bliss and hedo because we have a smaller group right like we'll have like we're getting ready to go on the bliss cruise we have 20 22 couples including us we can give individual attention we can get to know people we can hang out we can have dinner right it's well and that's the always the hardest part about going to these events is making connections so when you start where you're already with a small group of like 20 couples those connections start to happen much quicker and day one it's not like you're meeting some random stranger at a pool it's you know you've gone to a meet and greet you've been on zoom calls you've been in a chat room for months leading up to the event with people so it just gives you more time to kind of grow those connections prior to the event yeah i mean if you if you're nervous and it's your first time you can find somebody else that's nervous and it's their first time and you know y'all can start chatting. Lacey will tell you what where to order your outfits and what to wear. Yeah people go in there and tag me and say what are you wearing for this theme I can't figure it out and I'll try to help and so we don't really talk about that much on the podcast so I think that's worth thank you for bringing that up it's worth mentioning so and we will do Hedo in 2026 as well probably the same week we don't it's not confirmed yet they typically go and sell one year out so Thank you. And we will do Hedo in 2026 as well. Probably the same week. It's not confirmed yet. They typically go on sale one year out. And we're going July this year. So probably July 2026. All right. So for all of that, go to swingersociety.net. Swingersociety.net. That's where you find tickets to all our events. And you can find tickets to Hedo in all the Bliss Cruises as well. Yep. And not even New Orleans.
Speaker2:
Yeah. All right.
Speaker1:
So hopefully that helped answer your question. And, yeah, we can't wait to see you in Hedo.
Speaker2:
Yeah.
Speaker1:
If we don't see you, I don't know. We're going to be in Houston before, but we're not going to be in Dallas.
Speaker2:
Yeah.
Speaker1:
So I don't know. I think they're only a few hours apart, right?
Speaker2:
Yeah.
Speaker1:
So come party with us at Colette Houston, and maybe we'll get to meet. Well, that's August. Oh, you're right. It is August. Yeah. Yeah, okay. So, yeah, we'll see you at Hedo. Yeah. All right. Anything else for the Swing Nation listeners? I think that's it. Okay. If you have a Tuesday talk question that you need to be answered, there's a few ways you can get in touch with us. You can email us at theswingnation at gmail.com, theswingnation at gmail.com, or you can call or text us your questions. That phone number is 972-302-7716. One more time. 972-302-7716. So please call, Leave us a voicemail. Ask us your questions. Send us a text. Send us a naughty picture. Lacey likes looking at all the dick pics. She really enjoys that. Send it away. Yeah. That phone is generally not with us. Yeah. It's usually in the office. But we check it, you know, every few days. Sometimes it'll be in his backpack and it'll randomly ring like and i'm like i can remember we were in the truck we were in the truck one day and we're driving down the road and all of a sudden she hears ringing and she looks and my phone is up on the on the gps or whatever and her phone's like in her hand and she's like do you have another phone and i was like huh and she's like do you have another phone do you have a burner phone and i'm like that's some past trauma coming out right there the funny thing is i was like no but i was also like what the fuck is that and then we found it was it was the work phone we do have another phone it's it's our phone it's our phone yes and past trauma was So I was like, what the fuck? It wasn't my secret phone that I used to talk to girls. Lacey. Sorry there.
Speaker2:
Yeah. We do have another phone. It's our phone. It's our phone. Yes. And past trauma was like, what the fuck? It wasn't my secret phone that I used to talk to girls. Lacey. Sorry there. Yeah. Okay.
Speaker1:
Well, I think that wraps it up. Yeah. So, in a world full of apples. Be the pineapple. Be the pineapple, guys. Bye. if you've enjoyed our podcast and want to support us leave a five-star review wherever you're listening if you want to see more of our content you can find links to snapchat twitter instagram only fans and more in the show notes come join the conversation with us and other swinger content creators on our swinger society discord server if have questions or feedback, email them to us at theswingnation at gmail.com. Make sure you head on over to theswingnation.net and keep up to date on all things Swing Nation. We thank you so much for joining us and we'll see you next time. Goodbye.
