Send us Fan MailTuesday Talks: What If You’re Not Into Squirting? | Episode 59In this episode of The Swing Nation Podcast, the top-rated podcast about non-monogamy and swinging, Dan and Lacy are back with another installment of their Tuesday Talks series, where they answer real questions from curious and candid listeners.This week, E J write in with a steamy—but surprisingly tricky—question. They recently met a couple they really vibed with, but there s one unexpected hurdle: they’re not into squirting. Now they’re wondering... is squirting something that can be controlled? And more importantly, how do you bring up a boundary like this without making things super awkward?Dan and Lacy break it down with honesty, empathy, and a few laughs along the way, exploring body autonomy, respectful communication, and how to navigate preferences in the playroom.Whether you’re new to the lifestyle or a seasoned swinger, this episode is a reminder that every body—and boundary—deserves respect.- The Swing Nation - Main Website Quick Navigation Website: -- (Find all our social media links more!)- Swinger Society - Our Website to meet, connect events Swinger Society Discord Our Facebook Group- Swinger Websites -Kasadie 90 day free trialUsername: TheSwingNation SDC 14 day free trial Username: TheSwingNation** Use code 36313 for 14 days free! ** SLSUsername: NorthernGuynSouthernGirl- Merch More -Order Your Merch Here!- Lacy’s Fun Links -VIP OnlyFansPREMIUM OnlyFans-- THANK YOU TO OUR SPONSORS --Wisp : Making sexual healthcare inclusive, cost-effective, and accessible—for everyoneUse Code SWING at checkout for 15% off your oder!Shameless Care: ED Medication and at home STD testingUse Code TSN at checkout for $30 off your order!Promescent® Make Love Longer, It’s Time for Great SexUse Code SwingNation for 5% off!Sing it Bikinis: adjustable one-size styles, thoughtfully crafted to flatter every body type.Support the show- Thank you for the support! -
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Speaker1: This podcast is intended for adult audiences. Over the age of 18, it contains adult language and situations. The views, thoughts, and opinions expressed in this podcast belong solely to us, and not of any employer, organization, committee, or other group or individuals. This podcast is not intended to be taken as professional advice. Speaker2: Welcome to the Swing Nation Podcast, a podcast by swingers for swingers. We'll be right back. Welcome to the Swing Nation podcast, a podcast by swingers, for swingers, where we look to educate others and push back on the negative stigmas and misconceptions associated with our lifestyle. Come with us and share our pineapple journey as we travel the globe, Speaker1: interview the activists, learn and grow together. Join the nation. So Lacey, people are asking, how do they get to go to a party or an event with us? They check out swingersociety.net. You create a you sign up for an event and you come hang out with us Speaker2: super easy that's right if you want to party with us and the other faces and names that you know from social media and tiktok head on over to swingersociety.net can't wait to see you there Tuesday Talks Just send your questions to Dan and they say Tuesday Talks Speaker3: Swing Nation got you feeling sexy Tuesday Talks Just send your questions to Dan and Lacey Speaker2: Tuesday Talks Swing Nation got you feeling sexy Tuesday Talks Talking Tuesday with Dan and Lacey Speaker1: Ooh, how about that high note? Speaker2: It was perfect. Hey there, pineapple people, and welcome to the Swing Nation podcast. We are your hosts, Northern Guy. Speaker1: And Southern Girl. Speaker2: And we are back with another rendition of Tuesday Talks. Speaker1: We are. Speaker3: Thank you. and welcome to the Swing Nation podcast. We are your hosts, Northern Guy. And Southern Girl. And we are back with another rendition of Tuesday Talks. Speaker1: We are talking Tuesday with Dan and Lacey. Speaker3: Ooh, I kind of did good there. Were you trying to do good? I was. That's kind of opposite of the point. Speaker4: I know. Speaker1: Our voices sound very raspy because we've literally been home from Swash, Atlanta for like 12 hours. No, maybe 24.
Speaker2:
Yeah, I'm already feeling it.
Speaker1:
Yeah, we both feel like shit.
Speaker2:
I made out with way too many people.
Speaker1:
I kissed a lot of people. Sometimes we try to be like, we're not going to, well, maybe I don't say it out loud, but internally I'm like, maybe I shouldn't kiss this many people so I don't get sick when i get home and i forgot that this weekend it happens yeah sometimes it's worth it you know yeah i'm covered in bruises i mean i'm just a hot mess but here we are here we are back with tuesday talks for the swing nation listeners so this tuesday talks comes from email? Yeah, and it's from March, guys. We need your question. We had to dig deep. Yeah. We had a couple that we could have pulled from, but they were newbie questions, and we feel like we've done that pretty heavily lately. Yeah, we had one that was a vagina wetness question, and we just did the Dr. Storr episode about that. So maybe you've asked a Tuesday Talk question before and we didn't answer it, and it's probably because something like this where we did a recent episode on something similar. So maybe if we didn't answer your question, feel free to call back. Or if, you know, there's a question that's been lingering on your mind, feel free to call in. We'd love to hear your questions. Yeah, y'all love Tuesday Talks. Like we were literally walking through Splash this weekend and somebody's like, we love Tuesday Talks. Like my voice is correct, just saying that. Y'allall love it so keep we got it but it's really up to y'all because y'all kind of decide the topic so keep the questions coming because the more we have to choose we usually try to find ones that are relevant and obviously y'all like the juicy ones i like the dirty questions yeah so y'all might like this one we're talking about squirting squirting okay, let's hear it. Okay, so hey Dan and Lacey. We've been in lifestyle for many years, but only recently encountered a couple that the female squirts a lot. We enjoy their company and playing with them, but we're just nodding at the squirting. I know Lacey squirts and you both enjoy it, but it's not her cup of tea. We don't know if it can be controlled or if she would even want to how do we bring this up without making things awkward or maybe we should just look for a more compatible couple thanks i'm not gonna say their name because i don't want to give them away they didn't say either way so okay this is a very good question i feel like we might have different differing opinions on this subject. I think we will. Because I am very much a person where I love squirting. You just want to be drenched? I don't think there's such a thing as too much. You want to be drenched in it. Yeah, drench me in it. So if you've listened back for a while, there is a girl. We'll just call her petals because I don't know what we can say and what we can't say because we haven't hung out with them in a long time but she literally made petals like you could wring it out your clothes correct that's hot you love that love it you love it i love it yeah i do not as a squirter i do not um i if it's my own squirt i'm like okay with it because it's obviously mine um but i don't want i don't particularly want another woman squirt like on you like in my hair like drenched my my like if i have lingerie i don't particularly want it drenched now listen i get it right i'm not blaming the women i think i do think it's hot and i do enjoy seeing a woman like enjoy herself and squirting. Um, I just move out of the way, you know, like do your thing, girl, but just let me move out of the way. I don't mind it. If it splashes me like a little, you know, she's like playing on the other side of the bed and it splashes. I don't mind that. But if you, if somebody is actively squirting, I'm not going gonna lay there and just let it get all over me yeah i don't really want it like in my eyes or like in my mouth per se but just about anywhere else is good so if a girl's sitting on your face and squirts well i mean honestly in the in the moment like just go with it like please don't stop but i probably would prefer not to have it in my mouth if i had a choice yeah um. But other than that, eyes and mouth, other than that, I'm pretty good. Also, it depends on where I'm at. So if I'm in a playroom, I'm pretty okay with it going everywhere. Because it's a playroom. I mean, it's kind of meant for that. And I can easily hop up and move myself out of the way, you know. If it's in my bed.
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Most playrooms have like the waterproof mattresses. And then they just clean the sheets quick and so it's it's kind of meant to clean that for sure if it's in my bed i'm okay with it but like try to do it on dan's side you know like it's funny we actually uh there was actually a lot of squirting this weekend at last atlanta and we destroyed our bed once and we destroyed daphne and mike's bed once um and And there was actually a lot of squirting this weekend. I watched Atlanta and we destroyed our bed once and we destroyed Daphne and Mike's bed once. And there was other beds that mostly playroom type beds that were destroyed. But all of that was completely, I liked it. And at one time I was like covered with squirt from like ankles to neck. I just went and got in the shower and stuff real quick
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came back out and continued on yeah yeah i mean if i'm covered in squirt i'm gonna just go rinse or wipe down and then come back and honestly it's not i don't have a like i don't have like a super like it's not a huge deal to me i particularly don't want somebody else to squirt on me but if
Speaker2:
it happens i'm not mad i think i like it because it's positive feedback no i'm doing you enjoy
Speaker1:
No, I don't want somebody else to squirt on me but if it happens it i'm not mad i think i like it because it's positive feedback no i'm doing you enjoy no i totally like a real time like that feels good correct so if anybody's played with us are going to play with us and you squirt do not overthink it because i'm not like i don't want anybody to think that i'm like particular you just don't want it in your hair or your face yeah yeah i don't want to have want to have to wash my hair. But neither does that girl either. No, yeah. So, she probably gets what I'm saying. Okay. So, let's talk about how do we deal with it. So, first of all, I personally can control it. Most of the time. Because there are some times where it's happening that I just, I can't, nor do I want to. But, like, if Dan and I are having sex at home in our bed that we sleep in every night i'm probably not just going to squirt all over it i mean i gotta sleep in that shit i don't want to do all that i've been with women that seem like they have little to no control yeah so i do think that that is a depends on the person type of thing i think some women like you can squirt but for you it's like you have to be really turned on in the right situation and hydrated all the things for it to kind of happen there's some girls where just about every time they have an orgasm that they're squirting so i i think it really depends on the person um i dated a girl for a while that we basically if we were going to have sex we needed to put towels down or a waterproof blanket or something like that um and honestly in in that situation where it's like every single
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time at home it is a little more not i wouldn't i don't want to say annoying but it's more of a thing right because like now every time you have to have sex you're like okay let's go get the blanket let's lay it down like if you forget then it's like on the bed you got to change the sheets and the blankets so it's a little more of a hassle but even then it's totally worth it i think yeah
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So in this case, what do you do? You know, well, and this has been from March. So probably I've already done something, but maybe somebody else can hear this. I think if it bothers you enough that you need to say something maybe just play with them less because if somebody came to me and said i don't really like that you squirt i don't be like a little even though i don't also don't like squirt so i kind of get it but i'm like okay well i wonder the situation i could see if you're having this couple over your chair your house and then like you're fucking in your bed and every time you do that she destroys your bed well go buy a squirt blanket right put a mattress cover on or and buy a squirt blanket and that's easy right yeah because if one of us like if we're with a group and we know someone is a heavy squirter we'll say wait so and so's here we got to protect this bed or we got to pull this off and i don't think that's bad i think you can do that in like a funny light hearted way you don't have to like make someone feel bad about themselves liberator is it liberator yeah they make an amazing squirt blanket and uh we have the small one and the big one it works great you can squirt all over it you just throw it in the wash. Your bed's completely covered. They're waterproof. So if there's anybody that doesn't know that, there are waterproof blankets that you can lay down on your bed to protect it from squirt. And they work really, really well. They do. We tend to forget to bring those or put them out. The problem is, you know, if you're hot and heavy and kind of just go back to your hotel room and start fucking, you forget to be like wait a minute let's put the blankets down although some a lot of times we do do that like on a bliss cruise we didn't have our squirt blanket but there was those blankets under the bed that we put down thank goodness because it saved our bed um but i don't think there's anything wrong with if you know you have people um in the group that do that that you take a minute to kind of prep wherever you're playing for that yeah i totally agree so i mean i think and also depends on the relationship that you have with the person if it's somebody that you really enjoy fucking you have a good friendship you want to be around them maybe bring it up but i don't know i think that's like kind of a hard thing to hear if it was me if i had close friends right and they're let's say let's say and we don't know the exact scenario here but let's say it's annoying to them because this this couple comes to their house and makes a mess on their bed what i would do is i would just go buy the blanket myself and then when these friends came over i'd be like wait a minute i got this new blanket to put down before we play so that i don't have to change the sheets and then just do that and then have a good time and then it's not a big deal yeah now if you like if for some reason for this couple squirting like genuinely turns them off and they're just not into it at all like germaphobes or something you know which is okay and if that's the case you probably you probably it's the later that you're just not a good connection yeah you probably do need to move on and find somebody else because if that's a problem for you and just isn't attractive to you then and and it seems like maybe this person can't control it uh it's not going to be a good connection yeah no i agree you can also like position yourself so you can squirt but not squirt on somebody yeah we do the like fuck people doggy style so when they squirt it doesn't get in the bed it goes kind of on the floor or you know you can put a blanket on the or a towel on the floor or something by their feet and then it's a little easier to clean up you can definitely pre-prep for squirting yeah like daphne is really good about knowing when she's she'll tell you she'll tell you she's like stop you're going to make me squirt. And she'll move.
Speaker2:
I'm going to squirt on your face. And then it's like, do it.
Speaker3:
Yeah.
Speaker1:
But I don't know how this squirted area is.
Speaker3:
Yeah.
Speaker2:
In my, using my experience, I would say most women are different. So it's hard for us to say like, oh yeah, all women can control it. Or, oh yeah, they're totally doing it on purpose.
Speaker1:
It really depends on that person, you know, and how strong their Kegels are are or whatever on how much control they have over it but uh it's hard to tell i agree i hope we answered that i think we crushed it right so if you are playing with a squirter and it's an issue i would invest in some preparation stuff i would get a blanket i would get one of these waterproof blankets liberator makes a great one a lot of other people recommend there's some kind of like dog blanket i guess that's waterproof yeah i've heard that you can get on like amazon and stuff i think it's a little cheaper than like the liberator one so maybe look on amazon search like waterproof dog blankets you might find some stuff uh and a pro tip if you want to travel one we got the throw from liberator and's like a smaller version, but it'll still like cover like a bed. Right. The queen size one like goes, like it's like a queen size match or a comforter. Yeah. So you really don't need quite that big to cover a bed. So you can get the throw and it's easier to travel. The throw you just kind of put near their vagina and it catches most of it. It's pretty big will protect the whole blanket the whole bed yeah so check those out preparation could solve your problem if that's the issue is that it's making too much of a mess do a little do a little prep or maybe like you said play in a different space and not on beds and stuff uh if you were just grossed out by it you probably need to have a conversation or maybe just back away from that couple i i do think if you go to them and say hey we don't want to hang out with you as much because your wife squirts too much and we find that gross i don't see how you have that conversation and it be a positive you know i mean like i just think you kind of i think that's like just one of your quirks and something that you found that you're not super attractive to and i think that is okay um you just kind of so you might have to kind of find out the hard way unfortunately if someone squirts yeah you need to do the whole like we like you guys but uh we don't necessarily have the best sexual chemistry you know so can we just be friends i think that's more the conversation you need to do the whole like, we like you guys, but we don't necessarily have the best sexual chemistry, you know, so can we just be friends? I think that's more the conversation you need to have than I find that your squirting is gross. Yeah, I agree. Okay, so, you know, maybe go that route if you think this is a thing that you won't be able to overcome with just some blankets and stuff. And then as far as to answer if it's controllable, I think it depends very much on the person. I agree. Some people have more control than others. And also, it depends on the person. It depends on the situation. I mean, there's so many factors into it. Also, you can send me their information. And so, I can contact them to hang out. You're such a whore. Because it's not a problem for me. You know what somebody told me this weekend that they love about tuesday talks is that they can they got they get to know our personalities and our banter back and forth but what's crazy is we always been like that is who we are so i didn't realize it didn't come across on the regular podcast our banter interesting yeah maybe when we interview people we're trying to be a little more professional and when there's episodes with just me and you like bullshit and maybe we're a little more well these just seemed much more lax like we don't have a schedule we don't have to like talk about there's no outline there's no outline we're just sitting down with the microphone and responding to something so it just it lends itself to a little bit more freedom yeah but i do think when we when we try to interview somebody, we are trying to be a little more professional. Yeah. I just let you do it. Maybe I'm trying to be more professional. Yeah. All right. So I hope that helps answer your question. If you have a Tuesday talk question, we need it. Please. We're running out of questions. All right. We had to dig deep through our email and through text messages to find these ones. If you've asked a question before and we haven't answered it, you can call in again and leave it. And the number to do that is? 972-302-7716. One more time. 972-302-7716. Okay, you can also text your questions into that number. We've had quite a few people sending us some pictures. Oh, we have. Some actually, some decently attractive people. Oh, I might have to look. I don't know what to do. Like, do we respond? Do we, I don't know if I want to open that door of texting people. Is it like our own personal, like, I don't know, way to find me. It's like a new way to meet people. Yeah. Just have text our work phone yeah i don't but i don't know if i want to open that like so far we haven't we've only texted maybe one or two people back and been like oh thank you for that was really sweet or something but for the most part we just let people call in or text in and we just kind of leave it but i don't know i'm tempted to answer we always see just like that's a good thing that made me think you're taking it into a naughty way i'm taking it in a sweet way we've gotten so many emails with my family situation with everything we can't respond to them all because we get so many but just so y'all know we see we read them all and thank you so very much that just made me think of that we do get a lot of support and you you are right there's just not enough time in the day i think to respond to every single one but if you're hearing this and you sent us a message like that thank you for doing that and we do appreciate we i mean we probably get dozens of messages a day at this point in time um you know thanking us for the podcast or or commenting on different things about the podcast or our life and um we do read every single one of those we do and i'm sorry we don't respond to every single one i wish we could i wish we could do uh maybe we should do better at trying to respond to more but um but we do appreciate you guys yes very much all right you can also email your questions to the swing nation at gmail.com the swing nation at gmail.com um if
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you if you don't want to text or call in and uh we look forward to hearing your question yep maybe on our next episode maybe all right i think with that in a world full of apples be the pineapple Be the pineapple, guys.
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Bye. Bye.
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