Tuesday Talks: Using the Dick Shot in the Lifestyle – Do’s & Don’ts

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Speaker1: Thanks. hey there pineapple people and welcome to the swing nation podcast we are your hosts northern guy and southern girl and today we are back with another rendition of tuesday talks we are talking tuesday yep with dan and lacey so today's comes from a text so we do read your text um it says good morning dan lacy i'd really love to hear your take on the stigma behind trimex in the lifestyle we've been in it for about a year now started with girl girl and eventually fmf and then full swap that's when i realized ed medication was needed tried all and they'd help a bit, but when it was, it was my head that was interfering with the fun and it didn't always work. Talking to my urologist, he explained that pills help, but can't always overpower performance anxiety or the unsettling feeling getting to see another man please my wife. Even having an amazing woman doing her best to keep my attention couldn't keep me from thinking about them. So after failing, I'm sorry, after falling on my face a few times, I took the leap of the shots and haven't looked back. No longer do I worry if I can't stay in the game until everyone is pleased. My question for you guys is, do some women judge guys for needing a shot to perform perform do you guys think less of you for not being able to play naturally and do most guys just own it and openly go take their shot and or do it out in the open or is it more common to try to be discreet about it high denied it altogether thanks for your insight and hopefully more people hearing this makes us more comfortable talking about it and using it if needed. And his name is, this is Bent, B-E-N-T. Does that mean his dick is Bent? I don't know. Well, okay. Well, thank you, Bent, for your question. He added a little second part to it. Can I read that too? Sure. He says, I know Dan prefers voicemails, but it's easier to type it out and edit reads well and get the point across. I know several guy friends of mine have different comfort levels discussing this topic. So if there's a good number of listeners that would appreciate this one, everyone always talks about pills, but never when the pills don't cut it. And I'm all for anything that helps keep my wife satisfied and not feeling like she's a reason some guy couldn't stay, couldn't get or stay hard. Okay. So this is a question from Bent. Yes. And this is what he references to as the shot. Yes. So there might be some people listening to us that don't know what he's talking about. What is this shot that he's talking about? It's a dick shot. It's called TriMix. And it's actually becoming more and more popular. It used to be a lot more popular in like the porn, like when we made content and stuff like that for OnlyFans. We saw a lot of guys doing it. But I would say in the last six months to a year, a lot of guys are using this just in like swinging play time. Like it's not just for like making content. Um, and it is literally a needle. You insert it into your penis and put the medicine in and the dick gets hard. I don't know the science. Did you look it up? I did do a little research. So the dick shot he's, he's talking aboutimix. And it's T-R-I-M-I-X. And it's a prescription medication used to treat ED. It's a compound injectable drug that contains three active ingredients. I'm not even going to try to say these three ingredients. And that's why it's called Trimix. Because there's three active ingredients. And it's actually like a compound drug. I always say it wrong. I say TriMix. And you inject it directly into your penis before sexual activity. It works by relaxing blood vessels and allowing for increase in blood flow stronger, longer lasting. And part of what it says here is you don't need um mental stimulation to get it basically you shoot this into your dick and your dick gets hard there's not really any you have to be turned on or aroused well and it's pretty quick i think it takes like five minutes as opposed to and like scrolling tiktok i actually saw and we were kind of talking about this not long ago that someone who had been in a car crash and was now handicapped, that's like they, he, it was a, it was a young guy. He was in his twenties and this is what he used to use. He was married and, you know, he wanted to have a relationship with his, his partner. And so it's used for other things than just our guys at swinger parties or porn stars or stuff like that. It's, it's a real thing thing and it's crazy that this guy asked this question because you and i have been having a conversation about trying to find a doctor someone who has a lot more knowledge than we do to come on and talk about this this for this question we can totally answer this but i do think we should try to find someone yeah i think i think it's definitely becoming a thing in the lab so and worth having an open discussion about for sure okay uh yeah so if if you say the dick shot or you say trimax or if you if you hear about somebody putting a needle injection into their penis to get hard that's what they're referring to and like lacy said and it's something i don't think you know even when we talk about ed and we say ed is completely normal for performance anxiety which i think most of time is what ed is related to in the lifestyle is more performance anxiety meaning it's a little stressful to be in these public settings and having sex with people sometimes you don't know that well and there's you know a bunch of people in the room or you know and things like that and you're stopping and starting and condoms and cleaning and all the things yeah so and what we usually say is go get yourself some medication right and we're talking about like viagra and uh and uh cialis and stuff like that but it is true that those pills often don't cut it for some people yeah right so we have several friends we know several people that have tried yeah lots of people viagra and things like that and it just has not quite been enough to subside their performance anxiety right and and so they still struggle and trimex has been a godsend for a lot of people in overcoming this this issue um it's be in the life if you can't if you can't participate if you can't maintain an erection it's hard to be in the lifestyle it kind of can ruin this whole experience for you right uh and we want you know there's several people that want to do this they want to you know be in group playrooms and they want to be fucking their wife and they want to have a good time but just getting over that hurdle of performance anxiety has been the downfall for many couples and being able to enjoy this lifestyle and so we have we know several people where Trimex has really solved that problem and so it's a drug I highly recommend if you have tried I would try the pills first and if they don't work for you and you think you need something more, seeking out Trimex and getting a prescription for that, I think will solve your problems at that point. We do not suggest that you take some of your buddy's medication. We've heard horror stories from multiple people of people causing permanent damage to themselves for not taking the proper dose or not having the antidote to reverse it. So if this is something that you're interested in, we just highly suggest that you seek professional, like professional doctor to help you get everything right. Yeah. And I think that's why I would suggest trying to get, try Viagra and the others first others first because trimax is a very serious drug right you're going to one you need a needle you have to inject it so there's all the safety concerns that come with that sometimes you know people will bleed a little bit after they insert the needle obviously having intercourse when there's blood present is a whole new risk right so that's not necessarily the best so you have to be careful that you know once you do inject it that you you know make sure that if there is bleeding it stops and all that before you have any you know intercourse or at least that you have a condom or something on to protect from that another thing is you'll get a hard-on and and it's very common that you'll that hard-on will stay for hours and when you get the medication they will give you a reversal drug right so there's another drug that you can inject that will make the dick no longer hard now in party settings right where you're staying up late and you're fucking uh and sometimes there's alcohol um used sometimes there's recreational drugs used you do not want to pass out with a hard on not not use the reversal because if you have a hard-on for longer than four hours like all these commercials say you can start to cause permanent nerve damage to your penis and if you cause too much permanent nerve damage to your penis you might never be able to get a hard-on naturally again yeah and we know we've met people have had that happen and they've had that happen by using this drug but they will admit to you that they used it inappropriately right yeah they got the drug from their buddy they didn't have the reversal um you know they probably drank too much and then passed out um and then they had this issue happen to them so trimax is a great drug it can be used to cure you know really cure ED and make it so that people that have problems performing in these settings are able to do so. But you have to be very cautious and take this drug seriously if it's something you're going to use. Yes. So, that was our pre to the answers to the questions. So, let's get into his actual question. And my question for you you guys is do some women judge guys for needing a shot to perform um so i guess that's me um i personally do not um but i'm also educated on the shot and what it does if you would have asked me a couple of years ago i might have somewhat somewhat been like, well, why am I not enough? But as I've been in the lifestyle for long enough now, I've educated myself and realized that it's not me. Some guys just really struggle with that, even though they're extremely turned on and really want you. I know that. So that would be my answer. Not normally. I don't think you're going to find a lot of women that are are super turned off by that i think most women just want you know if it's somebody that you're engaging with and you want to have sex with they're just gonna be happy your dick's hard yeah how what what process you had to go to to get your dick to get hard i don't think is of concern for most women correct they just want to engage with you and your hard penis yes um for sure and so i don't think too many women are going to be overly judging now like lacy said if somebody is new to the lifestyle never experienced this uh you know maybe it's a little shot to their ego if you're like oh hey i need to go take a shot but it's also worse if to me it's worse when the dick doesn't get hard and then it becomes an issue and they they're jerking off in the corner and the wife's getting railed and you know i would rather them just take the shot let's just move on yeah i think in 90 of the cases if you need the shot you taking it is is the best case scenario as opposed to not being at home yeah so the next question is for you dan do most guys just own oh no wait sorry do guys think less of you for not being able to play naturally no i don't think so i mean again this is we can't answer for everybody yeah but i think if you've been in this lifestyle for a while you know how much of an issue um maintaining an erection can be in these settings and, I think every guy who has been in the lifestyle for a while has experienced it personally. And again, if we're engaging with you as a couple, I don't care what you need to do to get hard as long as you do that. I've never taken Trimax myself, but it's something that I've seriously considered more so for content because that can be a little when there's cameras and stuff that's a little more awkward for me than lifestyle settings but even even lifestyle settings you know sometimes when you go to engage at two three o'clock in the morning and you're tired and you're kind of run down and maybe you've had a couple you know drinks um you know most of the time ed medication is enough for me but there has been times that even with with ed medication i've struggled so um you know something like the shot i think my opinion is i'm going to be there eventually yeah i think as i get older and you know yeah you know my blood flow and we've had this decreases we've had this conversation about you getting it just as like a backup you know if something was to happen okay um do most guys just own it and openly go take their shot or do it out in the open or is it more common to try and be discreet about it or hide and deny it um i've seen all of the above i've seen people just that were super comfortable with just whip it out and the wife gives the shot right there and it's not a big deal um i've seen people they like excuse themselves they they say hey we're going to do a shot we'll be back in like two minutes they'll step out like go into their room or you know in the bathroom or wherever then we've also seen the first i remember the first time we made content with someone that used the shot he went in the bathroom shut the door and didn't like didn't even tell us what he was doing he just walked out with like a hard dick and we were like what's how did that happen you know so we asked um and he told us i would do you think people use it and just don't tell us probably yeah i would assume so it is kind of obvious though so guys that take trimex basically they take the shot and then within a few minutes they're hard and then they're basically hard the entire time you're engaging yeah right which is not normal yeah i could say so if somebody like it's like hey we're gonna run by the room and get some stuff and then we'll meet you in your room and then they walk through the door and the guy's got a hard on he's probably on trimex Yeah, I agree. For me, I mean, we might have different opinions, Pierre, Dan, and I. But for me, I'm okay with you owning it. I would rather know up front than me like wonder or we leave the room and we're like, that guy was totally on Trimex. You know, I'd rather you just be honest. And especially our friends that we know that they're all on it and we've been around them. i have no issues with them doing it like right in front of me i mean most of the time i'm not even paying attention to them i'm getting myself you know i rinse off i'm changing i'm kind of tending to myself so it's it's not a big deal um but i think in the lifestyle you i think just being open and honest and communicating i think is always a better than being a little bit you know like close off and it's nothing to be ashamed of it's nothing guys are not ashamed when they take viagra i don't think you should be ashamed when you you do a dick shot what do you think i agree i you know it's hard for me because we've been doing this for you know i've been in the lifestyle for eight years now and i've been taking viagra for i don't i don't know probably five of those eight years uh so to me it's not a big deal at this point now i will say early on and you even know this when i first went and got a prescription it was awkward to me i didn't want to do it yeah i i felt bad about it you know yeah and i can see like if someone has it's like your first time giving yourself the shot or you've only you know like maybe you and your wife have only done a few times and you want to step away and do it in privacy and make sure you're doing it right like i think that's totally fine but i think that's an insecurity within yourself i think again people that have been in the lifestyle for a while they know that performance anxiety is a thing most of the time they've probably either experienced it themselves or if they're you know a female like lacy they've had somebody that has experienced it with them so at the end of the day we all just want to have fun and have a good time and so whatever you need to do to ensure that you're able to do that i think is completely acceptable yeah i totally agree i don't think you should share your medicine that's just me you know i agree so we've heard horror stories biggest thing about Trimex is go get your own prescription and have the reversal, right?