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You need shamelesscare.com. Use coupon code TSN at checkout. Hey there, pineapple people, and welcome to the Swing Nation podcast. We are are your hosts northern guy and southern girl and today we have another rendition of tuesday talks we do talking tuesday and nobody called in and left me a jingle nobody left a jingle one lady did call in and she had a really good question truth is we checked it like right before we went on so we didn't think about it but it she left a really good question that i think requires more than like a 15 20 minute answer agreed but we will it's definitely noted and i think we should work on it her her question also got cut off like halfway through yeah but we got the gist of it so i assume there's a time limit so if you do call in and ask a question i don't know what the time limit is for leaving a voicemail but apparently there is one because she was like three quarters of the way through her question and then yeah it got cut off yeah um but yeah we'd love to hear your question and do you have the phone number handy i do it is 972 3 0 2 7 7 1 6. Again, that's 9 7 two three zero two seven seven one six so call in uh leave us your tuesday talk question um if you do that we're going to use the audio um on the podcast so you know if you don't want your name you know say whatever you want to say but uh just know that the full length of that audio could get used on the podcast so or if there's if you want to say something and not have it put on the podcast just say okay please don't put this on the podcast and then whatever the rest of your your messages but yeah we'd love to hear from you and if you have a tuesday talk jingle we'd like to hear that as well you can call in and sing that to us or if you want to just email us a file, you can do that, theswingnation.gmail. And if you don't want to call in and you just want to email us your questions, you can do that at theswingnation.gmail.com. You can reach out to us on X or Instagram or TikTok or any of those places. But if we're not following you back, sometimes those get put in the spam folders and stuff and they can get overlooked so the swing nation at gmail is the best place to to do that we've got a lot we asked for some the last one i think we've got like 10 questions we did so thank y'all the ones that said a man thank you they were all really good questions too there are so keep them up i'd like to get some more voice i'd. I'd like to get some audio. I'd like to get some voice questions. So please call in and ask your questions. Okay. So what is the question of the week? So it says, in email, it says, Hello, my wife and I are fairly new to Swing Thing. We've done a couple of hotel takeovers and a couple bar takeovers. My wife is adamant about not wanting to play with another man. She's also the shy one in the couple. I'm pretty outgoing, and for what my wife says, I have never met a stranger. My question is, when I'm talking to people and they ask me what we're into, how do I go about telling them that my wife wants nothing to do with another guy? She mostly just wants to me with other women without sounding like a jealous cock blocker our sls name is even well should i give it out if he said it okay our sls name is even unicorn underscore quest in hopes that it gives people a heads up i feel like if i'm talking to another guy the lifestyle of it and he gets brought up and i say my wife wants something to do with another guy i always get the vibe that they think it's more me than her thanks for your help and you can give tito and juicy tito and juicy um what was it unicorn underscore guest quest unicorn quest yeah um okay that's a good question yeah and i and i can kind of see where his concern is because there are a lot of couples, well, not a lot, but there are guys in the lifestyle that want to be in the lifestyle and they have like a one penis rule. So they won't let their wives sleep with people. And so I think like if someone just said she's not interested in guys. There would be an assumption that it was him. there would be an assumption that he just won't let her um but i do kind of get that i there are times that i don't want to sleep with anybody else i've been just down for watching so i can kind of see her point of view there yeah i guess my initial gut reaction to that is if you are a couple and you are just looking to play with females um that is hard very i think um using swinger websites like sec sls cassidy things like that you can be very honest in your bio and you can you can literally just say exactly what he just said and i've even seen where on some profiles those have like some a paragraph written by him and then a paragraph written by her and and maybe you you have her write something and you write something and explain exactly what you're looking for so that way when couples come across your profile and they see that they'll know right off the bat if that's something that they it's worth pursuing or not but to be honest with you i think that they might find a decent amount of couples especially newer couples in the lifestyle where maybe the wife wants to experience like i'm curious is she
Speaker2:
bisexual yeah i didn't gather that so in the question he you know he says basically they want
Speaker1:
Thank you. Maybe the wife wants to experience, like, I'm curious, is she bisexual? Yeah, I didn't gather that. So in that question, he, you know, he says basically they want females and it sounds like the females are for him or she enjoys watching him with other females, but it doesn't really say if she enjoys the females as well. But if she does, that could be a really nice ice wrecker for another couple that she wants to be interested. I do think where they're going to have problems is at lifestyle events where they're typically more of like a a full swap i mean because that goes i think even hot wife couples have a harder time at your traditional lifestyle events because it's usually couples looking to full swap yeah no that is the the difficulty and we've even said um you know couples that are looking for just a female to play with honestly you might be better off looking on like apps like tinder and some of the non-traditional sing uh swinger places because the problem with like a swinger dating website is everybody on that website is looking for a single female yeah and so if one comes along they just get get bombarded by everybody yeah and so it's really hard to kind of make it through that noise to get to talk to her and get an opportunity to connect with her um we found that you know if you just get on tinder and put hey we're a couple looking for a play or even if you make a single like a guy profile and say hey i'm married but you know my wife likes to watch me fuck other women and join if you're by like you might have better luck catching somebody's attention and i found we've done that i've also made a profile i know that now you can do couple profiles on tinder but used to get banned for that used to get banned but i've done it where i would make the profile in my name and say like and do like a girl for girl it's like a girl for girl and say i'm married but this is what we want it comes like girls a little safer a little safer when it's coming from a girl um the only other advice that i can think of just off the top of my head is like hot wife events which are again not super common it's definitely more full swap couples but finding hot wife couples where maybe the wife is really into going and fucking and the husband likes to watch or maybe he likes to stay home and he gets a video that might be an option too yeah i'll say our experience in the lifestyle we've played with a few of the unicorns and when i say a few it's literally a handful um but but we've come across a lot of couples that are either hot wife couples or even just like they like this you know i mean they're a full swap but it's kind of about the girl and they like seeing her get fucked so there's been several couples um that we've played with that are like i just want dan to fuck my wife i'm just want to watch or yeah you know maybe that night not every time but some of the time and um yeah so i think all of this is the more people you get to know yeah the more people you connect with the more you build your circle uh the more likely you are to find connections yeah and i think being honest with people is really good um and i think building like a court group of friends and Alyssa, I know some people are against that. We found that that builds better relationships, better sex, better communication. When we have friends that we learn their play dynamic over the years. And we know sometimes the husband will join in. Sometimes he won't. Sometimes the wife just wants to watch. And we learn that about the couple. So when someone someone takes a step back it's not like a big thing you know we just kind of know oh that's what they're doing because we've played with them so many times and we've just kind of learned their play styles yeah now i think what you need to be careful not to do is lead people on right so to go to a lifestyle event and start just chit-chatting with couples i almost think you should make it kind of known early on so like when you start to feel a connection with a couple just say hey just so you guys know we aren't a full swap couple but you know we're only interested in playing with um females or whatever you know maybe you do same room or you know parallel play or you know whatever your rules and boundaries are um i think most couples especially at events are going to assume most other couples are full or and or soft swap you know i mean so when you start to feel that connection just make it really clear so that you don't get to a playroom and then be like oh by the way she doesn't fuck other guys And I know she's shy, but it would do you both some good if she leads with it. I think it comes across because there is that stigma that guys make their wives be in the lifestyle and make them participate but won't let them fuck people if she leads with it it comes across like a little better a little true like you can believe her you, and I get that she's shy and that's hard and it's hard. We've, we've gotten to, we've got to know couples and they didn't mention things and you get to the playroom and then they mentioned it. And then everyone's a little disappointed because you, you've sat and chatted all night. I don't think that's the place to do it. I do think that's a little shady. You know what I mean we've all been there let's you know it's hard especially newer in the lifestyle and if somebody's shy and they they don't know how to bring it up and then you wait too long and it's awkward you know we've all been there it happens but i would say in this case because they have a unique situation they're really going to have to like hone in on those skills and practice it yeah um and then i think the only other thing that i would say about the situation is never say never like maybe explore a little bit like why isn't she interested in playing with other males is that uh you know is there some kind of trauma in her past that she needs to overcome? Is it a trust thing?
Speaker2:
Is it you just haven't found the right male that she's felt a connection with? And I will say, like, through most people's lifestyle journeys, ours included, you usually end up doing things you never think you're going to do.
Speaker3:
Right.
Speaker2:
When you start out early on, you're like, oh, you know, I'm never going to do this. I'm never going to do that. And then the more you explore, the more you get comfortable, the more you feel safe, the more you're like, you know, I don't know. right when you start out early on you're like oh you know i'm never going to do this i'm never going to do that and then the more you explore the more you get comfortable the more you feel safe the more you're like you know what that kind of would be fun like let's try that um so i would never i wouldn't close the door on the not doing full swap especially it sounds like he is interested in it um that it's more her that doesn't want to do that um so maybe some exploration on why the why of that um and then maybe maybe there's healing in that you know maybe maybe there's you know if it is a trauma thing if it is a insecurity thing if it you know if it's some kind of i don't know jealousy whatever the thing is that is there um maybe work on that and address that and um because i do think in the lifestyle being a full swap couple is more convenient you know i mean yeah it is and especially if it's something he's interested in and it's just if it turns out it's just an insecurity with her or some kind of you know she doesn't feel safe or trauma kind of thing with her i think it would be worth doing the work to get through that because you probably will have a better experience in the lifestyle. It would just be a little easier for you to connect with people if you can move past that. So I think it's worth exploring if it's something you're interested in. I agree. But I think that's it. Yeah. It's going to be hard for you. I think you need to be open and honest with people you connect with, getting on the Internet, maybe looking in some not-so-traditional lifestyle spaces for females. and then just when you do connect with couples make make sure they know ahead of time before people start getting naked yeah it's important and i think it is going to be tougher for you because that is not the norm it's just not the norm but i do think there's opportunities you just have to be creative. Agreed. Agreed.
Speaker3:
All right. Anything else? That's it. All right. I think that wraps up this week's Tuesday Talk.
Speaker1:
Again, if you have a question, you can call us at phone number.
Speaker3:
972-302-7716. Or email us at theswingnation at gmail.com. Yeah. Look forward to hearing from you guys. All right.
Speaker1:
I think with that, in a world full of apples. Be the pineapple.
Speaker2:
Be the pineapple, guys.
Speaker3:
Bye. Bye.
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