Send us Fan MailTuesday Talks: Swinger Society Event Survival Guide | Episode 37In this episode of The Swing Nation Podcast, the top-rated lifestyle podcast about non-monogamy and swinging, Dan and Lacy bring you another exciting installment of their Tuesday Talks series, where they answer listener questions with their signature blend of humor and expertise.This week, Dan and Lacy respond to an email from Celeste, a brand-new swinger gearing up for her first-ever lifestyle event: the Swinger Society Winter Wonderland Takeover at Club Tempted in Louisville, KY. Celeste wants to know what to wear and what to expect, and Dan and Lacy break it all down. From outfit ideas to party etiquette and tips for making connections, they share everything Celeste—and other first-timers—need to know to feel confident and have an amazing night.If you re new to the lifestyle or just curious about what goes on at events like these, this is the perfect episode to tune in to!- The Swing Nation - Main Website Quick Navigation Website: -- (Find all our social media links more!)- Swinger Society - Our Website to meet, connect events Swinger Society Discord Our Facebook Group- Swinger Websites -Kasadie 90 day free trialUsername: TheSwingNation SDC 14 day free trial Username: TheSwingNation** Use code 36313 for 14 days free! ** SLSUsername: NorthernGuynSouthernGirl- Merch More -Order Your Merch Here!- Lacy’s Fun Links -VIP OnlyFansPREMIUM OnlyFans-- THANK YOU TO OUR SPONSORS --Wisp : Making sexual healthcare inclusive, cost-effective, and accessible—for everyoneUse Code SWING at checkout for 15% off your oder!Shameless Care: ED Medication and at home STD testingUse Code TSN at checkout for $30 off your order!Promescent® Make Love Longer, It’s Time for Great SexUse Code SwingNation for 5% off!Sing it Bikinis: adjustable one-size styles, thoughtfully crafted to flatter every body type.Support the show- Thank you for the support! -
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Speaker1: This podcast is intended for adult audiences. Over the age of 18, it contains adult language and situations. The views, thoughts, and opinions expressed in this podcast belong solely to us, and not of any employer, organization, committee, or other group or individuals. This podcast is not intended to be taken as professional advice. Welcome to the Swing Nation podcast, a podcast by swingers, for swingers, where we look to Speaker2: educate others and push back on the negative stigmas and misconceptions associated with our lifestyle. Come with us and share our pineapple journey as we travel the globe, Speaker1: interview the experts, learn and grow together. Join the nation. So Lacey, people are asking, how do they get to go to a party or an event with us? They check out swingersociety.net. You create a profile, you sign up for an event, and you come hang out with us. Super easy. Speaker3: That's right. Speaker2: If you want to party with us and the other faces and names that you know from social media and TikTok, head on over to swingersociety.net. Speaker1: Can't wait to see you there. Sexual health care can be so much more than STI testing. WISP offers services like emergency contraception, help in delaying your period, UTI treatments, and so much more. Speaker3: Thank you. health care can be so much more than STI testing. WISP offers services like emergency contraception, help in delaying your period, UTI treatments, and so much more. They even have a product called the OMG Cream that helps provide more fulfilling orgasms for women. WISP provides same-day prescriptions and can give you discreet treatment in the comfort and privacy of your own home. Check out the link in our show notes or go to HelloWiz.com and use code SWING for 15% off. Most people have unprotected oral sex, right? Be honest. Now think about your last STD test. Did your doctor tickle your throat with something that looked like a giant Q-tip? Probably not. Yet that's the only way to check for oral gonorrhea or chlamydia, which are often asymptomatic. You need a better doctor. You need shamelesscare.com. Speaker2: Use coupon code TSN at checkout. With Dan and Lacey A little bit wild and a whole lot racy Swinging through life, having all the fun Tune in, now the party's just begun Tuesday Talks with Dan and Lacey A little bit wild and a whole lot racy Swinging through life, having all the fun Tune in, now the party's just begun Tuesday Talks Talks, Tuesday Talks, Tuesday Tuesday Talks with Dan and Lacey A little bit wild and a whole lot racy Swingin' through life, havin' all the fun Tune in, now the party's just begun Tuesday Talks with Dan and Lacey A little bit wild and a whole lot racy Swingin' through life, havin' all the fun Tune in now the party's just begun hey there pineapple people and welcome to the swing nation podcast we are your hosts northern guy and southern girl and today we're back with another rendition of Tuesday Talks. We are. Talking Tuesday. Yeah. With Dan and Lacey.
Speaker3:
Mm-hmm. in southern girl and today we're back with another rendition of tuesday talks we are talking tuesday
Speaker1:
yeah with dan and lacy a whole lot wild and a whole lot of racy you should be lucky that my name is lacy and it rhymes with cool word dan rhymes with stuff not something as cool as racyacy. Pan. Man. Like.
Speaker3:
Can. Yeah.
Speaker2:
Welcome to Tuesday Talks. So this week, we have a question coming to you, not from our phone.
Speaker3:
Yeah.
Speaker2:
But from our email.
Speaker3:
Yeah.
Speaker2:
All right. Let's listen to the question.
Speaker1:
Well, the title is Nervous Newbie, which I think is really cute.
Speaker3:
It is cute. Okay.
Speaker1:
So, hi, Dana Lacey. My name is Celeste, and I hope I'm not too late for next week's tuesday talk my husband and i are brand new in the lifestyle well actually we haven't had any interactions other than texting on different apps a little backstory about us we've both been married for over 23 years and have amazing sex life well on a recent business trip we started more role playing about these fantasies, which is MFM interactions. The week away and all the hot sex and sex talk really sparked my interest in seeking out an actual person to fulfill those fantasies. That led me into diving into the lifestyle. Your podcast was the very first one I came across and I've been hooked ever since. I've learned so much from both of your personalities and your experiences from the guests you've had on your show. That led me to convincing my husband to get tickets to the Winter Wonderland next weekend. My question is, with this being our first ever club and being surrounded by like-minded people and lots of sex, we both are extremely nervous. Little questions like, what should we wear? Do I bring lingerie? Should we RSVP for any of the meet and greet events since we are new any and all input on what to expect is greatly appreciated look forward to possibly hearing back from you both and excited on what next weekend will bring our way many thanks awesome um so it sounds like celeste just found the lifestyle uh sounds like she found her which then led her to find our podcast um and now she's coming to her first swinger society event which is now this weekend yes so if you don't know our wonder or winter wonderland takeover is at club tempted in louisville kentucky this weekend uh what the 13th and 14th i think are the other days for that still a few tickets left if you go to swingerside.net. But she's wondering, okay, we've booked tickets. Now what do we do? She's nervous. She doesn't know what to wear. She doesn't know if she should bring lingerie. She's not sure what to expect. It sounds like her and her husband have some fantasies around her being with another man, if I read that right or understood that right. So she's not really sure what to expect going into this. Well, I want to say one thing before I jump in. She said convince, which reading the text, like the rest of it, I don't think she actually convinced him. I think Celeste just used that word there. Because based on this is kind of his fantasy. It's a little bit of a trigger word for Lacey. Well, well it's a trigger word for the lifestyle we don't want to convince our partners to be in the last I'll partake so I truly don't feel like Celeste is doing that but I think with being lifestyle advocates like we talk about this a lot I think it's worth noting if you have to like persuade your partner maybe it's not the right fit for you. Because I think that's important. But I do get that one of the, you know, if it's a couple, one person might be a little bit more resistant. They might need a little bit of coaching along. But I don't think anybody. A little bit of convincing? We just don't like convincing in the lesson. Yeah. So generally speaking, you don't say, you know, how do I convince my partner're what you're wanting to do is share a mutual fantasy right and and but the truth is one partner usually is yeah more gung-ho to participate but one partner usually is a little slower so i don't i get what she's saying i understand there's a little some words in there that maybe we wouldn't use but i think i think everybody understands what she's no i totally i'm i'm not trying to be a turd I just you're good I want to make sure that other lifestyle if you're new to this like this is your first podcast I just sorry let me dig myself out of this hole I put myself in you're great I when I heard that word too it triggered me a little bit too but I also I understand the connotation yeah but we don't think Celeste is doing that but I love this question and when you sent it, I was like, we have to do that this week. Because I think it's like a great question because we've met so many people along the way. They're like, okay, we booked tickets now. What do we do? Okay, so the first thing I would say to Celeste is go back. If you are listening to our podcast, go back and listen. We have an entire podcast on what to wear. We have an entire podcast about what to expect your first time at a swingers club. So there, there are historic podcasts out there that you can go back and you can find and we'll delve pretty deep into kind of each one of those subjects you kind of asked about. But we can do like a quick synopsis for this weekend. Yeah. So let's see, like what should you wear well um i would wear something that kind of goes along with the theme as long as you feel comfortable at the end of the day you want to wear something that you feel comfortable and confident in and so if that doesn't fit in the theme screw it who cares just wear what you feel good in um the themes are i can read those to you because i think that's like important to talk about overall theme for the weekend is winter wonderland yeah but friday is frozen fantasies yeah and then saturday is glacier glacier glow yeah uh so friday is basically think sexy snowstorm like sexy snow sexy winter outfits yes correct and then saturday is A white glow party yeah it's essentially a glow party just all white if you have in anything white pretty much glows so basically you can wear anything white throughout the weekend yes correct and like what lacy is saying is you can be as sexy or as whatever you're comfortable in so maybe you just want to wear like a white cocktail dress yes and that's what you're comfortable in and that's perfectly fine maybe you want to wear white lingerie and a boa and earmuffs and high heels and you want to go all the way a white thong and some white snowflake pasties you know like you can go as far as extreme and as like over the top i think all of those could be sexy i don't want to say like one is more sexy but one is more scandalous i guess would be the word for it right so you can you could be wearing a white dress that you would wear out in public and wear to dinner or whatever or you could be wearing lingerie that you would probably only wear in a sexual setting correct and you can also do all versions of that throughout the night it is not uncommon for there to be multiple clothes changing i don't want that to sound like you have to go out and buy a whole bunch of stuff because you 100 do not you can stay in that cocktail outfit and then if you decide to fuck you can fuck butt naked and then put that dress on and go back home but there are some like a lot of girls will start in like maybe with a walk in from the street and that's what they wear for the first, you know, a few hours. And then at some point as the night goes on, they'll change into lingerie and then wear that throughout. So, and honestly, for me, I feel like I need to walk in. And then when I see other people, I'm like, yeah, I get more comfortable. I feel a couple of drinks. Yeah. i just feel like a little liquid courage i'm feeling myself i don't remember the time but
Speaker2:
i think club tempted actually goes to where you could be nude on the dance floor after a certain time i think it's like 10 i think it is 10 it's either 10 or 11 i think it's 10 p.m where you can then be fully naked in the entire club yeah um and so at around that time a lot of the girls will take off their cocktail dress and put on lingerie or something like that i don't want to forget about
Speaker1:
Thank you. in the entire club yeah um and so at around that time a lot of the girls will take off their cocktail dress and put on lingerie or something like that i don't want to forget about her husband because i'm you know it's easy to focus on the female but same for the guy um you can wear if you have some white jeans or you can even a nice pair of jeans and like a white polo i think would be totally fine white for both white button up i mean anything uh you could order like an amazon set for the glow night if you want to be a little bit more casual we went on amazon and i just typed white glow like party accessories and i ordered some bracelets that glue uh glue glowed loaded glow bracelets that glow um so anything like that works dad typically doesn't change he just loses pieces of his outfit as the night goes so if he has a button of the french shirt at some point might get unbuttoned yes might come off yes i might end up in my underwear at some point correct yes correct and usually that stays in like lacy tries to buy me like or something. You know, white boxers or something in this case.
Speaker3:
Yeah.
Speaker1:
So that's pretty much that kind of thing that covers the clothing. Should you RSVP to the meet and greets? Yes. Because the meet and greets are vanilla setting. And if you don't know this and you're coming, I guess let me back up. we try really hard to offer non-swinger adjacent like opportunities to meet other people so Friday night there's a dinner Saturday day there's a lunch and then Sunday is a like a like a brunch as you're headed out in town that gives people like maybe like Celeste here who's newer and maybe would feel a little bit more comfortable in like a restaurant just having a conversation with somebody than like being half naked in a smear's club so it's kind of a nice way to meet people talk to people outside of the club get to know them before you go into the club and i would rsvp for those yeah or just show up i mean we encourage people to rsvp that that and really the reason we do that so we get a head count for the restaurant or the bar wherever we're going but even if you just come and show up most of the time i hate even saying that because usually like 20 people rsvp and then 60 people will show up but we've kind of almost built that in at this point yeah but just know that if you don't ask rsvP and there's like hardly any seating, that's why.
Speaker2:
So, yeah, I highly encourage you, especially if you're new to the lifestyle, to come to all of the meet and greets or as many that fit your schedule. And really, you'll be surprised. And this is why we do this. Me and Lacey actually pride ourselves at our events. I think one thing that sets Swinger Society apart from a lot of the other groups is we are really trying to maximize the amount of time that you get to interact with people and make connections. A good lifestyle party is all about fostering an environment where people can connect and then that leads to all the sexiness and all the fun, right? It's really hard to go into a party cold and then have a gangbang or an orgy or, you know, I mean, that's – if you think about it, at 8 p.m and closes at 2 p.m right or 2 a.m so that's it's only five six hours that you have to if you're new to meet people get to know them get comfortable with them enough to then maybe have sex with them right that's not a lot of time yeah um so the more you participate in these these outside of meet and greets and stuff like that, you'd be surprised. You might come to a meet and greet. You might have lunch with somebody. You just happen to sit next to some people. You get to talking to them. Hey, you got a bunch of stuff in common. Then you see them at the club and hey, we've already seen you. We had dinner with you today. We had lunch with you today. Oh, good to see you again. Now you're dancing. Now you're getting a couple of drinks. Now you're starting to be flirty and touchy. Next next thing you know you're in a playroom like that's how these situations um can come across and so even like when we do a secrets i always tell people like go do the speed dating go do the bingo at the bar go you know go when you're in the pool talk to like mingle talk to people because you never know when one conversation could lead to a connection that leads to you having maybe the most exciting experience you've ever had in your life um but if you don't put yourself out there you're never going to have those experiences you really have to engage with people in order to make that kind of stuff happen if you come to these events and you sit in a corner and at the bar all night you're not gonna you know and you're probably not going to have an experience and if you're just new and that's what you do and that's as comfortable as you are that's okay but a lot of us i know when you buy those tickets you have ideas of i think everybody wants to make connections and make something happen on some level whatever that comfort level is that you you are so i think it's important to try to foster those connections i agree okay what else were her questions that's all of our questions um is there anything you want to bring a bag um because you will have if you bring if you have change of clothes you'll have your alcohol you might need a little bag with your condoms and some of that so club tempted is a byob so you're going to want to bring a little bag maybe like a small backpack or like a gym bag size bag something like that um bring a change of clothes maybe some lingerie or something sexy um for guys you don't really need to change your clothes um sometimes you know you might get a drink or something spilt with you so maybe you're like bringing a hoodie or something that you can just throw on at the end of the night isn't a bad idea um change of shoes for the ladies usually your heels are going to get annoying so having a pair of flip-flops or wedges or something um it's also going to be cold and they have a coat rack so that's important to know because it's supposed to be pretty chilly this coming weekend bringing a tumbler or something with a lid is always a good idea um you have to at club tempted you have to have lids on the dance floor so bringing a cup with a lid is a good idea we will be selling them in our merch tent if you want a cool swinger one you don't bring one or you don't have one you can get them there at the uh the event uh what else condoms lube wipes any kind of you know stuff you need toys if you're a female that needs a vibrator to come or prefers a vibrator hair bow if you need to pull your hair back so you can give a good blow job anything that would make your sexual experience better you bring that yeah uh outside of that i don't really i've gotten into where i bring company clothes to wear home or wear back to the yeah that's the worst thing when you're like exhausted in the night you've been fucking and you're tired and you're kind of like a little tipsy and you have to put back on your skin high dress it's like give me some sweats and a hoodie yeah like i don't even i don't even care even guys can be the same thing like you just want to throw a pair of sweatpants and a hoodie on to go home i come in with like two to three bags there has been several times where like my jeans ended up on the floor and then somebody squirted on them or something. So having a change of clothes isn't a terrible idea, even for guys. I think the biggest thing is bring, well, two things. Bring the right attitude, right? So just come open-minded, willing to put yourself out there. You're going to have a good time. The second thing I want you to bring is a toy. Yeah. So this weekend at Club Tempted, we're doing a Toy for Tot for tot fundraiser and if you bring a toy we're going to give you a raffle ticket um and it's to win a cooler and then i think we have a couple other raffle baskets things so lots of cool prizes and giveaways um we're trying to raise money for the local toys for tots there in louisville to help um some of the less fortunate kids that are out there for christmas this year we've already raised over $3 dollars in toys twenty five hundred twenty five hundred oh yeah twenty five hundred dollars we're gonna get over three thousand uh in toys and so it may be actually you're actually right i think now that i think about that i think you're right i don't know somewhere around three thousand dollars worth of toys so definitely um you know bring a toy do a good thing it's two purpose one you're helping kids in need and two you're showing that swingers are a valuable member of the community right that that swingers are a group of people that care about their community around them and and can be helpful so it kind of helps shed a positive light on our community which will help us then when it comes to people losing their jobs and all the things all the discrimination things that we deal with so please bring a toy but i think that's about it you got anything else for celeste we look forward to seeing you this weekend if you're in the louisville area or within a couple hour drive or shoot if you want to hop on a plane and go have fun at a party we're going to have dj life of spice is going to be there oh another thing we didn't mention is we're going to have like bdsm demonstrations and stuff like that so that's a good way you know go go to one of them demonstrations you know get involved get your hands dirty you know uh practice with i don't i can't remember which one they're doing um but you know participating in that they always do a great job though yeah dom life which is the um the bdsm group that's there that's facilitating that they are professionals amazing um so that's another good way to get involved and get some spiciness going all right anything else for the swing nation listeners that's it all right we look forward to seeing everybody in louisville kentucky this weekend and i think with that in a world full of apples be the pineapple be the pineapple guys bye if you've enjoyed our podcast and want to support us leave a five-star review wherever you're listening if you want to see more of our content you can find links to snapchat twitter instagram only fans and more in the show notes come join the conversation with us and other swinger content creators on our swinger society discord server if you have questions or feedback email them to us at the swing nation at gmail.com make sure you head on over to the swing nation dot net and keep up to date on all things swing nation we thank you so much for joining us and we'll see you next time goodbye
