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So like our friends roasting you in the Pulitzer Secrets wasn't enough to get you to start doing that. Tuesday Talks with Dan and Lacey. Okay. Moving right along. She said do not do that before we started recording. I did. She said do not do your Tuesday Talk thing. But okay, just keep getting roasted. That's fine. I mean, whatever floats your boat.
boat okay so this email came in and it was not a tuesday talks question however i felt like it was worthy of a podcast of a tuesday talks yeah i did i thought it was like i felt like a lot of people could relate to this you know maybe not this actual event that they're referencing but like most events so so let's get into it it says so the title was splash takeover atlanta say good afternoon my wife and i went to our first ever hotel takeover in atlanta and we left feeling like we didn't quite understand how things unfold at hotel takeovers we went along i.e.
without specific plans with anyone. We were on the quiet side, so we're not surprised that we didn't meet many people, but we were surprised that there wasn't much going on in the playrooms. I saw one of your posts about the event that mentioned there was a lot of people on a large bed in one of the larger playrooms. We probably went back to our rooms too early, but I was wondering time people started playing in the playrooms. More generally are the playrooms in the hotel events typically busy or do more people tend to use room suites?
As newbies to Hojo Takeovers we are asking only so we know how to proceed down the road. Whatever the answer is would it be similar at other destinations? We enjoy listening to you at the pool. And he said, thanks for your advice. You may have Stephen and Diane. Stephen and Diane from Splash Atlanta. And I think this is a really good question because, like, they openly admitted we're on the quieter side. We knew, like, going into it, we may not have the best of luck because we're quiet and we might not be able, you know, might not put ourselves out there that much.
But they wanted to see a little action, you know, and I get that, you know. So I thought like a lot of people that maybe this is our, they go to a hotel takeover for the first time. That's probably a very common way to end things.
Yeah, so it's going to be, to answer answer your question it's going to be different at every hotel takeover right um so some hotel takeovers don't have public play spaces at all and that's pretty many of them actually yeah i was going to say most of your average size hotel takeovers don't have a playroom and then if they do maybe what it is is one or two hotel rooms they haven't booked out to a to a person and they just prop the doors open to those couple hotel rooms and those are quote unquote public play spaces sometimes they might have like something like a motor bunny in one of them um they might have maybe a saint andrew's cross and some like bdsm type stuff in one of them um or they just there's might be beds it really every hotel takeover is a little bit different um some hotel takeovers won't have any uh and then in the convention style hotel so if it's a bigger event like a splash like a naughty new orleans i'm sure there are many others out there uh i know there are others out there that they provide a public play space and usually this is in if you think about like a convention style hotels and they have those little like meeting rooms they turn those meeting rooms into to play spaces on they bring in a bunch of beds and make some kind of you know some curtains and piping and they they make some various play spaces and honestly if you're going to see playing something like a splash atlanta you probably had like a really good opportunity to see it there splash naughty those are very well thought out planned out hotel takeovers and they spend a lot of time on those playrooms so they want them to be used and accessible to everybody yeah from an event coordinator um perspective since we do this um adding playrooms to your event is a really heavy lift right um there's some liability things there um there's staffing you've now went to just people gathering having a party to a sex party essentially yeah uh you know there's the whole you know safety and things that kind of have to take into effect um you know cleanliness all that right so it just adds a lot of planning and preparation on the event hosts and that's probably why you don't see that in some of the smaller events because it it is such a heavy lift uh but it's one of the i think the biggest draws for a lot of people is they want to go and you know like this like these people uh even if they don't swap they'd like to to see and experience people playing in a play space um so their question is i they didn't say what time they they went through the play spaces but it sounded like they said they went to bed early so uh you know they didn't say early but i kind of got that impression so our play time is typically midnight now we can't speak for other people but that's genuinely our time frame so if you're a 10 o'clock person that you normally go to bed you're probably going to miss that honestly most playroom action i would say doesn't start before 11 would you say 10 11 yeah i mean you're always going to have like the early people in there but the big bulk of your people are not going to be in there i say 11 to 11 p.m to 2 a.m is probably the typical peak hours and And really really the peak peak is probably gonna be around midnight one o'clock yeah um for for play yeah for sure and um and like yeah and it is 100 acceptable to go in and watch splash is so kind enough they haven't have a room made for that it's called observation yeah observation deck they have benches and seats where you can sit and openly watch it that was actually the room that we played in that time um friday or thursday yeah i can't remember what night it was but that was one of the rooms that we played in now they definitely have smaller playrooms that you know a little darker that those aren't they're a little harder to go in and watch because you're like basically standing against the wall which is kind of awkward but definitely those bigger rooms that's kind of what they're there for and it's also kind of a kink of people people like being watched and i can even think like the big room that has that like you know 20 bed orgy space well there's individual beds that are kind of on the sides so if you wanted to go in and watch people it would be perfectly acceptable to go in and just kind of you and your wife could sit on one of those side beds maybe get naked you know touch each other and you don't even have to like you you could it could be petting on outside of clothes yeah whatever you're comfortable with and you can kind of just sit there on that bed and kind of enjoy the scenery so yeah so i just think think you missed it because when we were there there was lots of people in there pretty much every night that we went in the rooms multiple times there was like not enough bed space to be honest with you um but i do because we've we're only like seven minutes in so we have a little bit of time but i do also want to touch base on the fact that you this was part of your question, but that you acknowledge that you didn't talk to a lot of people.
Therefore, you didn't make a lot of connections.
And I think that's like important to talk about because I've heard that feedback, like going live and chatting with people, learning messages or just meeting people that like they leave their first event or you know first few events a little discouraged because they didn't meet anybody they didn't make any real connections people literally be almost rude like complain almost like there was an expectation that they should have like we should have orchestrated the play for them yeah and i definitely don't think this that's what this gentleman is doing he seems to be he totally does i think it's worth pointing out that in this lifestyle if this is something that you and your spouse have decided that you wanted to do one or both of you are going to have to strike up conversations with people and it's okay if that's not easy for you and it's okay if maybe that's one or the other strong suit but somehow you're going to have to figure it out because if you stand in the corner or stand to the side and don't talk to anybody and don't you know you kind of give off that like aura of i'm here to meet people and have fun but if you kind of if you're close off and kind of in the corner, it's not easy to approach.
People are not going to approach you. I can remember we went to the Red Room, I don't know, maybe one of our last takeovers. And there was a sweet couple there and it was their first time. And she was so excited to be there. And the husband, no one talked to him.
And he got self-conscious and felt like he wasn't hot enough or sexy enough or well I don't know what his logic was but there was something around that and he got his feelings hurt and then of course wanted to leave because he felt like he wasn't good enough to be there right and he was very attractive man I don't know you know he got he got in his own head so i think talking about these things talking about you have to put yourself out there you have to talk to people i think this is all like really important conversations that you can't expect someone to just come up and be like hey let's fuck yeah ultimately when you go to an event um your experiences depend on you and kind to Lacey's point of what she's saying is the people that are going to have the best time and the best experiences are the ones that are willing to put themselves out there.
And from what I've seen, it doesn't even matter. You could be the hottest supermodel in the world.
Uh, you could be the most plain jane uh overweight stretch mark person um i don't think that's as big of a factor and not saying all those people are beautiful in their own way um but to me it's your personality yeah uh and it's your your willingness to put yourself out there and connect with people that matters more than any looks or or anything like the size of your penis how big your boobs are how big your ass are like those are the things we all tend to focus on in the lifestyle and think that like oh my god nobody's gonna want to play with me because um my boobs are saggy because i had three kids right and that's this is what women i mean they message us this every single day right uh now these are what you know men are like oh i have a you know i think my penis is below average and so i'm really worried about the lifestyle because of that right none of those things don't matter so much sure there are people out there that want to only fuck hot people that are you know look like barbie dolls sure there are people you know girls out there that only want to fuck guys with giant dicks but the majority of people in the lifestyle just want to have genuine connections with genuine people that they vibe with like for us that i don't care i don't care what color you are what skin color you are who you voted for what how much you weigh i don't care about any of that stuff as long as we make a connection and we can laugh and we can joke and we can have fun um and we can fuck like you know mean?
Like that's all that matters to me at these things. And I think that's all that matters to the majority of the people that are there. So you really need to get past the superficial stuff and focus on just making connections with people that you can relate to. And that will lead to sexy times with those people. Yeah. And to be honest, I'm not very good at putting myself out there. We just, if you listen to our last podcast about secrets, you know, I was DJing on a Thursday night and Lacey was floating around in the pool by herself and she kind of felt left out.
But the truth is she could have talked to anybody in that pool and they probably would have been head over heels to be talking to her. I just, it's hard for me. Like it doesn doesn't come easy it doesn't come natural i i like overthink and i make things awkward i you're my crutch i need you to be like go talk to him or hey how are you you know and sometimes i'm annoyed that you always want to talk to somebody but in reality when it comes to the lifestyle it is beneficial to us and And I just thought that was like worth noting because he did say that in his email.
And I thought I was happy that he acknowledged it and he didn't seem upset. But I think that's something to take away. I hate that he missed the sexy time, though. Especially if it was something they were looking forward to seeing and experiencing. Yeah, but to answer your question, 10, 11 p.m. to about 2 a.m. I don't think people are playing at 10. Maybe some. But yeah, 10, 11 to 2 a.m. I say midnight to 2 a.m. That's the peak. Well, midnight to 1 is probably the peak.
So out you might have to you know take a drink a red bull or something like that if you're somebody that usually goes to bed early uh stay up and you know by 11 o'clock things are going on or maybe go on like a bliss cruise they have daytime playrooms that's true yeah they have things you can go bliss cruise you go in that playroom just about any time of day and there's going to be something going on and that's the benefit of having 3,000 to 6,000 people On a ship I don't think we've ever walked into a playroom On Bliss Cruise and it wasn't somebody fucking somewhere So yeah And if you want to go on Bliss Cruise Swingersidey.net we're taking groups We've got a couple groups going to the April And November 2025 I heard April's almost sold out The April 2025 cruise is getting close to sold out.
Wow. So, yeah, if you want to do that, go get your room before they're gone. Yeah, but thank you, Stephen and Diane, for that email.
I hope that we kind of used your email to cover a few things, but I hope that we helped answer it, and I hope that we helped anybody that's thinking about going to a hotel takeover um to kind of answer some of your questions also if you have a tuesday talks question for us you can email us at the swing nation at gmail.com sorry i got confused there um or you can dm us on social media however there's a good chance we missed that so we do a better job of keeping up with them if you email them to us directly 100 all right well i think that answers hopefully that answers your question and with that in a world full of apples be the pineapple be the pineapple guys bye bye if you've enjoyed our podcast and want to support us leave a five-star review wherever you're listening if you want to see more of our content you can find links to snapchat twitter instagram only fans and more in the show notes come join the conversation with us and other swinger content creators on our swinger society discord server if have questions or feedback, email them to us at theswingnation at gmail.com.
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