Send us Fan MailTuesday Talks: Navigating Burnout in the Swingers Lifestyle | Episode 26In this episode of The Swing Nation Podcast, the top-rated lifestyle podcast about non-monogamy and swinging, Dan and Lacy are back with another Tuesday Talks segment, where they answer listener questions. This week, they respond to Rosie, a unicorn from Texas, who’s feeling burnt out from the swingers lifestyle and is unsure how to navigate it.Dan and Lacy dive into the topic of lifestyle burnout, offering personal insights and practical advice for regaining balance and managing the emotional and physical toll of an active non-monogamous life. They share tips on recognizing burnout, setting healthy boundaries, and finding ways to reignite the excitement while taking care of yourself.Whether you re a unicorn, a couple, or somewhere in between, this episode will help you navigate burnout and rediscover the joy of the lifestyle. Tune in for an honest, supportive conversation about self-care in the world of swinging!- The Swing Nation - Main Website Quick Navigation Website: -- (Find all our social media links more!)- Swinger Society - Our Website to meet, connect events Swinger Society Discord Our Facebook Group- Swinger Websites -Kasadie 90 day free trialUsername: TheSwingNation SDC 14 day free trial Username: TheSwingNation** Use code 36313 for 14 days free! ** SLSUsername: NorthernGuynSouthernGirl- Merch More -Order Your Merch Here!- Lacy’s Fun Links -VIP OnlyFansPREMIUM OnlyFans-- THANK YOU TO OUR SPONSORS --Wisp : Making sexual healthcare inclusive, cost-effective, and accessible—for everyoneUse Code SWING at checkout for 15% off your oder!Shameless Care: ED Medication and at home STD testingUse Code TSN at checkout for $30 off your order!Promescent® Make Love Longer, It’s Time for Great SexUse Code SwingNation for 5% off!Sing it Bikinis: adjustable one-size styles, thoughtfully crafted to flatter every body type.Support the show- Thank you for the support! -
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Speaker1: This podcast is intended for adult audiences. Over the age of 18, it contains adult language and situations. The views, thoughts, and opinions expressed in this podcast belong solely to us, and not of any employer, organization, committee, or other group or individuals. This podcast is not intended to be taken as professional advice. Speaker2: Welcome to the Swing Nation Podcast, a podcast by swingers, for swingers, We'll see you next time. welcome to the swing nation podcast a podcast by swingers for swingers where we look to educate others and push back on the negative stigmas and misconceptions associated with our lifestyle come with us and share our pineapple journey as we travel the globe Speaker1: interview the experts learn and grow together. Join the nation. So, Lacey, people are asking, how do they get to go to a party or an event with us? They check out swingersociety.net. You create a profile, you sign up for an event, and you come hang out with us. Super easy. That's right. If you want to party with us and the other faces and names that you know from social media and TikTok, head on over to swingersociety.net. Can't wait to see you there. Sexual health care can be so much more than STI testing. WISP offers services like emergency contraception, help in delaying your period, UTI treatments, and so much more. They even have a product called the OMG Cream that helps provide more fulfilling orgasms for women. WISP provides same-day prescriptions and can give you discreet treatment in the comfort and privacy of your own home. Check out the link in our show notes or go to HelloWiz.com and use code SWING for 15% off. Most people have unprotected oral sex, right? Be honest. Now think about your last STD test. Did your doctor tickle your throat with something that looked like a giant Q-tip? Probably not. Yet that's the only way to check for oral gonorrhea or chlamydia, which are often asymptomatic. You need a better doctor. You need shamelesscare.com. Use coupon code TSN at checkout. Hey there, pineapple people, and welcome to the swing nation podcast we are your hosts Speaker2: northern guy and southern girl and today we have another rendition of our tuesday talks we do talking tuesday which just so happened that somebody called in they don't have a jingle but they have like a jingle suggestion well i haven't heard this i'm curious are you ready for this let's see if i can play this let's see how this works Speaker3: Thank you. have a jingle but to have like a jingle suggestion well i haven't heard this so i'm curious are you Speaker2: ready for this let's see if i can play this let's see how this works Speaker1: hi dad and lacy this is cammy from canada and i don't really have a little jingle but i have like you guys could do, like, you know, your music. And he's like, where are you? I thought it was pretty cute. All right. I love listening to you guys.
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Bye.
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So let's hear it, Dan.
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It's Tammy from Canada.
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That's nice. Thank you, Tammy.
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Let's hear it. She thinks we need to do tuesday talks where are you tuesday talks i like it i think was that then i don't know i feel like it was kind of hard for me to understand but yeah i got the gist of it and it sounded about right she's not like cute though she's got that like canadian accent yeah so what she said british, like, it's way up there. Yeah. It's, like, in the tundra. Well, you're the northern guy. It's the snow. Yeah. You know the Canada. I don't know. I know, like, Florida and Mexico, not Canada. That was fun, though. Yeah. I like that. Yeah, it was fun. All right. So, if you want to call and leave us a voicemail or ask us a Tuesday Talks question, we have that phone number for you, and it is? 972-302-7716. One more time. 972-302-7716. Yeah, so call in. Give us your ideas for your jingle. Sing a little jingle. Or if you want, actually call in and ask a Tuesday talk question, we can use that. That seemed to work perfectly well. Yeah, it did. Okay. All right. So what is our Tuesday talk question for the week? So it says, Oh, she asked me to keep her information private, but this is Rosie from Texas is what she asked for me to call her. And she says, I have loved Tuesday Talks because it's cool to see that everyone has the same concerns, issues.
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And even if y'all don't have a clear answer, you always give good insight on the topic. My question is about burnout. I'm a unicorn and have been in the lifestyle for about two and a half years. I've had really excellent experiences and absolutely love the lifestyle. I've noticed within the last six months or so that i've seemed to slow down a little bit unintentionally my friend group is totally understanding of it and have not pressured me to participate any more than i wanted to but but i want to want to any advice on how to get that spark back in myself so burnout so this is actually is actually an interesting question. Yeah. Because I feel like it's something we were kind of discussing there for a while. Yeah. Definitely through the summer, we were definitely feeling the burnout in the lifestyle. Yeah. I think, you know, thinking about our own experiences with burnout, for me, it was more the hosting the event part. yeah but even if we weren't hosting we we go to a lot of events and it i don't know i feel like it's it's still a lot or at least that i feel that way yeah so there was i think there was time you know when we both had full-time jobs and you know my kids were younger and i was you know having to drive um to go see them all the time like we didn't get as much opportunity to go to lifestyle events so if you only do in a lifestyle event once every three months four months six months it's almost like vacation going on vacation once or twice a year right so you really look forward to it um you put a lot of work into like your outfits And you really get time to think about it. Yeah. And plan and prep. It's like let that excitement build. Right. Christmas morning kind of excitement build up to the event. Now for us, when we started doing an event a month, sometimes two events a month, it was like you get through an event and then it's like quick reset and start thinking about the next one yeah um and you didn't get quite that same excitement about it sometimes you're like man i just want to sleep in my own bed i don't necessarily want to drive to texas this weekend yeah i mean like there was some of that um now i will say once we got there yeah oh yeah and once we got into the party yeah i've never i've yet to have a bad time at a lifestyle no usually i mean like a look like i could have like been a little bit more eager to go but once we always like walk through the doors i'm like it's been a blast i can't remember there was like i think it was like the end of secrets in july i knew that was like our last big thing for the summer. And by like Saturday night, I was done. I was like, okay, I'm ready to go. We were also going to Costa Rica for a family trip right after that. But I was very much like, okay, let's wrap this up. I'm over it. I'm ready to go. But that's not a typical. That's not typical of me. We had just had a very busy few months leading up to that. Okay. So, so somebody that's, I guess, experiencing burnout themselves, what would be your advice to that person as far as how do you handle that? Well, I think we see a lot of couples enter the lifestyle and they're like, oh my God, this is so fucking fun. And then they literally book something every single weekend for like a month. We've seen it in our friends. Heck, we've even done it to some degree. And I also know that when I was a unicorn, because the options were like kind of endless in a way, I was taking advantage of all of them, you know, and I've mentioned this to you a couple of times. I'm glad that like you came in my life when you did, because because it kind of slowed me down a little so I think if you're experiencing burnout I think you just have to be more intentional with your plans so pick the things that you're excited about like if going somewhere once every three months and it's like a bigger thing save all your money from those little things and go do that one thing so you have something to look forward to would be probably a suggestion or like if you're completely burnout maybe like let's take six months eight months off maybe go to a hito or crew something bigger like just let that build up happen yeah and i'll you know i think that's the answer right so if you're experiencing burnout and you're getting kind of worn out with lifestyle parties or events or just you know maybe it's just hanging out with certain friends that you have it's okay to take a break yeah like you you're not obligated to anybody to attend events you're not obligated to anybody to to attend parties like it's this is for you know she's a unicorn so it's literally for about her and for her um so i don't i think there are people that feel like oh well all my friends are going so i have to go i'm those people yeah yeah and so i think that's normal but i think it's also okay to be like okay you know i'm starting to get burnt out with this let me take a little step back slow down a little bit like you said be more intentional about what events you do do and um have them be ones that you're really looking forward to and i think like if you swing in your hometown like if your friend group just all gets together on a random saturday night at somebody's house like super low-key no big plans no like party you don't have to have a theme outfit and some of that i can definitely see how that's super easy to just hop in your car and go over on a saturday night and that it becomes like repetitive you do it all the time because she did mention her friend group has been okay but I'm assuming that's like a local friend group I don't know so maybe like that's honestly that's why we don't play at home because we travel so much and we do so much and this is even before the podcast really we just kind of let home be home and it's kind of like our safe place we're home we're not worried about swinging we're not worried about finding people we're just at home and then we make our like when we go to play more intentional we plan it we drive somewhere fly somewhere um which i know that that isn't an option for everyone but that's kind of like what we've done to kind of keep that level of like excitement yeah excitement because if we were
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swinging that that isn't an option for everyone but that's kind of like what we've done to kind of keep that level of like excitement yeah excitement because if we were swinging like every other weekend or something like like at our home i think we would totally be burned out yeah i you know for us and you know i can't speak for everybody but for us what's exciting about the lifestyle is going new places having new experiences meeting new people so i do agree that if we went you know say trapeze atlanta every you know twice twice a month and that was our home club and we went all the time with the same people um it would it would become mundane it would be you know like and this people say it's terrible to say but like some of the reasons that like just sex with your partner like it's normal it's every day it seems routine when anything becomes routine it gets boring it gets mundane you get burnt out on it you gotta spice it up right no matter if you're monogamous or non-monogamous the answer to keep things interesting is to keep changing and keep new trying new experiences and trying new things and going new places um so i mean if it's just burnout and you're tired and take a break if it's you're kind of like i'm over this or this is becoming routine to me or this is becoming mundane to me then i think the answer is change it up yeah find somewhere else to go you know travel um like you said go to a bliss cruise go to hedo um find some way to make it new and exciting for you maybe it's just like mixing up like what kind of sex you have you know like maybe if you normally do she's a unicorn and she fucks the same couple or two maybe try to set up an orgy or try to set up a gang bang or try to you know i mean like find new and exciting ways to kind of make that keep that sparkle lot yeah no i agree and it's funny because you know this sounds kind of crazy but you know you listen to like relationship podcasts and stuff and they're talking about just normal sex life and that's what always what they say like mix it up try new things be intentional about it um and i think that's the answer for a lot of that yeah um i don't feel like we've ever got stuck in the routine thing i think we've done a good job at avoiding that yeah no we i think so i mean like we've been like a little burnout just because we travel and do so much but like once we're there we very much enjoy ourselves and and it's not super routine yeah our burnout is more like i want to sleep in my own bed for more than three days yeah i want to unpack my suitcase and and then put it away for a week or two before i should pull it back out but we've never got burnt out with the meeting people and having experiences like i think we're always want more of that correct um but yeah but we don't like because we like different friends get to go to like different parties that's kind of what helps us because we change it up too yeah even when we go to the same some of the same places right we go to secrets two or three times a year but it's never the same people that are at secrets might be a couple of the same people but overall the crowd is always different yeah and usually almost every event we get to connect with some new people that we haven't connected with before so yeah it keeps it interesting for sure it does um and that would be my suggestion to you yeah um and if she's a unicorn she could always message us and we could we could help her have new experiences but i could definitely see being unicorn getting burned out i was getting burned out yeah just doing too much yeah yeah and really the answer to that is to step back and take a little break yeah or you know do something different it's okay you don't have to do like she has the advantage because she is a unicorn like she doesn't have a partner that she's gonna like they're gonna be upset if she wants to take a step back and they're not you know it's all about her she can do pretty much whatever she wants to do so agreed agreed all right so i hope that helps you out um definitely um, mix it up it up. Take a break if you need to, you know, go and try new things. You can definitely come to some of our parties. We've got secrets coming up here. What, next weekend? Next weekend. This podcast comes out. So not this weekend, but the weekend after the October 3rd through the 6th. We actually have had some cancellations. And so we still have a few rooms available. So if if you're hearing this go to swingersociety.net and snag up one of those rooms i guarantee you if you haven't done secrets that'll be a new experience for you yeah it's always a good time yeah and we've got upcoming trips to hito and bliss cruise and yeah those trips um well bliss is coming up in november but like the april bliss yeah april bliss and july keto if that's something you're interested in and you're thinking about booking those do it now because you can make payments and it just makes it a lot easier yeah and that april bliss if it's not sold out already probably will be soon yeah but yeah definitely we got club takeovers all over the country we're going to texas and um back to um kentucky kentucky yeah louisville um and we're working on a few new places yeah so uh definitely check out swingerside.net come party with us if you if you want to mix up your lifestyle your lifestyle journey yeah okay that's it that's great yeah i hope that answers your question if you have a question uh feel free to call us yeah you want that number yeah let's give us that number one more time it is 972-302-7716 all right or you can email us at the swing nation at gmail.com the swing nation at gmail.com we look forward to hearing from you yeah i think with that in a world I don't know. Email us at theswingnation at gmail.com, theswingnation at gmail.com. We look forward to hearing from you. Yeah. I think with that, in a world full of apples. Be the pineapple. Be the pineapple, guys. Bye. Bye. If you've enjoyed our podcast and want to support us, leave a five-star review wherever you're listening. If you want to see more of our content, you can find links to Snapchat, Twitter, Instagram, OnlyFans, and more in the show notes. Come join the conversation with us and other Swinger content creators on our Swinger Society Discord server. If you have questions or feedback, email them to us at theswingnation at gmail..com make sure you head on over to the swing nation dot net and keep up to date on all things swing nation we thank you so much for joining us and we'll see you next time goodbye
