Tuesday Talks: Mastering Condom Use in the Lifestyle

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Hey there, pineapple people, and welcome to the Swing podcast we are your hosts northern guy and southern girl and welcome back to another rendition of tuesday talks yeah talking tuesday with dan and lacy all right we're sticking to the jingle lacy's done yeah she's done let's move along we haven't got a jingle in a while that's fine all right so this week's tuesday talk we're actually going to not the phone line but the text line yeah we've actually been maybe neglecting the text a little bit you have um so there's three ways to contact us you can call us you can email us or you can text us yeah i always check voicemails first yeah probably then email and then text but there's a lots of we just sat here and went through a bunch of texts and there was a lots of uh golden nuggets in there there really was uh so i promise i will do better a better job at tech uh checking the text messages going forward yes but we actually picked one of those texts for this week and lacy is going to read it to us yeah hey guys it was great to meet you in dallas at your event trip ship correct super fun i got a little fan girl sorry my question is my husband and i have been lost for eight plus years we actually started way, but we had been soft swap until last Saturday. Not sure why it took me so long, but I kind of really liked it. As we navigate this new play, he had an issue with the condom, and you can see it being kind of a problem for him. Would y'all recommend us practicing with condoms even when it's just us? Also, if it were just with a couple of girls does he need a new condom for every girl and how do you navigate that if it was kind of back and forth in the moment it's not always the best time to stop and think about safety on this level because we haven't in eight years any advice for newbie swappers just wanting to play it safe thank you all you two are so sexy oh well thank you i know so she says she was at shipwrecked yeah which if you don't know that was our last uh takeover event in uh colette dallas and that episode i think is going to come out this yes this thursday so you're hearing this on tuesday stay tuned thursday you're going to hear all the tea about our shipwrecked takeover in colette, Dallas. And it was quite the event. It was fun. So apparently, we interacted with this person, which is kind of exciting because we don't know who she is. But awesome. We met quite a few Tuesday Talk people this weekend in Dallas. I think so because we don't get, I guess it's central still, but we don't get that far west very often. I felt like we met quite a few people people that we had not met before yes but several people that we that had we had met before and they had done tuesday talks or they we talked about two or you're saying people that asked actually asked questions yes that's true yes we met several people so that was really cool to like put a face to a name um so yeah i like him i i liked it too okay so let's talk about this so condom use should you practice the answer is yes yeah okay so here's a little difference right so you've probably been in the lifestyle this couple said what 10 or eight years married for a lifestyle for eight years but stop swap up until yeah this last weekend right um and so something that comes up very frequently whether you've been in a lifestyle for a while or not if you haven't full swapped or you've only been having sex with your primary partner you probably haven't used the condom yeah right us personally we always use condoms and we highly recommend that you do with your partners we don't with each other though not with each other i'm saying with partners other than your your primary yes i highly recommend condom use not everybody in the lifestyle does that and it's completely a choice that's up to you i mean there's as long as you're getting tested and screened and as long as you're playing safe however you're playing safe um that's up to you but we have made the choice to always use condoms um when when engaging with other couples that are not us and and you can go back and listen to we have several episodes on stds and stis and we kind of explain why we use condoms um in those episodes so if you're curious about that go back and listen to those um but to answer this question and i would say part of this is 90 95 of the couples that we interact with in the lifestyle are also, they use condoms. Yes. And they all know when they play with us that we do. I'm sorry. 100% of the people that we play with use condoms, but there are a few that will play with other people without condoms. Yes. But I would say the majority of couples that we know use condoms. Correct. Yes. And I think that's what you're going to encounter if you're going and you're engaging with people most the majority of people are going to require condoms yes okay so that being said if you haven't used condoms in a while it is something you need to practice yeah and it's okay um so as a female that plays with guys guys struggle with condoms it's it's happened where um you know a guy it's it's time to go and he gets puts the condom on and it kind of deflates everything so it's not uncommon if it happens to you so don't beat yourself up if i'm assuming that's what happened to this gentleman um but you just need to practice with it that's the best thing i can tell you yeah so i i would have a few a few advice one yes is practice with the condom um we tend to do things like put the condoms out like so they're readily available because here's what's going to happen right you're going to go into a room with a couple right you're going to start making out you're going to start touching each other there might be some oral sex and then it's going to become time to fuck yeah the last thing you want to do is stop what you're doing go find your condoms that are in a bag somewhere in the room dig them out and then come back right in that time that it takes to do all that you're probably going to lose your erection yeah so we put them on the bed on the nightstand wherever we are right so you just put them around the room so that they're within arm's reach. Another thing I've seen people do is actually like rip them a little bit, like open them, like partially open them so that you're not fighting to get them open in the moment, right? It's basically the condoms half open already. All you need to do is grab one and pull it out, slip it on, and you're good to go. So that's some good recommendations is pre-staging the room so that the condoms are readily available for you when it's time to grab them um the second thing is knowing how to put a condom on the correct way right um they only roll in one direction so if you put it on like inside out it's going to be very very difficult to roll i did not know that you're going to be fighting with it yeah it's a whole thing right i some girls will actually put the condom on for the guys like i'll do it i'm not really good at that so i tend to just kind of let the guys do it and if he was to hand me one and say can you do it i'd be like what do i do here yeah so i think you technically you could put it on either way but you want the rolled up part of the condom on the outside as you slide it on so it just rolls down if it's on the inside it's creating friction with your dick and so you're basically having to like pull it out and try to so if you ever put a condom on you go to roll it down it doesn't yeah it doesn't just roll off yeah you have it inside out so flip it over put it on thanks you're good now i know so now you know all right so just getting used to that so that you know you're making out you get hard you reach over there's a condom it's pull it out, you put it on, not inside out, you slide that thing on, you're good. The quicker that whole scenario happens, the more you're ready to go. Another thing that I'll just touch on briefly, eating medication, right? If you have ever struggled, like this lady's husband seems like maybe he had a difficult time, it is okay to go get medication, right? because you're in this environment there is a lot of pressure there's people watching you're having sex with unfamiliar people sometimes you're in a room with a group of people there's lots of distractions so maintaining an erection can be difficult in this environment it's okay to go get ed medication right yeah if you do not want to go talk to your family doctor please go to the swing nation.info click on the shameless care button and get your ed medication right lifestyle friendly website um the doctors know all about performance anxiety they know that you're probably if you're coming through shameless you're probably in the lifestyle they'll be if you say hey i've struggled to maintain it's actually more and i don't want to push medicine on anybody because that's not what we're here for but it's more common for guys to be on eating medication in the lifestyle than not right and at this point more guys are on like the dick shot the you know then probably pills it so it's not uncommon so more guys it's like a lot of people are i mean more so anyway go get whatever you need to help you with that um you'll you'll make a big difference yeah in your experience okay so you've got your ed medication you've got your condoms practice with them actually have sex with condoms practice putting them on all that the more comfortable you are with that whole thing the better off um you're gonna be yeah so now her next question is um when you're switching from girl to girl do you change the condom in between girls and i have to say you are very very good at this i'm very good at changing condoms no like you're very good at stopping removing the condom you actually go in like if you can wash up you know if you can't wash in a sink you'll use like um we have like wipes like you know so you are very good at doing that not all i mean all guys we have them change the condom at the bare minimum but i'm saying you go a little bit above and beyond yeah so yes if you're using condoms and you are not changing condoms from when you're having sex with one girl and then go to have a sex with another girl, you basically just had unprotected sex between the girls, right? So not between you and the girl, but you took this girl A's potential germs and spread them the girl B. Yeah. And that's not even to say just stds and stis but we've talked a lot about in this podcast about utis yeah we've talked about messing up people's ph um there's tons of other things other than stds and stis that can come into play when you spread um vaginal fluid from one woman to another woman that can create all kinds of issues so try to avoid doing that so yeah my practice is i engage with one girl she sucks my dick i fuck her put a Thank you. into another woman that can create all kinds of issues so try to avoid doing that so yeah my practice is i engage with one girl she sucks my dick i fuck her put a condom on another note of condoms lots of girls have latex allergies yes if you want to look like a gentleman if you want to look like a stud ask her if she's okay with latex right before you fuck her say hey hey i'd really like to fuck you is that okay she's gonna look at you and say please fuck me right and then you're gonna say is latex okay are you comfortable with is latex okay with you do you have an allergy or do you have an allergy to latex and she looks at you and goes no but in her mind she's thinking wow this guy's amazing yeah he's he's asking me that before he fucks me he's asking me if he cares about but and i genuinely do because no you do you don't want to break people right and if somebody has a latex allergy and you put a latex condom in them that's going to ruin the night for everybody right so ask that question we carry uh we're not sponsored by them but skin brand it's like s-k-y-n or something um they have a latex free condom yeah so they also have that extra large if you're larger all sizes right yeah so get i would recommend those are primarily what i use now because then i don't have to worry about it they are a little bit more expensive than the latex condoms but it's not noticeably different it's just a little bit more um what i will say about non-latex condoms though and i don't know this but what you tell me is they taste horrible they do not only just like sucking a dick with one on but sucking a dick after that dick has had said condom yeah and it's like there must be like a powdery there's something in the condom that leaves a residue right so again if you're a respectful gentleman in an orgy situation, you put on your condom, you use latex-free because maybe she has a latex allergy. Once you get done with her and you want to go fuck all the other beautiful women in the room, go rinse that thing. Just go to the sink, wet a towel, rinse it off.