Tuesday Talks: Lacy’s Secrets to Sexy, Standout Style

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They check out swingersociety.net, you create a you sign up for an event and you come hang out with us super easy that's right if you want to party with us and the other faces and names that you know from social media and tiktok head on over to swingersociety.net can't wait to see you there Tuesday Talks Just send your questions So Dan and Lake said Tuesday Talks Swing Nation got you feeling sexy hey there pineapple people and welcome to the swing nation podcast we are your hosts northern guy and Girl. And we are back with another rendition of Tuesday Talks. We are. Talking Tuesday. You didn't back me up at all with that. You just left me hanging on a cliff all by myself. Sorry, I just kind of wanted to suit you. All right, you got this week's question. I do do um so it says hey guys thanks for doing such a cool job with the podcast and for keeping the podcast in your community going while you're having such a tough time personally i'm quietly fangirling at the pool at hito we live overseas so don't think i can call or text hmm does that mean she's seen us at hito she says she's quietly fangirling does that mean she's going to be at hito maybe i don't know here's kind of a two-part one focus on club party clothing in between costume time and naked time most parties are club nights we attend have a theme or dress sexy to start is easy. But then the second stage is where you dress down into lingerie. One, heard another podcast talking about this and interested in your thoughts. What can girls wear to stand out in a room full of beautiful women in lingerie and heels? What makes someone catch your eyes? Two, what do men wear? My husband tends to just do boxer briefs, but what else do men do? He isn't into the full fetish leather dom style stuff. You might see at say Hedo or somewhere else, but interested if you have any other ideas. Costumes, themes, before they dress down is pretty easy but is there a male and middle ground between theme and naked time they didn't leave a name didn't leave a name or at least you didn't send it to me so hito pool girl wants to know um the in between was one two questions she wants to know first there's actually a couple of different right so let's do it in order what's the first question um how to stand out right yeah yeah so i heard another podcast what do girls wear to stand out in full in a room full of women and i will say i don't pick my in between like i if you don't know what she's talking about let me get let me back up there so usually you arrive in your theme outfit so whatever it is you know whatever matches the theme but at some point in the bunny rabbits school girl you name it glow parties right at some point there's like an in-between it's like not quite like time to fuck but you're hot you're over your costume and so you kind of want an in-between outfit no this is not a requirement i should say so like don't think if i'm gonna go to the swingers club tonight i have to bring four costumes this is more for the the laces of the world but to be honest with you i don't really change that often in between i tend to wear my theme outfits until it's time to go fuck unless i'm just fucking hot you know and like i think something like a secrets or a hito something like that where it's so hot i will do it i'm not one to buy special lingerie i've seen girls do that like they'll have like let's say it's like a red party so they'll do like a red dress red dress and then buy like a red lingerie or something that i don't tend to do that i usually just throw some of what i currently have in my bag and then just kind of see how i feel like so that way i have an option if i want to if i don't i don't so i personally don't really pick my outfits to catch attention if i'm being honest i mean i want attention. I like attention hope i get it but i'm not trying to like stand out honestly i'm just trying to feel confident in myself and for me i feel confident in like a one-piece like lacy type bodysuit um that's what i feel the most confident and beautiful in and so I tend to just put something like that on if I even do that. So her question about standing out is specifically in lingerie? Yeah, that's kind of my understanding. Or is it in just theme outfits in general? Most parties or club nights we attend have a theme or dress sexy to start, which is easy. But then the second stage, what can girls wear to stand out in a room full of beautiful women in lingeries and heels? And I think confidence is what makes you stand out in a room full of women. Thank you. uh what can girls wear to stand out in a room full of beautiful women in lingerie than heels and i think confidence is what makes you stand out in a room full of women because if everybody in there all has lingerie it's how you hold yourself it's how you wear it it because let's be honest it's all probably lacy of a sheer or you know colorful so something like that and i think as long as long as you feel good in it that's gonna yeah i mean there is the whole honey brudette i mean there's whole that that upper level of lingerie but that's not a requirement i've seen girls wear she no and that's what i was gonna say is yeah i've seen girls in sheen lingerie that look just as yeah hot and yeah i mean like some of the more expensive stuff is good quality and it lasts longer sometimes it catches your eye a little bit it does i think it catches my eye more because i know because you know what it is and how much it costs so it's kind of like oh it's just a higher i see you in that honey birdette yeah but truth is if you are confident and you feel good about yourself it doesn't matter if it was fifteen dollars or two hundred dollars that it doesn't really matter so that's what i would say to that yeah no i i think that's i think that confidence is the most sexy thing right so if you're wearing the sexiest dress in the world but you're hiding in the corner yeah or you know people aren't going to notice you but if you're wearing something sexy and you're out on the dance floor shaking your ass and laughing and and talking to people and having a good time like that's the thing that makes you stand out not so much what you want it's like people gravitate towards you and it it's not a size thing it's not how big or small you are how long or short your hair is or whatever it's more of like your if your happiness kind of like and your confidence it's the energy yeah it's a vibe it's the vibe we always say like you know people are always like well what kind of people are you into and so for us it's like i couldn't tell you a size i couldn't tell you a height i couldn't tell you a boob size or something like that all of our friends are different they're all different it's more about that that energy if you're out there and you're looking to have fun and you're looking to connect with people and you come up and you talk to me and you seem genuine and and that's what attracts me if you're having fun on the dance floor then that's what makes you stand out in my opinion okay so the second part hold on i lost it then the second part was the guys in between where does the guy wear where and i guess that's a good question for you you're kind of like me a lot of times you don't change yeah i think for god i mean i'm kind of what her husband does i mean so a lot of times i'll wear an outfit you know and maybe it's like pants and a shirt you know or something like that maybe i'll take my shirt off a lot of guys will do that take just take your shirt off some guys will take their shirt and their pants off and just go to straight underwear i've done that before um at a place like hito or secrets sometimes you know you can you can wear a robe but if it's hot you don't really want to wear robes you know i mean but if it was if it was in a chillier spot a robe would be okay you know a lot of times on bliss cruise you'll see guys just walking around the ship on their robe in their robe and stuff like that that's a good thing to wear like to a playroom yeah i'm thinking more of like the party tom like in between i would think for me it's just kind of like taking the layers off of whatever your theme is and that goes for me i think i've gone back and just put like black shorts on and come back out you know i mean just because you're sick of the jeans you're sick of the boots you know come back out and flip flops and like in shorts you know just to be comfortable yeah yeah and a lot of times like whatever theme outfit i get for you i i kind of layer it like we've got one coming up that's like a circus theme and we're you're going to be we're both going to be clowns which sounds stupid but wouldn't say it out loud but but i got you like a white tank top to wear knowing that you'll probably start in it but it off. And, like, you have suspenders. You'll probably take those off. You know, you'll probably just end up in your shorts and, like, your wig. Yeah. But there really isn't guy lingerie. No, there's not. You know, and maybe that's, like, an untapped market. Because I'll tell you what. I see more and more men now starting to go with the wear thongs. I i cannot bring myself to do it i don't know why but i think mostly because i feel like they'd be incredibly uncomfortable and i would just i just wouldn't feel comfortable we have a few friends that say just do it there are several guys that i see that wear thongs all the time and they're like girls love it it's like you know it's you know so what about like those little tinies are like span they're like booty shorts almost like a boxer but shorter so not the thong but like the shorts that's an option or even like silk pajamas i think would be like like maybe the short set we've had a few like pajama themed nights and stuff that you've worn that and that seems i think if i wanted to get out of like jeans and like a button-up like something like short shorts yeah you know we used to call them ranger panties in the army if anybody knows what that's that kind of thing yeah what i'm wearing right now if you're watching us on youtube yeah like just just wearing these and here's the other it's then you have ease of access right so for me when i when i get undressed before the playroom what i'm thinking is i don't want to go to the playroom and get ready to fuck somebody and have to take off cowboy boots, jeans, you know, socks. Well, the least amount of stuff you bring into a playroom, the better, because you're going to lose it. You have to find it all. Yeah, in the dark. And there's a potential that somebody's going to squirt on it. You know, so going to your room or, you know, if you're at a club or something, dropping your stuff somewhere safe and then just wearing minimal clothes to the playroom is important. So I know if you're at a club or something dropping your stuff somewhere safe and then just wearing minimal clothes to the playroom is important so i guess if you're in that in between where we're getting ready to we're getting out of our clothes and getting ready to kind of get a group together to go to a playroom wearing whatever that is is probably the best yeah i agree okay was there any other that was it that was all the questions yeah yeah she just asked for like um any other in-between ideas and i think we kind of nailed that what do you think no and so i think uh robes do come are important yeah and you can even do like a silk robe we have silk robes for the summertime and like a little bit more like keto or secrets having a really light uh silk robe especially for the summer months and then like lacy's saying if you go to secrets in like january maybe you want like a full wool more you know more thicker that's becoming handy before when it's cold even if you're just going to the hot tub and you throw it off and then you know put put it back on when you walk back it's just nice to have something like that uh and then even um lacy always wears a uh coat, yeah. If I'm going to a swinger club where I'm leaving a vanilla setting and going to the club, I always put a trench coat over my outfit just because I want to be respectful of anybody. I've had it where I've forgotten and had to walk through a hotel with barely anything on. And as a mother i just kind of feel like shit i'm like god please don't let there be a kid in here you know i mean i just i've seen you wrap like a hoodie around you or something yeah i've wore like your big t-shirts before but ideally i have just it honestly i paid 30 dollars from it on it from amazon five years ago and it's the same one i still used to this day so because I only use it a couple times a year. Another question about the trench coat. How many times have you wore just the trench coat home? Every time. So that's the other part about the trench coat. The nice part is she will just put it on and wear that back to the hotel at the end of the night. With nothing on it. And not have to put all the lingerie and all the fancy outfits. And you get the, like, common San Diego comments, too. I get a lot of a lot of those well it's especially funny when you're wearing a trench coat like in august yeah in like atlanta people are like why are you wearing that and you're like don't ask yeah just let me go to my room yeah because i've been a big slut tonight less questions yeah uh the better but i think you know we get a lot of questions about outfits and uh you know something that you have since we have a little bit more time something that you have developed is you know i think early on we used to go on like amazon and places like that and if you know like you said clown so like if the outfit was clown we would like search clown you know sexy clown outfit or something like that you'd go through amazon and you try to find a sexy clown outfit something that you have done recently where it's a little more unique to you i've been doing it for myself i've been trying to do a better job maybe i shouldn't give this away but i think people already know yeah but if you don't know so what lacy might do is if she's going to wear a clown outfit she might just get red lingerie yeah and then accessorize that with clown accessories right so almost like make your own outfit so well so let me let me jump in here so what i found is if you search like ringleader and i buy down the first ringleader outfit that i pull up five guys or more will have that same outfit on at the club same for girls same for girls and so i've really tried to get away from that and do more of like build your own. Now, sometimes I can't get down to commit to something and it just happens, you know. But for the most part, I do it all the time for myself. Whatever the theme is, I try to build an outfit around something I have. And that's kind of where you talked about Honey Burnett. It is expensive lingerie, a lot of times i will buy it on the sale and i almost have every color and usually when there is a sale i'll try to order one or two things just to like kind of build my collection and then whatever my outfit is i build it around that like lingerie piece so for naughty new orleans coming up there is a mardi gras night and i have a gold bra honey brunette set and i'm building that around it because the mardi gras colors are you know purple gold and and green and in the past i've had a green lingerie set that i've built around that um same for like a bdsm i have a black outfit that i've kind of built you know added accessories to kind of make it you know more bdsm um and i've done that i did a flight attendant i'd wore a blue outfit and then put like a little hat and a little scarf and the gloves so and to me it's one comfortable because then all i have to do is just like ditch the accessories throughout the night which what happens is i end up like every time i come back to the table to get a drink i drop a few things you know i take the hat off take the scarf off to the you know and so by the end of the night i just have my lingerie on and then i'm a little bit more comfortable so and i've kind of done the same thing for you where you can sort of do this right even some of the lingerie might be like a bra and panties but then it has you know fishnets and the garter and yeah and so like in the beginning she has all the accessories all the the pieces of the lingerie on and by the end of the night she might be in just the panties yeah yeah like yeah and for the first time at naughty speaking of clowns as we talked about it i'm gonna wear pasties by themselves like to the club to the club yeah um now for tiktoks i'm gonna wear a bikini top over the pasties so i'm you know like appropriate for tiktok but so i'm so again it's just like building an outfit around something small so that i can take right you don't need honey burdette you could do that with amazon lingerie correct correct yes whatever body suit that you love or whatever whatever you can just kind of build it out add a tutu i've been the grinch i got a lime green uh bodysuit added a grinch tutu and added the grinch hat and and people went crazy over that outfit and it was you know a ten dollar amazon bodysuit so it doesn't really matter the price point i just feel like some of the higher end lingerie i tend to get i can wear those for years and and i don't even know where the grinch amazon bodysuit is now that's how you know because i don't tend to keep up with that as well as i do the expensive so yeah so that's a few different i think ways to take uh to look at outfits and building them out and not necessarily have to go to amazon and just search the thing yeah you've also gone to etsy there's a lot of girls on etsy that will make you custom outfits it's a little more expensive to do it that way but sometimes it's not you know it just depends on what you're looking for like i got a forjito i got a bra that's like beaded for bdsm night black bra thing it was like 35 it's not bad so it just kind of depends on what you're looking for yeah so a few ideas for outside the box stuff because it you know the outfit thing can be can be hard there's a lot more rave stores and stuff that are coming online there's a lot of different i don't know if you know a couple off the top of your head i heart raves i get a lot of stuff from there the The Lumi Shop, L-U-M-N-I Shop. I think there's an N in there.