Send us Fan MailTuesday Talks: Is My Wig Getting in the Way of Play? | Episode 62In this episode of The Swing Nation Podcast, the top-rated podcast about non-monogamy and swinging, Dan and Lacy return with another heartfelt installment of their “Tuesday Talks” segment, where they answer real questions from real listeners navigating the lifestyle.This week, an anonymous caller opens up about her journey in the lifestyle with her husband —and shares a deeply personal challenge. She has alopecia, and she feels her condition has become a barrier when it comes to making connections. She explains that people seem interested—until they realize she’s wearing a wig. With an upcoming trip to the Swinger Society takeover at Secrets Hideaway Resort in September, she wants to know: Can I show up bald and proud... and still be desired?Dan and Lacy respond with compassion and real talk, offering their perspective on confidence, and how to attract connections that go deeper than appearances. They share why different can absolutely be sexy, and how embracing what makes you unique is not just empowering—it’s magnetic. Whether you’ve faced body image struggles, felt pressure to conform, or just needed a reminder that you re not alone, this episode is a powerful and supportive conversation about owning your truth in the sexiest, boldest way possible.- The Swing Nation - Main Website Quick Navigation Website: -- (Find all our social media links more!)- Swinger Society - Our Website to meet, connect events Swinger Society Discord Our Facebook Group- Swinger Websites -Kasadie 90 day free trialUsername: TheSwingNation SDC 14 day free trial Username: TheSwingNation** Use code 36313 for 14 days free! ** SLSUsername: NorthernGuynSouthernGirl- Merch More -Order Your Merch Here!- Lacy’s Fun Links -VIP OnlyFansPREMIUM OnlyFans-- THANK YOU TO OUR SPONSORS --Wisp : Making sexual healthcare inclusive, cost-effective, and accessible—for everyoneUse Code SWING at checkout for 15% off your oder!Shameless Care: ED Medication and at home STD testingUse Code TSN at checkout for $30 off your order!Promescent® Make Love Longer, It’s Time for Great SexUse Code SwingNation for 5% off!Sing it Bikinis: adjustable one-size styles, thoughtfully crafted to flatter every body type.Support the show- Thank you for the support! -
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Speaker1: This podcast is intended for adult audiences. Over the age of 18, it contains adult language and situations. The views, thoughts, and opinions expressed in this podcast belong solely to us, and not of any employer, organization, committee, or other group or individuals. This podcast is not intended to be taken as professional advice. Welcome to the Swing Nation Podcast, a podcast by swingers for swingers where we look to educate Speaker2: others and push back on the negative stigmas and misconceptions associated with our lifestyle come with us and share our pineapple journey as we travel the globe interview the activists Speaker1: learn and grow together. Join the nation. So Lacey, people are asking, how do they get to go to a party or an event with us? They check out swingersociety.net, you create a profile, you sign up for an event, and you come hang out with Speaker2: us. Super easy. That's right. If you want to party with us and the other faces and names that you Speaker1: know from social media and TikTok, head on over to swingers That's perfect Hey there pineapple people and welcome to the Swing Nation podcast We are your hosts, Northern Guy and southern girl and we are back with another rendition of tuesday talks let's see if i can get you to say oh no i'm sorry no it's okay no it's okay you're like that's your word i'm not saying sorry i was in like another world it's warm in here i could use a total nap i'm like zoned out a little it is nappy weather in here yeah okay are you ready for this week's question i am all right let's go to the phone lines and take a little. It is nappy weather in here. Yeah. Okay. Are you ready for this week's question? Yeah. All right. Let's go to the phone lines and take a listen. Hey, Dan Lacey. First off, please excuse my voice. I'm like wildly sick. So that's why I've got the hardcore RASP going on. But I actually had a question. It's a It's a little niche. Um, I'm sure you guys get questions about like body insecurities all the time, but I have kind of a, an interesting one. So, um, I have androgenetic alopecia, so I can't grow hair like on the top of my head. I can pull off a mean fryer tuck where it like grows on the side. So like the top of my hair just doesn't grow. So I have a shaved head and, um, my husband and I were in the lifestyle, um, about a year and a half ago, she took a break to have our baby. Um, but we'd gone to a lifestyle club and kind of got a little bit of kickback, um, where people were really into it until they found out they didn't have hair like if I was wearing a wig or something because sometimes that's hard to keep on while you're like you know in the act and so I guess I was kind of wondering how to navigate things that don't necessarily um like they're just not an easy conversation we just scheduled for secrets in september and i'm actually that's that's like the only thing i'm actually nervous about is going out there and being like bald and proud i guess i have it kind of in my head that i need to be wearing a wig at all times um otherwise we're not going to meet connections or whatever that might be um Um, so I guess my question to you would be, how to navigate it. And if you really think that it's an issue at all in and of itself, um, yeah. So thanks for listening. If you guys use the question, thank you so much. If not, I still hope you guys have a great week and that you guys are doing well.
Speaker3:
Thanks.
Speaker2:
Bye. Well, first of all, spoiler alert, we used the question. And you liked her raspy voice when you were listening. I did, yeah. So she was sick. There's something sexy about a sick voice. What is that? I don't know. Like what kind of weird thing is that? You would think it would be the opposite. Yeah. Like you'd think if somebody sounded sick, you'd like want to stay away from them. I want to fuck them. I don't know. Maybe that's just me.
Speaker1:
You want to make them feel better?
Speaker2:
I don't think I'm the only one that.
Speaker1:
No, I like the way my voice sounds when it's raspy.
Speaker2:
It's kind of sexy.
Speaker1:
I think it's more the raspiness than the actual sickness thing.
Speaker2:
Like how do we evolve into thinking sick people have sexy voices? That seems like it's not as smart.
Speaker1:
I don't think it's the sick part. I think it's just the voice is sexy maybe i don't know either way she had a sexy voice yes but her question is an interesting question um so she apparently has a genetic disease where she can't grow hair on her head and so she's self-conscious about that which of course she is and honestly if if you have something that you're self-conscious about, whatever answer we give here, just remove shaved head or no hair on your head and just enter whatever you have. If it's a weird birthmark, if you're missing a hand, whatever thing that you have going on, just put that in here. Right. And this is something I actually – Because I think that it applies across the board yeah agreed so my we have not talked about this at all we did listen to it but we didn't really talk about it and we've talked about this on several occasions about different things and one thing that like kind of reminds me of obviously this is completely different we talked about like trimex shots guys that have to take trimex shots and like do I hide in the bathroom and do it what do I just own it and I think the same thing goes for this situation if you feel more confident in a wig wear the wig if you feel more confident without the wig especially like in the pool or when you're playing or something don't wear the wig I think the more you worry about it the more other people are going to pick up on that.
Speaker3:
I think if you just kind of walk in like, hey, this is me and I'm happy to be here. And if you don't want to play with me, that's totally fine. But if you do, hey, I'm here. I think if you go in with that attitude, I think you're going to get a really nice positive response back.
Speaker2:
If you come in shy and timid and worried about it, I think that people are probably going to feed off of that. So that would be my response to that. Right. It is true. One thing I love about the lifestyle is you see all different types of people, right? We've seen people with disabilities that are in wheelchairs or like you said, missing limbs and things like that. We've seen blind people um if you can think of a disability or if you can think of a way that somebody can be different from the the group we've seen those people in the lifestyle and overwhelmingly they're supported in these spaces for sure
Speaker1:
i just think you have to and i know that like you're probably super self-conscious about it and i get it hair is important and if i lost my hair i would probably feel the same way that you're feeling so your feelings are 100 valid but if you can get to a place where you can just come in and be confident even if you have to fake it until you make it because let's be honest we all sometimes have to do that i think you'd be very surprised at how accepting and open the lifestyle is and how like they're just happy that you're there it doesn't really matter correct and i can think of several people that have wore wigs you dan probably doesn't even know who they are um like and i can remember one of my friends that she played with a girl who had a wig on and then like i asked her like the next day i was like how did it go with you know i don't know their i don't even know their names to be honest with you but we'll just say amy and steve how did it go with amy and steve and she's like it was really really good we had a really good time and she took her wig off and she's so beautiful i wish she didn't feel like she had to wear the wig that's like a real true story that happened yeah um so you're not going to be the only one um i think everyone's has something that they're self-conscious about i think that's just human nature yeah so i think the answer you know with this a little different because we know she's coming to our event yeah at september at secrets and please message us on swimmerstudy.net if you haven't already so we we know who you are and you know maybe we can help try to make you feel a little more comfortable and introduce you to some of our friends and stuff and people that we know will treat you right uh but um i don't know where i was going with that but you're right i think everybody has something that they're self-conscious about and i think the answer to if you're self-conscious about something is always do whatever makes you the most comfortable yeah and so i think you're right if wearing a wig the whole time makes you the most comfortable then wear a wig the whole time if you're like fuck a wig in the pool that sounds like that would be hard and miserable sounds terrible to me too but if you're like fuck the wig when i'm in the pool then fuck that wig you know i mean like i think honestly if it was me like going without the wig in the pool kind of like lets everybody like like this is there ain't no question right yeah and then if you want to wear a wig to like the night party and then when it's time to play you know you take it on i just i think it's and honestly if someone makes a big deal about it or makes you fuck them right like you don't need to play with them they don't need to be you know i think that is true we would be naive to say that there's not assholes out there there are and there's probably there's probably assholes that come to our events too and in you know you said you had a bad experience at a club where it seemed like somebody that they were into you up until they found out that you were wearing a wig and then they weren't those people exist hell we could it could throw us off you know i mean like give it i'm i've never we've never been in that situation but i it's hard to say would react, you know? And I just think like even the best person can still have an asshole moment is what I'm trying to say. So. Well, I do think when people are different, when there's something different about people, I think we all try to be as nice as we can, but we don't necessarily know how to, how to handle the situation. And so when you're approached with something that's different and you handle the situation, you might handle it awkwardly, and then that might give the impression that you have an issue when really you just don't know how to properly handle the situation that you are. And hopefully that might be what happened as well. It might be. All right. Now can I make it a little weird? Sure. Oh, my God. I think it could be hot. I think wigs are hot. Let's be honest. Remember when –. So I'll give you a little Mrs. Life of Spice. Yeah. Who is now Ink Siren. Who is now Ink Siren. She made a new OnlyFans character. It was like an alter ego. So it's kind of like an anime thing. Yeah. And part of the character was she wore this like jet blue hair. Yeah. Like sky blue. Like really blue blue hair. And I can remember. Like I've never in my life thought like wigs are like like i have a wig fetish or something but when i started seeing her posting pictures of this this alter ego with this blue hair i was like that is sexy as fuck and i don't even know why it's sexy well dan's also been known to rock a wig he is he has fucked in wigs he has farted in wigs you're right i forgot about that and you're right it is hard to fuck in a wig and i wore a wig for taylor swift and i thought i was dying i'm not joking so my hat's off to anyone that wears a wig i but truth be told i actually know a girl who um i know her personally on facebook or like not really we're acquaintances and they actually go on the bliss cruise and she also has alopecia i hope i said that right and i saw her on the bliss cruise a couple of times and every time i've seen her she had like a different color hair and i'm like god i'm so jealous that she just gets like pop that on like i'm over here like dying yeah i think it could be hard like think about it you could have different hair for every theme night and stuff like it could be kind of sexy um so that's how you turn like lemons and eliminate that's what i was gonna say is i think you could if one embrace it yeah i get that's harder it's easy to say that and harder to do that but two it could be kind of become your niche like it could be like oh it's it's the wig girl like she's gonna always have this different crazy wig and it's gonna be sexy and hot like i think people would be attracted to that i would be attracted to that yeah because that you know let's be honest you put a different wig on like it's like almost like fucking a different girl doesn't cardi v have a song like that i don't know a lot of those girls wear wigs they all do a lot of celebrities a lot of yeah they do um i wouldn't worry about it too much hair extensions that's basically a wig. That's basically a wig. It's basically. It's basically.
Speaker2:
Half a wig, yeah. It's just sewn into her.
Speaker3:
It's sewn in.
Speaker2:
A little bit of existing hair.
Speaker3:
Hey.
Speaker2:
And the more she wears them, the less hair she's probably going to have.
Speaker3:
Hey.
Speaker2:
She might have to go full wig at some point.
Speaker3:
Whoa.
Speaker1:
I feel like that.
Speaker2:
Actually, your hair's pretty long right now.
Speaker1:
It is long.
Speaker2:
But yeah, I think that's the answer.
Speaker3:
Yeah.
Speaker2:
I think different can be sexy.
Speaker1:
I think so, too.
Speaker2:
And I like it. You know what I mean? I want to have sex with everybody that's the answer. Yeah. I think different can be sexy. I think so, too. And I like it. You know what I mean? I want to have sex with everybody that's different and normal. 80% rule.
Speaker3:
Yeah.
Speaker1:
You're a freak.
Speaker3:
I'm a freak. All right.
Speaker2:
So I hope that helps. I look forward to now seeing you in a secret. So please message us on swingersidey.net.
Speaker1:
It's really fun to meet people that we've done their Tuesday talk.
Speaker2:
That's actually very common. Like, we'll go to a party. I'm like, did our tuesday talk and i'm like oh that's so cool it's a really neat thing to meet people like that so if we ever have done your question and you actually meet us please tell us because it's it's pretty fun to put a face to a name well what i like about it is i feel like then i know something about you yeah so what i don't like not that i don't like it but one of the things about being a podcaster now is we run into people all the time and we meet these new people and they're like I've listened to every episode of your podcast so they know all these things about us they know all our secrets they know all our little kinky fantasies they know all the dirty things that we've done for the last four years yeah but we know nothing about them yeah so meeting somebody that's done a Tuesday talk question especially when they reveal something to us that's kind of personal. Yeah. I feel like it kind of puts us on a different playing field, a little more of a level playing field. Sure. If that makes sense. It does. Yeah. I understand. Okay. Well, I hope that answers your question. I hope you feel a little bit better about coming to Secrets and embracing your wigs or being bald or whatever you decide decide to do just know that the community as a whole will love and support you um either way and sure there might be a few assholes about out there but fuck fuck them yeah fuck them assholes all right so if you have a tuesday talk question we would love to hear from you um we would appreciate it if you'd call in. And that phone number is? 972-302-7716. And if you don't feel comfortable calling, you can text that same phone number. And if you don't want us to see your phone number, you can email us at theswingnation at gmail.com. Theswingnation at gmail. We do prioritize voicemails, probably then text messages because that's the second thing we check. Dan prioritizes them, not me. And then emails because they tend to get buried. And then if for some reason you DM us on Instagram or TikTok, we might never see that. Yeah. So calling is the best way to get your question on the podcast. For Dan. For everybody. Okay. And as the listener said, Secrets is coming up. It is. We got like less than 20 rooms left. Yeah, we do. Last I knew. Yeah. So if you want to come and party with us at Secrets, you need to go to swingercity.net and you need to book your room today. Yeah. We're getting ready to go to Naughty New Orleans. We got a lot of stuff. We do. It's the summertime. It is. We're about to be in full swing. We got Hedo company, uh, naughty new Orleans coming up. We got Hedo coming up, uh, secrets. Uh, what else we got? We're going to, we're throwing a private, private party at John and Jackie Melfi's house. So if you're in the Houston area and you've ever like wondered how like the literal king and queen of swingers live you can you can
Speaker1:
come to their house with us we could hang out at john and jackie's house yeah and then we're going
Speaker2:
to go to colette uh houston and party that friday and saturday night and then the set the pool party is saturday yeah so if you want more information on that that is at swingers society.net uh join us on facebook join us on discord we got a reddit there's a swingers society reddit page now yeah some sexy things being shared on the reddit page it's not as censored as some of the other things. I'm about to go check our text messages. I think we might have got a few pictures. So we need to get a picture to respond to. I'm going to find it. That's my goal. Maybe I'll do that today. Like an exclusive. If you send us a picture, we'll send you a picture. We'll send you a picture. I'm going to find a dirty picture to send back to people. But it has to be both of us, though. Yeah. Okay. All right. So while you text us our Tuesday Talk question, text us some dirty pictures. You'll get one back. I'm going to commit to that. This is a Dan thing. This is not a Lacey thing, just for the record. I want to support the people that support us as best I can.
Speaker1:
You want to see naughty pitchers.
Speaker2:
But I'm going to get some dick pitchers. I'm not so excited about that. But, you know, the vaginas and tits that come in between the dick pitchers will be worth it.
Speaker3:
Yeah.
Speaker2:
Yeah, for sure.
Speaker3:
Okay.
Speaker2:
Well, I think on that note, in a world full of apples.
Speaker1:
Be the pineapple.
Speaker2:
Be the pineapple, guys.
Speaker3:
Bye. Bye.
Speaker2:
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Speaker3:
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