Tuesday Talks: How to Make Sure Everyone Gets Off

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Speaker2: Welcome to the Swing Nation Podcast, a podcast by swingers and for swingers, where we look to educate others and push back on the negative stigmas and misconceptions associated with our lifestyle. Come with us and share our pineapple journey as we travel the globe. Interview the activists, learn and grow together. Join the activists. Learn and grow together. Join the nation. So Lacey, people are asking, how do they get to go to a party or an event with us? They check out swingersociety.net, you create a profile, you sign up for an event, and you come hang out come hang out with us super easy that's right if you want to party with us and the other faces and names that you know from social media and tiktok head on over to swingersociety.net can't wait to see you there hey there pineapple people and welcome to the swing nation podcast we are your host northern guy and southern girl and today we are back with another rendition of tuesday talks we are talking tuesday you're not going to sing for me no you said you said last time that was your thing well you know it's a group effort here baby yeah it's a group effort yeah it's also if you hear our air condition it's 90 degrees in here normally we turn it off for the podcast just so you don't have any background noise so typically we are a little warm or a little cold depending on the type of year but i couldn't quite do it without the air conditioner well the thing is we never turned it back never turned it back on. Yeah, so we left it off. So when we got here, it was 90 degrees. And I just, we can't do it without it. It's still hot, but at least it's helping a little. So if you hear background noise, that's what it is. The trials and tribulations of a podcaster. We usually suffer for y'all. We do. We've been doing that for a while. We used to have to turn it off. We used to record in my camper on the campground on base with jets flying over. And we would pause. And we would turn the air conditioner off for that, too, because that one was super loud. Yeah. And we would be sweating and recording all those years ago. And here we are still sweating and recording yeah all right let's go to the phone lines and hear this week's question hey Dan and Lacey I'm calling in with my Tuesday talk question wife and I have been lifestyle for about a year having a time but what we've found is that more often than not when we meet meet a couple and play, I have a great time and my wife doesn't so much because the guy is not quite skilled. And my question is, when you're meeting a new couple what do you look for to tell whether the guy has the right goods? You know what I mean? And I'm not talking size. I'm just talking about like skill. Um, I'm not myself, like some kind of a love God, but it feels like after dates, uh, more often than not, the wife is a little disappointed. And so we'd rather have it be a good experience all the way around. Thanks, guys. All right. So he wants to know, how does he find skilled partners? Not big dicks, not more attractive people. he feels like when him and his wife participate with other couples, his wife is left wanting. I can relate to that. And so he's wondering, is there something he should be looking for when engaging with couples that gives some kind of tip on whether the male half of the other couple is skilled? Yeah. Well, let me say this. There are some guys that are in our friend group that i absolutely look forward to having sex with they know what they're doing they know who they are if you you know so i don't because our friends listen to this and then we always get texts after and they're like like last week we got like the text that said where are naughty pictures i'm talking about texting so like just so just so you know the guys in our friend group there's a handful of you that know who you are and you are definitely skilled but i can relate to what he's talking about because you are good and bad you just are you also have like the home court advantage to my body you know exactly what buttons to push when to push them and how to kind of make it work. You are also like a little bit more dominant of a guy. You kind of take control in the bedroom. And so kind of our dynamic has gotten to where I kind of let you lead in that way. So when, when I engage with a new guy, I kind of go in those same habits. Cause that's basically how I've been fucking for the last, you know you know however many years so I kind of let the guy lead and some guys just don't have it they just don't and it's not because they're bad lovers or they're bad people or anything like that just some guys have that it factor and some guys don't and it's not about the size of your penis just like you said it's not about anything it's maybe confidence thing. It's like, I don't know what you'd call it. But there have been many times we've left like a full swap situation. And you had a fabulous time because all you had to do is bend that wife over and put her body in the like perfect position and go to town. And you have an awesome fucking night. And me, on the other hand, I feel like there's a lot of times i leave a situation wanting more right so i think the answer to his question is not what he thinks it is though no it's not so i don't think the answer is you need to find a guy that's dominant or knows how to fuck better i think the answer i think his experience and his wife's experience is very common in the lifestyle and the reason I think that why a lot of times men have fun and women are sometimes left wanting is because women are fucking complicated. Yeah. For a guy, you find a hole and you put your penis in there and it feels good. Yeah. Right. And 99% of the time, as long as you're somewhat attracted to that person and you have some kind of connection with that person, guy finding a hole is going to be a good experience for the guy that's not complicated there's nothing hard about that but with women you have to feel safe you have to feel wanted you you want to be fucked the right amount of roughness but not too rough there's this whole cheat code it's a b c y d x some girls can come and for her it's z z y x and and the difference is like you said i know your combo i know the buttons to push to make you come just like you know he's saying he's a sex god with his wife well yeah of course you are because you've been fucking her for 20 years he said he's not a whatever you know but the reason he is able to please his wife is he's been practicing and he knows those combinations, right? Even if I fucked his wife, a guy that – and you're saying I'm good at sex, but it's mostly because I've had sex with a lot of women and I've kind of figured out the cheat codes for multiple. Yeah, but not all guys have. Not every woman is the same, but there's like five or six different kind of types of women and you can kind of like, oh, she needs clit stimulation or, oh, she needs – Yeah this guy who wrote but i still haven't figured out them all no there are still women i have sex with and i can tell they when we get done that she didn't come yeah and so there's there's no for guys we just have it's a lot more complicated to please a woman than it is to please a man and that is just a fact yeah so i would say it's about your the woman's perspective and i work i struggle with this and i work like this is something i work on all the time because it's more so about the experience having fun with my friends being in naughty situations like that's kind of what i take away from like a full swap or group play or whatever that's kind of what i take away from, like, a full swap or group play or whatever.