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Speaker1: This podcast is intended for adult audiences. Over the age of 18, it contains adult language and situations. The views, thoughts, and opinions expressed in this podcast belong solely to us, and not of any employer, organization, committee, or other group or individuals. This podcast is not intended to be taken as professional advice. Speaker2: Welcome to the Swing Nation Podcast, a podcast by swingers for swingers, where we look to educate others and push back on the negative stigmas and misconceptions associated with our lifestyle. Come with us and share our pineapple journey as we travel the globe. Speaker1: Interview the experts, learn and grow together. Join the nation. So, Lacey, people are asking, how do they get to go to a party or an event with us? They check out swingersociety.net. You create a profile, you sign up for an event, and you come hang out with us. It's super easy. That's right. If you want to party with us and the other faces and names that you know from social media and TikTok, head on over to swingersociety.net. Can't wait to see you there. Most people have unprotected oral sex, right? Be honest. Now, think about your last STD test. Did your doctor tickle your throat with something that looked like a giant Q-tip? Probably not. Yet that's the only way to check for oral gonorrhea or chlamydia, which are often asymptomatic. You need a better doctor. You need shamelesscare.com. Use coupon code TSN at checkout. Sexual health care can be so much more than STI testing. WISP offers services like emergency contraception, help in delaying your period, UTI treatments, and so much more. They even have a product called the OMG Cream that helps provide more fulfilling orgasms for women. WISP provides same-day prescriptions and can give you discreet treatment in the comfort and privacy of your own home. Check out the link in our show notes or go to hellowiz.com and use code SWING for 15% off. Hey there, pineapple people, and welcome to the Swing Nation podcast. your hosts northern god and southern girl and today we have another rendition of my ever favorite tuesday talks we do before you do that i actually went online to see how much it was for a jingle so you no longer sing tuesday talks how's it go no how's it go no but i legit like last time we recorded and how much is it i don't know but you can do that you can pay people to like make songs and stuff so i think we might need to like i'll chip in so we don't have to hear dancing tuesday dancing or do you just like to do it talking tuesday we're talking okay we we oh my god it's so high-pitched we get it thank you i'll work on that jingle y'all so i'll save your ears from that okay well what what do we got to talk about today okay so um so this is from David. He sent this through Instagram. Speaker2: Okay, David from Instagram.
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He said, hey, guys, don't know if you'll see this, but wanted to try. Question about your condom etiquette in group play situation. Do you guys change condoms every time they switch partners or do they just stay wrapped up until they finish? Thanks for the info. And this is actually a topic that is important. i feel like we've talked about this before i think we've talked episode maybe we talked to friends about this okay i know recently at naughty new orleans we were in an orgy situation and i know we multiple times chatted about this so i think that's maybe why you're remembering it maybe i don't know i don't think we've done a tuesday talks y'all will correct us if we have but so i think you're really good at talking about this because this is kind of like you're you kind of handle this when it comes to well i'm a dude so handling condoms putting them on and off yeah that's more my lane yeah so i was gonna you talk about this. Yeah, so this is actually really important. So if you know me and Lacey and you know our rules and boundaries, we are a condoms always couple. And I would encourage people to do that. You know, if you've been in the lifestyle for a while and maybe you have close friends that you trust and you get regularly tested and you show each other test results, maybe you're okay with not using condoms. But for me and you, we've kind of set that hard limit really early on. Well, we got burned, if you don't know this story. And I guess it's kind of worth sharing. It is. Somebody that we were extremely close with. We never did, but we did but we would have even like taken our kids and like went on family you know like we were very very close with we had agreed to not wear condoms because she couldn't have babies i couldn't have babies so it just kind of was easy and so we had made kind of this agreement we're close friends with them we knew they took it you know knew that we took it seriously and stuff. And we genuinely trusted them. And we would see them, you know, quite regularly. Well, we ended up going on a vacation with them. It was like a week-long vacation. And a swingers vacation. And we noticed that the husband was very actively playing with a lot of other women. Which is totally fine. that but we noticed that there was no condom use because especially because he was having sex in like open areas that it was very clear you could see like in the water what we noticed it on multiple occasions that he was not wearing protection and it kind of burned us very early on we really trusted them and we kind of learned basically told us we don't do this with anybody yeah yeah and we we kind of got burned pretty early on because both of us felt like we could trust them but truth be told we can't trust anybody but each other so after that happened we have chosen to no longer participate that and we have really good friends very very good friends that we trust now but we just don't we just can't we just can't cross that one because we were burned and I've actually heard of other friends that the same thing has happened to them. They've actually got an STD because the people that they trusted were not using condoms with other pupils. So, I don't know. Just, you know, obviously, we're all grown adults. You can make your own decisions. But that's just what we choose.
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Right. Okay.
Speaker2:
We went on a little bit of a tangent there. But I think that was an important conversation.
Speaker1:
So, as far as to answer David's question, though, when it comes to group scenarios, we highly recommend and almost I think we would require it if you were playing with us, is that you do change condoms with each partner. And it almost, you know, we've played with people and sometimes they'll go and take a a shower between partners or go like i it's kind of hard to take a shower like at clubs and stuff but usually once i finish with a one partner one person i will usually go to the restroom and like wash my hands usually maybe a little soap and water especially if you're in a hotel room you're definitely doing right wash my wash my dick you know kind of just clean up everything so so that you're starting fresh before you start with with a new partner um because if you're not doing that if you're using one condom and for multiple women that might prevent pregnancy but it's not preventing the spread of stis right um and that's really because neither one of us can have babies at this point um the whole reason we wear condoms is so that we don't spread diseases so changing condoms is very important and i would even say you know washing your hands and and you know washing um your body parts in between is kind of uh important also uh in a sticky situation we'll use just wipes you know we usually carry those uh ph wipes but uh you know from conversation with dr sore that's those ph wipes are probably not enough to to kill um you know bacteria or you know from for stis um alone so soap and water is is really the best course of action um so you'll see you know in a forever in a place situation especially in a hotel room but even in in different clubs and stuff i'll say okay you know, you know, I'll finish with one and say, I'm going to go clean up. I'll be right back. And most of the time there's a bath, like trapeze, there's a bathroom just around the corner usually from the playroom. Even a lot of the clubs we attend, like usually there's a bathroom fairly handy to the play spaces. So that's not a hard thing to do. And as a female female i like that you wipe up between because we've like recently well in the last six months to a year have switched to latex free and i don't like the taste of them at all so if you just take the condom off and then i start sucking your dick i can taste that condom and it is awful it like almost makes my mouth dry out and just feels gross so like i very much appreciate when you do that now in a pinch if things are hot and heavy and that happens it's okay you know like at least you were you protected yourself and then now that's being removed and i'm okay with it but ideally i would prefer that yucky taste and not be in my mouth yeah yeah so really if you know if you're thinking about the spread of stis you know if you finger one girl and then finger another girl it's almost like the same as not wearing a condom with two girls i mean like you're you are spreading stuff yeah bodily fluids that could potentially which is not hot you know like we talk like you when people think of swinging or think of like threesomes or six you think of like body parts and people grabbing and climbing over each other and it's just this like hot and heavy situation but truth be told you really just need to like slow down yeah take your time clean up be respectful of everyone yeah no i will say i mean there's definitely been times where i've probably touched multiple girls pussies at the same time or you know and maybe you know i might have just wiped my hands off in between or something like that so it's hard it's definitely a balancing act of you know enjoying fun and being safe at the same time um you know being tested regularly and talking to the people you play with about being tested regularly is important because of those things, right? Because it doesn't take much of a slip of mind to I'm fingering you and then go to another girl and start fingering her without taking a break and washing my hands and stuff like that. So, I mean, those things do happen. And that's why it's so important that condoms aren't the only way that you're protecting yourself. and tested regularly um you know having conversations about that with the partners that you engage is engage in and make sure they're doing the same thing those things are really important also to make sure that everybody's safe yeah but i i think that does that answer the question that david had i'm only nine minutes in but well i guess like shameless plug because we're talking about stds talking about condom juice make sure that you are being tested with uh an std test that is swabbing your throat that is testing for all of the stds that you know that you need to be tested for even if you do not use shameless care for your std testing they have amazing research and information on on their websites as well as a it's would you call it a survey yes so if you go to shamelesscare.com you can fill out a little survey and it asks you questions about like how often do you engage when you do engage do you have anal sex do you have oral sex do you use condoms when you have oral sex it's going to ask you all these questions and then based off your answer it's going to recommend to you not only um what tested to get tested up with how often to get tested um and then maybe you know it has a whole bunch of information there's also different information about the different stis and stds um so if you're unclear about some things it can clear all that up for you and i don't know about you but we met with the owner of shameless we actually did a podcast with him and people can go back and listen to it it's been several years yeah it was back in like you were still active duty military we're still in the rv at the time but i can remember him telling us a story of him getting gonorrhea in his mouth and he wanting to start shameless because he wanted just people to understand that you have to do more than just like the you know you need to be swabbed in your mouth and I thought yeah that this is a cool story I agree with you but until it like genuinely affected us I don't think I really got it and I've noticed just in the last few months since we had that scare of gonorrhea um i've seen friends and stuff posting that they're getting tested or showing their arm where they've had their blood work and i immediately think did you have your mouth swab have you or do you feel like you've like changed in any way i know i feel like i can feel his passion in that and i did not realize that until we thought we may have gonorrhea we did not if you haven't listened to that podcast but it scared us enough to really understand so just to recap that real quick somebody sorry somebody within our our somebody that we had played with reached out to us and said that they had tested positive for oral gonorrhea so then me and lacy had a small panic attack we went and got tested we actually ended up because we were so close to going to hedo and we weren't sure if we were going to get the test results back enough to get treated in enough time to then go we just went ahead and got treated um for it but definitely go back and listen to that there's an r sti scare or something i think it's's the name of the episode. I just thought this was like a good opportunity to talk about that. Like kind of piggyback since this episode was only nine minutes. And we were talking about using condoms and preventing STDs. So I just felt like this was a good time to just talk a little bit about that.
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Right.
Speaker2:
So yes, to answer David's question, wear condoms when you're playing in group play. Not only change condoms and wash up wipe up clean up um between partners and then in addition to that be tested and when you're being tested um you know we get tested about once every 45 days or so uh depending on how much you're playing how much you're engaging it's gonna be different for you again shameless care can can make some recommendations to you if you go take their survey but when you are tested if they're not swabbing your mouth if they're not swabbing your anus and if you're not peeing in a cup or swabbing your vagina if you're not doing all three of those things in addition to blood work then you're not being fully tested even if you went to your doctor and, I want a full panel STD test. If they're not swabbing your mouth specifically, everything's not being tested. So definitely go back, listen to those podcast episode. Please try to understand the seriousness of mouth swabs. It's really important for people in the lifestyle. We definitely have learned that personally over personally over the last couple months even though we've been preaching it for years yeah but I hope that clears it up I hope you enjoy your orgies and I hope they're good experiences for you but the quickest thing that will ruin an orgy is an STD yeah like that that'll just take the fun out of the room it will real quick so so that phone call saying i tested positive for gonorrhea you might need to be tested yeah that'll also yeah it was an emotional event for for the person that we knew that had to make that phone call uh so i mean the lifestyle is all about friendship and connection um and doing your due diligence to protect yourself and protect your friends is key to being a good lifestyle community member, I think. Alright, so I hope that answers your question. If you have a question for Tuesday Talks, please email us at theswingnation at gmail.com or you can be like David and you can DM us on Instagram or TikTok or Facebook or something like that. Just be aware I don't so email is definitely the the best the most guaranteed way for us to see your message. So definitely email us at theswingnation at gmail.com. All right. Well, I think with that, in a world full of apples. Be the pineapple. Be the pineapple, guys. Bye. If you've enjoyed our podcast and want to support us, leave a five-star review wherever you're listening. If you want to see more of our content, you can find links to Snapchat, Twitter, Instagram, OnlyFans, and more in the show notes. Come join the conversation with us and other Swinger content creators on our Swinger Society Discord server. If you have questions or feedback, email them to us at theswingnation at gmail.com. Make sure you head on over to theswingnation.net and keep up to date on all things Swing Nation. We thank you so much for joining us and we'll see you next time. Goodbye.
