Tuesday Talks: Coming Out About OnlyFans to Family

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I listen to your podcast every week and follow you guys on Instagram and TikTok you guys are super hot and hope one day we can all meet my husband and I have always wanted to start an OnlyFans so my question is how do you talk to your family dad and siblings about wanting to start an OnlyFans and telling them that we're swingers or should we just do it and say fuck everyone it's It's not their business. Thank you. Thank you. And any advice is much appreciated. Sandra. I like Sandra's question. Should we just say fuck everybody and it's none of their business. And I didn't realize she actually, I read over it, but real quick before we started, but I didn't realize she had said swinger as well. So I think like for people that are listening to this, that maybe have no interest no interest in starting an only fan this question can very much apply to being swingers as well because i think that was part of her question she's so she's saying yeah they're making a only fans page but they are swingers yeah she said uh they're wanting to do to start an only fans and telling them that we're swingers okay yeah so it's one in the same yeah so my first step would say we did a whole episode on should i start an only fans go back and listen to that and you know just to surmise that real quick so you kind of know the gist of it is in that episode we basically say if you're going to start an only fans page and you want it to be not just like like a side hustle, but you want it to be a substantial amount of income, you basically have to go public because you're going to have to market yourself. And the chances of you marketing yourself on social media and somebody you know not finding it is very, very slim. So if you want to start an OnlyFans page and be serious about it you're basically are going to out yourself um i will say the way we handled going public as swingers is probably one of my biggest regrets through this as well as only fans because they basically found out we were swingers and only fans at the same time and i agree i regret it as well we were scared and we didn't know how to handle it and so we just chose to basically what she said fuck everybody it's none of their business but it it isn't but it is you know it's your family and they care about you and they're gonna have something to say whether it be good or bad and so i kind of wished that we had gotten a little bit ahead of it opposed to how you know everything went out for us yeah i will say part of i think our journey was we didn't know yeah and i think part of us was almost like willfully naive right i think part of us was hopeful nobody would ever find out so it's like we didn't really have the conversations because i think we were naive to think maybe we could get away with it and nobody would find out and then we just really didn't want to have those conversations anyway so we kind of believed our own narrative that we had made up in our head but nobody's going to find out but we did have a conversation like before we did talk about if people find out how do you feel you know right no we we did where we did say if we do this there is a chance people find we'll find out I don't think we realize how good of a chance it was. Yeah, and I think like saying, oh, fuck them, you know, like saying that and actually like living that are two separate things. Because like if you think that you'll be totally okay with everybody you know, knowing all these things about you, but when it happens, you just, you can't predict how you're gonna feel um like i thought i would really be okay if people found out i was not okay at all i was not okay at all you are okay though i am okay now right so i will say like you know you thought we'd be okay and and now you are okay i think that journey to get from a to b though was just longer and more painful than you thought it was going to be yeah correct and there are still times you know that i kind of wish i could take my son to school and and not wonder if people know who i am or recognize me or think i'm a big whore you know i mean i do wish for that you know even though i am okay i thought you're gonna say even though i am a big wh big whore. Well, I can be. But there are still times even now, even three years later, that I wish that I could put it all back in a box for a day and just go about not everybody knowing. But that is impossible. So, I mean, there are times that it's more difficult than others. But I am overall okay. Yeah. So, you know, our journey to kind of answer, was it Sandra's question? Shonda's question. Basically, everybody in our life found out through other people. Our kids found out. Most of our kids found out through other people. Although we did tell my son, I son I think yeah your son was the only one that hadn't uh you know and that's not the way to do it and you know having some random kid at school be like oh your mom's a swinger or you know something like that is not the ideal conversation now obviously it forces you then to sit him down and have a good conversation which I think for most of our kids ultimately those conversations ended up being positives and i think uh you know we try really tried to come at them as hey you know we're consenting adults doing consenting adult things you don't have to live your life the way that society says that you do we live our lives differently and there's people out there that are going to judge us for that. And unfortunately, you might get confronted with this by people that are not being kind to you. But, you know, with all of this, I think the answer isn't live your life so that you don't get bullied. It's live the life that you want to live that makes you happy and learn how to address the bullies. Yeah. No, I totally agree. We've it's worth noting we've been very fortunate our families have loved us and supported us we have not had a whole lot of negative pushback but on the flip side a lot of our friends have and there's a very good chance that if you come out as a swinger or you come out as an onlyFans creator, there's a good chance that your family will not be OK with that. And I think that's something that people have to take into consideration before they decide, you know, if they want to go public or not. No. Yeah. And like I said, definitely we get pretty in the weeds about that and should I start an OnlyFans episode podcast. So I don't want to I don't want to rehash all that but her general question is when it comes to talking to your family about either coming out as a swinger or coming out as a adult content creator you know should you do it on your terms or should you just hope you get away with them not finding out and then if they do fuck it i would say our regret is not doing that, having those conversations on our term.