Tuesday Talks: Can't Cum? Delayed Ejaculation in the Lifestyle

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You create a you sign up for an event and you come hang out with us super easy that's right if you want to party with us and the other faces and names that you know from social media and tiktok head on over to swingersociety.net can't wait to see you there Tuesday Talks Just send your questions to Dan and Mason Tuesday Talks Swing Nation got you feeling sexy hey there pineapple people and welcome to the swing nation podcast we are your host northern guy and southern girl and today we are back with another rendition of tuesday talks yeah yeah she's like i don't have time for your shit I don't. I don't. Okay. So this week's episode is brought to you by audio stream only. Yeah. We just unloaded a trailer after coming back from Club Tempted. Yeah, we got home yesterday and it's like we didn't leave the air on in our office. So it's literally 85 degrees in here. And then we unloaded the trailer and probably 85 degree heat. And so I'm melting. unless you have like a hot sweaty fetish um you don't want to see us on camera we're like slash we don't want you to see us on camera i was like we should have done the podcast first we that wasn't very it was already it was hot in here earlier i think the idea was we'd let the ac run for a while and cool down but it really didn't work and then we have to shut the ac off to record because it's loud so we're kind of we're just in the sweat box yeah all right so audio only tuesday talks you will not see this episode on youtube it's just for you listeners on uh on the airways yeah okay so this week's question so part two of that story is the phone is in the trailer oh we could have got it got it now. But anyway, it was in the trailer and it's dead. It's packed up basically, yeah. So we haven't unpacked the phone yet. So we're a hot mess express, but we're here, we're recording, and this will be out on Tuesday. That's all that matters. All that matters. So we actually went to – so if you go on to like Apple Podcasts and you look at our podcast, there's actually a button that says text us and when you text that when you click that button you send us a message it doesn't go to our phone it actually goes to our our podcast platform we get the text but we have zero way of responding to you so people have like text that button and been like hey what time does the club open this weekend and i have zero it doesn't give me your phone number we do see it it comes through like an email so we will get we will see it eventually but it's not a quick way to get in touch with us well and we have zero way of responding to you that's my point oh like i can't if you ask me what time the club opens or are there still single mail tickets or like we get all these questions and i have there's no way yeah it doesn't give me an email a phone number to, to respond to you is my point. But this question came through that text line. It's a good one. You want me to read it? So go ahead and read it. Okay. So it says, hello, I'm at work listening to your podcast. So I'll get straight to the question. I really hope you have some sort of answer. So I have the opposite problem of needing delay spray. I've always taken forever to climax. I've always focused on her, whoever she is, and love to enjoy the sex process experience of foreplay and having sex. I have a lot of situations where I don't even finish. I've never been much of a quickie guy because it takes me so long to climax. Well, in my youth, that was great most of the time. Now, I'm 43 and simply don't have the stamina i used to i get worn out now before i can finish i'm in decent shape i work out i take vitamins and fairly healthy i'm hoping you guys or a listener etc might have a secret to help shots creams pills whatever might help thank you so much and love the show great question so great question one that is extremely relatable to myself yes i was like you're i was thinking before we started i was like i'm just gonna let dan lead with this one because and i can i can have the girl's perspective at the end but i think this is more your lane to answer no 100 so i'm very similar It takes me a lot to climax in most lifestyle settings um i won't climax um he said it's always been a thing for him like when he was younger he said like having stamina uh not climaxing quick was it was good for him i feel like when i was younger i climaxed quicker like it's just kind of as i've gotten older i've built up more stamina but yeah and it's gotten harder and harder for me to come yeah um so yeah i don't come quickly now it happens sometimes and the times that i notice where where i can come or come in a reasonably reasonable amount of time is when me and you haven't had sex for a while yeah it's like me and you don't have sex for even like a couple days yeah i will come easier so part of me is like maybe we are just having or sex more than most people and then here's the other part even if we don't have sex i usually am jerking off every day even if we are having sex i'm still almost jerking off we are masturbation people in our household so maybe and then when i think about I do come more quickly, it's usually I haven't jerked off and we haven't had sex. Like those two things combined will make it to where I can come easier. So it's funny that this is the topic because one of our friends, we just got home from Tempted yesterday. So we haven't even been home 24 hours. But one of our friends was telling me that what he does is he doesn't come on purpose for the whole weekend and then he saves it until like sunday and i think they're only fans creators so then he records it so he has like a huge you know it's like this huge thing at the end but he purposely doesn't come so i want him to know that this is very normal. And probably I would say 90% of the guys that I engage with in the lifestyle do not come during our play sessions. Yeah. So I would say I don't come easily normally just me and you having sex at home. But then you add Viagra to it. Then you add condoms to it it then you add being in a playroom or you know in an uncomfortable setting or a setting that you're not you're super comfortable in now i'm not there's no way like and we've had times where like i'm like you know what roll over let's you know exactly what to do to make me come and we've tried to kind of do that in these public settings and it still doesn't happen sometimes it does but it's it's harder yeah for sure so to answer his question he's not the only one especially in the lifestyle i think this is extremely common especially when you add condoms and viagra and stuff like that into the mix um but then the second part of his question is what can he do about it i don't think he does anything i will say as a female who engages with males it is very common for the men to not finish um i personally do not take it as an insult that i haven't done anything i'm also not one of those girls who are like i must make the guy come though and we we've engaged with this type of people that the female feels like if she doesn't get that come at the end, she didn't do her job or she wasn't, the man isn't satisfied. I'm not that girl. And a lot of my friends are not that girl. We are perfectly fine with you enjoying yourself and then, and then finishing when you're back together with your spouse. And as a spouse. I personally would prefer that. I'm okay. We do not have a boundary. That Dan can't come with somebody else. I'm fine with that. But it makes me feel good. When he comes with me. At the end of the night. It's kind of a way to reconnect. If he comes in a playroom. A lot of times we'll go to the room after. And we just fall asleep. And we're out. When he it it kind of i don't want to use the word force because that seems like we need something to push together but it it allows us that opportunity to kind of reconnect and finish the evening together kind of like put a little bow on it no i agree i think that's 100 correct so if i was you i wouldn't do any pills i wouldn't do any of that that stuff i would just i don't mean i don't even know if there is but i would just be okay with who you are and then and accept that yeah i guess my question would be is it still pleasurable for him so for me personally i don't orgasm during sex very often but it's still a very pleasurable experience for me i i love sex i love fucking i love um oral i love you know like the whole thing for me is like i'm all about it um so i don't need the orgasm to like enjoy like to have a good experience so i guess maybe there's a chance you get to a point where it's not pleasurable but i i don't know yeah i don't know so if it's not pleasurable for you then maybe you need to seek medical advice you know attention and get that fixed um but if you can have a pleasurable experience and then still finish with your partner or something like that at the end of the night i don't see anything wrong with that now as far as are there treatments out there i don't know you were saying there's not but we've started started to hear about some of these um like prp type treatments where they you know they i don't i don't know exactly what they do, but they spit in your blood platelets and then they put it in your penis. Oh, like the O-shot for the pheno. Yeah. So there are, there is our treatments and we actually, I think we talked to Dr. Bawa on one of our episodes about some of these treatments. Yeah. So if you go back and find the Dr. Bawa episode. I guess I didn't realize that those make you cum. I know that they like increase sensitivity and stuff like that yeah so it increases it helps regrow nerve endings and things like that which then increases sensitivity which then i would assume you know the reason they call it the oh shot or the oh whatever oh there's all these different names but they're all some kind of prp prf pr whatever you know putting these platelet-riched plasma back into your penis to encourage regrowth of nerve endings and things like that. So there are procedures out there for that. So definitely, I think, you know, I'm actually curious about that. And I know Dr. Bawa talked about maybe us going down and doing some procedures with her and kind of, you know, documenting that. And we just haven't never, we haven't really followed through and gone and done that. But I would be interested in trying in trying that myself now i'm a little scared that it would then go too far i don't want to be 18 again where i you know three pumps and i come like so i think there is a there's such a middle ground there yeah you know so i would hate to do that and then be like orgasming all over the place you know uh but you know i would be curious to try something like that maybe uh so maybe you know do some research maybe talk to a doctor if it's to the point where you think you need some kind of medical attention for me and you right now i don't think i don't think it's needed i don't think it's necessary i like the way i'm a little curious about it but i don't think it's it's not something i would need i would like it's not on the top of my list of things to go and do and try because i don't think we really need it yeah now. Now, 10 years from now, maybe I'll feel differently about it. But right now, that's where I'm at. Well, he's about your age. He's 43, too. So y'all are very similar. Now, get your hormones checked. I know a lot of men, he said he's 43. So that's, you know, 40-ish age is when people, males specifically, start having issues with testosterone. So I think having your hormones and stuff like that and making sure because to have an orgasm it is a you know brain slash chemical mix right so you have to be turned on and you have to your body has to be able to to function and and achieve that so you know things like hormones can definitely throw off your desire and maybe your some of your mental yeah capacity So I think it's not a bad idea at his age to go and get his his hormones checked his testosterone level and others it's not just testosterone there's you know men have estrogen and all this other stuff too you got to make sure it's all in balance i'm on trt i get it once a month and then i every i don't know it's once a month but i have to go get my blood blood checked every so often to be on TRT and so they make sure all my all my levels are good I feel like since I've started that it's made me a little you know I think maybe my my libido has picked up a little bit but I don't it's not super noticeable for me but I know that's something that they is one of the selling points for TRT it's libido men so something to look into yeah uh but bottom line is you're not alone there's a lot of it out there especially in the lifestyle um if it's not a problem for you you probably don't need to do anything if you think it's at a point where you do need to do something look into things like a prp prf talk to a doctor talk to a medical professional professional. Urologist. And get your hormones checked. That would be my advice. Yeah. All right. So I think that wraps up this question. If you have a Tuesday Talk question, you can email us at theswingnation at gmail.com. You can, in the Apple app, you can click that button and send us a text like this gentleman did however we cannot respond remember that or probably the best way is to call us yeah and call the um the the swing nation hotline yeah and you can text as well you can text or you can call and that number is 972-302-7716. One more time. 972-302-7716. Okay. We'd love to hear your questions. I really look forward to Tuesday Talks. We've talked about it several times now. Tuesday Talks is getting almost bigger than the podcast. Yeah. And when we go out and we meet people and we talk to them, they talk talk about tuesday talks and how much they like it they feel like they've gotten to see a lot more of our personality they've got to know us better um so that makes us so because it really just kind of we did tuesday talks it's like let's just see what happens and it's kind of funny how it's almost like taken over which i love i love we genuinely enjoy doing tuesday talks so um we appreciate y'all we love that y'all love it so thank you thanks for all the great feedback right and then secondly we're gonna our next event splash atlanta yeah so we will be in attendance um splash atlanta is a great hotel takeover we love to support them dan hosts um the pool parties and stuff, which is awesome. But they are a really good hotel takeover if you've never been and you want to just try it out. They're a great one to check out. They also have day passes. 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