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Yeah, so her question is about generation gap relationships within the lifestyle. She is 39 and her partner is 56. She says, we've been together for eight years. This is the best relationship I've ever been in, in every aspect.
We have been talking about participating in the lifestyle for a few few years we have a very strong relationship with a lot of trust we are both very interested in lifestyle she was actually actually in a non-monogamous relationships in her late teens and she knew she was bisexual from a young age she said we don't have any social media but I've been looking up stuff here and there, and it seems to be a lot of haters of generation gap relationships in the lifestyle.
A lot of people seem to think there's a discrepancy in power control over the younger partner from the older partner that would possibly interfere with clear consent. I think this was referring to a very young partner in their 20s. I know that's not true in our relationship. We see each other as equals and treat each other very well. We would never cross our individual boundaries to please the other and both respect that. I actually think that we have more respect for each other than we've had in prior relationships with partners of similar age.
I think this is more because of the respect we have for each other.
So my question is, is there a lot of generational gap relationships within the lifestyle do they seem to be well accepted have y'all ever swung with the generation generation gap couple if so what were your thoughts and if not would that be a turnoff okay so there's a lot to unpack in that question yeah um i'm not going to touch the so So she kind of touches on age gap she calls them generational gap I think most people we hear use the word age gap but the same thing where one partner is significantly older than another partner one of the things she touches on there is people having issues with those type of relationships because of the power dynamic between the older and the younger person I will say we don't see a lot of huge age gaps like that like where you have like a 20 year old and like a seven year old guy i i we did see one couple at bomb bliss that old lady with a younger guy we did see that but i that's not something you see a lot of that in the lifestyles i don't or at least we haven't so i So I, I, it's hard to comment on that.
So basically, but that wasn't her question, right? So I'm not, I don't think we need to get into the morals of an age gap couple and how they consent. And if there's power dynamics in play, that's, we could probably do a whole nother podcast episode on that.
And maybe we should at some point, but let's just get to her question at the end there which was are age gap couples common in the lifestyle have we played with them and then kind of what's the general thoughts about age gap couples so let's just start at the beginning so are there a lot of um age gap couples in the lifestyle there are definitely some but you don't see them super often would you say i think it's i think it's common i think we've seen it now is there a lot no obviously the majority of couples are similar in age yeah um but do you see age gap couples where there's partners that are and i would i would for the purposes of this 10 plus years i would think is what you consider you know that that is a generational gap you know once you get that 10 year mark um there are quite a few couples that are at that 10 years or you know between 10 and 15 years or somewhere in that range we see couples like that fairly regularly almost every event we attend there's probably at least one couple that's like that uh let's see do they seem to be well accepted i would say yes yeah would you agree or yeah yeah i think they're well accepted i think for most here's the thing about the lifestyle most people are very open-minded right so i don't care if you're what you are right like if you're an age gap couple if you're trans if you're lesbian if you're bi if you're gay like um for the most part if you come out to a lifestyle event venue um if you meet lifestyle people they are probably some of the most accepting people that you're ever going to encounter in life.
So certainly accepting of age gap is not unusual. Yeah, I do think that age gap couples have to be open that it might take them a little bit longer to find a partner, though.
Like if you're the exact same age as your partner or within a few years you're probably going to um relate to people your exact same age around roughly your same age pretty easily but you can't expect couples to feel the same way does that make sense what i'm trying to say like yeah so here's the you know the honest truth is this sounds like a couple that's not in the lifestyle that's considering entering into the lifestyle space. And some of their concerns are, are we going to be accepted as an age gap couple? The challenge that you're going to, you will a hundred percent be accepted.
The challenge you're going to have is similar to what we all have is making a connection with another couple. Making a four way connection is very difficult in the lifestyle for any couple. Yeah.
But now when you put in an age gap couple right so if we are the similar age to i think in this case the female was younger right she's 36 and i think he's 58 so like we're the same age as her um but he is i'm assuming he's older let's just say for example um for me and you that might actually work because i am attracted to older men i like older men so as long as i have a good vibe with you i would i it doesn't matter to me if she's 36 and to me it wouldn't matter however meet another couple and she's not into older men she likes men about her age or maybe even a little younger she might not be attracted to him and that's okay too so it really is just about making connections with that couple and figuring out what their dynamic is and what they're into and not every couple is going to be the same yeah and that would be my my caution to her is yes you're going to be accepted in this lifestyle you're going to find people that you know nobody's going to like you can't come in here because you're an age gap couple that's never going to happen now making connections especially connections that then lead to intimacy might be difficult for you because it might be hard for you to find couples where you both connect with the couple because he's significantly older than you are but on the flip side of that a four-way swap or a four-way situation same room is not the only play style so if you're opening to broadening that you're probably going to have more success so if you're interested in like a hot wife situation or playing separately or just group play where maybe he's with some and you're with others and it's not necessarily like partner for partner that opens you up to more experiences.
So I think that's something to be noted. It doesn't always have to be couple for couple. Yeah.
And, you know, I'm thinking of some of the age gap couples that we know or have, you know, come across and hot wifing with that dynamic of couples seems to be popular and you know i'm going to speak because i don't know if this is the case for this couple but sometimes the male usually these couples the male is the one that's significantly older that's what we see more often yeah and maybe his sex drive is diminished maybe you know maybe um you know he's not having sex as much or as often as the female would like maybe he just finds it hot to see his wife with younger guys or guys similar to her age or younger guys so uh we do see couples that are age gap couples that do engage in the hot wife type lifestyle um or you know maybe that the husband just watches or whatever the case may be i think that's would be easier for them to find than maybe a four-way connection if that's something that they're they're open to but i don't think they they have to do that but i do think that would be an easier connection to me i agree um but i i can think of i'm trying to think of the the age gap couples that we know i do feel like they come across very aware that they're an age gap almost like um they're expecting you to have a problem with it like they're expecting you to have an issue with it and i think if you make it a non-issue if you just kind of go with the flow and like if a connection happens and it works out great if it doesn't no big deal then i think that's a better way to do it than like like going in almost paranoid that an age gap is going to be an issue does that make sense like like a guy with a smaller dick if he just goes in and just like fucks and have a great time and makes it a non-issue it's not an issue but if you go in you're like i got a small dick i hope it's okay i hope i do okay is this good you know you make it an issue does that make and we all do that we're all so terrible at that right because we have our own insecurities and so we like push our insecurities to the forefront and like put them in people's faces and like like you're saying oh is it okay that i'm 15 years older than my wife like honestly it's okay if you guys don't want to fuck me you just want to fuck her it's okay and it's like you dude you're like shut up i want to fuck you why are you making it weird and honestly i don't usually ask people their age in the last so like it's not like a huge like kind of like what do you do for a living where do you live none of those questions really come up how old are you it's more like i find you sexy and i'm attracted to you let's have this moment together more so than like how old are you when is your birthday yeah and it goes back to we talked about this before right the great thing about the lifestyle is we're just looking to explore fantasies and have new experiences we're not looking to find somebody to date and bring home to mom and dad right yeah and so because of that you're much more open to a a larger smorgasbord of of people to connect with than you might be if you were looking to date and marry somebody yeah i totally agree and so yeah age is even less of a concern if you're just looking to to have an experience with somebody yeah uh and not not marry and have children with them or something like that correct uh yeah i think it's not a big deal if you don't make it a big deal be aware that there you might have more difficult time making a four-way connection um you know exploring other play styles might might help you make more connections um other than that going going into it with an open mind and uh and have some good experiences yeah well i think she had one more piece to this question um have we ever swung with an age gap couple we've probably have well i can think of secrets we just did yeah we did a soft swap with them but uh we we met and this was actually she was older yeah and which works out perfect for us because you 100 are attracted to older ladies i love being older um and and to be honest with you he was older still older than me but closer in age their ages were a non-issue Thank you.
older lady is i love being older um and and to be honest with you he was older still older than me but closer to their ages were a non-issue at all had they not told us that they were an age gap couple i don't know if i would have even realized i would have thought like maybe she was a little older than him but like i think she was like 12 years 12 years older than him or more 12 14 years older but i would have never have like i would have never said oh wow she was so much older than him i would have never have said that i would just been like oh he got him a little bit older lady that's that was that 14 years i think he was 48 and she was 62 yeah it was not it was a non-issue and actually for us it worked out really good because yeah if you're going to be an age gap couple with us probably being yeah that way the older would be yeah more likely for us to connect with and would it be a turnoff uh no i would say no it's not a turnoff for us if anything it's kind of hot because you have these fantasies of pleasing older women so for us it wouldn't be um but i think again if like if you make it a big like if you make it a thing, that would be eternal.
Right. Like, if you're like, oh, my gosh, we're 15 years apart. Is that okay? Is it a problem? That would be eternal. Like, I don't want to hear about that. I just want you to, like, fuck the shit out of me. Tell me I'm pretty and fuck the shit out of me. Yeah. That's it. So I think, like, and I think in the lifestyle, and I'm guilty of this, too, we overthink situations and we make them into more than they are. No I think this is. You do that? I do it every day. Hush it. So this is a good lesson for me too.
But yeah, I don't, it's not, it's not an issue and I don't, I don't see any issues there. Yeah. No, I think that whole. It can actually add a little spice to it. If anything. Well, and here's the thing. Here's like from my perspective, I want to experience different things, right? Fucking a 60-year-old, 7-year-old, 80-year-old, you know, as long as I'm trying to do them, I'm okay with that.
And it's like almost like having different experiences is part of of what makes this lifestyle fun so meeting people that are different and having new experiences is very refreshing and rewarding and one of the many things I like about this lifestyle so yeah you know if you enter into the space with that in mind that hey we're a little different but our difference is good and like here we can we can offer you something that other couples maybe can't offer you um and kind of celebrate it in that way i think it could kind of give you a different mindset going going into this i agree all right i think uh anything else to say about age gap couples are people sick of me saying i like older women yeah is that it seems to be like that's like been a podcast here the last couple months.
I think you like all women, to be honest with you. You like young women. You like older women. You like middle-aged women. You just love all the ladies. So I just think, I don't know, it's just been a topic of conversation. Yeah, I think with the fuck it list. Yeah.
But I have, I will say, I've say i've had numerous 60 plus year old women come up to me at events and let me know that they would be able to check off my bucket list you know i guess the only thing i can think to add is to me there's not a huge difference between a 38 and 50 something person no it's not in the lifestyle anyway um especially if you take care of yourself and you present yourself as your best version of yourself. Personally, I don't really care if you're 30 or you're 50. Well, that's like that 62-year-old that I played with at Secrets.
I would never have known that she was 62 had she not told me that. Yeah. To me, I guess because and if you've never been in the lifestyle you probably don't understand this but things like that like i said before where you work where you live how much money you make something that's not super important it's more of like are you a good person are you kind do you treat people right can i have a good conversation yeah those are laugh with you yeah those are things am i attracted to do i want to you like do you are you good at have a good conversation with you? Can I laugh with you?
Yeah, those are things that are important. Am I attracted to you? Do I want to fuck you? Are you good at flirting? Are you awkward? Yeah. That's more important than if you're 58 or if you're 40. To me, that doesn't make any difference. As long as you're respectful, your stuff works, you fuck me good, send me home to my husband. Will your husband just send you home like I'm there? We go home together. You know what I mean. That's what's important. I got you. I'm watching you. Keep my eye on you. You better. You're trying to go fuck older dudes without me. I'm coming home to you, babe.
Don't worry. I know you would. Somebody's got to pay your bills. I know, right? All right. I hope that answers that question. gap couples yeah two thumbs up from from us yep all right well I think with that in a world full of apples be the pineapple be the pineapple guys if you've enjoyed our podcast and want to support us we have a five-star review wherever you're listening. If you want to see more of our content, you can find links to Snapchat, Twitter, Instagram, OnlyFans, and more in the show notes.
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