Send us Fan MailLifestyle Stories: Treasures and Pleasures Part 1: Swinger Society Secrets Takeover | Episode 189In this episode of The Swing Nation Podcast, the top-rated podcast about non-monogamy and swinging, Dan and Lacy share an intimate and emotional recap of Part 1 of their latest lifestyle adventure—the “Treasures and Pleasures” Swinger Society takeover at Secrets Hideaway Resort in Kissimmee, Florida.While the weekend was full of sexy fun and non-stop energy, it also came with personal challenges. Lacy opens up about the emotional weight she carried throughout the event as she continued to mourn the recent loss of her father.Hear how Dan and the incredible Swinger Society staff stepped up in a big way to keep the party alive, support Lacy behind the scenes, and make sure the event ran smoothly for the hundreds of lifestyle couples in attendance.This episode is a powerful mix of real-life vulnerability and unforgettable lifestyle excitement, reminding us that behind the fantasy are real people with real stories. Don’t miss this heartfelt and honest look at what it takes to lead, love, and show up—even when life gets hard.- The Swing Nation -Main Website Quick Navigation Website: -- (Find all our social media links more!)- Swinger Society - Our Website to meet, connect events Swinger Society Discord Our Facebook Group- Swinger Websites -Kasadie 90 day free trialUsername: TheSwingNation SDC 14 day free trial Username: TheSwingNation** Use code 36313 for 14 days free! ** SLSUsername: NorthernGuynSouthernGirl- Merch More -Order Your Merch Here!- Lacy’s Fun Links -VIP OnlyFansPREMIUM OnlyFans-- THANK YOU TO OUR SPONSORS --I Know my Status : Get 15% your first test with by using promo code: Lifestyle https://iknowmystatus.com/ Wisp : Making sexual healthcare inclusive, cost-effective, and accessible—for everyoneUse Code SWING at checkout for 15% off your oder!Shameless Care: ED Medication and at home STD testingUse Code TSN at checkout for $30 off your order!Promescent® Make Love Longer, It’s Time for Great SexUse CodeSupport the show- Thank you for the support! -
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You create a profile, you sign up for an event, and you come hang out come hang out with us super easy that's right if you want to party with us and the other faces and names that you know from social media and tiktok head on over to swingersociety.net can't wait to see you there hey there pineapple people and welcome to the swing nation podcast we are your host northern guy and southern girl and today we are back with another full episode yeah of the swing nation podcast back for the first time sorry about last week it happens there was no real good excuse other than we're on the struggle bus we are struggling on the struggle bus well also my my family was coming into town and plans got canceled well we were like literally on our way to the office to do a podcast and then his daughter's flight got missed it was it was just the whole thing so we missed the podcast we did which i wonder now that we've broke the record if it's like i kind of feel easier for us to i feel like it is which I don't really want that to be.
But I'll also realize that like life happens and sometimes it's okay if it doesn't go out. Go as planned. Yeah. Yeah. I think that's okay. I agree. All right.
So this week we are talking all things secrets so our well you guys are going to hear another tuesday talk before this episode but the last one that we had put out um in real time is the one where we explained why the podcast went silent and we talked about lacy's dad passing um that was pretty emotional a pretty emotional um yeah episode lots of people oh my gosh reached out so many people like we have gotten so many emails it's ridiculous and then we did get some negative comments which of course the negative ones are louder than the positive ones but i've been trying really hard to focus on um the positive ones and not the negative but they're still there and it's okay yeah but so many people you know obviously have gone through similar things and you know are still grieving their parents and i think can relate to just needing to get away or just needing to take a break or just needing that you know to hang out with your friends and so lots of very positive thoughts also lots of people that like were like i didn't know what to do when your podcast episode wasn't there yeah yeah they were so sweet and i'm like i didn't realize that people care so much about hearing our voice every thursday and duce and thursday but we very much appreciate it we heard you we it's just it's been very sweet to read the messages it's kind of hard to respond to all of them but we definitely have read them all for sure okay so where we had left off on the tuesday talk episode was basically your your dad passed on sunday and then we hit the road tuesday yeah and some of the criticism i've got was i didn't stay in town for my dad, like throw my dad a funeral.
Let me just clear a little air for the people that are listening. My dad did not want a traditional funeral. He actually had no burial policy, no life insurance, any of that. So it came out of Dan and I's pocket. And so what we had decided as a family, even prior to him dying, it was something that we had talked to him about, was we were going to do something non-traditional at a later date, probably a month or so down the road. And one thing, my brother had left that morning.
So my brother left the morning my dad had died just to go, he had to go back to work and, you know, kids and life and everything.
So even if even if he would we wouldn't have turned around and done it that week period we have it scheduled it's for over a month away from now and we're almost a month out so it's going to happen in in due time it was not put off on account of me going to secrets correct i think that's important to notate i don't want to be accused that's like a little personal well it's crazy what people come up with I know yeah so yeah so we we pretty much hit the road we worked most of the day like I had done some pre-work well just a separate note on the the parent passing thing um so several people had wrote you know that uh you know my work only offered me three days of bereavement so like if you work a normal job a you know a commercial job you don't get a lot of time um no i would have had to be back to work on wednesday so yeah we were driving wednesday uh so yeah you're right i mean i would have been back to work before secrets even started anyway but nobody wants to hear that they want to think that we were out partying and getting drunk and dancing on tables i think my point was it's very normal to have to go to back to work in a couple days after your parents and i'm very fortunate that we work in this job where we're able to go um and we couldn't and we are able to afford to pay for to bury my dad and i you know we're able to take off when we need to the secrets is one of our biggest events a year i mean it's probably we put the most work into secrets we have six figures tied up yes every secret so could i have missed and let you and our staff handle it 100 and they would have done an amazing job but i also have a little bit of a heart and soul in this too and a lot and a lot of work ethic and i want to see it through as well so i wanted to be there and there's nothing wrong with that yeah um you know the military actually has no bereavement really you have to put in for what they call emergency leave, and it can actually get denied.
So, like, if you had some kind of, like, deployment or some kind of upcoming training mission that was important to the unit, they could actually deny. There's no guarantee that you'd get leave or something like that, which is kind of crazy. Well, according to the Internet, I just couldn't wait to fuck people, and I just hightailed it out of here. Well, don't listen to them.
Okay so we left on tuesday and basically drove as far as we could before falling asleep yeah yeah um and it was to the point where i was like making swag back items while you were driving because i had not had time to get any of that done and so yeah we i don't know how far we went but oh i like a little Atlanta just to kind of get through that traffic. And we literally went in, slept, and got up Wednesday morning and hit the road. We arrived in Kiss Me around 6 that evening. Not super early, but not super late. We unloaded just our personal belongings.
We don't unload the trailer and everything until the next day. Thursday. Yeah. So we unloaded our personal stuff and then we went to eat in the Italian place, which several people had asked us about the Italian. It's like, how do we find it? We've heard your podcast. Okay.
So if you are standing in front of Secrets, It's going to be located in the uno hotel or motel like in their lobby the hotel itself is like a peachy creamy color it looks very sketch it looks ghetto yeah yeah scary it's very scary looking um but just trust us just go in there it they they are amazing like we went in there there's probably 10 11 of us and i think there was like one girl and probably one cook and they had i mean they did an amazing job for it to just be it took a little while but not not an absorbent amount of time they were pretty good yeah and we had um some people that were from well jersey couple was with us and they're like true italian and they were like we never eat Italian in the South.
But they were actually impressed. So I feel like we can like for sure vouch for it now because. Right. So if you're in the secret if you walk out of secrets you just go right. Yeah. And walk down the sidewalk.
And the very next building that you'll run into is that uno hotel and the italian place is in the lobby yeah of that you walk in and it's right to your left yeah there's like a big field in between secrets in that hotel that's the property that they purchased so if you're on any of secrets social media and stuff and you've seen that that's what it is and it's really nice though they fit it in it looks like it's a part of secret i mean it's it's empty but it looks like it's a part of it was a homeless camp at one point so it's much nicer now yeah so just walk past that property I'll see you next time.
it looks like it's a part of secret i mean it's it's empty but it looks like it's a part of it it was a homeless camp at one point so it's much nicer now yeah so just walk past that property and it's right there it's on the same side of the road everything is secret okay anyway we we finished that we came back and that was a nice dinner though it was and there was quite a few people there was like 11 or 12 i think there was 11 because b and his husband hadn't made it there yet so five couples and a single um it was a nice little group all of our good friends that we you know it used to be like thursday night was the get there before the storm you know and now it's wednesday i mean at some point it'll be tuesday yeah um it felt a little odd coming in late late it's usually where they're like monday tuesday yeah i felt like we were playing catch up but it was fine um we got there so we finished eating we came back and with kind of a tradition now we always do swag bags on wednesday nights so that's like actually packing the swag bags that you get at the door and um people come and help us.
It's kind of fun. It's like a little packing party. We have a supply room. We lay everything out and we do like an assembly line and we knock it out. And that was pretty much what we did then.
And then we went and hung out at like the bar area and this is where i was regretting my decision why well i cried a lot of the day driving there i was still very emotional i was really not in a very good headspace to be like around everybody was having fun and they were on vacation and i was like what have i done i was like this was a bad call you know i was like maybe i should have came i was sort of panicking on the inside but i was trying really really hard to like pretend like everything was okay um and we hung out there for quite a while um mike and daphne always share room with us they're our best friends and so they kept they always get in late on wednesday so they arrived we stayed out at the pool like bar area until then we went and greeted them got them all unloaded and in and then we just kind of hung out until it was time to go to bed yeah that was our wednesday night yeah was our wednesday night not super eventful but but I think all things considered, a pretty good success.
I went to bed like, what have I done? Really? Yeah, I did. I was pretty ageless. Yeah. But it was okay. I think seeing Daphne and Mike really helped me. Get you out of that funk? Yeah, yeah, a little. Well, that's been true over the years, though. Yeah.
If you're panickingicking about an outfit i've always said she's my emotional support human yeah she kind of like she's i mean you are too but you're my spouse and i feel like you have to be there for me and that's like i built yeah but i don't know for some reason i feel like when you are in that panic you know whatever you want to call that panic attack kind of mode i usually i feel like i make it worse not better right because i'm like it's okay just calm down and you're like i can't calm down and i should just like walk in and give you a hug and you might be like oh thank you that's what i needed and i'm like i gave you like 20 hugs like this is bullshit like i know who knows but so they got there we went we hung out we went to sleep and it was thursday it was thursday yeah so on thursday um we got up and we went to i know my status which is a sponsor of our podcast thank you to them um they have locations in miami orlando vegas vegas and then of course you can do your you can use a draw facility wherever you're located there's plenty in every town but because we were going to be in orlando we were like well what the heck let's just go there which we met a lot of people at secrets that did the same thing yeah i was actually surprised the amount of people that were like oh we went to i know my status before we came here yeah i was very happy to hear me too me too um so yeah so we got up and we drove to their little it's a little small little lab office place it's not not real big but clean and nice they were all so friendly Um, so we all, it wasaphne and mike we all had our blood draw our throat swab our rectal swab peed in a cup all the things we're picking on daphne because she's like i got little veins and you can't find them you know she was just the one that girl but it was great they didn't have to stick her twice though to be fair so she wasn't wrong she wasn't wrong we gave her shit but she was she was right so it was pretty pretty painless And it was great.
They did have to stick her twice, though, to be fair. So she wasn't wrong. She wasn't wrong. We gave her shit. But she was right. So it was pretty painless. And it was like 20 minutes from Secret. So if you are going to be in the Secret's area, the cool thing about it is you get, if you go first thing in the morning, you have your results by 8 o'clock that night. Now, we did have an exception to that. Yes.
A bird hit the plane or the well i guess the bird hit the plane or the plane hit the bird whichever way yeah so all of a sudden we started getting texts or in like in messages which we have a personal connection with them so they reach out to us but i think everyone else got like a right so if you don't know so the orlando location there's no actual laboratory there so if you go go on our YouTube page and you can go and see a YouTube video of us doing a tour of the I know my status slash talent testing laboratory, that laboratory is actually located in Miami.
But the way they're able to do testing in Orlando and get it turned around so quick so that you get your results so quick is they actually fly private jets back and forth between orlando and the miami location and that's how they're able to to do it so fast is they have their own jet well that jet apparently hit a bird in that and because of that had to do an emergency landing and then make it to miami as quick as it normally would have and so because of that we didn't get our results till the next morning no it was like 2 a.m i think we got there later but i what i want to mention is shit happens one their response to that was pretty epic i mean they all knew we were all at secrets and we had all came down there and so many people had tested and they were very reactive and getting all of us let us all know that we would not have our results and essentially we woke up the next morning right and so i thought that was pretty cool that they they didn't just like sweep it under the rug like oh no big which is if you if you put your you know if you did one of these at-home tests where you put your stuff in the mail and mail it off you don't hear you don't know for like a week like that stuff takes days yeah and you don't nobody's like messaging being like the bird the plane hit a bird like we're sorry like you everybody was getting personal text messages and or calls or everything so anyway that was a little side note but it was a really good experience i really like so now we've been to miami in orlando i guess we have to go to vegas we have to go to vegas and the thing about vegas they said is um it has they have a wall at vegas where the porn stars have okay the pictures of the porn stars and they've signed their autograph on that's cool so i want to see that yeah that's pretty cool yeah that is super cool so we came back and um it was time to unload the trailer and our wonderful staff has basically like recruited a ton a ton of people.
So that way, like, it was done within, like. They were waiting on us. They were standing there waiting. So we went to I Know My Status. We got back. I think we were, the schedule said, like, 11 to unload the trailer. Like, 1030. They're like, where are you guys at? Yeah. They were standing there waiting. Yeah. And it was the quickest, seamless, like, all hands on deck.
I think they just knew that we had been through the ringer and they were just i think their goal was to try to make it as easy as possible and i kind of felt a little out of touch i just kind of let diana and mandy and them handle it because next thing i know like the merch booth is completely set up i'm just over there hanging shirts on hangers like not even even like I didn't even care. You know, it's just like, OK, you know, but I didn't have to. They just kind of handled it, which was super. And I didn't have to use my brain all weekend long.
Our staff really, really stepped up and it made a big difference. It did very much. It was felt. And so during this time, a friend of ours who lives in like the different part of the Southeast than we are, brought me some food line cupcakes, which at one point, Diana had heard me say that my favorite cupcakes in the world were the food line cupcakes.
She had talked one of our friends into to orlando with cupcakes in his lap to give me cupcakes to make me feel better i mean like these are the type of people that we were dealing with here just like extraordinary kind sweet people and they made this weekend so so much easier than it had to be so shout outs to y'all so yeah i mean that was it Everything was like literally set up in half an hour, would you say? Maybe an hour, but yeah, which normally it would probably take three or four hours. So, yeah. So after all that, we went back to the room and changed and got ready and went to the pool.
Went to the pool, yeah. We actually got a little pool time. Yeah, we did.
It was pretty nice um so we just hung out for a little while we not not super long but then we went back to the room do you want to tell them about your mystery illness because i think that's worth notating here we kind of touched on it last week but we haven't really done because this night you were actually running a fever yeah so um if you remember uh back why don't know we never told the story well we talked about tim yeah i thought we did tempted we didn't do a tempted uh podcast because of everything yeah so we haven't really talked about this so we went to tempted for their big anniversary party and and which was april 20 no way march 20th that i was feeling under the weather but before you freak out on me i had been tested for covid i've been tested for strep i've been tested for mono i was tested for everything back up you started we were on our way down there and you were like i'm not feeling super it kind of hit you as we were traveling so we didn't leave town knowing you were just like i'm not feeling super and we thought like maybe it was a sinus infection what no nothing was indicating like there was something wrong but you were just a little under the weather right so we get to tempted and not tempted we'll get to louisville and it becomes kind of apparent that you are in fact a little under the weather we basically only went to the club for a couple hours and left because i didn't feel well yeah yeah so you ended up sleeping most of the weekend um and we had we had told um tanya and john that we were going to be at tempted we had advertised it so you kind of sucked it up and we went and we literally left before midnight and if you know anything about us we just don't do that, you know, so, um, we came home, we got up the next morning and you were just like done, done.
So I had to drive us home from Louisville, Kentucky. At this point, you're running a fever, you're coughing, your throat. We had tested you for everything. Nothing was coming back. Like at that home test, we're like, maybe you have strep throat. At this point point we didn't know so you went that monday or tuesday to the doctor because i was like my dad was not doing well you know things were very quickly at that point things were that sunday that we got back my dad broke his hip correct no your your dad was in the hospital that he died that Sunday after we got back. No, he died on the 31st.
This was the 20th. Oh, okay. So he died like 10 days later. But anyway, so like, my dad was getting sicker. You were getting sicker. So I'm like, you have to, we have to figure this out. So in the matter of like a week or two, you went to the doctor like four times. And they could not figure out what was wrong. They still don't know. They still don't know. It's been almost, well, it has been a month. It's the 21st of April I don't know. They still don't know. It's been almost, well, it has been a month. It's the 21st of April right now. And when this was about the 20th, you've lost 25 pounds.
Probably more than that now. 28? 25-ish pounds. You're still having night sweats. Not so much fever, really. Do you think? Even the night sweats. The last couple, the last day or two have been a lot better. Yeah.
So I seem to be be getting over it now they still want me to go in and do cat scans and all this stuff but yeah they never have found a thing no and you've been on a couple rounds of antibiotics have you done steroids i can't remember yeah um but it's been what we refer to as the mystery illness we don't know um so that is another reason why the podcast didn't come out because i probably could have pulled myself away for an hour to come sit here and talk but the problem is dan does all the behind the scenes like he edited it he uploads it i have no knowledge of how to do any of that and so because he was completely down for the count it just made it just added an extra layer to an already stressful situation correct okay that was a side note sorry well it was but you're right i've been sick for a month basically so and the fever comes and go with now it's kind of gone but at secret's point it would come and go like at one point you wouldn't have a fear for a day or two and then all of a sudden it would come back well never a day or two okay well how basically six to eight hours every time i take tylenol go away and then yeah so at secrets you had to dj thursday night and um you were pretty sick so you laid down for like an hour and i gave you some tylenol and you kind of sweated off and then you went out there and dj till 2 a.m i'm so proud of you i did yeah it was good i had fun thursday night we you know while you were djing it was funny it was like all of our friends came did you recruit them i did okay that's what i thought why do you just think everybody just came up there no i didn't think that i i thought that you recruited them but i thought but you know maybe i don't know maybe it was organic i don't think i started it i can't remember who there was a starter it wasn't me but i took it and ran to be honest with you i think people knew that my dad had just died and they were trying to make me feel better and I kept people kept giving me shots and I should not have I should not have taken them so I got pretty trashed that Thursday yeah so the problem with DJing on Thursday nights at the pool is most the people so you're the DJ booth is right in front of the pool well most people aren't in the pool they're over at one of the bars which are quite a ways away from so you're you can't really see the people that you're trying to DJ yeah so you Thank you.
pool well most people aren't in the pool they're over at one of the bars which are quite a ways away from so you're you can't really see the people that you're trying to dj yeah so but you did round up a pretty good group of people and they came over and danced for a while yeah we danced for a while that was nice it's but i'm oblivious because i'm djing i'm pretty much tied to yeah the dj booth i don't know what you're doing but see i went to get you a drink you had asked me for a drink so i'm you know being like the good dj wife um scurry over there to get um your drink and then i think like when i got there somebody gave me a shot and then as i was leaving somebody gave me a shot and then i think i ordered myself a drink and so and then i downed my drink so i'd had two shots and a drink within like probably a 20 minute period yeah and for somebody that does not drink much that was all she wrote so like we're all dancing and having fun and i remember it hitting me and i was like i have to remove myself from this situation i mean i could tell when you came over and went dancing that you felt good yeah but which i was happy about because you were smiling you were laughing you were dancing with people so in my head i'm like thank like this is the first time i've seen lazy smile in a month like this is this is a good thing yeah yeah i think i overindulged to probably like cope with some of that but i also think people were being sweet and nice and i just wasn't people trying to make sure you yeah yeah so it was just like a good combination of me wanting to have fun and people trying so i'm i was like oh i have to get out of here like i so i was like i have to get myself to the room i have to not throw up i have to not act a fool and i have to do it safely.
So I'm like, I don't, I can remember seeing people for the first time, like friends that I hadn't seen in a while, they're like, hey, and I'm like, hey, they probably thought I was standoffish, but I was like, I have to get to the room. Like, it was like, it felt like an emergency. It probably wasn't. But in my mind, it felt like I had to get there before I embarrassed myself and us and our brand by throwing up at Pool and Secrets, which I never threw up. I probably should have that. But you've peed on the beach at Hedo. I don't know. Like, why is that?
I feel like that's kind of on brand, not really ruining a brand. I don't know. In that moment, my brain said, get your ass out of here. Get it to the room. You're safe there. So throwing up in the pool at Hedo.edo okay that was like month two of the podcast early lacy yeah i try not to do that anymore so i get to the room and i basically just like lay still in the bed so you went by yourself yes which i don't normally do but i knew i had to get out of there, like, immediately. And then, like, probably 30, 45 minutes, what felt like Daphne and Mike came back. They came back.
And so I just kind of hung out in my room. They were in theirs. And then, so they start, they're in their room doing their thing. I'm in my room sleeping, and I realize I take some medicine like my nighttime vitamins so for a little context we were sharing a suite with daphne and mike yes and so this it's a two-room suite but there's an open door yeah hallway kind of so i can't see their bed and they can't see mine but we can hear each other rooms are open to each other yeah so at some point i'm a drink. So I go around. For some reason, our drinks were in their refrigerator.
They had the full-size fridge, yeah. So I go around, and Mike is in the, like, Daphne is butt-ass naked, getting ready to fuck, or in mid-fuck, I don't know. And Mike is in the bathroom, like, swishing his mouth with listerine. It's almost like I busted him. Like, she's, but now he's got, I'm like, what are you, you know, I'm fucked up, you know, like, real fucked up. I'm like, what are you doing? And he's like, well, sometimes she likes it when I swish Listerine and then go down on her. And in my drunken state, I sung, like, the Mentos song. Like, Mentos versus Fresh.
So when I got back to the room, you told me this story. And I didn't fully comprehend what was going on. She had that Menthol pussy. So Mike likes using Listerine because it, like, makes her pussy feel minty.
She likes the way it it feels i can relate to that like i i've had people that chewed gum which is brush their teeth conversation if you were sober but shit face me thought it was the funniest shit i've ever seen and i was singing every like menthol mentos song under the sun they could even fuck because they were laughing so hard he was trying to so mike swishes the listerine yeah then then he proceeds to go down on her yes while you're singing the mentos freshness song no they were trying to do that but i fucked it all up because i'm standing butt naked at the end of the bed singing to them while he's trying to do it and then it turned into daphne's vagina smokes menthol sick i mean you know like when you're fucked up and like just stuff that is not funny turns really funny it was that situation okay so then we start texting you to tell you yeah i i did get so i'm djing by the pool a couple people are vibing yeah so i'm having a good time and i get this text and i i almost want to look at my phone it was it's recording but the text said something like daphne's pussy smokes menthols and that's all that's that's all the context i get and i'm like huh and i think you said like then i said like listerine pussy or something cigarette emoji and i'm like i don't i don't know what this means then they start fucking and then i'm turned on and i need to fuck so then I start texting you I'm like can you come fuck me while you're DJing so then you put on a soundtrack or what is it what's it playlists and you come fuck me and then you go back out there and finish DJ I did yeah that's pretty fun it was fun that was a really funny night I know people listen this night this bitch is crazy but you ever have something that's so funny when you're fucked up but then like i think everybody's done that at some point where something like strikes them as funny but then you tell it to a sober person and they're like huh like what daphne had a mintos i know when i got when i came so i put on the playlist or whatever and i come to fuck you and you're you're trying to tell me this story about but as you can imagine you're drunk and i'm getting listerine menthol cigarettes daphne's pussy and i don't really understand how the three of them go together and so i didn't quite get it i think mike and daphne were sleeping or at least half sleeping at that point i don't know but we all laughed so hard that was the end of thursday that was it yeah i think i put that playlist on went fucked we kind of like cuddled for a while i basically waited till two o'clock to go turn the music off and come back yeah yeah it's good times not a bad thursday and what we didn't mention on thursdays is um we played some games too oh yeah oh yeah i totally missed on thursday night the kind of the whole point to secrets thursday night is the meet and greet um so secrets really the thursday is kind of what we like to try to set up the weekend and if you've never been to a swingers party or you've never been to like a bliss cruise or a hito that first day everybody's kind of trying to feel each other out yeah and and what we do is we play a bunch of games and stuff to try to get people interacting try to we do speed dating we do these like bingo games we did some other game that i didn't understand but anyway the whole point of all of that is just to get people talking to people um and because what you'll find is once you break that ice and start talking to somebody that's the hardest part right and then once you get to know each other then you know next thing you know you're dancing with each other and the next thing you know you're making out next thing you know you're fucking right so that that conversation is usually the hardest part so we really try to come up with ways to force not force but to encourage people um to talk to each other and i think the thursday nights have been we've got a lot of positive feedback Thursdays.
Um, so we're going to try to keep, keep that up and maybe come up with some more innovative ways, um, to get people communicating and talking to each other so that, um, I think it makes the weekend better for everybody. Yeah. I agree. Okay. And then we went, we fucked and we went to bed. Yeah. And that brings us to Friday. But now is the perfect time to take a little break and hear from the partners and sponsors of the Swing Nation podcast. And then when we get back, we'll tell you all about what happened at Secrets on Friday. We'll be right back, guys.
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And so, a lot of that stuff that we ordered takes a little bit because it's customized and stuff like that. So, we had to. Well, now with tariffs and stuff, who knows? Yeah, right. Who knows? Yeah. So, thank y'all for loving all of our merch.
But, yeah, the merch booth, and, you know, they start playing the music and all that pretty early but we don't really get out until about noon noonish yeah yeah uh we wore uh our sling it bikinis and we took some i know i took some sling it bikini pictures i did not yeah no i didn't wear my sling it this time we hung out by the pool and honestly we got lot of pool time. And I want to kind of talk about this because after every event, we send out a survey and we ask people, what could we do better? What could we do worse?
And one of the complaints were that we didn't, in the pool, we didn't mingle as much as that person felt like we should have. And I don't mean to see anything mean to them because they probably are right. We probably didn't. We actually try really hard during our events, especially if they're ones that Swinger Society is actually throwing. We try really hard.
We call it like make a lap or, you know, we try to like go around and speak to people, especially we see you sitting in the corner not talking to people we try to make it a point to really not just stick to one area and stay there i don't feel like we did a very good job of that this time but i'm gonna be honest i had a great time i didn't put pressure on myself to have to meet and mingle i just had had fun. I just felt I went where it felt safe, where I felt comfortable, and I didn't overthink it.
And I think a lot of times because so many people want to meet and want to see us, we put this pressure on ourselves to go and meet and chat with people. And it is fun in its own way. way it does bring some joy but I'm also there on vacation you know I know this is a work vacation but I also am there and I get to see my friends that I haven't seen sometimes in a year or six months and so um we did not I know personally I did not do near as good a job as I could have but I didn't hate it. I'm not going to lie.
Yeah, I probably didn't do as good a job as normal about doing like the lap and going around. I probably did more so than you did. But I would say, you know, in defense of you, you just being there and showing up was about probably your mental max. Yeah. So I think it's okay i i know it is okay to be honest with you i i had a blast i enjoyed my friends i laughed i had a great time and i kind of wish it could be like that all the time is that bad for me to say out loud no, well, like with all this stuff, I think we need to strike a balance.
I do think it's good that we take a lap and go meet people and talk to them. It's 100% good. We should do that. But we also have the right to hang out with our friends and have fun with them too. So there's a balance there somewhere, I think. Yeah, because on the flip side of that, if we don't have fun, and we're all work, and we just kind of, then we get negative comments that say, oh, all they did was work, and they didn't have fun, and we didn't get, you know. So we've gotten both. We're never going to make them happy. Right, exactly.
At the end of the day, the answer is, you're never going to make everybody happy, and if you read through those reviews, they're 98, 99% positive. No, but I think those reviews are still very important I don't know.
is you're never going to make everybody happy and if you read through those reviews they're 98 99 positive but i think those reviews are still very important to me i want to take what these people say and i want to make it every time we do a secrets i want to take those comments and reapply it to whatever you know we're doing because if you took the time to do the survey to tell us what you feel that means something to me so i just wanted to acknowledge that i i do realize that i did not do as good a job as i could have i i acknowledge that and i think the context of that is you were struggling just to be there so maybe you didn't have as much mental capacity as you would to go then be social and smile and yeah put on a happy face agree um but honestly probably the most pool time i've ever had um i really enjoyed myself to be honest with you i didn't spend you probably spent more time in the cabana you know and people said to me they're like oh dan wasn't feeling good that's why he was so like quiet a little bit more reserved and quiet i'm like yeah he we were both on this struggle but yeah literally but we kind of just like made it work so i noticed that you were i was in the pool more you were in the cabana probably in the shade a little bit more trying to stay out of the heat i was yeah yeah i was struggling yeah for sure yeah like we didn't have quite as many pool games we didn't have you know it just i don't know it just was a it was a chiller vibe again i didn't hate it i agree um we hung out or at least i did hung out at the pool until about four um and you know what you have yet to mention which i don't know if this was on your list i did break out the magic wand you did on friday you did you did and you sat on the side of the pool and made girls come which is your favorite thing to do it probably is one of my favorite things to do so if you've never been to a swimmer society takeover we try to play pool games like lacy said and we did play i think one or two on friday um and really the point of that is the same as thursday night right it's to get people interacting um but one of the things i've noticed is the one of the things i like about secrets is it's a sexual environment right you can get naked you you can give blowjobs on the side of the pool you can fuck in the pool if you want um and that's the environment you're in but what i have noticed is people almost need permission for that like you almost have to ice break that yeah so people will kind of hang out and you know you might see a few people doing a little bit of things but if you if i break out the magic wand and then start making girls come all of a sudden like half the pool is fucking like it just it just raises that sexual energy in that environment yeah i agree so i look over there and dan's got girls on the side of the pool and they've got he's got a line going of girls wanting to come it was you know this time was interesting because in the past when i've done that it's usually just me now it's like other people will like borrow my toys and make their girlfriend come or what girls were using it on other girls and it was kind of it's kind of cool yeah it lesbian come, didn't you?
I did make one of the lesbians. Well, now they've changed their name. They're the Texas Lesbians. Couple, yeah. Couple. So we'll have to support there because we want to give them all the credit that they deserve. Right. At least on swingersociety.net, they are textless. And on social. Yeah, they have a Facebook and stuff, yeah. Yeah, so I got to make one of them come, which is fun. Yeah. Lots of girls. I just remember she stands out, so that's. Yeah, she does. So we went to the room, and it was time for, like, the room, get ready for the room crawl.
So normally I i try even though we're not officially a room girl i try really hard to help daphne she's you basically do it for daphne let's be honest you don't try to help her you order the decorations you come up with the theme you come up with you coordinate outfits with her she's just not very good at stuff like that baby i love her but i feel like i'm better i feel like we all do our things and she i do a better thing uh riding dick true my dick mostly but yeah yeah um and i i like doing and i i like doing it's fine i love anything with like a theme so she was i kind of just even let her decorate and everything and we laughed so hard at her decorating because she ordered everything from amazon she didn't check the dimensions or sizes on anything which is also me but i would have at least opened it before i got now i will say the idea she came up with was cute it was cute and ended up i we gave her major shit but it ended up being really adorable and people liked it so i apologize daphne for giving you shit over your dimensions of your items for your room crawl she had like a grass i don't know almost like astroturf like a tabletop but it was like it was like a six foot table and she had like three feet of grass yeah and like she ordered these like statues of like butts and boobs and stuff and like one was big and the rest were like i didn't see that but like one was like you know that big and the other like 12 inches and then the other ones were like two inches yeah um so and shortly after that the room crawl story of our life i know one 12 inch and a bunch of two inches yeah shortly after that the room crawl started and people started coming in so speaking of mentally exhausting things the room crawl yeah it was a lot's a lot.
And then let's add a little bit onto it. The caregiver who was taking care of my mom calls and says, I'm going to take your mom to the hospital. She needs to go. She's throwing up blood. And I was like, okay. So while. So little context, if this is the first time you've been listening to our podcast. You know, so Lacey's dad just died of kidney disease. But the reason that he lives in our house is because her mom, who was his primary caretaker, was diagnosed with stage four lung cancer.
And so it is terminal, but she's and, and we're not sure how long she has, but it's, so, you know, we've had both her mom and her dad, um, with health issues. And so when we go out of town, we hire basically a nurse to come in and stay with her mom.
And so the caregiver, while we were doing the room crawl, called and said that her mom was throwing up blood and needed to go to the emergency room yeah so they take her to the emergency room and then while we're in there my mom does not want to stay like she's like i'm going home i think that she just felt like to be honest with you i felt better her being in the hospital like there was i was not it's almost like she's trying to prove to you she doesn't that you can go and do things yeah and it will be okay yeah and that you don't have to worry about her so i think in her head yeah her being in the hospital she thought that you would be worried so she was basically trying to get out of the hospital as fast as she could so that you wouldn't have to worry about her which in her head which in reality i actually feel more confident with her being in the hospital because she's in the hospital there's doctors they're monitoring everything like she's way safer hooked to a bunch of monitors in the hospital with doctors around her than she is at home even with the caretaker but the caretaker is only there during the day and not at night yeah she's not 24 7 but my mom doesn't really mom doesn't really need 24-7 care.
But when she's in the hospital, she gets it. And that makes me feel better. So I'm, like, trying to convince my mother to stay, to just chill out. She's one of those people that, like, she wants to tell them what they're going to do. So, like, people are coming in and out. And there's, like, little breaks in between as people.
And I'm, like like trying to text and trying to call so it was the room crawling itself is extremely stressful and then you add in the fact that i'm like essentially arguing with my mother at the same time just added another layer of stress but there was fun part how about like when the two naked Yeah, so Boston, Joe, and He goes by Alex. Alex, which I'm not mad about.
But were sweaty and there was a lot going on and it was just as you're trying to text your mom to stay in the emergency room you get tackled by two naked guys i mean you can't make this shit up yeah no you can't um yeah and there's actually even picture i have a picture of that um yeah so text us at what if you want that picture oh the guys that are in it the funny thing is you actually had clothes on i had clothes on daphne was in it too yeah yeah i'm pretty sure daphne got our knees when sucking both their dicks at one point yeah she's a dirty slut yeah i don't know what all happened there it was it was a wild the room crawl is wild and it's funny because like they were telling people they were like you have to like if you're a newbie to secrets or a newbie to room crawls you really have to pace yourself you cannot go super hard there are several people that when they come to secrets for the first time and they do the room crawl for the first time, they do not make it back out after the room crawl.
Yeah, it's a lot. They don't end up going to the club Friday night because the room crawl took them out. Well, like most of the alcohol is like not the most expensive. It's all different flavors, different types. And you just. It's free during the room crawl. Yeah. So everyone drinks it all. It gets trashed and probably hasn't had dinner.
It's just, I don't know, it's free during the room crawl yeah so everyone drinks it all it gets trashed and probably hasn't had dinner it's just i don't know it's just a hot mess yeah but it was fun it was a good time yes so after the room crawl uh we got ready for the club and theme was pirate or what was it like sinful pirate or playful pirates which honestly was a pretty hard theme like you don't think pirates is hard but most pirates wear a lot of fucking clothes yeah and secrets was very hot this weekend and trying to look sexy in as little clothes as possible was quite challenging for me i bought like five outfits i mean i returned them all to amazon with the exception of like one thing that i didn't get back in time but um but it was i had a hard time yeah i didn't have a hard time but must be nice the funny thing is i ended up matching with the texas lesbian which you always do which me and her have matched like four times now.
Yes. Since we've been to like five events together, it's a ridiculous amount of times. It's hilarious. I love it. And I feel like I'm pretty good about not just like going on Amazon and ordering like a pirate costume. Yeah. Like I mix and match stuff. Yeah. So the fact that, I mean, we had the same shirt and the same shorts. Yeah. Exactly. And they didn't even go together. No.
No, they't even go together like you had to search different things to find them so it's pretty good it was pretty good um my outfit was very cute but it was extremely uncomfortable because it was a corset and my boobs were like falling out of the top and which is normally fine but we have wings of glory that comes and takes pictures of like the vip area so we have footage for y'all to see on social media we use it for ads all kinds of stuff we use it for promo videos my titties can't be out so i was fighting with them most of the night i also was not in a super good headspace because i was still going back and forth with my mother i just i don't know i just felt friday night thursday was great friday night i felt a little out of sorts like at one point i almost felt like i was panicking yeah in the vip i can recall that yeah yeah um mj who is um she is she's an only fans girl she's i've been so attracted to her for years and she only drinks water and so she had like a giant jug like bottle of water and she kept could tell that i wasn't okay she kept giving me water and like i very much appreciated it appreciated it it was like i needed that like a little bit of calm in the craziness we had dj life of spice yes in the club yes friday night always who always um rocks the show i don't know how you say that always always brings the energy yeah so it's good seeing him again yeah well what else friday uh there was just a lot going on i mean it was fun we i think we stayed and danced until like 1 a.m about 1 a.m yeah um you and i did not go and play in the playroom or in a room i think at some point you just said i'm done and i need to go to bed yeah i just i knew that i was not in a good headspace which i was like not that i we had actually spoke on the way down there about the swinging swapping situation like what our plans were if any and you had kind of let me lead that you were like i'll do whatever you want to do basically and my response to you was i don't know what that looks like let's just go and have fun well it's two one your headspace then two i felt like shit yeah and even though i mean like i said before i've been tested for all the things under the sun and was on antibiotics i wasn't worried about getting anybody you had already done a 10-day antibiotic yeah i wasn't worried about getting anybody else sick but i just didn't feel great yeah yeah um so you had basically was like if you want you know just let me know what you're thinking and i was like okay and so on this night i just wasn't you know feeling up to it and i was like i just want to go back to the room and that's what we did we did we fucked yeah so good i bet i rocked your world do you remember no i do think you got up on your toes and held that so uh in our in our the one thing i like about the room that we always get at secrets is that above the bed it has like a almost like an oh shit handle like a bar where you can hold that your hands so i think you did get up yeah on your toes and and use that bar yeah that's a good bar which i appreciate yeah um yeah we fucked and uh went to bed yeah and that was friday yes all right we're pretty much out of time yeah so i think you're gonna have to wait for a part two secrets to hear about what happened on saturday yeah spoiler alert we had some fun we did there might be a playroom there might be some sex some sex ended up yeah on saturday so you're gonna want to hear that part yes uh so to hear that uh stay tuned for next week okay um but definitely had a great time at secrets as always um kind of like you alluded to earlier our staff really you know there's always like fires that need to be put out in secrets you know it's raining on the 360 camera or some so-and-so's room has a water leak or there's no hot water or you know there's always something i can't think of a something that went wrong they just handled it right and if there was something that went wrong i didn't know about it yeah we i don't i think i was checked out i was just kind of in survival mode so i don't think that even if anything would have happened i would have realized it but they did a very good job of like just allowing us to just be there and do as little as possible which i very much appreciate right so mandy diana yeah nicole yeah all their spouses yes all their friends all of our friends all the discord staff yes um we appreciate you guys yeah really really did not go without being noticed yes how much you guys stepped up if we didn't there say thank you enough please hear it and accept it you know thank you so much for allowing us that time yes all right i think with that in a world apples, be the pineapple.
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