Send us Fan MailThe Swing Nation PodcastReal-Life Swinger Stories: Holiday Special 2021 | Episode 19In this swinger podcast episode, Dan and Lacy reflect on the holiday and the year they ve had. They talk family holiday traditions and their favorite toys as children, and some of the adult toys they play with now. They discuss big plans for the 2022 New Year and take this time to appreciate where they are now! _______________ - The Swing Nation - Main Website Quick Navigation Website: -- (Find all our social media links more!) Follow us on Facebook! The Podcast Website_______________ - Swinger Society - Our Website to meet, connect events Swinger Society Discord Our Facebook Group_______________ - Swinger Websites - SDCUsername: TheSwingNation** Use code 36313 for 14 days free! ** SLSUsername: NorthernGuynSouthernGirl_______________ - Merch More - The Swing Nation Merch The Swinger Pride Flags Swinger Society Merch_______________ - Lacy’s Fun Links - VIP OnlyFans PREMIUM OnlyFans _______________ -- THANK YOU TO OUR SPONSORS -- Shameless Care: ED Medication and at home STD testingUse Code TSN at checkout for $30 off your order! Promescent® Make Love Longer, It’s Time for Great SexUse Code SwingNation for 5% off! Pinaq Liqueur; The Official Drink of The Swing NationUse Code TSN at checkout for 15% off! Non-monogamy Couples Course and Single Guy Mastery CourseUse Code ATLANTA for 50% off!Support the show- Thank you for the support! -
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Speaker1: This podcast is intended for adult audiences. Over the age of 18, it contains adult language and situations. The views, thoughts, and opinions expressed in this podcast belong solely to us, and not of any employer, organization, committee, or other group or individuals. This podcast is not intended to be taken as professional advice. welcome to the swing nation podcast a podcast by swingers for swingers where we look to educate Speaker2: others and push back on the negative stigmas and misconceptions associated with our lifestyle come with us and share our pineapple journey as we travel the globe interview the experts learn and grow together join the nation hey there pineapple people and welcome to the swing nation podcast we are your host northern guy and southern girl and in uh today's episode uh, we're going to talk a little bit about Christmas and the holiday tradition since today is Christmas. It's actually Christmas. It is Christmas morning and we actually have a kid-free morning, so we're sitting down to record a podcast because that's our life. Yeah, it is. Well, truth be told, my mom was supposed to come over and record a podcast which is merry christmas so which is still um gonna happen but we just it's christmas there's a lot going on and just in case we don't get to that we wanted to at least be able to get out a podcast this week so we went ahead and recorded while we had time yeah it sounds like we might run over there this afternoon and do it okay awesome yeah so so know that that's coming uh and then another thing we're talking about is our favorite toys both uh i think maybe we'll touch on some children's toys that we liked as kids and then uh maybe some more interested in the adult toys you're more interested in that we used one last night yeah we'll talk about that a little bit yeah uh and then i think we're going to go over some of the blessings that we've had. Speaker1: It's been a good year. Speaker2: In the last year. And maybe some of the blessings we're looking forward to sharing and continuing for the next year. And then we'll hit on some of our 2022 plans. Speaker3: Yeah. Speaker2: Because we've got a lot. We've got a lot going on. Speaker3: Yes. Speaker2: A lot in the works. Speaker3: We do. We do. Speaker1: And so we'll talk a little bit about secrets, a little bit about Naughty in New Orleans, and some of the big things happening in our life. Okay. Perfect. Let's do it. And then that should wrap it up. Mm-hmm. Right? It's crazy. It's Christmas. It is crazy. It's Christmas morning. How did this year fly by? And we're sitting here and doing a podcast. It seems like just yesterday we were like, should we make an OnlyFans fans should we make a um cam site like right that's kind of where all this started like where should we we wanted to do something we wanted an outlet we didn't know where to go and it's so crazy that it's now christmas day and we're sitting here on tiktok live recording a podcast yeah and like all the things that we've accomplished it's really it's really incredible yeah that is i'm very proud of us you mentioned it so some of you are actually on tiktok live watching us right now record this so hi guys shout out to tiktok hello um you know i don't know what's going to happen because depending on what we talk about they may or may may not stay with us. I did just say OF, so it may go down. So start with Christmas traditions. So what was a lacy childhood Christmas like? Can you go over that a little bit? Well, we've talked about this. We even talked about it a little bit last night. In my family, Santa Claus's toys were always left unopened, and they out so like when you woke up you run into the living room and everything that was open and unwrapped was from Santa so immediately you went and you're like oh my god I got this and you know and so like you could immediately see what you got from Santa Claus and then once like everything kind of calmed down from that we opened gifts and the gifts that we open were from our parents um and i still do that and that's been a thing between you and i because you didn't do it that way right yeah so when i was a kid santa gift just came wrapped and said from santa on them it wasn't it wasn't all open like like yours are so that's that's different to me but i guess i don't know is that a is that a southern thing is that how everybody does it i don't know i don't know but i mean like i feel like i know people that rap like here in the south i know people that rap christmas presents from santa yeah i don't know i just kind of i always loved running into the room and seeing the stuff like it was like oh my god and because especially because i had brothers and sisters so it was like whose pile was whose you know like trying you would obviously go to where your stocking was okay so and it had your name on it so um that's how we knew whose presents were whose but i can remember that excitement of running into the room yeah so it's like all at once it wasn't like a because i know in my house that you know everything is wrapped and the way our tradition worked out is you come down christmas morning um and all the you know the presents would be under the tree so you could kind of get an idea because there's names on the tags and stuff of what's yours so you're scoping out what's yours but uh we were only allowed to open our stocking and we couldn't wake up our parents we were allowed we could instantly open our stocking um and then we had to wait for our parents to get up we had to eat breakfast oh and then after breakfast we were allowed to open presents so ours was we had to and i do the same thing with my son now he had he has to come get me and then we together go into the living room and he can christmas stocking all of that is free reign and then we kind of yeah like we have breakfast we get everybody gets settled get our trash bags we get you know into our seats and then we open gifts which is actually really worked out for me because I um here I'm the only child with a child, so I'm the only locally. Okay, yeah. So my son is the only grandchild locally. So my parents come over, so we open all of our gifts with our parents. So my parents see my son opening all of his stuff. So he has something to do with his Santa stuff until they get here. Yeah. So, what about, I know in our house, the night before Christmas Eve, we were allowed to open one gift. And actually, when my kids were little, I don't think we did this, but I think it might be from my ex-wife's tradition, but Santa would always leave PJs on the porch. Oh, I like that. sometime in the night there would be a knock at the door the doorbell would ring or something and then you open the door and there's pjs that are wrapped for you know for christmas eve sometimes i've let my son open a present um but we don't have like a tradition to do that or anything yeah we always did it and it was you know obviously there's no santa presents yet so it was always like the an aunt or an uncle or you know yeah so we kind of figure out like which aunt gave the best presents and like always try you know of course we're always trying to find like the biggest best one to open first you know stuff like that yeah i like it you like it it's weird how everybody does it a little different it is it is weird but uh and then you get married and you blend the two and make your own i think that's pretty cool it is it is so merry christmas Merry christmas and to everybody out there they're listening and whether you know you celebrate christmas or you know hanukkah or any other you know happy holidays yes and merry christmas and we are super thankful for everybody listening and i know for us you know people know we've had a hard week this week the last couple weeks have been kind of tough on us um we're we're very thankful for everybody out there that has supported us and i think christmas if anything it's kind of grounded us a little bit made us remember like all this tiktok podcast all this you know like really truly doesn't matter what's important is me and you and the kids and yeah um so i think we kind of in our relationships that we have formed with people yeah yeah i think we kind of regrounded ourself a little bit um we have this week with some of that yes and please excuse my voice i'm on the process of getting over being sick and now dan is in the process of getting sick so next week i'm sure he'll sound as bad as i do right now so yeah but all right so moving on favorite toys um i think we'll start with children's toys so is there a certain toy you remember as a child that was like you had to have was it um probably just barbies i can't remember getting like a barbie flip and fun house or something and it kind of like a little jingle and stuff and i can remember my like on the commercial the the whole thing was you just go flip and you can like put it up oh yeah and it just like slides into your bed and i can remember my dad saying that isn't true because he like it took him like three hours to put it together and of course we have like two because i had a sister i had a younger sister and so i had one and she had one so but yeah i mean we always wanted anything barbie yeah so for me when i was young young it was gi joe's were the thing oh um and then as i got older it turned into ninja turtles was was the thing i don't know were you ever into ninja turtles i mean i like the shows and the movies and i was a ninja turtle for halloween once but but you didn't have any of the figurines so we had all the little figurines we'd play with them
Speaker2:
and i remember i did get the turtle bus one year and that was a pretty you know the having the actual bus for them to ride in and stuff which is so funny yeah it is funny like how do you remember yeah kids nowadays don't really play with figurines and you know most of their toys are digital i think they are yeah but um uh yeah it was definitely ninja turtles gi joe's i think was
Speaker1:
We'll see you next time. days don't really play with figurines and you know most of their toys are digital i think they are yeah uh yeah it was definitely ninja turtles gi joe's i think was my my thing yeah oh then once i got older yeah we got nintendo and started getting into some of that i don't think i can remember asking so this is like a funny story my parents didn't have a lot when i was little and i can remember i wanted a boom box um that was like the thing like the new ones so it was probably like the early 90s so it was like the round boom box like with the handles you know all i wanted was a boom box and this is like before cd so it was a tape and i wanted the bodyguard a soundtrack so i that's all i asked for and i was so excited because like all my friends had these cute like bubbly boom boxes and stuff and i can remember going in my parents room like a few days before christmas and i was like poking around and i found it they did buy me one however they got it at a pawn shop and it was like a square like one of the ones from the 80s that you put on your shoulder, you know? And I was so disappointed. I was, like, heartbroken because all I wanted was, like, cute little bubbly boom box. Right. And I got this big, giant square one that they got at the pawn shop. I did get the body, um, what's that movie called? Bodyguard? The Bodyguard, yeah. I did get that soundtrack. And I got Bone Thugs-N-H thugs in harmony too nice um but i had to like prepare myself for like the next two days so that way when i opened it christmas morning that i wouldn't be disappointed like i could like practice like my surprise face like i love it even though deep down i was just like so sad because i knew all my friends were getting these like bubbly um boom boxes and i had this big square one which obviously first world problems i should have just been grateful that i had it but i was like a pre-teen brat you know i mean we've all been there right well i think that is something worth noting i didn't neither one of us came from you know we're not from rich family no not at all we grew up pretty modest uh and so but despite that i think i don't remember ever being i mean sure like maybe you know i wanted one thing and didn't get that but christmas was always oh always yeah even that i mean i still got what i wanted i was just being a pre-teen brat and wanted you know right which probably ended up spending probably close to the same amount of money and probably got me a better one than the one i wanted but um but yeah no i mean my all my christmas memories are really really good yeah which i think you know it kind of i think we get caught up in the stuff sometimes you know i mean and in reality it's it's all relative yeah it's really more about the memories than it really is about the stuff for For sure. Yeah. All right. So, that's kid toys. So, G.I. Joes and Ninja Turtles and Barbie dolls and boom boxes. What are some of your favorite adult toys now that you're a grown person? By far, I have a favorite toy. What's Lacey's? You know what my favorite is. I have no idea. You are lying through your teeth. What could be your favorite toy? I have no idea. I love the good old-fashioned wand. And not just any wand. Not just any wand. The white and the blue one with the cord. Like, it's got to have, like, for real juice. Like, not Charged. Like, the one with, like, the motor in it i don't know is yours a hitachi yeah it is a hitachi yeah so we i'm actually i won one at secrets um a wand um if you go back a few yeah i won it and it's like an off-brand i mean it looks really cute it's very like pleasant to look at toy but it does not have the motor it does not have the no it is a wireless it's a it is a wireless um so i'm just saying men if you want to buy your wife a valentine's gift because now we've passed christmas if you're listening to this christmas just just splurge it's like 150 but damn is it good and the funny story is is i've had that for years i've had that toy since before you and i met i was actually a unicorn and someone bought that toy for me yeah yeah it is um by far your favorite i think and uh uh for lots of different reasons like it's a great solo toy but if you want to we'll just say coffee because we are on tiktok live so i have to be careful with what we say but if you are having coffee with your partner and you use that wand in conjunction with that coffee it's a whole nother level yeah we did that last night we did so we the wand stays That's it. wand in conjunction with that coffee it's a whole nother level yeah we did that last night we did so we the one stays at my house um i usually don't travel with it i don't take it to your house and you're not at my house a ton you are here often i mean like every month or two right yeah so i kind of do that on purpose because if we had coffee like that every single time, I would not enjoy regular coffee anymore. You know, like it's like that extra espresso shot. And if you get an espresso shot every single time, you can't go back to regular coffee. So we, we save that for times when we don't have to be quiet when there's no kids in the house. It is by far my favorite. Yeah. Like, I beg you for it. Well, that's, I mean, we did that last night. And you were making some noises that I don't know if I've ever even heard before. There was some demon-like sounds coming out of your... It just takes it to another level. It does i mean ladies if you have not done that just just put it on the credit card it's worth it it's worth the interest buy it uh okay so but to be fair that's not you know the hitachi by far is your favorite but you've you've probably tried a good number of toys oh yeah um and you know your amazon my amazon wish list yeah buy you a lot so any other notable or do you want to talk about some of the other ones you've tried and um the rose i've tried the rose i liked it um so which people anybody that doesn't know the rose is kind of this it's almost like a newer thing right these suction toys be careful you're on live yeah yeah um yeah um you have to get it just in the right spot that one is just big enough that you just just it's just there it's just there you don't got to work very hard yeah the rows you have to get it perfectly positioned yeah yeah um and i mean well yeah i have all kinds of toys um but none none of them hold a candle to that one so the one is one is your favorite yeah like we should probably invest in a second one to give you your yeah uh or i should add one to my wish list and someone else buy it for me i don't have you know from the male perspective i don't have much experience with male toys. Well, you know, the one, they sell
Speaker3:
attachments for men. me i don't have you know from the male perspective i don't have much experience with male toys well
Speaker1:
you know um the one they sell attachments for men did you know that that doesn't sound like i don't know for me as a guy i've never enjoyed it vibrating anything you know yeah but some guys do we've talked to guys that have and actually so the guy who bought that one for me was a single guy in the lifestyle and he bought he had one and he bought the mail attachment and it's basically like a sleeve a silicone sleeve that you slide yeah and tracking okay yeah um and you leave it up and then you just yeah i just don't get what the vibrating part i don't either i can see what the sleeve part does i just don't understand what the vibrate the vibrating for me personally hasn't really added anything to it but yeah maybe it's but some guys do i've i've definitely heard that yeah yeah i have tried some of the other um the rings no the yeah the sleeve type oh you have things yeah the problem with me is always all
Speaker2:
i mean they're fun but it's also messy you know i mean like yeah like to clean it and keep them you know like i don't know you just rather use your hand yeah i think that's always you know old faithful has always done me well i don't really need much much else you know yeah yeah but uh that's just me so we want more wands is what i'm hearing more wands and i
Speaker3:
Thank you. I don't really need much else, you know. Yeah. Yeah. But that's just me.
Speaker2:
So we want more wands is what I'm hearing.
Speaker4:
More wands.
Speaker1:
And I kind of like the idea. I actually have one that we haven't even opened yet. The toys that you can put in you and then you can control.
Speaker3:
Oh, yeah.
Speaker2:
The Lush or whatever is that?
Speaker1:
Yeah, we need to explore that a little bit more. I think that would be fun. That would be fun. It would be fun, in my opinion, in public to. Oh, yeah. The Lush or whatever is that? Yeah, we need to explore that a little bit more. I think that would be fun.
Speaker2:
That would be fun. It would be fun, in my opinion, in public to...
Speaker1:
Oh, for sure.
Speaker3:
Yeah.
Speaker1:
We could probably make a TikTok out of that.
Speaker2:
Yeah, I've seen some of those TikToks.
Speaker1:
Like where the girl falls in the floor?
Speaker2:
Well, they just show the remote, right? And then they show the girl.
Speaker3:
Yeah.
Speaker2:
I'm surprised they get away with that.
Speaker1:
I can see how you can get away with that. It's implied. It's not like in your face.
Speaker3:
That's kind of...
Speaker2:
Put that on a burner account yeah no no no 90 000 accounts yeah so what any other i you know we're talking about toys toys but what about you know tied up or uh what about you want to talk about the swing or any of those kind of toys we do have a swing i don't really like it to be honest with you um if you go to secrets
Speaker1:
they have a lot of the swings that are like leather like um almost like where the almost like a little hammock you know i mean correct like where the girl like lays her back down and i really really like those i'm all about those there was one at hito too wasn't there yeah there's one at Hedo in the... Yeah, I really like that. The sewing that we have is like a... Strappy. It's very strappy. And it takes a lot of... In order to not be pulling and like... You have to use a lot of upper body strength to hold yourself in a position so that way you're not like hanging a bit and it hurts it's not super comfy yeah the times we've used it it seems like you can use it for a little bit then the straps kind of start to cut into you yeah it almost becomes more um work just trying to keep my body in the right position that any that i can't enjoy it but definitely we definitely should invest in one because i love a swing i love that rocking mode that it's very hot i'm all about that um we just the one that we have just isn't very comfy right it's very like almost it's not a rope but it's like a nylon strap yeah no thank you but it feels like rope against your skin when you are your your weight is on it yeah gotcha and a funny story about our our swing dan hung it when i wasn't there trying to be like sweet for it oh yeah for me okay i didn't know where you're going with this but now i do and so he hung it above the bed which in his mind he could like stand on the bed and do it and it was horrible i think in my mind you could be like i could stand on the edge of the bed right and so you would be kind of over the bed but just above it you know like it didn't turn out that way well it's because those ceilings are high so you can't lower that you know i mean the straps are long standing on the bed right and like the mattress is like right and then like to do it like i'm really like on the edge of the bed, like teetering on the standing on the bed. Right. And, like, the mattress is, like, dipping.
Speaker2:
And then, like, to do it, like, I'm really, like, on the edge of the bed. Like, teetering on the edge of the bed.
Speaker1:
It was just a hot mess.
Speaker3:
Yeah.
Speaker1:
It was a good, in theory.
Speaker4:
Although, I have some.
Speaker3:
Execution.
Speaker2:
Have you seen it in the TikToks where they show just the eye bolt in the ceiling?
Speaker1:
Yeah, those are good.
Speaker2:
And, like, if you know, you know. We should do one of those.
Speaker1:
We have an eye bolt in the ceiling. So, yeah, we do know. Ours just, it just didn't work out very well.
Speaker3:
Yeah. Yeah.
Speaker2:
The engineering wasn't the best.
Speaker3:
No.
Speaker1:
We'll be right back. an eyeball in the ceiling so yeah we do know ours just it just didn't work out very well yeah yeah the the uh the engineering wasn't the best no we can fix it i mean yeah yeah that's easy fix yeah but i just don't like the swing i mean honestly i just it's not very comfortable yeah uh well have you tried have you ever tried any of those shock toys i don't think i've ever had any experience with those have you i've seen no seen those. No. But now we did try, which is worth mentioning. What's it called? We did it at that hotel takeover. Oh, the Sibian. Yes. Ladies. Well. If you have an opportunity to use that. Yeah. So the Sibian is almost like a Hitachi saddle, right? Yeah. So we went to a hotel takeover and they had it like in a room and you could go in. it was actually like you would think that would be like i don't know they did it very well like you were kind of in the corner i think they used one of the bathrooms right yeah they had an attendant who cleaned it and got it all ready and i got on it and i was done for the night it did ruin you it ruined me for the night i was ready to go to bed yeah get my pjs on yeah and it wasn't you weren't on there for five minutes and you were done i was done it was yeah it was it worked and it worked very well yeah and what what's the other one there's another one um where it can actually have a thrusting motion too i don't know i don't even know what motion it did it worked i can tell you that uh motor motor bunny i think oh i don't know i think i've heard motor bunny and i think they sponsor some of the other podcasters but uh i think we need to work on that yeah i think it's the same as a sibian except for talk about a good sponsor right i think the toy itself can move up and down as well i don't know i don't know what was moving but it moved right it moved the right way yes it did uh yeah those are expensive they're like several thousand dollars yeah but i mean could be worth the investment you know for content and things for my house when you're not home yeah you'd have to keep that at my house probably no no but doesn't it sound like they sound like a sound like a freaking letter. It sounds like a, yeah. I've heard the newer ones are better, but yeah, some of the original ones, it sounds like an airplane taking off when you turn that thing up. Yeah, that's funny. Could you imagine having that in your room and your kids, like, hearing it? Like, what is that? Molly, what are you doing? Nothing. I'm vacuuming. Yeah. That's funny. Yeah, that's not, it's not a very discreet toy, that's for sure. No. Even my wand is not is not so i mean that thing's got a motor in it there's been a few times where i've been playing with it and my son's walked in and i've been like you know like having to quickly put it up yeah that could be a lot it's not the easiest thing to hide yeah no it's that big if you're on TikTok Live. It's a big.
Speaker3:
Okay. Any other toys worth any honorable mentions?
Speaker1:
Nope.
Speaker3:
Yeah.
Speaker2:
You've probably tried just about all of them.
Speaker3:
There's not too many. There's some of those robot thrusty things.
Speaker2:
You know, what are those called?
Speaker3:
I've seen the videos where it's just a.
Speaker1:
Oh, yeah. I've never tried those.
Speaker3:
I don't think. Yeah.
Speaker4:
I don't know anybody that has one of those.
Speaker3:
No. All right. I'm down for it, though. So, you know, it I don't think. Yeah. I don't know anybody that has one of those. No. All right.
Speaker1:
I'm down for it, though.
Speaker2:
So, you know, it's Christmas, and that's your toy wish list?
Speaker1:
No, my toy wish list has been fulfilled.
Speaker2:
Well, you said Simeon, though.
Speaker3:
Oh, yeah.
Speaker2:
Or maybe a Motor Bunny.
Speaker1:
Yeah, yeah.
Speaker2:
Motor Bunny, if you're listening, reach out. We might have to work something out.
Speaker1:
Yeah, we will work it out. I think one of the podcasts, the Motor Bunny sponsors them, and they actually did, like, an episode audio. It was pretty hot. Oh, I bet that is hot. Yeah. Anyway. All right. So now we're moving on to some of the feeling blessed and blessings that we've had over this year. Yeah. I mean, we actually had this conversation a few nights ago because this year has been so crazy. I mean, like, mean like we've been really this week has been a very good reflection week for us just because we have had some issues and just some real life just feelings and so we've had to kind of like take a step back and like look at what we're doing and look at what's important and stuff and it's kind of crazy that we just up and decided hey let's make a tiktok and now here we are on a podcast that's been super successful we have friends that are cheering us on um we've made great connections it's just we're super blessed it is we have employees yeah we do we do have uh employees now which is also crazy yeah who would have thought you and i making a tiktok without our faces in it and eight months nine months later here we are yeah uh it is weird like you said to think of that that you know i mean i don't know i always say the wrong time frame but what what has it been 10 months we started in may april may so it's i don't know however many months that is if i start counting on my fingers people are gonna laugh at me so yeah that's uh eight months yeah okay yeah
Speaker2:
so yeah eight months it's pretty to go from let's do this to where we're at now is to go from
Speaker1:
completely private swingers to where we are now is very insane um yeah so what i don't We'll see you next time. Let's do this to where we're at now. To go from completely private swingers to where we are now is very insane. It's been a rollercoaster. We were on TikTok Live talking about this a little bit. And people were saying, how do you feel when you go to clubs? How do you feel when you go out and do public events? Do you get noticed places? What would be your response to all that?'s twofold part of me is so proud right i look like we were at the theater group and there was a very private moment for dan and i and i looked at him we're on the dance floor dancing to some slow song i don't remember which one but and well let me back up let me tell like a little bit let me tell a backstory okay so when we first decided to go onto tiktok dan was like let's create a movement yeah that was your thing dan was like let's create a movement let's break down the stigma of swinging let's do this we could be the faces of this we could do this and i thought you were batshit crazy like i'm not gonna deny it i was like you are insane like well i'm not gonna deny that I am batshit crazy either though so you have to be batshit crazy to do what we do but no honestly I was like fuck a movement I mean like I'm just I'm gonna be super real y'all I was not on board at first I was like if that's not our place who are we Dan and Lacey some random singer couple who are we to create a movement you know like and this is before we ever even posted our first tiktok this is just you and i private conversation however i've learned to trust your inhibition intuitions or okay guys i always say the wrong. You know what I mean? I've learned to trust you. Right. I've kind of learned to let you lead and just kind of take the reins because you haven't led me astray. So fast forward, we were at the theater group, and it was a slow song, and we were dancing. And I looked at you, and I said, this is a movement. We did this. Yeah, and I think i think you know and that was definitely a full circle moment right if you've listened to our podcast you know when we started out we started this because it seemed like the logical way to get more clicks to only fans you know from the research we had done but it very very quickly turned from that into there are a lot of people out there that that are thirsting for information 30 days did we go from let's make a tiktok because we want to have only things subscribers to wow we can really help a lot of people yeah i mean very very quickly did it change and we've really been on that train ever since does the does the clicks on the other website help pay for this absolutely right they pay for all of this equipment right um so that helps us be able to get our message out but it's it's just it's really crazy how much our mission has changed throughout this yeah no it is and it's it's crazy it's crazy to me how quickly you know we got put in that position you know i mean that people look to us now to lead and you know everybody it's very humbling it's very like even when i say we have employees it's it's hard for me to like it's very odd like i when i go to walmart and i'm you know i'm just your average girl right you know there's nothing about me that's extraordinary there's nothing about me that is puts me apart from any other girl at walmart most time i've got my hair on top of my head and sweatpants on but there is something but so it's just it's just very weird it's a very weird feeling to know that this is the life that we are now living it's very odd it's very odd to go to clubs and people will be like oh my god it's it's a very strange i hope it never feels comfortable yeah you know like i hope that it it never feels like like we should expect it because right now it feels very like unnatural yeah well and i will say you know without getting into too much of the details there there have been some bad things said about us over the last couple weeks specifically and some of those things were you know you guys are just using the lifestyle to to get popular you know you guys you know you've got this podcast now and you think you think you're special you think you're you think you know like somebody even said they met us and they we felt like they felt like we were too good for them and that really that one stung that one song because we really don't feel like we're special we try really really hard if we meet anyone to be kind and so that hurts my heart that somebody felt that way yeah and i'm with you that i really hope it doesn't you know it is hard because our time is there's a lot of demand on our time there is and so you know when you're at an event and there's hundreds of people and if if a bunch come up to you it can be hard to have a personal conversation with every single person um i think we want to i mean that would be ideal i mean i think we've tried to do that as much as as possible but uh and balancing having a fun time and being regular real life swingers like that's what we really are and having this platform and having people there that are wanting to meet us so like balancing the two is a very very hard um because sometimes it is nice to just go and and just have fun with our friends yeah um so yeah so some of those comments did sting yeah but if anything it kind of helped us like okay let's like look inward let's make sure that we're not doing those things and um so we're gonna just gonna use it in stride and move forward and uh i guess we'll rely on our friends out there to keep us in check yeah and you know who you are yeah um you know people that we've known in the lifestyle for years if you guys ever think feel like we're please tell us straying from who we are, please tell us.
Speaker2:
Yeah, please let us know.
Speaker1:
Because it's hard.
Speaker3:
It's hard.
Speaker1:
I'm not going to, like, sit here and sugarcoat it. When you do walk in a place and people are like, lazy day, lazy day.
Speaker3:
You know what I mean?
Speaker1:
Like, it's weird. You know, it's weird. It's definitely different.
Speaker2:
So keep us in check, friends.
Speaker1:
Keep us in check.
Speaker2:
All right. And I think part of, you know, this whole movement, this whole thing uh we want to pass it forward right um we're not really here to make money like we don't you know not that we're making a bunch of money but uh yeah i mean we've kind of you know if you listen to the lsc podcast the whole idea of raising money for charities and bringing awareness to other groups and organizations i I really feel very passionate about that. That is really your baby. I will give you that. You really. Me, maybe I'm a little bit more selfish. But no, I mean, like, I just don't think about it. It's not that I don't want to help. I absolutely want to help. It's just something that's on your mind. And so I'm very grateful. That's why we balance each other out. Yeah. So, you know, we've've talked about this a little bit but we're going to continue to do that so you know looking forward to 2022 and the new year um as we continue to have events and do things we're always going to try to find a charity that's the local to the event so um you know for the secrets event there's a charity called help now and they assist women and children who are survivors of domestic violence. So it's a shelter. It's a safe place for them to go and seek shelter to get away from their abusers. So we're partnering with Secrets for that event to raise money for them. And we're going to continue to do that, I think, for every event. So when we go to Naughty New Orleans, we'll try to find something. And the reason that we're doing that is to show that swingers are not just about hooking up and partying and having a great time that like we are all very kind loving people that usually all have decent jobs and do well for ourselves and really we just want to give back and show a different side of swingers which is why we started the t tock why we started all of this in the first place is to just show a different perspective and so the charity just kind of goes hand in hand with that yeah and uh you know it swingers truly are like truly are some of the nicest kindest most accepting uh people out there you know all races all all um sexual identities all you know political parties um when you go to a swinging event it really just becomes getting to know people for who they are getting to you know share and experience other people not for what they do or what they have it's really just getting to know someone for their personality and i think it's because generally speaking swingers hide who they really are right so you don't know what job they have you don't know what their social status is you don't know what their political party is you don't all you know is hey here's this person that's here at this event and and i want to get to know them right and so i think on lots of levels that's yeah especially on lots of levels but i think that's it's a very it's a unique thing i think about this community that that you know nobody is running around trying to flaunt you know who they are what they have um and i think you know using that same community to try to you know raise money for charities and bring awareness to these other organizations that are out there that are doing amazing things. I think especially, you know, in these times that we live in these days, I think it's important. And so we're going to continue to do that. So we do have a GoFundMe set up. So if you go to our website, theswingnation.net, which Dan will have linked in the show notes, there is our GoFundMe is linked there. So if you want to give directly that way, you can. Yeah, so I'll give specific. So if you go to the swingnation.net, go to the events page, and you'll find out all the information for Secrets. But underneath that, there's a link that says, you know, check out Help Now, which is the organization that we're raising money for. Click on that. You can find the GoFundMe you can find their their website so if you you know if you want to research them themselves make sure it's a good organization that you feel comfortable donating to by all means go check out their website read on them i promise you we've done a lot of research um they they are very legitimate um i'm very excited for our help organization yeah yeah um and then you can also if you prefer not to give on the gofundme you can
Speaker1:
do venmo or cash app we do have those listed on the website as well just put um help now in the comments so we know exactly where it goes yeah and um and then we get to secrets we've got some fun little things for secrets so if you are actually going to come and be with us at secrets um we're going to raffle off quite a few items we're still kind of in the process of getting
Speaker2:
Thank you. little things for Secrets. So if you are actually going to come and be with us at Secrets, we're going to raffle off quite a few items. We're still kind of in the process of getting some of them worked out. However, Frederick and Barbie. Shout out to Frederick and Barbie. Amazing people. And Secrets are so kind. When we told them our plan for. They're their owners, just to be clear. They are the owners. When we told them our plan for the charity without asking we did not ask for anything they came back and gave a five night stay at secrets valued at a thousand dollars and then it's got to be at least a thousand yeah yeah um and then a gift basket from the shop if you've been to secrets secrets, they have this like boutique shop on premises that has like some toys, some cute outfits and stuff like that. So they were giving a basket valued at at least $400. So while we're at secrets, we're also going to sell raffle tickets, um, and, and give those two things away. And I know some of the other swing talk creators are working on some things. I've heard some stuff from Cassidy, maybe. I think Three Fun and Cassidy. I think Kylie was saying that they've donated some stuff. Yeah, so if you're going, we would love – if you'd rather wait and hold your donations and buy raffle tickets there. It's too hard to sell raffle tickets online. Right, we're not going to try to keep track of that. gotta come yeah you gotta come so that's exciting it's super exciting thank you frederick and barbie yeah thank you frederick and barbie yeah and every all the swing talk people that are working to get all this together you know we kind of come up with this last minute you know for christina's birthday party and then it kind of we all kind of decided to make it a swing talk thing and then you know me being the super ambitious guy i am kind of threw some of this other stuff at them and the swing talk group has been excellent at supporting us and and really taking on the challenge of doing all this yeah in in not a lot of time so we we appreciate um all all of you swing talk people out there that are helping us um yeah make all this happen yeah i'm really looking forward to secrets um a little nervous but very much excited to do good work to meet our friends meet our followers um raise money for charity um frederick and barbie will be there and hopefully we can interview them for our podcast i'm not making any more promises it seems like every time we say we're going to interview somebody, we promise the trapeze. We promise trapeze, which is still in the works. We promise my mom, which is still in the works. So I'm not jinxing any more interviews. We're working on them, guys. To be determined. SDC also sent you a bunch of stuff to give away. So we got T-shirts and hats and and fans and what do you call those wrap things sarongs sarongs we have all kinds of stuff so if you're coming to secrets just leave some room in your suitcase right we got some we got some stuff for you we got stuff for you so we'll be we'll be playing games we'll be giving away stuff we'll be raffling stuff uh you know we'll be doing q and a's uh i think the there there is a dungeon there at secrets they're gonna hold some kind of demonstration for for ropes yeah we're really trying to make it a good weekend um this is really our first who else is saying that we saw um on tiktoks another another swing talk person's coming yeah i can't remember her name but they've been around for a while. I can't remember her name, but she said she's coming, yeah. Yeah, like a lot of people are coming, guys. Like way more than little old Lacey and Dan. Yeah, and I think the last time I checked out the list, the rooms are booking up fast. So you want to go to theswingnation.net. I'm surprised there's some left. Yeah, I think there's mostly outside rooms that are left. And this is a few days ago checked. So we're going to have our our T-shirts there. Right. We'll have T-shirts. We'll have we're going to have the flags. So the count came in. You guys all like the pastel pineapple on the pink and white background for a swinger flag. So good job. Dan designed that. I'm proud of you. So that was all Dan. Dan's got the good ideas. I just i just look cute dan's got the brains uh so yeah we're gonna start pushing that uh flag and if if you want a swinger flag uh reach out to us um probably maybe we'll see if meg can get it on the website and we can just keep some in stock for people to order yeah we do have we do have some but i don't you know we're not trying to profit off that flag really what i want want is a flag that represents our community. So if you want the PDF or whatever, the JPEG image to make your own flag. Or we can send you the website so you can buy it. I will give it to anybody that wants it. And I really just want that to become a symbol of this community because I think we need that. I think, you know, all lots of other communities have a symbol. And I think, you know, having a flag and a symbol that we can all rally behind is a good idea so uh you can email us at the swing nation at gmail.com if you'd like to have that um svg pdf whatever i need to take some pictures with that flag jpeg yeah you do need to take some pictures with that flag if you know what i mean but it's a cool flag so it's got the it's cool it's got the rainbow explain it yeah yeah so i'll go over it a little bit so it's a it's a upside down. It is cool. It's got the rainbow. Explain it. Tell them about the colors. Yeah, so I'll go over it a little bit. So it's an upside-down pineapple, which, you know. For obvious reasons. Right. So I don't know. I'll explain the pineapple thing real quick. So a pineapple is a sign of hospitality. So if you go back in the day when you used to have to sail across the ocean to the Caribbean to get a pineapple, they used to be super, super expensive. So it became a sign of hospitality to give your guests a pineapple because they were so rare and so expensive. You know, it was a good gift to give somebody, right? It was a very, very giving gift, you know, very hospitable gift. So swingers have kind of adopted that because, you know, if you're going to, if sharing a pineapple with somebody is something that's very valued and very important than than sharing your spouse or sharing your partner with somebody um you know it's a it's a good symbol for something that means a lot to you and it's very valuable to you so that's that's the pineapple or the the basics you know kind of the backstory on the pineapple so we got the upside down pineapple and it has the lgbtq flag you know the rainbow flag colors in the pineapple but kind of a pastel color right because i don't know that's because that's what you guys liked yeah um but you know really representing that our community is made up of all the other communities you know right that you know within the swinger community you're going to find lots of other communities whether it's lgbtq or or poly or you know there's it's just every every other group you know different kinks and all that stuff are all within our community so that's kind of what that represents and then the background of the flag goes from my voice going from white to pink and white is like purity virgin virginity and then pink which we don't have but uh but pink is a sign of sexuality right so it's really the idea is it's transitioning from one to the other because all of us really started off as as vanilla right we we we all were you know virgins at one point and then you know through exploration we've got to where we are to where we are now and i really think swingers that's the ultimate swinger story right i mean i think we've all you know we all started somewhere and through exploration and you know embracing our sexuality we've kind of we're kind of getting more into that that pink category yeah for sure we got more to go we got we're not dark pink yet right there's a lot of other things where we could so people on tiktok are asking if they want to see it so i will definitely um post it on our instagram maybe dan and i can fix her look cute this afternoon take a picture with it yeah yeah so we definitely um put that and then definitely message us email us if you want any information right yeah if anybody wants the image again we will give it away i made it it's 100 free i won't charge you anything you can make them sell them do whatever you want with them i just really want to spread that image across the community any other creators that want it reach out and we will we will send you the full high def version to yeah and we'll send you the link to where we purchased them from because they really weren't that expensive no they're they're cool flags um so looking forward to that uh all right so i think we
Speaker1:
talked over secrets pretty good um what you want to talk about any of the other events we're planning for 2022 well the first part of 2022 will kind of be slow we're going to secrets and then i'm having my surgery which we mentioned a few podcasts back um january 25th so we'll probably have a low-key febru February if we do anything it'll probably be not super publicized we might just kind of slip away for a weekend with friends and kind of be low-key um but after that we our year is pretty open which I'm kind of excited about um we do have Naughty in New Orleans scheduled for July 6th through the 10th, which we're super excited if you don't know anything about Naughty in New Orleans. It is technically a swinger convention slash hotel takeover, 2,000 swingers in New Orleans. We've never been. We wanted to go. Well, 2020, they canceled it. 2021, we wanted to go well 2020 they canceled it 2021 we wanted to go but they had adjusted the dates and the way the dates were it was the first week of school for our kids so it was just impossible for us to get away so this year it is in the middle of the summer we're really excited to go we're excited to represent the swing nation and meet a lot of friends um yeah and we've been in contact with other podcasters and i think they're going to try to do some podcast you know like stuff there um i'm sure we'll bring you know bring our assistance we'll have our you know we'll do our full thing yeah so we're going to be as involved with naughty in new orleans as we possibly can be again everybody's welcome to come out uh for I think they said, you know, what did I hear? Like something like 5,000 swimmers usually show up to New Orleans for that weekend? I thought it was 2,000. Oh, okay. But I don't know. So it is a hotel takeover. So in order to be a part of the hotel takeover festivities, you have to stay at the hotel. But honestly, I'm sure there is a ton of people that just go because i think all the bars cater to the swinger lifestyle that week so i'm sure there's lots of people that probably just get like regular hotels i think if you were just in the city for that weekend it's gonna be amazing yeah but i think so yeah it's a hotel takeover of a certain hotel i think they do have have an overflow hotel. Yeah, they have a few. And then they, like, each night a different bar, like, hosts a party. Yeah. And I think it is a closed event for just the people that are involved with it. But, again, there's going to be thousands of swingers. So even if it ends up selling out and you can't get there, if you just want to show up in New Orleans for that weekend, you're probably going to have a great time. Yeah, I think Colette's in New Orleans is is there which we've been to before we we had a great time there um so yeah so i mean if that's something you're interested it's now you know basically january it's july you can go ahead and start booking that it's relatively affordable i thought yeah compared to something like keto it's right you're talking about like 1500 between your room and your your sign up like you said we've never been but i've heard all kinds of cool stories and cool things that you know black rooms and all this other cool stuff that they're blackout rooms i guess not really black rooms but yeah i'm excited yeah we'll try some new things meet some new people and uh hopefully hang out with some of you guys which is always fun yep uh and then what else we got going on 2022 we don't know maybe desire well we're looking at doing desire honestly we've just been so busy with life we just haven't stopped long enough to um to book it but we need to do that i think we're gonna do desire in the fall um there doing some trap that's something that trapeze maybe at some point um we are in talks with some of the other podcasters there they do their own bashes and and podcast things so so if you know somewhere that you want us to go or a place that you want us to review definitely email us reach out to us in the dms let us know what you want i mean we are all about traveling and doing fun things and we want to definitely bring new and exciting podcasts you know if we go to the same places every single time it's not fun so we definitely want to branch out and try different things so for sure if you have been somewhere that you absolutely love you think we should go tell us
Speaker2:
yeah or if you're a club owner or you know throw events or you know part of any of the staff that do that kind of things and you'd like us to come out to one of your events um to review it or just to come and hang out and party and bring bring some of the swing talk people with us uh reach out to us and let us let us know what you're what you're thinking and we look forward to doing
Speaker1:
more of this lots more in 2022 yeah it's crazy that here we are. It's the end of 2021, and this is our life, babe. This is our life. They say do what you love, right? Yeah, they do. You took that to the extreme, babe. You took it to the extreme. I take this over most other jobs. Yeah, an office job any day. Unfortunately, we're still doing, we're just doing both. We are, we are still doing both. For now. Yeah. What else you got, babe? I think that's it. Well, I think that's it too. I just, I love you. Merry Christmas. Aw, I love you. Happy New Year. Happy New Year. Thanks for putting up with me this last year through all this craziness. I know there's been times where you were like, fuck this, I'm done. Yeah, quite a few. Quite a few. It has been stressful, guys. I mean, working a full-time job and then working another full-time job has been very, very stressful. And exposing yourself to your friends and family. Yeah, it's been a rollercoaster of emotions through all of that. Yeah, and then just exposing yourself to your friends and family um yeah it's been a roller coaster of emotions through all of that uh yeah and then just exposing yourself to um the world of the internet right yeah um letting people basically pick apart all your insecurities um it it definitely is it can be hard i've grown some thicker skin this year so i'm grateful for that. I've become much more okay with who I am as a person, which I'm grateful for that as well.
Speaker2:
Yeah, and I definitely think even so far it's been a journey for us, but I think it's going to continue to be a journey for us. And it's why it's nice to have this podcast to share that. I think even you guys that have followed us since episode one, I think you've already seen quite a bit of growth with us oh for sure through this so uh i can only imagine this time next year what we're gonna be talking about be crazy what we're gonna be doing it's gonna be really crazy but i i look forward to it yeah i think me too even so sometimes we want to quit even sometimes we want to quit i'm like it, it's just too much. It's just too much. But it's really not. It's really rewarding. The friendships that we've made, the connections we've made, the people that we have helped. When people come to us and say, because of your podcast, I feel more comfortable talking to my spouse. Or you've helped us as a couple. Realize that we're that we're not that is what it's all about that's what it's all about that we're just normal people that are curious about things yeah which i feel like that's that's what we are we're normal people that are just curious about lots of naughty things yeah yeah uh yeah and thank you to our staff um you guys know who you are yeah we couldn't and our families couldn't live without you guys yeah our families you know for loving us even though we're crazy children family yeah you guys made all of this all this possible friends for not judging us yeah too much anyway yeah all right anything else for anything else for the group or for for 2021 i think that's it you think that's it all right well with that folks in a world full of apples be a pineapple be the pineapple guys bye bye if you've enjoyed our podcast and want to support us leave a five-starstar review wherever you're listening. If you want to see more of our content, you can find links to Snapchat, Twitter, Instagram, OnlyFans, and more in the show notes. Come join the conversation with us and other Swinger content creators on our Swinger Society Discord server. If you have questions or feedback, email them to us at theswingnation at gmail.com. Make sure you head on over to theswingnation.net and keep up to date on all things Swing Nation. We thank you so much for joining us and we'll see you next time. Goodbye.
