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to the basics yeah uh to kind of how we started this podcast yeah talking about education yeah um and so today's episode is about playroom etiquette yeah which is funny you actually we were talking about what we're gonna talk about on the podcast today and you actually you suggested this i don't know where you got the idea from i had to be honest i got it from reddit i find a lot of good information from reddit uh which is funny because i saw somebody else had a podcast not long ago and they were like they had also took stuff from reddit and i don't know if they took questions or i don't know what the basis of their podcast was i haven't had a chance to listen to it.
But I like looking at it because it kind of gives me a feel of what's going on in the lifestyle. In a way, I kind of know what like the hot button items are. And so, you know, usually at night when I'm laying in bed, I'll scroll through and just kind of see. I think it's fun for me to kind of see what people are worried about or what issues they're having.
So yeah, I was scrolling through and happened that and i was like you know that's a really good topic i think that we should we should talk about that yeah reddit's one of those things where it's twofold because one most 99 of the people on there are anonymous and so you get they are the worst some of the worst trolls yeah on the internet exist on reddit but the second side of that is I think you get a lot more people talking openly and honestly about things.
Especially something like swingers that they're probably wouldn't post on like a TikTok with their page that they, you know, they show their friends if they're scrolling or something. Something like Reddit is a little bit different. The people feel a little probably a little bit more anonymous through that because that's kind of the basis of Reddit. Right. So today's subject is, did I say this yet? Yeah, you did. It's playroom etiquette. Yeah. Okay.
So when we, when we talk, I think before we get into playroom etiquette, since this is kind of, we might get some people that are new to the lifestyle, what is the playroom? Like, let's start there.
When we say playroom we talking like what is the playroom well when you say playroom to me i'm thinking a club a party space that has an actual designated room for playing i mean technically a hotel room is kind of can be a playroom but what i'm thinking of is like a public space that anyone can come in and out obviously there's some guidelines about single males and and you know partnered people so it depends but overall it's like a room that this space has created for people to play right so it's basically a room where sex is happening yeah now you could make an argument whether a hotel room is a playroom you know but i think it's into playrooms, especially at a hotel takeover.
Yeah, but I think that's the thing about a playroom, like at an event, it's public. Like, pretty much everyone can come and go. Like, if it's a hotel room, that's more of a private playroom. I mean, it's still a playroom. So, I guess it's the way you look at it.
In my mind, when I think of just the term playroom, I think of public playroom i mean it's still a playroom so i guess it's the way you look at it in my mind when i think of just a term playroom i think of public yeah i agree with what you're saying i think the only difference would be if you think about it really if you're doing a hotel takeover somebody's room that they're using as a play space really isn't that much different than a closed door play space at a club right it's kind of the same basically the same rules are applying but i think you can apply it to any place where sex is happening i think you can apply these kind of common sense totally totally and if you've never like if you've never went to a sex club and you've never been a part of this you probably would have no idea especially for a lot of singles that join the lifestyle they just i feel like maybe couples educate themselves more and try to learn these things before they go so hopefully there's a few singles out there that listen to us and kind of hear us and apply it i assume there are some singles listening but yeah um okay so before we necessarily get into the etiquette of it now that we know a playroom is a space where people are being intimate, people are having sex, when we talk about, like you're saying, these public playrooms that are at events and clubs and even some hotel takeovers, what are some of the general rules?
And again, we're going to talk real general, like very general, and to caveat that, every club has different rules, rules right and so you get to know that club make sure you you read their rules if you go on a tour usually before when you if you're a new member to that club they'll take you on a tour and they'll kind of go over some of the rules with you but a lot of them have the same basic rules so what are some of the basic rules if you're going into a play space consent is always key um that's probably a big one do you want me to talk about like open door are we doing that later we'll do some of that later i think in this what i'm thinking is no cell phones allowed yeah okay um a lot of the play spaces you either have to be in lingerie or or naked um and then really consent is i think those are like the general rules yeah and then i don't want to beat a dead horse here but another main one is if you're like do they allow singles to go in and out freely do you have to be go with a couple uh just stuff like that no no that's i think that's completely worth noting and that's i think where it gets important into talking you know individual clubs and stuff because some clubs you know single singles can go into any play space some clubs there's designated play spaces where singles can go and designated places where couples can go some clubs just don't allow singles in certain areas so i think things like that are definitely club dependent or location dependent but most places you can't bring your cell phone into a place.
Yeah. places you you know there's some kind of dress requirement yeah and the cell phone you may want to check with them too because some just as long as it's in your bag or like if you have a fanny pack as long as it's in there some clubs so much it cannot be on you you cannot have like a smart watch it has to either be in your room or in a locker. So depending on the club, how serious they take that. No, 100%. And definitely, you know, with the cell phone thing, no recording is a pretty general rule.
Now, if you're behind closed doors and it's maybe just you and one other couple and you guys want to do that, it might be okay.
But it's a general rule, especially if you're in an open play space um it's not allowed and that would be one of those things that's like self like somebody would probably stop you and you would you would be escorted out immediately before even security gets to you okay uh okay so now that we're talking play spaces and we've kind of defined what that is what are some of the different types of play spaces well i will public would be like my first one so that's typically there's a lot of different variations of that some you know it could just be like couches and you you kind of usually it's like the overflow from the big bed so you have the big big play space um there can be other places that are public but maybe they're off to the side like a like a bed off to the side it's still public but it's a little bit more private right and so when you say public it just clarifies this maybe a little bit more you're not talking about public like it's in a public club you're saying a public space where it's it's like open to the rest of the club yeah i mean like a giant bed in the middle yeah open area sorry yeah an open area typically you're talking four or five depending on how big it can go it could be a lot of beds essentially all in you know a nice little area and and that's just kind of everyone is kind of on that bed at the same time.
You know, it could just be two people. It could be 22 people. It could be as many that can fit on that place. Yeah.
So if I'm thinking open play spaces in, you know, in some of these locations, I'm thinking some of the clubs have like a theater room where they're playing porn on like a projector screen and then there's like couches and stuff in that room yeah and usually you're allowed to play in that space so that would be an example some playrooms have just like seating areas like there's like a lounge area and in some of those areas you're allowed to play most of the ones that are in the playroom you can play on the couches and things like that and obviously there's people kind of walking through and it's open to everybody um and then a lot of clubs and stuff have like it's almost like a designated orgy space yeah um and that's where you're like lacy something about these big beds where there might be five six eight ten beds that are all pushed together and it's one big orgy space and another thing you'll see a lot is what we call the fishbowl rooms where there's like one bed in the middle of a room and there's a bunch of windows kind of around where everybody can kind of it's almost like voyeuristic right you can have an orgy and a bunch of people um and can watch okay so when we talk open play spaces what would you say some etiquette is if you're if you're engaging in those open play spaces so if we let's say you and i walk in and there is a one couple on and it could be a huge bed you know there's like plenty of room for everyone the right thing to do would be say do you mind us join even though technically anybody can join it but it's it's kind of common courtesy to be like hey or just let them know hey we're over here you know we're good well you know just like a little nod you know we're over here and that's the best way to do that in in my opinion um then obviously if you want to participate if you would like to participate with that person you know i would definitely say you know are we okay this close can my wife touch you are you interested in playing stuff like that is definitely you know encouraged yeah no i think that's a good point so and it's a little bit confusing right so if you're in an open play space and there's only one bed right and you're going to play in that space like if me and you are going into this open play space there's just one bed there and there's already a couple there we might just want to fuck on that bed just the two of us not necessarily meaning we want to fuck that couple but you really shouldn't just jump on the bed without saying something to that couple yeah it's just polite like technically that is free for everyone it is a group play you know open you don't have to fuck other people to be on it but i think you need to give common courtesy to the other people or person that's on that that same like it's a shared space so i think just like a common courtesy is just to acknowledge each other and be like don't mind us we just really want to fuck each other in front of other people that really reminds me of dallas when we came into one of those places with a group and there was one couple that was already there and we had like 10 couples and so we were kind of like hey are you okay with us using this bed like you don't have to leave and we're not going to try to fuck you unless you want that but uh is it okay and they were very kind like oh yeah absolutely like you're more the merrier and you know they're like we're new but you know we don't but we'll we're happy to watch and they're in the real kind and that but that was the right thing to do was come in and say hey you guys we're here is it okay if we yeah and honestly if you're new most new people probably don't get in the middle of the orgy bed yeah to be honest i mean that's like kind of badass that they were pro level yeah most newer couples are going to be like on the side or possibly on like a couch somewhere else or another place they're not going to that's kind of like expert level once you jump into that main orgy bed in my opinion okay um as far as these open play spaces what would you say the rules are about watching i was about to say walking through the playroom and people are playing in this open play space can we stop can we watch them what is that okay yeah i think i think as someone that doesn't mind being watched i really enjoy it that's why i'm fucking in the middle of the bed for everyone to see but i do think it's nice to not interrupt but to be like mindful that you are standing there you don't want to gawk you don't want to be super close you want to give them enough distance you know and you could even be like especially the female you know things come things are a little softer coming from the female half of a couple but like if the wife says oh don't mind us we're just watching you y'all look y'all look amazing y'all are doing a great job something as simple as that it's almost like comes off as like not threatening then that couple is not thinking oh we have to watch these people because they might try to join us or something like that yeah that's a really valid point so when a couple is fucking in an open play space one of the downsides about that is you kind of always have your guard up right because there are people entering and exiting the space and you might not know who they are and sometimes you know single males can come through and be kind of creepy and try to grab an ass or something that doesn't happen very often but it's something you're always aware of right so if you do enter the space like you're saying and you're just there to watch it's okay to say to that couple oh hey guys we you know do you mind if we watch you or like hey we're just we're just here to watch you know is that oops that's okay and you're just telling that couple yeah we're here but we're not we're not trying anything we're not trying to fuck you we're just we just would like to watch you yeah and then they know the price like no yeah please watch hope you enjoy i love that like when we're like having an awesome orgy and like people are like cheering us on or like when we finish and we get up and people are like oh my gosh that was amazing like your consent everything like it was spot on that to me is like that that is I love it it makes me feel really good about the situation that I'm leaving it makes me feel proud so but I I love people watching I like watching people have sex I people watching me have sex so i will say i think it's worth noting that if you if you are too close and you're trying in your coming across creepy coming across you're creeping in yeah there is a personal space yeah and i don't i feel like i'm like the single male place today i don't mean to be i actually well it applies to anybody though it could be a single male single female unfortunately it typically is but women can do it too with there have been plenty of women yeah um like we were in uh on bliss cruise or something i can't remember where we were but we were just trying to fuck each other and literally like every five seconds it was a single guy like standing in the door can i join can i join and it was just odd it almost made us like just want to leave because we were on guard we were having to tell everybody no and it just it's hard and that's something i don't know if you have that in your notes you're kind of leading this but as the person that's playing you have to have your own voice maybe so and that's something that I have had to learn I've talked about this several times in the podcast that I had really never allowed myself prior to swinging allowed myself to be into like intimate spaces with people that I wasn't interested in having sex with.
So I had to learn how to turn down people nicely. And it's not fair for me to look at you every single time and make you be the bad guy. Sometimes it's up to me. Sometimes I have to protect myself and I have to say, no, thank you. It's just this too right now. Thanks though. Well, especially in those cases, I almost refer to you because I'm much more open to playing with more people than you are are. And I don't know, if some young, hot dude comes along and is like, you mind if I join? Maybe you want that. You know what I mean? And depending on my mood, I might not be against it either.
So I think in those spaces, I tend to lean more to you because you tend to be the one. I'm just more open, I think, to engaging. Well, and I used to be like, oh, no, I'm going to hurt somebody's feeling now. I'm like, no, thank you. And I don't even give an explanation. I just kind of like, no, thank you. Well, you don't owe that person anything. I don't. So you should not feel bad at all by saying no. So I know this isn't like technically this isn't playroom etiquette, but I guess it kind of is.
So before you enter a public space like that, like an open, you know, where people may ask to join, you need to be comfortable with saying no and, you know, and practicing that and being comfortable. Because what's going to happen is if you say yes, or you kind of, yeah, I guess, and then they end up, you engage with them, and the next day you're regretful of that situation.
You know, that's on you because you told them yes you you consented to them joining what about some you know open you know the etiquette on an open playroom what are some things that maybe have happened that like some don't do so like don't do this don't do that is there anything that you've seen happen other than people touching without consent well i was about to say one of our friends somebody popped her in the butt um and that was a big deal oh gosh i think another one we touched on is people getting too close right so like if we're in a bed fucking and like you're basically like rubbing your knees on my feet that's too close like just give us a little bit of space yeah be close enough to where you can watch but not to where basically out of arms reach is kind of a pretty general rule right if you're you cannot reach me with your arms i i feel more comfortable than if you're in that space i've seen people come on the bed and sit next to people like not saying just come in and sit right down next to them it's like that's a little yeah especially without even acknowledging them that's a little too close yeah it is or people that are just like gonna sneak right in you know like they don't like we talked in the beginning where they like announce that they're there and they're gonna sit they just kind of are there and then they don't that gives that creepy vibe that then throws off the whole vibe of the plate what's happening another thing i hate is when people are in these public space rooms uh play spaces and they're talking about like the football game last night i'm bad about this or they're talking about the weather or they're talking about what's for dinner or let's go get french fries i have to say i'm very bad about this because sex is casual to me and so i don't have a problem if i'm taking a break and i'm like i loved your outfit and i what you did i got it got it on amazon i can't believe you got that on amazon like i could totally have a conversation with someone and be oblivious that people are like yeah i've actually think i've said stuff to you before because you're talking about something that's completely not sexy it's like lacy maybe talk about that after so yeah i'm still trying to fuck over here so it's totally something that it can easily have been it's just like a personally i need to work on that for sure well i think these play spaces are trying to usually there's sexy music there's all the sex sounds and so it's you're creating an atmosphere yeah and if you bring in a conversation about the weather or football it just throws off the vibe yeah um so it's you know and if you have a if you're in a space it's just you and your friends it's kind of whatever but if you're in a room with a bunch of other people that are engaging with others it's kind of important to respect that vibe yeah um yeah noise levels and stuff like that i think that's the biggest stuff yeah it was like at hedo we got in trouble because we walked in because we came in loud we came in loud yeah and the ladies were like this is i don't think we were drunk we were just having a good time and like laughing and we didn't the transition hadn't happened yet yeah yeah we were still just enjoying our time okay all right so that's open public open play spaces what about what would you what about semi-private spaces what when i say semi-private spaces what does that mean uh that means things like a room with maybe no door or a bed with maybe just sheer curtains around it yeah i think a lot about the curtains or even because like to me if there's no door it's kind of hard to close it off you know sometimes there's windows sometimes there's windows um to me i think like a theater is a little bit semi i don't know maybe i see where you're saying that it's not but it's public i guess you're right it is public but yeah i mean probably more sheer curtain right so what this says is a sectioned off area within a public space right so you're not behind a closed door but you're somehow you're sectioned off whether it's a rope or a curtain or a glass glass anything like that that's what we call like a semi-public space okay so what what are some rules in these type of spaces so depending on where you are for instance if there's curtains if the curtains are pulled closed that means that couple or that person or whoever is in there need wants privacy those people those people yeah those people want privacy they don't want to be even if they're sheer and you can see everything going on behind the curtains there's clothes those curtains do not open them that is the worst it is the worst it's happened to us before we were trying to sneak off and have just like some private time with someone and somebody busted in there it's actually happened more than once yeah strangers have opened our curtains before um so yeah even if the curtains are completely shared they could be white and you could see right through them you do not open those curtains um you it's it's private they you can watch you can stand right outside just like dan said you know arm length give them a little space and honestly watching with those curtains is super hot so i think it's encouraged um now if the curtains are open that means that you can stop and you can ask to join you can't just like sit down you know you have to be like hey y'all are super hot do you care if we join in yeah um you can do that i would say is a general rule if somebody's in a semi-private space like a curtained area but they've left especially curtains you can see through they've left those curtains open it's almost like maybe they're hoping somebody asks right or there's i think they're leaving that door open.
So I think in that situation, it is okay to ask, right? Oh, for sure, yeah. Where if those curtains are closed, don't be trying to like whisper through the curtains, hey guys, can we join you? That's a no, right? But if the curtains are open, they're at least open to the idea. But maybe they just want people to be able to see them better. Yeah, maybe. Because we've done that. Honestly, fucking in between those curtains is super hot because you can hear all the sounds, but you can't quite see everybody. You get a lot of shadow figures.
Yeah, where we've had two cobbles on one bed, and then the next was we could hear them and hear the things that they're doing. Obviously, our imagination, it's so hot.
We're like, y'all are hot over there and like y'all are too so it's like fun to like really hear all of that but definitely asking to come in what about like the ropes yeah so the to me a rope is the same thing as a curtain yeah so if some of these play spaces what you'll see is it might be a a private play space where you can close the door but what they've done is left the option to put up a rope up yeah right and so that's kind of if you put the rope up it's i want people to watch but i don't want people to join yeah right and so it's it's kind of leaving the door open and i think i don't know if i've ever seen a curtained off area with a rope that people could close but it could exist yeah but i think the rule would be the same right if somebody's closed that rope yeah they're kind of saying hey you're welcome to watch but this is closed off to people joining well we had not long ago we had a bunch of people going into a playroom which is funny because it was really supposed to be like us and one other couple and then all of our friends came along which we had no issues with and at some point the everybody was in and they shut the the rope they closed the rope off and then more of our friends came and it was this awkward like well i didn't know this happened i found out after but what i would imagine was an awkward like do we open it do we not do we have to do we ask every person in here are they okay with us opening because basically by coming in and like starting to get undressed and everybody was consenting to at least being in the same room with everybody not you weren't required to fuck everybody in there anything like that but at least everyone was okay with who was in the room at that moment and it ended up being like a little bit of a drama situation right it's fine now everybody talked you know it just talked it out yeah but people it's easy to get feelings hurt yeah honestly if i was them my feelings would have gotten hurt as well so like personally i totally get it as somebody that wears their feelings on their shoulder i get it but that's just an example of of the rope because what should have happened if the rope was taken down everybody in the room would have had to consent right you would have had to stop all the fucking that was happening or what you should have done at least is stop all the fucking that was happening and then go around to everybody and say hey are you okay if couple a joins this room yeah right and then what if you say no what if you're the odd man you don't want to have that conversation because you don't want people to put people on the spot like that so really in that situation where a group is going to a group playroom together and then closing whether it's a door a rope a curtain it's kind of over at that yeah right there's nobody else you're not going to stop and see if people are okay with so it's because let's say you're the person that pulls that rope and lets the people in well what if if the new couple in the corner is like, oh, my God, I've never talked to them, and they're uncomfortable, and now they're over there whispering and having conversations, and then, you know, it's just, then you're the bad guy because you opened it.
It's just better off to just leave it closed. I agree. And also, the same can go for a door. If a door's shut, you're not knocking on the door. You're not asking to join. You're not peeking in to see who they're in there with. You literally just have to wait until they come out. Agreed. Okay, I think now's the perfect time to take a little break and hear from the partners and sponsors of the Swing Nation podcast.
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We had a friend not long ago that somebody that they were engaging with wanted her to be tested for M-Gen. They just go to their local doctor. They know they're swingers. It's not a big deal. And so they went to a draw facility in their town and just were tested for that one test. And, of course, it came back negative, no issues, and they were they were good to play right so go check out iknowmystatus.com go get tested like a porn star today so that we can play safe at our next event yeah all right guys welcome back welcome back thank you for listening to our sponsors.
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a steady income from it but we chose to um to not do that and keep it like true people that we like to work with that we enjoy their products so i think in the long run it pays off i agree i agree okay so getting back to play spaces and some of the etiquette that goes along with those spaces so before the break we talked about open play spaces and we talked about semi-private play spaces um but we haven't talked about private yeah right so this is you can go in and you can close the door oh i looked i just jumped ahead before didn't i yeah you jumped around a little bit that's okay you don't have my uh you don't have my notes i don't actually did send them to you you did and i looked over them but i'm trying not to be on my phone looking at them trying to be engaged in the conversation i like it um okay so private when i say private play space what are we talking about um anything that can be like secured off so a room uh that's probably the main thing i'm trying to think what else could be private so what about is a is a closed door room with a window private kind of kind of is right maybe it's a closed door room with a window that you can close the curtain on then it's definitely yeah also like two-way mirrors where because i think even if you had a window if you close the door the same rules apply like people shouldn't be banging on the window trying to you know yeah correct yeah um think of like secrets we've had people banging on windows before um you know and also like a two-way mirror where you can't really see out and that people can watch inside yeah i think that's that's pretty private yeah um so but you know kind of what i said before don't go don't knock don't knock right there's a closed door and a lot of these doors will have a indicator on them that it's closed and locked so yeah like like red and green or something like that some of them maybe not maybe it's just like a normal house door and you can't really tell if it's locked or not but if it's closed it's closed yeah would you consider like let's say a hotel takeover and two couples go in their room and shut the door do you consider that A closed playroom as well well i think if you've known they went in there well if you same thing in the playroom because here's the thing you go around same thing in a playroom you could go into the room and shut the door it's kind of the same thing so i'm saying like no but in a playroom the difference is in a playroom if you're not in there playing you leave the door open right in your hotel room yeah you don't prop your door open you're right you're right i'm just saying like if you know the difference is in a hotel room you might just be going and looking for your friends and that's why you're knocking you you don't know that they're in there fucking uh-huh but if you know if they're fucking right but if you like see your friends go you know take a couple back to their room and close the door to me you don't it's rude to go banging on that door because you know what's going on and if they wanted you there with them they would have invited you yeah that's the hard one sometimes that's the hard one if a couple goes to a room right yeah especially at a hotel takeover and they're going to fuck yeah right and they didn't come to you and say hey we're going back to our room to fuck you want to join us to me you don't go banging on the door at that no it's like that's awkward even if it hurts your feelings yeah but just take it as a loss here's the thing yeah we're getting off on a tangent a little bit that doesn't mean that they don't want to fuck you yeah right maybe this is a new couple maybe they just want some alone time sometimes maybe they're trying dp for the first time like you have no idea what's going on there we've done that it doesn't mean like they're not into you they don't want to fuck you it just means for tonight or for the next 20 30 minutes at least they're trying they're trying to do something alone yeah and that's okay yeah and i think too many people get upset about that we are guilty we probably got upset about it i know i have but also i also know that we have like scheduled time alone with people because we just have like let's say in a group setting we have a blast with them and we want more of that like more quality times i'm like hey tonight we're all fucking you know the four of us let's do this yeah let's do it so sometimes it's okay to do that right no we've we totally i'm saying that to myself i'm trying to like tell myself it's okay okay so what's some etiquette for closed door playrooms other than don't go banging on it for the people outside of it.
Yeah. Maybe either way, I guess. I don't know. You don't know. No. What do you think? I think there's something. What do you think about how long, especially in like a club setting where it's a public play space? How long is, how long can you stay in there? Some clubs will put a note on the door that says you can only be in here for like 30 minutes. So, obviously, if...
play space how long is well some how long can you stay in there some clubs will put a note on the door that says you can only be in here for like 30 minutes so obviously if there's a sign be you know be respectful and follow the rules of that but oh god that's a hard one you know it's interesting because tempted just posted you know not calling them out but they just posted on their facebook page hey we've got a lot of complaints about people not being able to get into play spaces that's been one of my complaints playing staying in play spaces for the whole night you know for hours yeah you know and they actually ask for suggestions on how what would our members suggest ways that we can improve which is awesome that's what club owners should do and i heard some people saying like there should be a sign up sheet there should be once you go in and you lock the door it starts a timer or something that's a very hard thing to police um in my opinion uh but i that is also a complaint of mine i love tempted and we've had a great time i think this applies it's not just attempted to call them out i think this applies to i can think of your club euros for sure i can think of trapeze yeah yeah you're right applies to every club no no but you're 100 but every night we've ever been attempted it's been like wall-to-wall people and a lot going on and they have like amazing playrooms and i'm always super excited to use them and i feel like there's been a few times that we haven't been able to use it so i don't know i think just use um courtesy like if it's jammed pack maybe do your deed like clean up and don't go you know it's not the time to be like laying there caressing him and having because you know some couples like especially newer couples i find when they swing with somebody they after they lay there and want to tell their like whole last life story you know I don't know.
am and having because you know some couples like especially newer couples i find when they swing with somebody they after they lay there and want to tell their like whole last life story you know they want to talk about everything they want to talk about all their experiences and they're because they're new and they've never it's hard for them to just fuck and be like okay peace out that was a great time thanks for making me come and go they tend to like want to that would be if i was a club owner or you know if i was talking to the management attempted attempted or any other club i would say that's the rule should be if you're not actively fucking right whether it's oral anal you know whatever then you need to get out yeah right don't go in there fuck and then stay in there and talk for an hour or hang out or take a nap or cuddle like get the fuck out now i don't know how if it's a closed door playroom how do you police that i don't know i don't know i think you can encourage you know like people to move along especially like in group like big open places yeah it's easier in the open ones because you can see they're just in there fucking you know not doing anything and be like hey guys you need to you know if you're not if you're done you need to clean your stuff up and go i just think having common courtesy to like other people like think about if you had just met this awesome couple and you but i don't hate the 20 you know 30 minutes i mean that's not enough time that's not enough especially if we go into a room with like three or four couples i was thinking like an hour right honestly but if you think about you know in a in like a attempted usually people don't play till midnight in that and you're out at 2 a.m yeah there's only two hours yeah if you take up a whole hour of a playroom that's quite a bit of time yeah so it's a hard thing that i don't really know if i know the right answer i don't think there is a right answer i don't know if i like that 30 minute timer though i don't either i just think we as people as people that care about the lifestyle and care about our fellow friend who's also trying to get it in just be courteous like do what you're going to do i also like though this is why i like club tempted the fact that this is a conversation yeah for sure good sign yeah right because we've had plenty of well one they care but my other point is we've been there plenty of clubs where the playrooms are empty they're dead yeah even on saturday like you know it's like people are scared to go back in there so me the good clubs are if everybody's fighting to get a play space at midnight you're doing some right that's the right kind of club the right kind of atmosphere where i want to be at yeah for sure that's why i like i love their playrooms i always want to use them so okay any other thing no i don't clean up after yourself that's that should be over all of them yeah so this i was going to get to that but we can talk about it now um and this is another thing i've seen posted on several different club social media pages is clean up after yourself yeah that's a big i'm a big stickler for that if you've ever watched me in a playroom when it's all said and done i will go around and personally pick pick up all the condoms.
It's a little gross, but I've done worse things with my mouth and my mind and in my pussy. So you know what? I'll, I'll your mind. That was an interesting comment, but okay. But you know what I mean? Like it's gross. Yes. But let's just clean it up, you know?
So I'll go around or I'll say, Hey guys, let's clean it up and it's not that even if it's not your if you pick up a tissue paper and go pick stuff up with a tissue like i'm not putting my hands on people's condoms especially that aren't mine but it's not they're pretty easy to pick up some other way where you're not actually touching yeah there's usually towels even if you use a towel or something um i know we use the wipes and stuff yeah yeah um we'll pick up anybody's condoms oh for sure we make sure before we leave playrooms at least now we've kind of gotten to this point because it's been an issue enough times that like me and lacy will personally make sure everybody's stuff no i before we walk out of that room i will make sure that that room is clean i don't want anybody to say that the swing nation fucked up a playroom i don't it's like now we fucked up some playrooms now the squirt and stuff i can't control but sometimes we've left puddles on the floor but as far as trash we're not we're not leaving trash um i agree so yeah definitely clean up after yourself um pull the sheets too you know when you're finished don't just leave the sheet just you don't have to take them anywhere just kind of take them so that the next person knows that they've been used without sitting down and sitting in bodily fluids you know just pull it so they kind of so depending on the player of some some clubs you have to you go in they give you a sheet when you go in you put your own sheet down you fuck on it and then you pick it up and you take it back some clubs they have staff that will go in behind you and actually clean up and change the sheets and all that but like lacy's saying even if they have the staff that's going in and cleaning up and pulling the sheets at least pulling the sheet so that people know that sheet's been used yeah you'd like pull a corner ball it up in the middle something the last thing you want to do is be that person that goes and like sits or put your hand you think it's a clean oh that's awful yeah that's not how you want to start out your orgy no uh okay we got a little okay i'm sorry no it's okay but those are all really really good points okay the next play space i can think of that exists in a lot of these places um where there might be slightly different rules is what about these like the dungeons and like the bdsm play spaces and things like that um i would definitely read the rules before you walk in and the cool thing about like all play play spaces have rules bdsm people are very good about making sure that you see them that they're posted there'll be a greeter at the door that explains, um, because they don't do things typically like most swingers do.
It's usually very quiet. You're just kind of walking through to watch. Um, there's not a lot of sex usually. Um, so I would say if you want somebody that's super into BDSM, you just want to kind of take it all in i if it was me i would just kind of be quiet and just kind of walk through yeah i love bdsm spaces and i think if i think about it i've seen a lot more of that in the last it seems like there's much more of mixing bdsm and swinger in these in these events and parties and groups seems like more and more and more events are putting that space somewhere purposely in their event.
But like you said, the rules are a little different. And I think the biggest rule that usually applies is in those kink BDSM spaces, you have to be doing something kink or BDSM to be using that space. Yeah, you just can't go in there. So they don't want you just to come in there and use the St.
Andrew's Cross just the fuck yeah right they usually you know if you're not if you want you to do some kind of kink whether that's you know uh restraint or you know impact play or whatever the thing is they're they generally speaking those spaces are for that yeah and it's a very it's a different vibe than swinging is like swinging tends to be like we're how happy and we're excited and like this is fun let's go fuck bdsm tends to be a little bit a little more serious yeah like more mature i don't know for lack of a better word um but to be fair they have to be because you know if you're tying somebody up for sure if you're restraining somebody from the ceiling if you're putting people on hooks and you know it's a more serious like you can hurt people like it's a much more serious thing not that sex isn't serious i mean no it is very it is serious but um and if you're walking through you have to be you need to be respectful of what these people are doing and they're getting spanked or whatever you know they're in like a zone almost so if you come through and you're laughing and you're not taking it seriously you're goofing off or you're like make you know just making comments and stuff i think it can come across a little disrespectful to the person who's doing the same i think it's even it's probably you know i think that's the vibe or whatever you want to call it is important in any play space i think in the bdsm play spaces it's like 10 times as important because really when you know if you're doing something like impact play or some of these other things it's all about that headspace like getting in a certain headspace to where you can enjoy it or you're to where whatever you're trying to achieve you have to get in that right mindset and if somebody comes through laughing and joking and fucking around it can completely ruin that whole that scene for that couple yeah um and nobody nobody wants to do that you shouldn't be doing that yeah i agree um what about participating like it maybe can you go into these spaces and participate even if maybe you don't know much or you're new or i think that you would need to communicate what you're wanting to do there's usually like a dungeon master or there's attendants that are there they're very good about reading you right when you walk through the door so if you're interested in something i would just communicate that to them i would not just go up and pick something up and start wailing it at someone i would definitely let them guide you and a lot of them will have like demonstrations so you can go and watch or maybe classes where you can learn how to like tie ropes i can think like naughty in new orleans bliss cruise places like bigger places like that will have a lot of workshops to kind of um kind of get you to the place where you can do one of those scenes and participate yeah yeah and i think you're right i I think some places have, or maybe a little less, you know, where they just have like a spanking bench and a saint andrew's cross yeah there's no real attendant there and it's just kind of a kinky space where you can go and it's kind of open to everybody some places have full-up dungeons with cages and suspension harnesses like i'm thinking like a red room in nashville doesn't have an attendant but they have like a cross and some cool stuff you can totally go in and fuck on one of those or it's definitely not as serious it's just kind of like a cool space that if you want to try out but then you have something like secrets that has an actual dungeon with a dungeon master and an attendance so that's a different situation so i think figuring out which one you have is key here yeah and i think uh the bottom line is if you don't know ask yeah so if you're find yourself in one of those spaces and you're not sure what the rules are or you're not sure how it works ask somebody yeah you know find a staff member find an attendant something like that and say hey you know i'm interested in and impact play you know can my partner i see there's some you know floggers over here are we free to use those or do i you know i think that's perfect and yeah and just find somebody and ask that question and they'll point in the right direction and then again if if you're new to a club and you've done that like newbie tour hopefully they've explained that space to you and what their particular rules are yeah uh okay so what about spaces that are um female only spaces or couple only uh or you know single males are only allowed here we've been seeing uh playrooms that are by playrooms and things like that oh is there any anything or like ladies only yeah ladies yeah some like bliss cruise has play spaces that are girls only at certain times of the day, things like that.
Yeah, I mean, I think like making yourself aware of the times and because a lot of these places are like mixed use. So, for example, like what you're saying, like the ladies only play space is just in a playroom. It's just during a certain time, like two to four during the day.
So I think just just like finding what they offer what the rules are around what they offer and then obviously being respectful of that like if it says ladies only maybe your husband escort you to the door give you a kiss and then you go on and have fun but he he can't go in it says ladies only you know you have you need to be respectful or just don't go in just to watch you can't the rules are ladies only it's ladies So if you're going to participate, you need to be respectful or just don't participate. You can't go in just to watch. The rules are ladies only. It's ladies only.
So if you're going to participate, you need to be respectful of the rules. And then, of course, you know, single guys, a lot of times they'll do like where they can be accompanied by a couple. You know, so if you go in with that couple, you need to stay with that couple until you leave.
You don't need to finish with that couple and then try to walk around and find someone else don't go be a creeper and try to find anybody else yeah so and then you know obviously bisexual if you are not actively participating or don't maybe don't participate there save that for people that that are both bisexual and or want to be a part of them yeah no i agree yeah and you'll i think the biggest reason to talk about that is just to make people aware that there are playrooms at certain times or meant for certain people or certain dynamics and things like that.
So just be cognizant of that and know that those exist. And sometimes it's good, right? So if you're looking for a certain thing, maybe knowing that that might be an option during a certain time of day.
Yeah, I mean like a buy buy mail maybe like a newer buy mail that wants to do that but is a little nervous to do it in like a group a large area that might be like your stepping stone to get there so yeah yeah and you know we we have we did the buy mail podcast we had a conversation about whether having buy play spaces like is necessary or not and whether that's maybe derogatory even in some in some aspects because really what when you say a buy only play space what that really means is a buy male only or buy male encouraged play space because females do it everywhere right correct but i think males can also do it everywhere right i just know that sometimes they don't feel super comfortable and i'm respectful of that yeah my point of that was some of the comments we got back on that podcast was it's it's really what it's doing is fostering a safe place for exploration yeah so that people know when they go there if they're curious about this this is a time where you can go and kind of explore that i hope that the lifestyle will become their safe place everywhere you know like that wouldn't that be the goal of all of this but i do understand that unfortunately we don't live in a world where everything is the way it should be and i just i do see benefits even throughout time of having you know just kind of like the girls only yeah you know having hey this is if you're by guy this is the time to go have an orgy with a bunch of yeah no i agree like i can i've i said that in one of our last podcasts that we did about the cruise i would that was on like my bucket list is i wanted to go because i think like that would be fun to like experience that without the males there which i've done girl only orgies before but but like in an open play space i thought it would be fun as a bi female so actually i love the bi playroom i get super turned on by by people playing whether they're female or male and i always want to go and sit and not be the creeper arms link distance but take it in and we and you have had conversations about if you feel like is that disrespectful if i just want to go and watch but it turns me on i want to be a similar thing as long as you're not messing their vibe up i would think it would be okay yeah i get turned on by it so i'm i want to watch uh okay so these this is where i have my general playroom etiquette so just the general notes and this is where we're going to talk about clean up after yourself okay and so we already touched on that clean up after yourself that's a huge thing um i want to touch one more time on the consent thing right yeah if you take away anything from this podcast for etiquette in a playroom is ask before you touch ask before you do ask before you get on the bed ask before you touch ask before you you know over asking is never going to be a bad thing yeah right um if you want to rub somebody's back if you want to play with their hair if you want to you know put it in their butt ask right that's that is the golden rule of play spaces is to ask and you can't over communicate that well and something else that you didn't mention i think it's worth mentioning here is having having a conversation none of this I don't know if this is technically etiquette but it should be if it's not when you decide in a playroom that you want to engage with another couple you need to have a conversation with them and listen we have been there we just talked about random girl the other day where Dan you know she started sucking Dan's dick next you know he's fucking her he did not ask her her rules and boundaries luckily for him it all went perfect she was into it her husband was into it it all panned out but everybody in the lifestyle has been burned at least once or twice where somebody you just start fucking and start doing things and you didn't have a conversation and next thing you know you've crossed somebody's boundary and somebody's pissed off yeah and so before you start engaging with a couple or a single or whoever you need to have that conversation hey before we start i think you're gorgeous i want to do this list and listen it's not sexy we all know it's not sexy to stop we all just want to jump in it's important that you know allergies and yeah do you have a latex allergy are you okay with oral can i kiss you um what what else do i need to know what are your i'm gonna wear a condom right i'm making sure you're okay with that and you know stuff like that that's important because one cross boundary could end a night real quick yeah and i you know you went back to the random girl thing i think you know one of the ways that that nothing bad did happen there is we literally she asked or i asked before every step along the way right so even though we didn't necessarily stop and say what are your rules and boundaries as it progressed right she said can i suck your dick and i looked at her husband is it okay if she sucks my dick yeah yeah i'm okay yeah i want to watch that okay yeah absolutely lacy you okay with she yeah yeah it's okay okay she sucks my dick yeah right then she wants to fuck and she says well will you fuck me now look at her husband are you okay if i fuck her yeah yeah it's okay lacy are you okay if i fuck so do you have an allergy do you need lentils free yeah no so you're right you're right stop what's happening and have that conversation as long as you have that conversation along the way at least you can you can stop yourself from hitting a roadblock yeah yeah it's better to have the whole conversation because even then yeah you know maybe i kissed her without thinking and that was a rule for them you know i mean so yeah we've had couples that there's no oral and if somebody doesn't tell you that and you have no idea and you go down he's like struggling to get hard and you go down to suck his dick and then all of a sudden all hell breaks loose, well, that's going to end your night.
So I think just having these conversations, and that's part of consent. In my opinion, this conversation and consent go hand in hand. Right. And I think, you know, if you do not stop to have that conversation, ask every step of the way. Honestly, even if you had the conversation, still asking.
And I's another you know we're talking in general etiquette i like when especially if we're playing in a playroom and somebody approaches me that i don't know and say it's a female and she's like can i suck your dick i think it's good etiquette to say yeah yeah yes i'm okay with that where's your husband oh my husband's over here oh hi husband hey is it okay if your wife sucks my dick even though she's giving me consent she's asking me to suck my dick I'm almost like checking her to make sure because that's avoiding drama right yeah if she's saying it's okay and then I find her husband and he tells me it's okay now I know he's not going to get mad yeah and then I find Lacey and say hey Lacey this person here wants to suck my dick is that okay with you and she says they're okay like that's really good communication yeah like honestly we can just look at each other typically it's not like i can point like yeah she's gonna suck my dick oh yeah thumbs up okay awesome yeah yeah i agree you're very good about it and you can use it in a sexy way it doesn't have to be so like like uniform like i love it when dan says can i fuck your wife like in like a sexy voice oh that does for me that turns me on so and i'll tell you the first time a guy ever asked me if i had an allergy like a latex allergy before he was gonna fuck me it was the sweetest thing it was like it like i was so i thought it was precious i was like oh my god that is the nicest most respectful thing anybody's ever said to me like i had never had a guy and it was actually at hedo years ago the first time we went to hedo no one had ever asked me that my whole life well i think it puts you at ease because it shows this person cares about me.
This person is looking out for my well-being. It makes me feel safe. He's not just trying to fuck me. He just doesn't want a wet hole to get off on. This person is caring about my well-being, which helps put people at ease.
If I've learned anything over the last 10 years in the lifestyle, I've learned that women feeling safe and comfortable is what leads to a sexy experience like they need that to be able to let go and enjoy themselves um and so as a male the the more at ease you can put a female i think the better experience that you're going to have and so those little things like you know asking before you touch and asking you know if they have an allergy and all those little things I think really can go a long way to make sure you have a good experience with somebody and really show that you're genuinely here for the right reasons and care about their well-being.
You're not just trying to get your rocks off. Okay. The only other thing I have here that we haven't touched on and I think is important is hygiene in place. I get this question a lot. This is, we talked about Reddit. That's another thing that people talk about on the Swinger page on reddit and i get it a lot on tiktoks and stuff um yeah take care of yourself present yourself as though you were going on a first date with someone you want to smell nice and listen we've been where we dance all night in a club and we're hot and sweaty and And ideally, you go take a shower. Rinse off real quick.
Rinse off real quick. A lot of these swinger clubs have showers and stuff where you can go do that. Yeah. It's pretty common. Hell, Dan will go rinse off in between like swapping girls. When I brought up hygiene, I wasn't really talking like overarching lifestyle hygiene. I was specifically talking place-based hygiene. But it's worth mentioning what you're saying. Well, if I'm gonna suck your dick and you've been dancing all night and it smells like sweaty, I mean, that's gross. Somebody wants to do that. Like shower off before. Or at least wipes if you have. Yeah, yeah.
Okay, so specifically in playrooms, wear condoms. If you switch partners, get a new condom.
And then on top of that it's it's a good thing to rinse yeah you know whether that's just using wipes or something like that or i physically like to go if i sometimes i'll go hop in the shower real quick like especially for in a hotel room and there's a shower right there i'll rinse off in a shower between girls um but if not at least wipes or you know sometimes i'll go in and just get a washcloth and a little soap and just kind of take a little whore bath yeah and then get back in yeah um you know because i want to keep playing you know yeah and i don't want to stick a you know a nasty latex covered dick in you know somebody's mouth they're gross guys listen you get way better blowjobs if you're if your dick does not taste gross right so like something about those latex free condoms taste i don't know they're weird so but yeah wipe it off right so changing condoms and cleaning up in between so i i wipe um we usually carry like dude wipes some people carry baby wipes or ph wipes um especially if i squirt it and stuff i'm definitely gonna you know take a breather for a minute go get a drink of water go get some wipes wipe up real quick you know maybe run to the bathroom go pee or whatever and then okay now i'm back yeah that's completely fine and me and my she even got good at she'll go take a break well and i'll keep fucking yeah she'll come back and she'll start fucking and then i'll take we don't necessarily have to break together you know yeah it's completely fine yeah unless i said like we need to take a break that usually means i did something to piss her off or somebody else in the room yeah yeah we need to take a break yeah we need a break yeah then we need a break okay all right now we need time i take a break people are going to be like oh so lacy lacy doesn't like me because she's taking a break well the funny thing is i usually are done before me like yeah want to tap out go to bed before me so sometimes it's funny because our friends know they're like are you done like i'm done yeah yeah sometimes you'll see lacy and she'll be like dan let's take a break and what that really means is dan i want to go to bed some but depends on who are we sometimes i'm like dan this is enough i'm done sometimes i don't care i'm just like go to town have fun but other times i'm listed over here to eat my snacks you do your thing what kind of snacks you have in here uh okay well i think that sums up yeah playroom medicaid yeah we went over it biggest things consent um understanding the different spaces and some of the different rules but if you ask if you just if communicate and overly communicate, I think you're going to find success in these spaces and hopefully avoid drama.
We probably freaked out the new people. Like, we've got to remember all this shit. You'll be fine. Really? What do you have to remember? Ask, right? Ask before you do anything. Yeah. That's what you're going to remember. Read this wall. There are usually signs on the wall that have them pretty posted. Read the signs. Be respectful. Ask and sit. Yeah. And have fun. Yeah. Okay. Anything else for the Swing Nation listeners? No. All right. We're gearing up. We got Secrets in Kissimmee, Florida coming up in, what, two weeks? Yeah. Man, that's scary. I know.
And then Bliss Cruise is right behind that. Yeah. So we're going to be on the April Bliss Cruise.
We're going to be gone for a week doing that uh and then we got another tempted so we're going to tempted in louisville in may in may yeah uh and then we're going what's that we'll be at splash atlanta in may um all of them all of these next four events are like top notch some of our favorites we're we're starting that time of year where it's like boom so you can't go wrong with secrets of bliss tempted um splash basically tempted and splash are the only ones that have rooms available so if you'd like to join us on either of those you can go to swingerside.net and grab your tickets um yeah so we're throwing the event at tempted um splash we just go and host a a party yeah we host the poll party help out we'll have our merch there all the fun things but it's a good time yeah so it you know as we're kicking off the summer here we're kicking off it's time to get things in full swing yeah so to speak literally uh so if you're curious about any of this and you want to come and party with us head on over to swing swingersociety.net.
We would love to see you at an event sometime. Come up. Please say hi. Yeah. I hate. We've had. We had somebody. They were just in Miami. Yeah. And somebody was like, we came to Miami to see you. We saw you, but we were too afraid to come up and say hi. They saw us at the club and at the beach and did not say hi. Like, come on. Say hi. And they were like from Canada or something.
Really you just made that up but if you but i think i don't know they were from they did say that but they didn't say where they were from but if they travel if you travel to come to an event and and you listen to the podcast and you want to come talk to us please just do that like don't don't be afraid yeah uh we're lacy's not nice but i'm a nice person i didn't realize until we started recording these podcasts what my resting bitch face looks like i thought i would watch yourself on film yes this is the way nobody wants to come up and talk to you no i didn't know i honestly did not know so now i feel like i'm just like smiling like teasing you can't see me probably listen to this, but I'm like, cheesing.
So people will talk to me. Make sure that Botox is still working. Yeah. All right. Well, I think that sums up this episode. We appreciate you guys being here. And we'll see you on Tuesday. Yeah. Okay. I think with that, in a world full of apples. Be the pineapple. Be the pineapple, guys. Bye. If you've enjoyed our podcast and want to support us, leave a five star review wherever you're listening. If you want to see more of our content, you can find links to Snapchat, Twitter, Instagram, OnlyFans, and more in the show notes.
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