Lifestyle Interview: Swinging as a Polyamorous Throuple

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We are your hosts hosts northern guy and southern girl and today we have a very special episode we are sitting down with two girls one pineapple and that's christina sarah and gene and they are actually a polyamorous uh couple in the lifestyle yeah we you don't see a ton of that hello welcome so we were really excited to sit down and talk to them and kind of see like what their relationship dynamic looks like yes so welcome welcome so um just for the listeners out there you guys can't see them on camera but we're we're talking to them via like a zoom call um and christina and sarah are here gene is not wasn't able to make it but uh um we appreciate you guys taking the time to sit down with us oh thank you thank you we appreciate it and thank you for having us all right so i think we we generally like to start with people that come on our podcast is we want to learn a little bit about you guys and kind of your lifestyle journey um so if you just kind of want to tell us you know how um maybe how you guys met and how how you found the lifestyle um maybe how you found polyamory we'd be interested to kind of hear that whole story well i guess i would start off with it happened it just happened because me and her we've been together for believe it or not not, 23 years. And it's just this love that we have to each other. We've been through hating each other, loving each other, on and off. Seeing other people, coming back to each other. And just truly somebody that knows exactly who you are. This is it. you guys started as a is a lesbian a couple together is that and how long were you dating or together that way we were on and like i said for 23 years on and off we've had other partners in the middle of it all but always seem to find each other okay and so when you had those partners you you had taken a break from your relationship and and went and dated other people a break from relationship and then there were a few partners that we did the relationship with the three of us but if now with our partner gene if you're not strong enough to handle two women and not put us against each other and all that other stuff that goes along with it yes you can't it won't work out it won't work out if three people truly uh think that it's just with one person or the other person it's literally three people i don't know how i don't know that makes sense yeah no that that does make sense uh so at what point in time so you guys are uh you know dating or is a lesbian couple so how do you how do you meet gene how does he come into the how do you kind of discover that you are polyamorous or want to be polyamorous how does that come up jean jean that that was fun um gene we met i was like you know what i feel like mixing up a little bit let's meet some people off craigslist right when was this how long ago was this just before craigslist closed down their i was about to say yeah just before yeah just before they closed down the casualty counters uh I had put out a post and we had met up and I had like we had like three on rotation at the time of just different guys and for some reason we really Gene and I really clicked um and then he just took up my Wednesdays took up up my fridays took up my saturdays and then i introduced um introduced him to sarah and then 10 no no 10 years eight eight years later here we are so you were seeing like alone you were seeing several guys from craigslist yes without sarah Okay, and just happened to be like the shining star of all of them he's the one that that kind of clicked with you so once you and gene kind of had developed something then you introduced sarah to him correct correct did he know about sarah the whole time or did you present it as you were a single woman looking for some hot fun i don't gene did i don't think gene really knew my name for the first yeah i don't know we can relate we've all been there yeah we did the name change we did the kick we tried to stay safe because you know there's a bunch of guys and the weirdos and trying to weed in the mouth you know um we like to like set up dates and then talk to them for a little bit and then cancel with them to see if they would get upset you know you know because there's one they'll be like no you suck and then there would be ones that'd be like oh it's okay and then those are the ones that kind of won the next level of oh yeah you really don't know who you're dealing with people online so that was really hard for us to just try to stay safe and try to you know and being there and being safe because we didn't know about these clubs about secrets and about um trapeze and all these other places we were just putting up posts yeah yeah so so i i assume from the way you're talking that you guys were kind of using craigslist to explore your fantasies or or sexuality yeah type of situation and so how i guess i get the question that comes to my mind is how do you identify that are you are you both bisexual or are you just bisexual we we're both bisexual we both like men but we tend to stick with each other because men haven't been like in everything that they were cut up to be at least so far yeah right so emotionally you guys connected but you you had desires to to explore with men to be with other men yes and that's what we kind of had trouble with before we're like are we going to be with each other are we going to be the whole monogamy thing yeah well we would have to be with each other why do we have to have such strong feelings for each other and not be able to explore these other feelings and still be with each other And that's where the lifestyle kind of came in and said oh wow we could still be um monogamous to each other but still have that decision to like okay let's play with somebody let's go out and meet somebody let's go do the freedom to have that voice to say this week i want to do something and be a lifestyle person is amazing because it's not something you have to do every weekend yeah you know lifestyle is a fun thing it's something that you do for fun it's something that you don't have to get it does get addicting the lifestyle does get addicting but you have to make sure your core is good before you play yeah if i don't do the things that she needs mentally physically done you i cannot play i have to make time for her to do the things that she wants to do the things that he wants to do you can't just go on the fact that this is always about sex all the time yeah that's that's hard to say that out loud no i get that so essentially you were in the lifestyle but you kind of didn't even know it you were just seeking out additional partners but had no idea that there was this whole other world exactly okay so awesome so gene comes into the picture Sure sarah i'm assuming that you hit it off with gene as well oh yes so how did you go from this couple that like to play with this guy on occasion to an actual polyamorous relationship? Well, Jamie was very open. He's very, um, that's the word I'm looking for. He's just, he's a good time. He really is. Like, overall, he's always there when shot. You know, he's just an amazing person. Always there to listen. Always there to say, okay, if there's something going on that he's willing to to just adjust the situation he's always there to have a good time he's only there for a negative time yes we all complement each other in our ways and it's just and when gene says something we listen yeah yeah so did y'all ever have like a moment where you realize oh wow we're polyamorous or did it just kind of naturally just kind of fell into that that kind of relationship i think uh it definitely fell into that i don't think we were really looking for it um i think we were just okay me and him start a day of seeing each other then Thank you. it definitely fell into that i don't think we were really looking for it um i think we were just okay me and him started seeing each other then all three of us started seeing each other and then all three of us started seeing each other more and more and more often and then it seemed to be like okay this is really working out let's not yeah let's not say anything before yeah well it's interesting you said you guys have been together for 20 years so you know i think back you know i assume you're similar ages to us 20 years ago even being a lesbian couple was probably something that um you know you maybe were closeted about or weren't super you know that was that was you know for sure yeah 20 years ago that that was something that was hard to be open about. So how did you know how I guess can you tell us a little bit about how, you know, did you grow up conservative and at what point in time did you realize that you, you know, were attracted to women and that you want to be in a relationship with women? Well, most definitely, I was a conservative one growing up in a Christian household and whatnot. So that definitely, she was my best friend. This is completely like that. To my parents, she was my best friend. And yeah, it's just, you know, can't go wrong with a best friend being a girl. yep yeah so and that we pulled that we pulled that with the wrong till today honestly really yeah yeah because i just i think they know i just don't want to like cross the line at their house you know yeah be nice nice about it i'm not here we're not here to smother business and people that really don't yeah if they don't want to hear about it they don't have to hear about it and we also don't have to exploit it in front of people that really don't like it they love us and they're not going to change that um my parents knew my parents and even knew uh before they passed uh about all three of us being together and my dad was like i don't want anything i don't know anything about it i'm just glad you're happy yeah and then my mother was like how the hell and i want to know everything yeah my mom was like even with us you know when we outed kind of outed ourselves to a family it was you know kind of the same thing first they're like shocked and then they're kind of concerned like are you are you okay is he making you do this like is there something wrong with your relationship and then once they kind of figure out that okay no everything's okay then they're like so how does this work exactly like what do you guys do like then they start getting curious and asking all the questions you know well usually i'm the one that they're blaming for everything yeah there's usually one in each relationship yeah that's me well she's she's a good conservative girl and you're the you're the one that came and were the troublemaker and yeah i think i explained her playing barbies that we were having like sex parties you know like we were dreaming about these things before it even happened for us. My actually says these things which i think it was my sister but my mom said that our barbies had a lot of sex and stuff like this but i think it was my sister i don't think it was me i think barbies is the perfect place to start yeah yeah it was just. Well, it's funny to me because, you know, we always talk about the lifestyle, you know, as a journey and, you know, where you start out and how you start exploring. It's not, you know, over the years, you change your rules and your boundaries and everything changes. And, you know, especially from your guys' perspective, it seems like your whole life has kind of been this lifestyle journey where, you know, you've kind of always been pushing back against the norms and what's okay and what's taboo.