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welcome to the swing nation podcast a podcast by swingers for swingers where we look to educate others and push back on the negative stigmas and misconceptions associated with our lifestyle come with us and share our pineapple journey as we travel the globe interview the experts learn and grow together join the nation so lacy people are asking how do they get to go to a party or an event with us they check out swingersociety.net you create a profile profile, you sign up for an event, and you come hang out with us. It's super easy. That's right.
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it out guys bye hey there pineapple people and welcome to the swing nation podcast we are your hosts northern guy and southern girl and uh today's episode we're in atlanta at a splash takeover and we're sitting down with bobby hello bobby hello and he is the uh the marketing director for the splash uh splash events it is uh our second day here lacy's a little i'm struggling lacy's a little hungover she may or may not have just rolled out of bed like i haven't even brushed my hair or my teeth Ha the mornings what time did you go to bed yeah i think they're competing to see you who made it up like two which it was pretty early like we tried to keep it kind of calm last night because we knew we had to do this this morning but i'm still tired yeah so anyway bobby let's let's usually the way we like to start this out is you know tell us a little bit about you like uh you know how you got in the lifestyle how long you've been in the lifestyle and kind of what what your experiences have been to get you to where you're at today so my wife Jamie and I we've been married for 15 years and we've been in the lifestyle for about 10 and throwing parties for I don't know maybe we've been in the lifestyle 14 throwing parties for Janelle blurs together I know yeah you know Lacey you have to sit down and do that math sometimes you know the first year it's how hey we've been doing this for six months you know you knew exactly how long you've been been going 14 years later it's like there's a lot of memories that i'll never be able to share because i don't remember yeah um so our experience to get in the lifestyle is a little bit unique um i've had a previous wife we were both in previous marriages and my ex-wife decided uh one year that a surprise birthday present for me was going to be a trip to trapeze atlanta um which would have been really cool if it hadn't have been a surprise trip yeah she could have totally told me two weeks ahead of time like hey i think we want to go to a swing club yeah would have had a little bit of time to communicate about that and it might have been different you know it's all about the connection you have with your mate we're obviously exes now so maybe not so when did you find out you were going to a swingers club like when i when i got in the car oh yeah did you know what trapeze was like did you have an idea being from atlanta yeah you hear kind of a rumor that floats around.
It's famous. You know, there's a sex club, you know, over on the west side. So I knew it existed. I knew swing existed. You know, I've seen all the little, because, you know, the old school days. I mean, we're in an age now where it's so easy to communicate.
But I remember being young and standing in line at a gas station and seeing these little circular like things almost like the the daily shopper but it was swingers yeah and you know handwritten ads with post office boxes and people sending polaroids and all that kind of stuff yeah we've talked to a few couples that did the put the ad in the back of a magazine kind of right so you know i knew it existed and i kind of looked at it wow yeah that exists okay um beyond that i didn't know anything about it had never considered that it would be anything that we would be into or that i would be into you know you're programmed to be jealous yeah you know it's what you're supposed to be right so you know until you really deep dive into how you feel about sexuality and have communication you have no clue you're into this to your yeah that's true um so the trapeze trip didn't go it didn't go well left a couple hours later and i'm like you know in a conversation like what the fuck were you thinking yeah you don't, when it was, no communication made it for like, so what was your motive on my birthday?
You know, I mean. Was she trying to get laid on her, on your birthday? I didn't, you don't know, right? Because there was no chance to talk about that. Yeah. Like, what interests you about this? Is it simply getting some more dick besides mine? Yeah.
Well, the funny thing is we've talked, we've talked to the manager of Trapeze and we asked like, you know, like, ask those kind of questions like, kind of questions like well what you know what are the some of the do's and don'ts and what would you recommend and she's like the number one thing i would say not to do would be to bring your spouse here on a surprise it's a surprise like whatever it's funny that you say that i was that worst case scenario so fast forward a few years uh jamie and i worked together we had a co-worker who mentioned that she uh had been body painted at a swing club and i said yeah i've been to swing club didn't really work out you know and uh jamie happened to overhear the conversation we were colleagues and friends for several years before we ever made a move on each other so then years later we're married and we had started to explore toys and you know role play and you know all the stuff that you do that leads into yeah you know just being push the boundary and uh i said you're the freak in some weird conversation he said you're the one who's been to the swing club yeah i said that doesn't make me a freak i said left after two hours not that it wouldn't have gone differently had you known had i known um she said you know what the hell you want to go we'll try anything once um like yeah i mean but we're going in together as a team to go if nothing else be entertained right just go explore you know we're people watchers i'm down to go to the circus you know yeah um and we went and we had a phenomenal time we were nervous as hell and we didn't talk to or make eye contact with anyone that wasn't why we were there we weren't there to hook up we were there to experience it together and it turned us on and we had sex all over that place you know beside the pool and on the cabanas in the back um the side of the hot tub because we already knew we didn't want a fucking hot tub um at the bar i remember me i had heard the bar stool turned around and i'm having sex with her and people are just coming up ordering drinks on either side um and someone kind of whispering about us like who are they god they?
God, they've been fucking all night, you know, that kind of stuff. Left and just totally enjoyed the experience. It opened up a huge conversation. Because even if it wasn't about what we might be into, it was about what other people might be into. Yeah. Then we found some of the social sites and looking at profiles and started learning how to be a swinger. Yeah. Yeah. I think that's a good point.
A a lot of people ask us can they go to swinger clubs or swinger events and just watch or just be with their partner and not swing absolutely yeah we get asked that question all the time it's almost like people think if they go they have to participate like the really cool part about that first experience was you know i told you we didn't we didn't give anybody any indication that we were interested in other people. Yeah. No one approached us. Yeah. There wasn't, you have to kind of give at least that eye contact invite. You do, yeah, you do. For someone to even approach you. So not only.
We've had a lot of couples say the opposite to us, that like, well, we've gone, we just have had a real hard time to like connecting with anybody.
And it's like, well, yeah, if you go to these events and go to these clubs and sit in the corner the whole time like you're not going to connect with like you have to push yourself to go and talk to people exactly which can be hard if you've been married to the same person for 20 years and haven't dated and flirted and stuff or if you just have that personality like i personally am a little bit more introverted he like is definitely the one that pushes us outside of the box right sometimes you need that one in the relationship that'll help do that too yeah and people in the lifestyle are so respectful if you don't give that indication that you want to be approached most people aren't going to approach you no yeah it's 100 true so don't just you don't have to be scared of going by yourself but you also don't have to be scared like being attacked it's not this big orgy you know it's not only if you want it nothing yeah it's there but it's not you know everybody's inclined to participate right yeah nobody's offended if you're just if you just go into a playroom as a couple and sit in the corner and watch people that's okay yeah I mean that's not like are you just about each other and just you know watch a lot of the folks out there probably think this is like all the sucky swinger movies that they make.
They haven't made a good one yet that actually depicts what we do. So you get all the cliches and the stereotypes and people just get the wrong impression. We just took it easy. We evolved over time like everybody does. At first it was a little girl-girl stuff.
As things happened, we had the stuff that happened that we said no we probably don't want to do that again that may have been a mistake you know we had the stuff like damn i never thought i'd do that yeah you know yeah yeah so how do you go from you know a couple that went to trapeze and for the first time to to now you're running three or four different kind of kind of another funny story uh it was a matter of convenience for us um anybody in the south probably knows that atlanta is horrible for traffic and it's like a tale of two cities so we lived south of town and all the parties and everything were in town or north so you know we'd have to sometimes drive two or three hours in traffic hotel room car you know and just a lot of inconvenience to have to go to enjoy yourself yeah and we had taken a break as our kids got into high school for graduations and stuff so we hadn't gone out like a and a half because we had to focus in on getting them pushed off to the next level of their life you know so they can be happy and we can have fun um and when we started talking about getting into it it's like you know what I think it sucks is there's nothing here where we lived right and jamie jamie's the whole reason the business thing started and she said throw a party like a meet and greet and talked about a little bit and make sure I'm down and we kind of coined the Southside theme and I posted up a group and you know finally a party nearby because I knew there had to be other people that felt exactly the same way we did sure well got away from us a little bit rented a 50 couple space you know hold about 100 people and we posted it up and like 60 couples signed up in the first week i contacted the venue i'm like this could be big i was like half these people aren't going to show up they're just signing up yeah yeah but you know we're still okay but we're going to have a good enough crowd that you're going to sell enough alcohol to to be happy with us folks would be good all that right the party was like eight weeks away well the next week another 40 signed up we got 100 couples and now i'm starting to freak out we've never done nothing we've yeah we don't know what we're doing.
We thought we were going to do a little meet and greet. Yeah. Meet some couples, have some fun. By the time we got to the party, it's funny, the guest list got bigger. And then the people from the north side, they're like, what the hell is this new thing? Yeah. Yeah, it's a drive, but look at all these people going. Yeah. So we started getting people signing up from all over. Wow. 185 couples. Wow. Wow.
We had to rent the entire bar not just the event space um it was nuts absolutely nuts and there was just a market for that where we were um the bar people try to take advantage of us in the venue sometimes yeah and the bar jacked up all the drink prices and all the menu was suddenly a paper menu with higher prices like geez guy i'm bringing you 400 folks and you're gonna jack the price up on it yeah yeah i said never again will we use a venue like that and i got really lucky and i called the first hotel i called i had a really open-minded guy just cool as hell he said you know what he said I hate these fucking baseball teams let's do it let's give it a try yeah and we rented out a floor and it just grew and you know a few months later it's the entire hotel and the rest is history I've been in a job for 30-something years.
Very, very demanding, very stressful. You know, having the boss, always wanted to work for myself, and just finally got to a point where it's like, you know, this could be a real career for us. Right. And we quit our jobs and started throwing parties full-time. Yeah. That's awesome.
Made a lot of connections, started connections started partnering up with some you know colleagues that had similar goals and interest and standards um it's cool a lot of people in the lifestyle work together uh friction parties uh lisa it was you know one of my mentors yeah um she let us host a meet and greet for and we i felt so special that our little group was hosting a meet and greet at the friction party yeah you know later on we threw parties together yeah the industry is really cool in that way that you get everybody kind of working together it's kind of coopetition yeah you know we all have the same you know customers we're on the same market but we can work to make it better for everybody if we work together and you got to have variety we're swingers we don't want to go to the same place that's like we don't want to have sex with the same person every time right no it's 100 that's that's a good way to look at it and i think we've we've for the most part we've experienced that with with the different podcasts and and people that we've come across that they've all been very welcoming and supportive of us and what we've done which is a good that's that's the right way to do it, you know.
If you try to undercut each other and, you know, that's... Sharing is caring. Yes, it is. Especially in this community, right? And we find that a lot of the folks that are good in the industry are the ones that want to cooperate with everybody. We push each other's parties, you know. If I don't have one that weekend, why would I not recommend that people go to another good party? Right, yeah.
Especially when the people keeps people from going to bad parties yeah yeah because it's getting bad you know in anything you do yeah now this wasn't really in my notes but how how did covid affect you and since you're doing this full-time how did you manage all that and get through that our last party before everything shut down was a friction party yeah which was like the weekend that like covid like hit the u.s okay another so when covid first happened um it was about two weeks into it i had to cancel a party that was sold out eight days before we were supposed to have it i had 180 couples yeah coming to an event and i'm gonna tell you right now if i'm canceling an event with 180 couple you know the shits hit the fan yeah okay yeah and when i did that i made the calls uh called most of the customers personally yeah because it's like you know because it was so controversial at that in those first couple of weeks yeah yeah nobody you know nobody knew what the hell was going on and you know some people were like ah this is nothing.
I'm like, I just can't take the risk. Maybe, but it's my business, so I'm going to make this call. I'll give you your money back. You're not getting screwed in this deal. I'm just not getting screwed in this deal in a bad way.
So I was driving after that and was and uh was thinking about what the fuck am I gonna do if this lasts for a while right and everything was going virtual that was when zoom took off so the first thing they did was all the work meetings and school everything went to zoom right and I'm thinking to myself so everything's going virtual how the fuck am I How do you have virtual swinger parties? What does that look like? I can tell you I did it. I did it. I set up all these Zoom rooms, opened a website. I went home that day and picked up the virtualswingparty.com.
It's not up anymore, obviously, because that faded. So don't go to the website.
It's not it was a it was something to do when we couldn't do anything else and the first did when i did on zoom and we had a hundred and something couples that logged on to zoom i had 28 blowjobs on the screen at one time i think that's probably never been done yeah that might be we need to call guinness i think get that verified well and then a couple days later i get the letter from zoom saying hey you can't have online orgies yeah i don't know how the hell they even know i think it was some of the wording that we put in like some of the room names wow you know huh um yeah at least you got one in though wow but then um we uh all all the major promoters use pretty much the same ticketing platform.
Y'all know that. So, all right, well, Zoom had gone to crap. I had no idea that our ticketing platform, and also somebody else had mentioned, hey, you know, maybe we need to open a video chat or something in the meantime. Well, I got a lot of good experience with this Zoom party. Yeah.
We worked with a couple of developers, and built a an adult version of zoom with some cool shit like gifts and all of that figured out how to digitally dj into this thing wow and we for a year every saturday night we had a party um all the clubs teamed up all the way from le boudoir in london wow to bronze party and club Joy and all them in LA and San Fran. So the party would start at 8 p.m. in London, and you'd have London come on, and then the East Coast in Canada, Oasis Aqua Lounge was involved, but the Body Shop in Pittsburgh, all of us pointing our people to this video chat room.
That's cool. And then the party stopped at 3 a.m. Pacific, and people were rolling through. We had burlesque performers come in and do shows and dances. We had online games where you used household items. It was really interesting.
There was no physical contact, and we managed to have what I would say was an online swingers party there's a lot of folks who got through on that yeah because you couldn't have any other interaction yeah yeah so yeah that's interesting we didn't talk about any of this beforehand it was funny you asked no i just kind of you know as you were saying that this became your life and then you know i was like man i didn't know what the hell i didn't know how I was going to explain the eight-year gap in my resume. Yeah. When you start looking for a new job. Right. Yeah. All right.
Well, I think at this point we'll take a little break, and we'll hear from our sponsors. And then we'll come back, and we want to talk to you a little bit about, you know, what to expect at one of these events, and then maybe some advice that you would give to couples that are looking to dip a toe, so to speak. Sounds good. All right. The Swing Nation podcast is proud to announce an official partnership with SDC.com. SDC stands for Seek, Discover, Connect.
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One of the cool things is we only do complete takeovers, so they can expect 100% privacy and security. Yeah. I love, I hate the hate the ones that are partial i mean i get that sometimes you have to do that but it just makes it so much better when you don't have to worry yeah if we hadn't done you know floor takeover we successfully pulled off several floor takeovers yeah and we've been to some that are they're fine don't get me wrong but if i had to choose a full one. You know, keep everybody off the elevators if you're doing that. You know, we had good security. We were anal about it.
You know, I had a guy at each end of the stairwell, you know, somebody at the elevator. We had it piped and draped, and, you know, we made it very clear to our people, there's no reason to go downstairs. Right, there's no reason to go anywhere else. Yeah, the party's up here anyway. So we never really got into the issue of getting complaints from other hotel guests. But it certainly was an adventure. How do you manage the DJ and the music and stuff? Do you still have that on a floor page? Yeah.
Typically, we would book enough rooms where we would have the party floor, which is where the party's at, and then at least one end of the floor below would be our overflow guests. They had to behave themselves until they got to the top floor, but it would give us a noise buffer so that we didn't tick anybody off below us. Even if I didn't have enough people, I'd book a few rooms just to avoid the issue.
But it's really nice having the entire property being able to use the pool you know just having 100 freedom and two you know you don't necessarily always know if you don't have the entire property a hot couple might come in that looks very much like they're in the lifestyle um i actually had that a guy came in a full-on pineapple Oh. Yeah, pants, shirt. It was, how could he not? Right. Had been, no, no clue. Just random. But everybody at the party is like, love it. You know what I mean? They're all talking. They just, automatic assumption. He's the pineapple guy. He's got to be one of us.
No, he just liked the pineapple stuff. So it was interesting. Another expectation is we create an atmosphere that is comfortable for everyone. You don't have to be any certain size, shape. We pride ourselves on a diverse party, so you can expect no judgment when you come to one of our events. You know, I almost hate bragging about what we do. This is the hardest part of this for me. Is that your job to brag about what you do? You know, we really let the product stand for itself. Yeah. You know, I can tell you that we are professionals. We're going to take good care of you.
We're going to keep your information private. We're going to give you a lot of space to have an adventure i can't tell you where that adventure is going to end yeah that's up to you we're going to have a dance floor and we're going to have a dj and sometimes there's going to be a hundred people dancing sometimes there's going to be 10 yeah there's still a hundred people at the party 90 of them are in hotel rooms having sex. We put up playrooms. Sometimes there's orgies. We've talked about it. Sometimes there's not.
So it's hard to lay out expectations for someone coming for the first time because that's really on them. We give them the atmosphere. They should really come with no expectations beyond a good, safe environment. And people who are going to make sure that they can have some drinks and have some fun and loosen up. We're going to be responsible enough to make sure nothing happens to them. Yeah. You know, they don't have to worry about anything. Yeah. Come escape reality and have a great time. Yeah. So I think, you know, what you mentioned in the spaces.
And I think because, you know, a lot of people have never been to one of these events, can you talk about some of the spaces that we have here? Yeah, so we're using a convention hotel, so we convert the entire property. When you walk in the front door, you can tell you're at an event. There's signage, there's sexiness, we're giving away swag. You feel like you're walking into a sexy trade show almost. No, you're absolutely right.
It it very much is even dan said that yesterday when we were sitting there yeah here we have an adult marketplace with several fantastic vendors you guys included stuff um liberators here with sex furniture we've got the dungeon store with all the bdsm stuff um we've got deviate with their games and toys and uh 10 inch dixicles yeah you know i have one of those too dixicles were popular yeah the pecker pops whatever you want to call them um then when you're uh going into the uh pool area uh we brought in i think a hundred extra pool chairs oh wow uh that we bring because you know no hotel is going to have enough pool chairs for several hundred people to be comfortable by the pool yeah um so you can expect uh a really good party out there lots of cool people um everything's not about sex you know the pool parties you see a lot of naked folks you see a lot of topless but they're bouncing with their drinks in the pool they're talking to people they're listening to music you know it's just a regular party but with people who are just a lot cooler yeah you know if you've ever been to like you know a pool party at a beach resort mm-hmm you know same atmosphere but without the jerks yeah and nakedness yeah well depending on the hotel you can either bring your own alcohol or if not we'll have bar set up We make sure foods nearby Nighttime we start with meet and greets so everybody kind of gets together in the restaurant area and bar area mingles a little bit before Going and taking the plunge so to speak We have a space here called the Pleasure Promenade.
That's our party space. That's where our ballroom is. We have a dance floor set up. A hell of a light show. Oh, for real, yeah. We put on a production. Oh, for sure, yeah, it was definitely. Turned the ballroom into a club. And then surrounding that, we've got play spaces. Yeah. Some small, some large. We've got one bed that's 50 foot by 30 foot. Yeah. I've never seen that many play spaces. Yeah. We've been to lots of hotels, takeovers, resorts, and I don't think I've ever seen that much. We look for the hotels with enough rooms to provide a different experience for different tastes. Yeah.
There literally is something for everyone. We've got a dungeon, you know, for the folks that are into the kink and the bdsm and impact play and all of that uh we've got a all of our rooms are themed around splash it's all about you know we're water theme right yeah so we have the plunge pool that's our orgy room with the big 50 foot bed we have one room called the Deck, and that's our voyeur exhibitionist space. We have beds along the wall, the liberated furniture in the middle, leather couches along the back wall. Me and Lacey spent some time there last night. Yeah, we did.
That room was very popular last night. Yeah, we did. Then we have some smaller rooms, one we call Pineapple Island. It's got those four beds.
If you want to not be in the middle of 200 people having sex and want to maybe get you know you and 10 of your closest friends yeah you got some space to go in and have a little more intimacy uh one room we call the odyssey it's completely blacked out with lasers yeah i want to go in there i think that would be kind of fun kind of a sensory deprivation type deal um we have the liberator adventure room where all their different furniture is in so you can go in and try all that stuff out which is really cool i like to be able to try all that the furniture yeah that's new i've never seen anywhere else and then the fact that they're here so if you like something that you use you could just go and buy it right i've already bought one thing two things and they've been great you know they gave us all the stuff to be able to accessorize the playrooms they're giving giving all of our folks a 30% discount.
We've had just a tremendous effort by promoters, sponsors, vendors. The last room that I was going to mention is we also have a mocha room, which is sponsored by Splash Mocha. It's for the hot wife scene. They have four of their most select single gentlemen that are hosting that room. That's the room they're in.
That that's where you want to go if you want to have the hot wife experience uh very professional gentlemen who are vetted and you can have a little bit of something for everybody without having too much of some things for sometimes in security outside almost every door correct i've seen security everywhere we've got a professional team uh they're on 24 hours a day and 12 hour shifts walking the property uh we don't let you know delivery drivers come in we don't want something to get posted on the local nosy facebook page you're not gonna believe what i saw yesterday because i didn't have a bracelet yeah i had to like be like i'm lacy with the swing nation and and every time you walk in whether they recognize you or not yeah you have to hold up your bracelet yeah yeah even if you've been in the door 20 times it's a protocol you never want them to forget and have have that slip up yeah where somebody walks in the hotel that shouldn't somebody in our group hers fell off and somebody saw it and they came and was like you've got to get your bracelet on.
So she had to step away and get that fixed yesterday. But they definitely take it serious. Yeah. We want to know that the people who are here are supposed to be here. Yeah. Another thing I like about your venue is you have the rules of the space are posted. I mean, every floor you come out of the elevator, there's a big poster with all the rules and all the play space. I mean, there's signage everywhere that makes it very clear what the expectations are. We want everybody to know.
You know, I never want to have to approach a guest and say you did something wrong and then be able to say I didn't know. Yeah. You know, we try to lay it out as clearly as possible. If they don't know at this venue, then something's wrong because it's posted everywhere. And definitely it's not our goal to kick anybody out.
anybody out no yeah but we wanted to be clear that we have high expectations of our guests to just generally follow the golden rule treat people like you want to be treated no means no yeah um certain things are appropriate and certain aren't um and consent uh you'll notice in the playrooms uh in our hospitality suites we have signs that are all about you know consent and what that means um all the way down to you know not using role play terms like don't call someone you know a bitch or a whore or a slut thinking you're in a role play without having ask in advance yeah you know but even the little things yeah and it helps people also kind of know what the etiquette is who are coming for the first time what should i do what should i not do um we get it clearly posted and people read it yeah yeah i know i told dan to take a picture of the sign so we could like post it because i thought the sign signage was very well done yeah just don't want anybody not to know what what we expect of them as guests and it's not much just that right it's not yeah just be respectful be respectful ask for consent take care of the hotel because they're taking care of us.
Which, let's talk about that. So, a lot of hotel takeovers, the hotels are not the greatest. I think it's just because we're swingers and they think they're probably going to trash the place and don't like us to come in. This hotel is very, very nice. So, well done. Good job for you. You learned from Lisa, I see.
Lisa has the best hotels, too best I give a lot of folks credit for sharing with me their methods of making sure a venue is doing the right thing and a quality venue you can't go into any hotel and not find something wrong with it right yeah you know that's just the bottom line we have a really nice clean yeah property it's a name-brand hotel we never disclose the location to anyone unless they purchased a ticket we wouldn't have made it this long if we were lying to you and saying it's a nice property but not tell you where it's at yeah very nice and very easily located too so there's food around I mean it's just like a good location you always have a little small issues come up you know uh we hold out rooms that are oh rooms just in case something happens you know we're gonna sell out but we can't sell every room because if i sell every room and someone's air conditioner doesn't work right i have nowhere to move them so we hold back to make sure we cover for that because i wouldn't want a guest to come in and us not be able to the issue.
We have very few of them because we use good properties, but when we do, we're going to make it right with our customer. Yeah. Yeah. So I guess really the last thing is, you know, if a couple was to come here for the first time, new couples, you know, you've been doing this for a while, you know, what are some of the mistakes you've seen?
What are some of the things maybe to look out for what would be your advice to a new couple that might be looking to have come to an experience like this uh first thing that comes to mind is absolutely communicate don't surprise anybody with a trip here please yeah but you know have your your ground rules laid out as to what you are interested in and willing to do and not willing to do in advance so that you don't end up with drama on your first time because we're talking about if you're completely new to this um there's got to be a conversation had about what each person is comfortable with what they're expecting to get out of it yes how it enhances their relationship and their sexual experience together right if any of you out there are having a one-sided conversation where one of the people in the couple is saying how great it would be but the other one is not really getting anything mentally stimulating out of the conversation right you're not going to get anything sexually stimulating out of the experience yeah yeah you know you're not into it you're into it you never know but you got to communicate in advance and one of the best things to do is to set some real good boundaries and go try it out the first time with no real expectations of doing anything other than enjoying a social experience with a bunch of open-minded cool people so fun i think people forget that that just being in a sexy environment watch just like you said the first time you went with your current wife how you just played with each other but just seeing all the people it just turned you on and you just wanted to fuck her everywhere it's same thing i mean like last night dan and i we just we just had sex with each other but like in public in front of people and it's so hot i mean i think people discredit that a bit if that can be so much fun yeah I mean that's nobody is as good as my wife correct you know I mean that's just the bottom line yeah I've had a lot of sex with a lot of different people yeah there is no one that is gonna be as the sex doesn't have to have an emotional connection right but it's always the best with the one you who you have that connection with in my opinion right one she you know it's like the home field advantage thing right like she knows yeah you know the field is what she likes you know like like you know it's hard to come in and compete when somebody has that much you know experience on with I'm sure you've had couples come and get in fights.
We've talked to other hotel takeover people, and they're always like, yeah, couples counseling. I never thought that would be something I would do, but I end up doing a lot of it. Is that something you've experienced? We definitely have experienced it.
um not a a lot because some of the screening that we do is we're looking for like a lot of people look at profiles and the first thing you're looking for is the aesthetic right yeah everyone looks at the pictures yeah right so when someone signs up for our event it's okay if you're new if you've never been anywhere before but we're gonna look at your profile and i mean something as small as capital letters and punctuation say a lot about how much you care about how you're representing yourself if you put effort into your profile then you're probably going to put effort into representing yourself well in person yeah right if you don't care any more than to say something on your profile like looking for some sex yeah you know obviously you didn't care enough to represent yourself well from your own house on your computer yeah how will you be here yeah and you know some folks i'm sorry they just don't get the address yeah yeah well i've refunded people before they've ever come before because i could tell something and was off was off and i don't Thank you.
yeah yeah that well i've refunded people before they've ever come before because i could tell something and was off was off and i don't want to be that place where you come and hash out that stuff right um when we do have an issue arise yes couples counseling sure um but i can't spend a lot of time on that i've got 300 400 other couples yeah that this negative experience over here i can't let that bleed into everybody else's good time yeah right or distract me from making sure that all those people are happy yeah so my strategy is to uh make sure that they go somewhere right i had a couple that were you know pretty messed up with alcohol that had been fighting in the room that They trashed the room and i uh actually got them each a hotel room at a different hotel and an uber on me and i told him i said i'm gonna send you here on me i'm gonna send you here on me that way you're not left in the cold yeah but you can't stay here and if y'all get back together after i sent you 10 miles apart and beat the hell out of each other i don't feel bad bad.
Yeah. I did not do what I needed to do to deescalate the situation. Right. But I try to get everybody to just calm down and y'all take it somewhere else. Cause there's a bunch of other people in here who really just don't want that drama. Yeah. All right. Well, you know, is, give us a, is there anything you want to tell our listeners? Tell us, you know, the swing nation listeners, um, how can they find you? How can they find your events? Any last parting words of wisdom that you'd like to impart on the people out there? If you want an erotic vacation, we're the place. I agree with that.
Without having to spend flyover money.
We try to keep everything accessible and affordable for everybody so new people can try it out without a thousand two thousand three thousand dollar investment if they want to we have affordable options and then we have premium options so there's something there for everybody come try it out come have fun enjoy yourself we can promise you that we're gonna take good care of you we're professionals we've been doing it for a while um and if you have any questions contact us one thing just to touch on for for newbies do your homework before you go somewhere you can look online you can find reviews you can see whether you're going somewhere that is reputable yeah there's a lot of great promoters out there who are professionals they're in the industry they're licensed they're insured do your homework before you go out and go somewhere reputable right you know don't set any expectations find something that that interests you go for it but do your homework in advance yeah don't not know what to expect from where you're going yeah you know i can put all the information online i want to if you don't read does you know good yeah so uh we just want people to come check it out look at the details look how much effort we put into writing it up and and coming up with a schedule that gives you something for interaction every moment of the day yeah no that's the truth i mean there's literally something all day every day here you can do as little or as much as you want and you get the opportunity to make connections with people that you don't necessarily sometimes at an on-premise club that's only open for five hours in a night you run in the door you're trying to get a buzz maybe see if you're going to have some sex and be at breakfast at waffle house by 2 a.m a lot of pressure yeah pressure.
Here you can come all weekend and hang out with some really cool people. You're going to meet people who you're going to like, whether you want to have sex with them or not. You're going to make some of the best friends in the world. And we've got good people who've been a lot of repeat guests, so they've been in this for a while. So for newbies, come in and you're going to feel welcomed. I don't know.
Again, I don't like to brag about myself i like other people i rely on other people yeah no that's good to tell folks what a good job we did yeah yeah you know we'll definitely tell that we'll talk about it we've already had a great time we don't want to stick our chest out because you know as long as you remain humble you're going to continue to do the best you can for your guests yeah you know we're humbly honored for y'all to be here as our guests people say all the time you know thank you so much for throwing this party my response is thank you for showing up because it really sucked to buy this entire hotel and nobody show up yeah you know it's just as much you throw in the party as it is me yeah okay and then uh if people are looking for you and your your events what's the best website for them to go to splash takeovers.com for splash takeovers events i also have open instincts so openinstincts.com yeah link everything i got so much stuff going on there's lots of websites okay and do you have any other upcoming splash events uh yeah we got fort lauderdale in september uh 22nd through the 25th and we're doing a co-event with couples escape in houston texas november 11th through the 13th and uh as soon as this event's over we're going to be posting atlanta 2023 oh awesome uh we're looking to book some live entertainment for the next one maybe have some live entertainment next to the pool that's cool maybe even a headline performer in the ballroom Oh, fine.
Stay tuned. We like surprises. Yes. Awesome. It does not go in the ballroom. Oh, fun. That's exciting. Stay tuned. We like surprises. Yes. Awesome. Just not going to the swing club for the first time. Yes. That's right. All right. Well, I think with that, in a world full of apples. Be the pineapple. Be the pineapple, guys. Bye. Bye. If you've enjoyed our podcast and want to support us, leave a five-star review wherever you're listening. If you want to see more of our content, you can find links to Snapchat, Twitter, Instagram, OnlyFans, and more in the show notes.
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