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Speaker1: This podcast is intended for adult audiences. Over the age of 18, it contains adult language and situations. The views, thoughts, and opinions expressed in this podcast belong solely to us, and not of any employer, organization, committee, or other group or individuals. This podcast is not intended to be taken as professional advice. welcome to the swing nation podcast a podcast by swingers for swingers where we look to educate Speaker2: others and push back on the negative stigmas and misconceptions associated with our lifestyle come with us and share our pineapple journey as we travel the globe interview the experts learn and grow together. Join's two. All right, ours is now. They're doing it. Hold on, everybody. We're getting this all live, and then we'll get it started. Dan, I'm taking over. You're fired. I got fired already. Speaker1: No, you really can't fire me. Speaker3: No. Speaker1: Please never run and bring away together. Speaker2: You're here for Discord? Welcome, Discord. Speaker1: Thank you, Discord. Speaker2: Getting water for people. Alright, give us like two minutes, guys. Ready to finish the logs. Actually, two, three. Yeah, we'll take more. Thank you. I'm going to go live on KIK. Sure. On what? KIK. I'll take KIK. All right, we're live. Y'all, secrets is amazing. All right. So much fun. So much fun. Yeah. Pass. If anybody else has to. All right, we're live. Y'all, Seekers is amazing. All right. So much fun. Yeah. Pass. Did anybody else? All right. I got it. Let me in on. So I think we're live. I'll take it. I think everybody's live. Welcome, everybody. We are live from Seekers Highway Resort in Kissimmee, Florida. We've got the entire Swim Talk crew here in the club, and it's a sold-out event. And we've been having lots of coffee for the last day and a half. So we appreciate everybody joining us. If you guys would like to ask questions of any of these Swim Talk ladies, please join us on Discord. And you can go to... Show me. Show me? Yeah. Oh, all right. I'm not used to being on the camera but if you would like to ask a question please join us on Discord you can find that on theshownation.net and I think most of these ladies have a link in their bio if you go check on their beacons links so join us on Discord, you'll see the event there ask us some some questions, and we'll do this. Speaker3: I see lots of hearts coming in on the screen. So click that screen, guys. Speaker1: Let's get as many people in here as we can, and we'll be answering your questions.
Speaker3:
So, I guess Malia, what? We have it. I didn't mind you. We have an idea. All right. Like, if we could get, like, a certain amount of likes amongst them I'm small, we'll do a shot.
Speaker1:
Do a shot?
Speaker2:
Where's party mark?
Speaker3:
Do you have a shot? Something?
Speaker2:
Some kind of shot bottle?
Speaker1:
Yeah.
Speaker2:
We're going to start this party.
Speaker3:
If you're in the line right now,
Speaker2:
you need to get it to 10,000 likes on the screen. I think it's 7 Thank you very much. Thank you very much.
Speaker1:
Thank you very much.
Speaker2:
Thank you very much. Thank you the screen, tap on the screen. That's so cool. Oh, that's so cool. Lacey's winning, but anyway. Oh, who's that down there? That was going crazy, too. Oh, oh, Kyle and Lacey are the rest. All right. So, who's got the microphone? Lacey, you got the first question, I guess. Uh, this is from, what? I'm ready. Are you ready? Good. All right, so who's got the microphone? Lacey, you got the first question, I guess. This is from what? I'm ready. Are you ready? Good. All right, so this is from Discord, and this is from an anonymous person, and it says, do you guys feel that going to the club, being new in the lifestyle is a good thing, and why? I think it depends on your personality. Like, if you are a club person, then absolutely go to the club. But, like, if that's not something you're into, then you're probably not going to like it. Like, if you're more like a laid-back live music type of person, then maybe meet a couple and go do that. But if you love dancing and music and the atmosphere of a club, try it. You don't have to swing with anybody just because you go to the club. You can watch and dance. And even sometimes just the dancing alone can be fun enough to go home and turn that into some fun later. When we talk about this on our podcast, I know a lot of these girls talk about it on their live streams. It's really personality driven, and it really depends. Does anybody else want to touch on that? Anybody want to make further comments? No, I'm just saying that I think we all agree that it greatly depends on what type of personality you have.
Speaker1:
If you're an outgoing person, then a club's a great place. If you're more shy than meeting a couple and going out on a date, it would be a better option for you.
Speaker2:
House parties, yeah, no house parties. For newspapers? House parties I would recommend. I feel like there's more stress involved or assumptions. I would say house parties more clicky. Yes. Oh, for sure. Because they're part of many other groups. All right. Anybody else have anything else in the back? Careful, Lacey. Moving on. Lacey's are the few firewall shots in. If anybody knows. Just one. Let me check off a lot of streams. Yep, we're still up. We're still up everywhere. All right. That looks good. All right. Don't forget, if you want us to do a shot, you can click the screen. Everyone check. Give me an eye. Give me an eye on the likes for shots, guys. Party mark. Party mark is standing by.
Speaker3:
All right.
Speaker2:
Question number two. This is from Malia. Am I going to see that? Yeah. If you could give one piece of advice to a young, new couple in the lifestyle, what would that be?
Speaker1:
Oh, this is easy, and I feel like it's what we tell every couple, but you have to communicate. You have to talk to each other about the things that you don't want to talk to each other about, and that's the biggest advice that I have for a new couple, is just make sure you're communicating about everything. That's good. That's a good one. I think that will make my pass around. Alright? We'll go to the next. Kyla, what would you say for a new couple? I would definitely say, too, you know, a lot of people who are getting into a lifestyle, they struggle with insecurities. Don't be insecure. Don't be afraid to put yourself out there. Don't be afraid to talk to people. You know, we are the nicest, most non-judgmental people out there. You know, if insecurity is what's moving you away from this, don't let anything keep you away
Speaker3:
from it.
Speaker2:
What do you got to add to that? New couple, one piece of advice.
Speaker1:
Only invest the time that is invested. Yes, don't waste that. If you're going to let a couple, make sure they are I'll see you next time. only invest the time that is invested yes don't waste that um if you're going to vet a couple make sure they are vetting you be 100 honest and do not effort travel out of state or far away to meet a couple that you've never met before without vetting because that can there's so many non-realistic people out there. We don't have anything else to do with the trauma. So, yes, we've made that mistake. I'm sure a lot of people have. So, yeah, just check your sources before you invest any of the time that could be lost.
Speaker2:
All right, anything else on that? Or what I'm going to do next time? Do you like the spice? Do you have something? trust, trust is a really big thing, as long as you have a strong bond and a strong trust system, it feels like you're great. Thank you. Alright guys, we're trying to get 10,000 likes on the screens, we're at 7,000 there. We got 560,000 screens. You guys have to turn it up a little bit. We're at 10,000. 2,000 for Malia, 4,000, and 3,000. So keep looking at that screen. Party Mark is ready to get shots. All right, next question. Kylie, you got this one? For those that don't have good luck in the lifestyle apps like SLS, SBC, Cassidy, etc., what would you recommend for those people that still want to meet other people in the lifestyle? So I recommend, Brad and I struggled with this before we got
Speaker1:
into the club scene. We had no luck on SLS and any of those. We didn't know what apps to use at the time because they're all regional. So we went to the club and that worked for us. But again, it is personality driven and I'm a very out there person, so I think it worked for us, but definitely We'll be to that. So Dan and I, at this point, very rarely ever meet anyone on SLS and SDC, just because we only sleep about once a month and we always go somewhere. So a lot of people don't use those apps. Even though we love the apps to find events and the findings but actually meeting couples we very rarely do that. So usually we'll just plan a night and say oh this is where we're going and then if we happen to meet someone on the map, you know, let's just say, we're like, hey, we're going to be there at this night. That's actually how we met y'all. We messaged on SDC, and it was a few years ago, and we were like, hey, we're going to be at this place on this weekend, and they came and met us, and here we are, like, a few years later, still being announced. Yeah. I would say TikTok is a great place. I mean, it's important to all of you guys, so thank you, TikTok. Well, I was going to say the same thing that Lacey said, so, I think if you don't have luck on those sites, the best thing is to get in with a friend and just kind of roll it. Because the right kind of person is going to lead you to the right kind of people. So, that's how we, like I said, we kind of... I think we're in the right place. Yeah. We're in the right place. So, and we've got a couple of other friends that we have group friends with. So, but not, you know, we're going to be nice.
Speaker3:
Alright, I think, hey Mark, I think we're ready.
Speaker2:
We're ready for round one of the shots, guys. I think we're going to agree with you at 6,000, 6,000, 3,000, oh, on this one, oh, you're at a 15,000 value, you're at 12,15,000 value. You're at $12,000. Hey, I'm disappointed. Swim Talk Nation. You guys are $3,000. $1,500.
Speaker3:
$1,500.
Speaker2:
$1,500.
Speaker1:
$1,400. Don't be getting us
Speaker2:
banged up TikTok now, ladies. Alright. Alright.
Speaker1:
We love it.
Speaker2:
Give it up for the...
Speaker1:
Alright.
Speaker2:
Give it up for the... What is your name?
Speaker1:
Alright. A bartender egg secret? Give it up.
Speaker2:
Woo! Alright, it's a swim talk. It's a swim talk. Take a shot. It's a swim time, take a shot. Alright guys, keep looking at that screen, we're gonna see the girls doing another round of shots. Marty Mark is over here, she's got all the shots ready. Here you go. Alright, so this next question is on Discord, and it comes from Ali and she wants to know, would you honestly recommend going to an event as a single female? Let's pass this over to Life of Spice. You've already had like two questions. Life of Spice. Life of Spice. Would you recommend going to an event as a single female? Yes, I say most people love unicorns, so I have to say it's also great to be other singles and just friends in general. I say yes. I do have something to add. Yes, single females go, but for safety reasons, please let someone know that you are So as a single female, once in the lifestyle, I never went alone. I never did. I always went with a couple, even if they were just there to be my friends. I always went. And as a single female, if I ever did meet a couple, I always told someone, like a best friend, where I was going. I would say I'm going, even if it was a hotel, just to be honest, if it was a hotel, I would say I'm going to be at this hotel on this day and don't ask me any questions. My best friend is like, okay, thanks. I got you, girl. I got you. So yeah, definitely be safe. Alright, anybody else got anything to add? Anything to add to that? So single females out there? Yeah, absolutely. You get to go to an event. If you meet a couple at head of time, and they can escort you, that's nice. But bring a friend. Fine to keep your own. Bring a friend with you. Alright. Definitely. Message us on TikTok before you go. Just for the record. We'll make sure you're fine. Alright, your turn. This next question is from Discord, and it's Zizi Poopahoo, and that's a nice name. If you can give one piece of advice to a young and new couple to have this lifestyle in a healthy way, neither being worried about STUs nor being conversation of healthy into toxic relationships. What would it be? Not being conversion. And you're going to be a shit. Yeah. Yeah. Give advice on STUs. And just to make it simple, how to have fun with someone without having wear a dress.
Speaker1:
Okay, this is easy. This is so easy. I mean, if you were single, not in a lifestyle, how often do you go tested? If you are sexually out there, and you have to do it again. It's responsible.
Speaker2:
Responsibility.
Speaker1:
Check yourself out. Always, always routine testing and protection at all times. And that is usually number one with any couple. Am I right? Number one, always protection, but just for safety, routine testing. Just like everybody else All right.
Speaker2:
All right.
Speaker1:
All right. All right.
Speaker2:
All right.
Speaker1:
All right.
Speaker2:
All right.
Speaker1:
All right. All right.
Speaker2:
All right.
Speaker1:
All right., I feel like that's just fine. I agree, yeah. I think once that comes up a lot, I think the answer is you're going to take the same precautions everybody else takes, but go ahead. I just think, too, just to remember that if you open up that conversation with each other, with fellow swingers, that's okay, too. It's okay to have that talk and say, hey, listen, we're really big on protection, we're really big on STDs, you know. It's okay to talk to each other. We are open about it, and we all talk about it, you know. The lower percentage of STDs than people are single, right, right? The lower percentage, because we take those precautions. There's a second half of this question I kind of stunk a lot, but it's saying what about mental, like making a mental mistake and then regretting it. There's some questions about that. So any advice on, I guess maybe not going, you know, like regrets, how to not do something I would regret in the future. Yeah, I mean, if you're, if, in your question, you're meaning, like, what happens if a rule gets broken, communicate about it, go slow. If you're wanting to prevent those things from happening, go slow and communicate through the whole process. It's okay to have conversations with the other couple before you have coffee with them and say, hey, these are our rules. These are our guidelines that we follow. What rules do you have? It's not an awkward conversation in the lifestyle to have. Anybody else got a comment about
Speaker2:
not rules or boundaries or not having regrets in the lifestyle?
Speaker1:
Mistakes happen. Rules do get broken. It's what you do about that situation afterwards. Do you just get mad at each other and call it quits because somebody broke a rule? Or do you continue communicating and say, hey, we messed up
Speaker3:
Thank you. that situation afterwards? Do you just get mad at each other and call it quits because somebody broke a rule?
Speaker1:
Or do you continue communicating and say, hey, we messed up at this point, but what do we need to do going forward to
Speaker2:
make better choices? Great. Great advice. Alright. I think it's time for another round of shots. I think we're getting up there. 10,000 here. 6,000. Wow.
Speaker1:
Wow.
Speaker2:
Wow.
Speaker1:
Wow.
Speaker2:
Wow're getting up there. 10,000 here, 6,000, I was pressing almost 20,000, 5,000, 19, come on guys, come on. Swim nation, what are you doing? Life time of beating us. Come on guys, 200 people in our room. Click faster, Daphne's up at 3,000. You guys need to click faster right here. You guys click faster. All right, what's going on over here? Over here, we're in Clicks Faster. Daphne's up at 3,000. You guys need to click faster right here. Alright, what's going on over here? Over here, we're at 19,000. Life of the Spice is crushing it. Well seen in Life of the Spice. Come on guys, two fingers, click that screen, get them going. We're here at Secret Hideaway Resort. Marty Mark wants to get these girls drunk, but he needs your help. He needs your help as a team member here. All right, cheers to Swing Talk. Swing Talk! All right. All right, Lacey, we're not doing keto again. All right. She getting my eye out of her. I'm from Canada. This is coming from... Pass the microphone, man. Man, do you like the center of the stage? I don't think Daphne's answering the question. Pass it down again. All right, Daphne. We've got a question for you. I know this is only her second TikTok Live, guys, so... No question. No question. How have you dealt with various adversities that you've faced in the lifestyle? How have you dealt with various adversities? Don't look at me like you don't know what to say. When you've struggled, yeah. Yeah, if you've got any issues in the lifestyle, how do you deal with that? There you go. Well, the only issues I've had in dealing with people on TikTok at this point, there's not many people know in my personal life, so just kind of read through the negative comments and just kind of let me roll off my back a little bit.
Speaker1:
Fast experiences. We like it.
Speaker3:
We like it.
Speaker1:
We like it now.
Speaker3:
What?
Speaker2:
Fast experiences. So, yeah.
Speaker1:
I'm going to pass it.
Speaker3:
Okay.
Speaker1:
So we all deal with it all the time, right? I mean, we deal with it on TikTok. We deal with it.
Speaker2:
And that's why we're here.
Speaker1:
We're here to break out this thing. We share the swingers of, like, pretty awesome people who raise money for charity. We're not just about coffee.
Speaker3:
Thank you. We're here. We're here to break out this thing to show that swingers are like pretty awesome people who raise money for charity. We're not just about coffee. We are good humans and we love each other. We love everybody else. I mean, we're just, it's not as bad as who we might get out to be. So, we don't care. That's why we're here. That's why we're showing our faces. We don't care. Pass the mic. Anybody else? Questions about adversities you face as a lifestyle? So I think working with your partner and talking to your partner when you're dealing with those adversities and having them as a support system really, really helps. Just to have your partner with you and talking about it and communicating. Brad and I have been through our share of adversities. So, I would say swinging is not for everybody. That is what I say. That is always my first response. Judgment is always the first thing that comes up. And it is not for everybody. but those with an open mind who are even just curious about it and ask about it who want to know more or look like curiously, they are all some freaking lies. It's not meant for everybody but it is always meant for you. Alright, anybody else got anything about adversities that they want to address? Alright, moving on to the next question. Pass the mic. I haven't heard May-Nee say anything. May-Nee, this one's for you. This is from Crystal Candy. How did you get past the society morals?
Speaker2:
For example, I as a woman sometimes find myself doubting if it's okay for me to want and do certain things because I might be labeled as bad. How do you get past that?
Speaker1:
Coming from a second generation to your family, communication is key. You're doing this for you and your spouse. You're not doing this for everybody else.
Speaker2:
Thank you. Communication is key. You're doing this for you and your spouse. You're not doing this for everybody else. So if it's good for you, if it's good for your husband or boyfriend, do it. And you know what? Forget the haters. Because you're going to have it. Awesome. I think we can all fall back to that. But anyone else have comments on how do you get past society judging?
Speaker3:
I would just, I mean, what Nadine said, don't, if you're truly happy in what you're doing, it shouldn't matter if somebody doesn't like what you're doing,
Speaker2:
because you're making the best decision for yourself, and that's who you should tear up against.
Speaker3:
Great answer, Malia. Great answer. Thank you very much. you're doing, because you're making the best decision for yourself, and that's who you should care about to use.
Speaker2:
Great answer, Malia. Great answer. Anybody else got anything about society? Society judging you guys and how to get that set? Life is twice. You have to use mine. You got a comment on that?
Speaker1:
Anyone from your husband?
Speaker2:
Alright, she's cheering you on. Who's turn?
Speaker1:
I'm just saying, Life is twice. Life is twice.ice's phone is the only one that I really see hearts still.
Speaker2:
I don't accept the hearts, 11,000, 6,000, 20,000, 7,000, and they can see the hearts
Speaker3:
from where we are.
Speaker2:
32,000.
Speaker1:
You guys are doing it. Go ahead and get it.
Speaker2:
30 and a half. You got to come on, Daphne's group.
Speaker1:
Pick it up a little bit. Pick it up a little bit.
Speaker2:
Thank you. 32,000, you guys are doing it, one over here, 30 and a half, you've got to come on to this group, pick it up a little bit, pick it up a little bit, over here, 31,000, 31,000, Life of Spice fans are in the league, come on guys, alright, nice question, who's turn, I think it's Life of Spice's turn, since her fans are actually know how to put the screen here. Alright, this comes from Andy Buggs. How do you navigate having a career which may be jeopardized by you participating in a lifestyle? Well, I don't have to deal with that personally, but I'd say if no one didn't step through
Speaker1:
who you are, then maybe you don't belong in that environment, but I understand some might have, you know, years and years in their career, so I would just try your best to keep that separate. You know, nobody really wants to know all about your coffee life, like your parents don't want to know what you do behind closed doors, same with your employer, so just try keep that separate all right that's a great answer great answer anybody else has questions answers about dealing with possibly losing a career there's a lot of ways to be discreet in a lifestyle you know when you're on your websites you don't have to show your face you know you don't have to go make tiktoks like we do and be completely out there as a swinger you know you can be very discreet and you know just make sure that everyone that you're that you're playing with or everybody that you're around knows that you want to be discreet i mean discretion is one of the most important rules of the lifestyle um and yeah i would just say if you want to be discreet keep it discreet if you don't want your job to to know. One of the things that we're working on is we want to, you know, kind of help break that stigma. And we do want to change the laws so that they can't fire you if you are, if it does come out that you're a swinger, like that your job can't fire you. There should be, you know, law against that. I think it's definitely growing. Same with homosexuality and different careers. I have one of our best friends is an amazing person in the Army, top recruiter, highly decorated, and that is your career. This is separate. You don't talk about sex at work. Sorry. You don't discuss sex at work. That's a recipe for a lawsuit. Do you go in to work and tell people about what you did? No. You don't. That's private. And it should in no way impact your career at all. Those are two very separate things. And to be judged on that. Anybody else have any answers on? Alright. You got something for that one? No? I'm not going to be mad. Alright, let's see. So that was all my pre-rated questions. Let me go and see if I can find it. Don't forget to tap your screen. Yes, yes, I love you guys. I love you guys. I love you. Alright, keep talking, Belia. Let me get into it. Can we ask questions among each other? Yeah, go ahead. How do you handle insecurities between you and the United States? Life is Spice, Texas, and says, repeat after me, say, I'm sexy AF, and I'm ready for that. No, you really do. The lifestyle, I know a lot of people worry about insecurities, but walking around at a party or walking around a club, there are so many men and women that are telling you you look amazing, they think you're hot, you're sexy, you're, I mean, it really does help your self-confidence being built up by tons of people. So when I started the lifestyle, I was 280 pounds, and I've lost 130 pounds. I knew when I walked in that club for the first time at 280 pounds, a year ago today actually, I knew I was the hottest girl in that club, no matter what size I was, I knew I was hot, and it was all about the confidence that I had, and I had no trouble getting couples back then, and I have no trouble getting couples now. It's all about how you carry yourself.
Speaker2:
I can verify that.
Speaker3:
It's all about how you carry yourself and how you feel about yourself. If you are a bigger girl, if you're a smaller girl, no matter what you, or a guy, you know, no matter what you look like, carry yourself with confidence. Yeah, confidence. Okay, I'm just going to comment on, we comment a lot about women's insecurities. The guys deal with insecurities, too. So no one talks about that a lot. Everyone's just like, women have insecurities, and we're insecure about ourselves. Guys have them, too, and it's okay.
Speaker1:
And talk about them, and you guys are sexy as well. No what you look like someone will find you sexy. I think it's very important to make your spouse feel like no the best one in the room no matter what I mean this is something fun for us this isn't something to replace or to you know make more important than my spouse. So I try to make him feel like no matter who's in that room, he's the most important thing and the sexist thing to me. And as long as he does feel that way, I'm going to be confident because I don't feel like I'm the sexist one in that room because I wouldn't think I am. So that's how I play it love you baby all right corny mark corny mark i think i need another round of shots i'm going to check the likes on the screen uh tennessee's weekly says 15 000 likes come on guys get to clicking i don't see many hugs over here um you guys are around 7 000 as as, come on guys, there's 12 of you, you need to pick up. Down here, we're at 25,000. Come on guys, get to clicking, I see you. Daddy's crew. Spice fam. Okay, you guys are going to work now, but you're only at 10,000, so you just did that. You just did that. All right, Swing Nation, Swing Nation's at 45,000. Very good Swing Nation. Vansky's group is at 4,000. 4,000 picking up Vansky's group. Oh, come on. They're strong. Banders account. 55,000! Alright girls, take a shot.. We got a few people. Anybody have a question in here? That you want to ask the group? Anybody have a question? Nobody wants to be on TikTok Live? Don't worry. There's only like 2,000 people watching. It's not a big deal. Anybody here have a question? Questions? Alright, I'm going to dig into some of the pocket of questions that I know everybody wants to know. Is it, Lacey, is it your turn on the microphone? Sure, yeah. All right, let me answer the question. Do you have children, and do you worry about your children finding out? So, yes, I have a 12-year-old son, and Dan has two children that are almost adults. So the adult children, basically, they know. But my 12-year-old son does not know because this is not an age-appropriate conversation to have with him at this point. He is blocked from every single social media account that we have. However, we do know that realistically somebody sitting next to him could scroll through and see one of our TikToks. So me personally, I try very hard to keep all of my TikToks PG-13. I mean, we definitely can apply some things. And he may be like, what happened? Well, first of all, why does my mom have a TikTok with 100,000 followers? Mom, how did you get that many followers on TikTok? I'm so impressed. And then second of all, he's going to be like, what are you talking about? He's going to be confused.
Speaker3:
And at that point, if that conversation comes up, then we're going to have a conversation. Then we'll talk about it. But never would I go to my 12-year-old son and say, Dan and I go and have coffee with other couples. That's not age appropriate.
Speaker1:
It's just not. People don't have this conversation, sorry, with no grown children, so I just don't, I mean, I get, this question just kind of pisses me off, for lack of a better word. why did you ask me this? I don't know. I guess just because we have naughty fun behind closed doors has nothing to do with my 12-year-old son you know and why are other people there's no neglect i don't bring anyone into my home i don't make tiktoks with my son's house i don't don't lie with my son's house everything is a hundred percent separate and i'm still a damn good mom. I'll just add to that we have three children. They do not know. They're also not age appropriate to know at this time. Like Lacey said, we aren't naive to the fact that they will find out one day because we do have a large social media presence. Only a quarter million people. But we are raising our kids to be open to all lifestyles. We talk to our kids about, you know, it's okay if they are a boy who likes a boy, if they're a girl who likes a girl, or whatever the case may be. We're setting them up to accept all types of people and to be timed, no matter what someone's sexual preference is. So we have an 8-year-old daughter, and she does know because her mother decided that it would be a good idea to tell her that. She decided that that would be inappropriate. So the way that we handled that conversation was we let her know that, you know, Daddy and Kylie, we're safe. You're safe. You know, we're never going to bring that around you. And there's nothing wrong with Daddy and Kylie. We're not breaking up. We're just dating other people because that's kind of a way that she can understand it. But just making sure that if your kids do find out at a young age for whatever reason, just letting them know that they're loved and that, you know, you and your partner are secure and that nothing's going to happen between, you know, mom and dad. So we have three daughters. Y'all say a prayer for both. We've got five of them out. That's a lot to pay for. Our oldest is from 18 this year. Wow. And she came out last year as part of the LGBTQ community and we were 100% supportive and she's always been 100% supportive of us. She comes to me with any questions that she has and I come to her with any questions that I have. We have a very open relationship communicating, but she is almost 18. When your children get to that age and you have that communication, that's good. I think that's a good thing. It's an okay thing, but talking about your younger children? Why would, you know, these two things are totally different.
Speaker2:
Thank you. Anybody else have questions about children and dealing with children, finding out that you're in the lifestyle? All right, moving on. I'm not shooting the hip here, so I'm going to have just four questions.
Speaker1:
But do you have a question? All right, we're going to have a question right here. Go ahead. Okay, so my question is, if your family has found out, how did you handle that situation? Or if they do find out, how would you go about that situation? It's perfect, and the way it has been in the mic right now. So how do you deal with your family finding out that you're a swinger? So my family found out that I was a swinger. My sister found my TikTok and went down a rabbit hole of screenshotting a bunch of stuff and going to my parents almost in a tattling manner. We're all grown adults. We all have our own children and our own family, but she went to them as to tattle on me. And my family kind of tried to form an intervention. So my father told me to get to their house as a grown adult with my own house. But he was like, you need to come up around. I was like, I don't think so. But out of respect, I went and listened to what they had to say. And I think they were very shocked, because in him talking to me and telling me how they felt, they were like, are you happy with yourself? I'm like, yeah. I'm very happy, and that's the difference. I'm okay with sharing this part of my life, because I'm not happiest part of my life i have never been as happy as i am sharing this and bringing awareness to the fact that like lacey said i'm a damn good mom and i'm a good person and what i do with my husband and the friends that we make in the lifestyle behind closed doors is what I do. And you don't have to do the same thing, but I think you have to be respectful that everyone can do what's best for them. So, long story short, after some further communication with my family and my parents, they came around, and they realized that I am a good person, and what we do does not have any bearing on that, and so my parents very quickly, it kind of backfired on my sister, and she was like, well, aren't you going to be mad at her, and they're like, no, like, she's doing what's best for her, and we support her, and we love her still, because she's a good person. So that's how I dealt with it. All right, I'll set that comments or questions about family, finding out you're a swimmer. Well, I mean, I can't, because, I mean, I am a second-generation swimmer. So actually, for those of you on TikTok that don't know, G-Party had actually met through my mother. They all run now. Now they all run. Yeah, we are, oh, my God, I spent our, well, with my family. My family is big on the LGBTQ. His family does not know. They snoop. But they'll find out soon enough, I'm sure. And, you know, we'll just take it like a grain of salt. We do this for us. We don't do this for everybody else. So if they're not okay with it, well, bye.
Speaker2:
There's no going to do us.
Speaker1:
I just want to add that if somebody loves you and you know, family, friends, whoever, they're going to love you being happy. Just like Malia said. If they don't, and if they don't accept you, then they're not worth your time and they're not worth your energy. I want to say that my dad said
Speaker3:
Thank you. If they don't, and if they don't accept you, then they're not worth your time, and they're not worth your energy.
Speaker1:
I want to say that my dad and son mom are swingers, so if you're watching, hi. They are going to talk so many of you, because they keep going to all the events that we want to go to. I don't want to go for a cruise ship as them, because that would be really horrible to be on the station by your parents. But anyway, that's what I'm going to say about it. All right, I think I'm going to ask one more question, one more question, and then, Marty, Mark, do you want to give a little, after we get done with this question, a little plug for secrets and talk to the few thousand people? I'm just out here right now. click the screen, guys, get some more lights in here, uh, 27,000, 17,000, 71,000 lights from the screen, 71,000, oh, man, you guys have to click more, click more faster, all right, 4,000, good guy, 124 people, Daphne. Yeah. For an account that's like a week old. 88,000. 88,000. Okay, let's do a shot. Let's do a shot, Marty Mark. Facebook. You got Facebook. We're live on Facebook. I think we're live on Twitter at some point. Let's reach one more question. We'll do a shot and we wordy mark plug secrets and uh tell all the people why did you come here so last last question last question lacy is for you and we'll pass it around is jealousy a thing in a lifestyle is it real and how do you deal with it jealousy talk about jealousy nobody's Jealousy. Jealousy. That's what you yell when you're jealous. Yeah. Yeah. It was. Can I be honest about what happened with us last night? Can I? Do I have free reign? Within the realm of kickoff. You can. Okay. So y'all know Dan and I split our time apart. And Dan and I had not seen each other for a week. And honestly, the first few days, the secrets was just crazy. We were like, we had a little coffee. The cup hadn't been poured out, if you will. So we went to the club and the playroom. We went to the room. And Dan had a couple cups of coffee. And he finished that cup of coffee, but not with me, you know, that is not one of our rules, that is not a boundary that we have, that's totally within the realm of our things, um, way to go, way to go. Dan, Dan, who is that coffee? I love her, y'all. We got back to the room, and I was like, I'm going to let down.
Speaker3:
Because it had been a week. We had not been together. And that's why it happened so quickly. Sorry.
Speaker2:
Whoa.
Speaker3:
That's true.
Speaker1:
Come on.
Speaker3:
You guys are.
Speaker1:
So we communicated. I was super honest with him and was like, babe, I felt a little left up. He didn't do anything wrong. She didn't do anything wrong. It's totally true. She did not do anything wrong. No, she did all of my things. But, we talked about it, and that's what happens sometimes. Sometimes you don't break any rules. You completely follow everything you preset to do. But sometimes things happen that still kind of like, like hurt a little, you know? It didn't really hurt a little. I promise. I promise. But, you know, so you just talk about it. It's all about communication. Just like they said earlier, the first thing you would recommend for someone who's starting swinging is you've got to communicate, and that's it. We talked about it, and we moved on. It's not a big deal. Now, had we not talked about it, and I, like, skewed on it for a few days, it probably wouldn't have been a big deal. But it's not at all. I love you, by the way. All right. Anybody else jealous here? Pass the line. Okay, we'll pass. Well, people always think that jealousy happens between you and your spouse. But my husband and I actually talked about it. It can happen in, like, a swimming event. Let's say you have your eye on this couple all night long. Then you see them talking and having coffee with another couple. You're like, damn, I'm a little jealous. So that happens super often in the swimming community. For me, where I'm like damn I really wanted them first or you know something like that and so it doesn't happen too often with my spouse side but it happens between friends that you have your eye on I was just going to add like in which Lacey touched on it but like the big thing with jealousy is communicating that you felt jealous as soon as possible if you just don't say anything and let that feeling fester it turns into so much more than you finished your cup of coffee with somebody else and that made me feel a little jealous it turns into this huge blow-up fight because he finished his coffee with somebody else. But if you just said it sooner, it wouldn't have been a big
Speaker3:
deal. Yeah.
Speaker1:
So being a lifestyle, we actually do something that's called compersion. You guys ever heard the word compersion?
Speaker3:
Yeah.
Speaker1:
So compersion is the opposite of jealousy. It's literally hyping your partner up. So when you see your partner with someone else, you enjoy watching that. So I would say most of the time we don't really deal with jealousy, per se, that our partner's with somebody else. I would say it's definitely the opposite. It's like, oh, yeah, I love seeing that.
Speaker2:
All right. Party Mark, you want to say goodbye to TikTok. Hello, goodbye to TikTok at the One Secrets Hideaway Resort. Oh, yeah, bring us Josh, bring us Josh. Yee-oh. Yee-oh. Hold this for a second. No, Kool-Aid. Yes, please. All right, you're all wasted. You want to say something? Alright, cool. First of all this, I'm not on TikTok, I watch TikToks. I'm never, I would say like two weeks maybe. This is really cool though, I have to be honest, I've been here on the last stop for 15 years, a long time, so, yeah, crazy, right? Done everything from porn, mainstream, yada, yada, and this is where I ended up. So, I'm going yada, yada. Cool, anyways, come check us out at Secret's Hideaway. We fly to Orlando Airport, MCO. We're about 20, 25 minutes away from there. And come hang out. The Ruby gives a good weekend here. Of course, the holidays, we have crazy parties here. Like 2,500 people come in and party. So yeah, always a good time. You're going to be able to help a bunch of beautiful lees couples. It's awesome. So yeah, come down and check us out. Lifestyle is for everyone if you're open-minded. Because when it comes down to it, everyone, when you see movies, TV shows, media, everything talks about being open, threesomes, sexism, and that. Sex is not going to be a shame in one.
Speaker3:
Or wait, hold on, coffee. I'm learning this shit, right? My goodness. Anyways, you know, when it comes down to being open and communicating with your partner, you can also make lasting friendships where people actually care about you more than just your neighbors or the people, you know, kids go to school up and all that. So it comes down to it, yeah.
Speaker2:
We're going to hang out with friends all the time and party. So come hang out with us. Non-judgment zone. It doesn't matter how much money you get. It doesn't matter your age, your race. Everyone's welcome. So that's the cool thing about this. So cool.
Speaker3:
There we go. Anybody else?
Speaker2:
All right, I like my outfit. My shoes are pretty funny.
Speaker1:
Check that out.
Speaker2:
Yeah. Are you coming over here to do it? Yeah. I don't know. Cheers, ladies. We're just about ready to party up all night long. But thanks for coming out. Super time winning all year. Was that good? Yeah. You did a good job. Alright, guys, we're gonna to sign off to TikTok we appreciate you guys you guys are the best like, follow, share love you guys
Speaker1:
thank you guys love you all
Speaker2:
we got some part of you to do bye TikTok say goodbye ladies
Speaker1:
we did care that
Speaker2:
SpiceFam was number one
Speaker1:
you guys are so awesome SpiceFam thank you
Speaker2:
Thank you. Nice job all you ladies. That was actually pretty damn good, that was actually fun. So there we go. All the group was too low. Hey, on a funny note, you guys still on Tiktok? Yeah. You know what this reminds me of? I used to be mainstream porn and I had the same questions Of people coming in to give me shit Yes The one in particular This guy comes in asking the same kind of questions About kids and doing porn Of how I'm going to produce How I'm going to do that with kids. So there you go. Look, we're still live. What up?
Speaker3:
Yeah.
Speaker1:
Hey, guys.
Speaker2:
Thank you. You guys are awesome.
Speaker3:
Cool.
Speaker2:
Isn't this our TikTok works on the other side? That's so cool.
Speaker1:
Oh, well, what's up, yo?
Speaker2:
How y'all doing?
Speaker3:
Cool.
Speaker2:
How are you doing?
Speaker3:
Cool.
Speaker2:
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