Send us Fan MailThe Swing Nation PodcastLifestyle Interview: Behind the Scenes with Lifestyle Connections | Episode 16In this swinger podcast episode, Dan and Lacy interview Steve and Kristy, co-owners of Lifestyle Connections, a hotel takeover and events group in Charlotte, NC. They give a behind the scenes look on everything that goes into hosting a hotel takeover and break down what to expect when attending a Lifestyle Connections event. Hear their story on this episode of The Swing Nation Podcast! Lifestyle Connections Website _______________ - The Swing Nation - Main Website Quick Navigation Website: -- (Find all our social media links more!) Follow us on Facebook! The Podcast Website_______________ - Swinger Society - Our Website to meet, connect events Swinger Society Discord Our Facebook Group_______________ - Swinger Websites - SDCUsername: TheSwingNation** Use code 36313 for 14 days free! ** SLSUsername: NorthernGuynSouthernGirl_______________ - Merch More - The Swing Nation Merch The Swinger Pride Flags Swinger Society Merch_______________ - Lacy’s Fun Links - VIP OnlyFans PREMIUM OnlyFans _______________ -- THANK YOU TO OUR SPONSORS -- Shameless Care: ED Medication and at home STD testingUse Code TSN at checkout for $30 off your order! Promescent® Make Love Longer, It’s Time for Great SexUse Code SwingNation for 5% off! Pinaq Liqueur; The Official Drink of The Swing NationUse Code TSN at checkout for 15% off! Non-monogamy Couples Course and Single Guy Mastery CourseUse Code ATLANTA for 50% off!Support the show- Thank you for the support! -
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Speaker1: This podcast is intended for adult audiences. Over the age of 18, it contains adult language and situations. The views, thoughts, and opinions expressed in this podcast belong solely to us, and not of any employer, organization, committee, or other group or individuals. This podcast is not intended to be taken as professional advice. welcome to the swing nation podcast a podcast by swingers for swingers where we look to educate Speaker2: others and push back on the negative stigmas and misconceptions associated with our lifestyle come with us and share our pineapple journey as we travel the globe interview the experts learn and grow together join the nation hey there pineapple people and welcome to the swing nation podcast we are your hosts northern guy and southern girl and uh we are here at a lifestyle connections hotel takeover party with steven hey steven hey you guys and his wife christy hi hello everyone and they're uh they're going to give us the kind of some behind the scenes and talk to us a little bit about hotel takeovers and how they work and uh we're going to ask them some of the questions you guys have been asking us and uh try to those answered by people that know more than yeah we just guess we just make shit up right yeah so I guess with that guys I think the first thing we want to start with is kind of tell us a little bit about yourselves and like how you got into the lifestyle and we'll start there okay all started, we met at an actually online dating site. Yes, Match. Match.com. Match.com. That's awesome. And started dating. It wasn't long. We kind of moved in with each other. And I had dabbled around the lifestyle a little bit prior and never mentioned it to her. And one day she brought up and said, hey, so did you ever hear about this thing called the lifestyle? Oh. Yeah. I had a girlfriend that was doing it. She brought it up. That's good. It's always the guy. I was like, well, yeah, maybe I know a little bit. And, of course, you know, very nervous. Oh, gosh. And I talked her into going to, it was a New Year's Eve party, I believe. Yes. It was a hotel taker. Carolina friends. And And we went, and she said, now listen, just one thing. We can go, but I'm not doing anything, and I'm not going to, especially with another lady, I'm not doing this, I'm not doing that. I guess it was maybe 20 minutes we were there. It was kind of all over with. Some hot people there. Yeah, that's awesome. So you guys have been together how long uh a little over 2000 yeah we met in 13 2013 yeah we started this what 2015 no it was uh about a year later so okay we've been on eight years now eight years amazing uh so i guess with that um a lot of a lot of people don't even know what a hotel takeover uh is so um we try to explain it but what would your guys's answer to be to that to what is a hotel takeover well uh hotel takeover is basically where you have an entire hotel complete privacy you rent the whole facility out um which means basically everyone at that location is there for the party.
Speaker3:
And that's kind of the big difference. There are personal hotel takeovers. There's floor parties, but then there's the full hotel takeover. Which is our favorite. Yeah. Yeah. It's a little more relaxed. Yeah, it is. You don't have to worry about it. Yeah. And we've done them all and been to them all. So the hotel parties that we do, most of those are full takeovers and enables us to be a little bit more open in the hallways and common areas than, you know, let's say a place that's maybe got a mixed crowd. Okay. Yeah. So that's so I guess some of the behind the scenes stuff. So how do you approach a hotel and say, hey, we'd like to start a, you know, we're a swinger group or we'd want to do like, well, how, what's, how does all that work? Well, you start by, you know, scoping out hotels, finding out who the manager or the owner is, see if it's a hotel that actually worked for you. You know, there's certain things we look at as far as exterior doors, access, traffic, drive-by traffic, number of rooms, size of the ballroom whether they have an abc permit or not a lot of that you get into a lot more legal issues with that being on premise and then from there you you know you just go in and talk to them like you were going to do a wedding there yeah and then if everything's good and they're good and they like you and you like them you book another meeting and you go back say hey we'd like to talk to you a little bit more about what we do oh so you don't tell them originally what you're you just say you we want to hold an event here yep right so you want to go talk to the management and get an idea what now some of them if you're in an area where there are several clubs and you're kind of well known they'll say well hey what kind of party is this yeah say well it's just adults you know 40 50 an older crowd we have a dj some dancing. That's kind of it. Yeah. And you give as little as possible until you can kind of get the door open. Yeah. And then from there, you can kind of start negotiating. That makes sense. And there's some hotels that love to have you. Yes. But then there's some hotels that just have a bad, maybe had a bad experience in the past or somebody's approached them the wrong way. Yeah. And it's kind of. They're too afraid. Yeah, too afraid to kind of get involved with it yeah yeah and so I guess well good how did you guys get into so you said you've been in the lifestyle for eight years how did you start this group how did you yeah how'd you go from just like swingers to hey we want to do this we were dating and got into it so I said let's just go on SLS and do like a small meet and greet and i knew a friend of mine he had a bar too and he was a single guy and we kind of talked to him eventually after we started building the group up and he said yeah he's y'all have it here we'll just shut down the whole bar and you know so we kind of started there yeah so it started on like a thursday karaoke night but like three couples right and it just kind of grew then we moved to a friday then we moved to the bar and at the um when it first started it was not it's not closed down it was just us with a mixed crowd yeah but it was really cool because the owner of the bar we initially started at was giving us free drinks because it brought people in because they wanted to come watch us and interact with each other. And that kind of got a little weird after a while. So we rented the other bar out and put security at the door, covered the windows, and we would pack 200, 250 people in there. We were buzzing them. There were people on pool tables, people on the bar. Was it word of mouth, or did you have a website? It was all word of mouth. Actually, all of our events up until just a few years ago have been free. Oh, really? All we would ask for was donations. That's awesome. And, of course, now as it's grown, where you have 400-plus people, you've got to kind of charge to cover some things. So at the bar, it kind of grew at the bar until the bar got shut down, the owners went you know, went out of business. And then we were doing some children's charity work. And so we thought, hey, let's do a hotel party and incorporate the lifestyle because all those guys would bring gifts. Yeah. And help our charity. So we kind of, we had the charity that brought the lifestyle into it to kind of make it work together. Yeah. That's awesome. Good, good. Yeah. So have you had any pushback from the community so we're in the charlotte north carolina area do you guys everything you do is in this area do you guys do any traveling we do we've helped some other groups in some other states we've you know kind of took groups in and said you know try to help you know as far as increase attendance or give some pointers we've had some people from other come here. We have done a few things in some other areas, but on kind of a smaller scale, not as far as a hotel takeover. So we do, of course, the hotel parties, but we do floor parties and suite parties and late days and traveling events and mountain home getaways and cruises and a little bit of everything. Yeah. And then,
Speaker2:
so I guess people that maybe are listening to this and aren't in the lifestyle have never done any of this. What would be any advice to them on how to get started and what to look for?
Speaker3:
I mean,
Speaker2:
are there good groups out there, bad groups out there?
Speaker1:
There's bad and there's good.
Speaker3:
Yeah.
Speaker1:
You just really just need to go and just try it and see. Yeah. You know, Mm-hmm.
Speaker2:
Mm-hmm.
Speaker4:
Mm-hmm.
Speaker2:
Mm-hmm.
Speaker1:
Mm-hmm.
Speaker4:
Mm-hmm.
Speaker2:
Mm-hmm.
Speaker3:
Mm-hmm. out there bad groups out there there's bad and there's good yeah you just really just need to go
Speaker1:
and just try it and see yeah you know our our um there's some parties you go to that are
Speaker2:
swinger parties yeah right i mean from the time you walk in the door it's wide open hours aren't quite like that hours are more lifestyle we have uh probably a good number of people that come to our parties that are maybe in their 50s and they can't go downtown charlotte to a club and party with the 21 year olds right yeah and they can't dress sexy in that environment yeah so this gives them a place so like in our ballrooms we don't allow any kind of crazy stuff to go on in the ballrooms you know you could bring just what you see in a 21 year old club is probably what you ballroom. Now, after that part shuts down and things move upstairs to, let's say, the party floor, some suites or something, then it kind of changes. So, you know, there's a difference in swingers and lifestyle. So the first thing I'd probably recommend is seek out more lifestyle-friendly type of atmosphere so it's not a... Get your feet wet. Yeah, it's not a walk in and take your clothes off and go at it kind of deal. So that's a good, so can you expand on that? So what, the difference between swingers and lifestyle, what would you say that difference is? Swingers are out to fuck. Yeah. Lifestylers are out to party. I love the way you word it. I mean, it's just, I mean, that's what it is. Speak freely here. We say that because when we meet people and we say we're swingers,
Speaker1:
they automatically assume that we are fucking every single night of the week. And it's almost, to me, more of like a social thing. And if we have amazing hot sex with either just us or with a couple or a group or whatever, that's like bonus. That's like amazing. But I just think when people hear the word swingers, they just think we're all piled up, all naked, intertwined. I mean, it happens. It does happen in some locations. Yeah, but that's not, like, our day in and day out life. Some people will go to, like, Pornhub and they'll type in swingers. Yeah. And they see swinger videos and it's big orgies, and they're like, oh, my gosh. This is crazy, you know. Yeah. And that's not really what it is. I mean, you know, and there's not that a swinger party is a bad thing. There's great people in the lifestyle. Some of the best people we've ever met or some of our best friends are in the lifestyle. But we think lifestylers are more a social aspect of the swinger. Some of our best friends we have met. It seems like as more we get into the lifestyle, we don't have as many regular non-lifestyle friends. It becomes your life. It does. And it's nice because you're openly accepted. You don't have to pretend to be something that you're not. It's pretty awesome. And a lot of people that we hang out with at parties or away from parties are people we've known for years that are in the lifestyle that, you know, we've never done a thing with. Same. Yeah, yeah. It's not really. They're great friends. It's not really about that as far as the lifestyle aspect. Now, the swinger aspect, yeah. Yeah. But now lifestylers are also swingers, but it's not the. Yeah. It's just nice to be able to be free in who you are. Yeah. I find that very interesting because I don't know if I've ever had somebody quite break it down like that. Yeah, it's pretty good. It makes a lot of sense, and I appreciate that insight. So would you say the people that come to your groups, are there anybody that's not Lifestyle and not swingers? They're just vanilla people that like to come and dance? Oh, sure, yeah. Oh, yeah. They just want to watch. They just want to come and just have fun. That's a perfect thing. We say should we go to a club should we go to a house party should we go what should be our first step and you know part of me is like well hotel takeover you're dancing you're you know but like there's not a lot of open play there is rooms that you can see some stuff where if you go to a swinger club you might walk into a room where there is a complete orgy going on so it depends what are you looking to see are you wanting to take a small baby step and maybe just meet people and maybe see a little bit of action maybe a hotel takeover might be a better thing but if you just want to go and like just watch maybe a swinger club i mean it depends on your personality yeah what they need. The way we started, we used to call our get togethers on Thursdays and Fridays at the bar. We called them meet and greets. It's like a meet and greet. Yeah. A little bit of a twist. Yes. And, and a lot of the meet and greets that you see advertised out there now are a great way to meet people and get a feel for the type of people without. And that'd be really good. Take another step yeah i think so too uh i think a good so can you can you walk us through like kind of a to z like how do these parties work so say say again we're listening we we've never been to an event like this uh we hear you guys on this podcast like how do we find you how do we get signed up you know How do we show up? How does all that work? We are not on a lot of sites right now just because of the numbers of people that we're currently pulling in. We're to the point where we have to turn some people away, unfortunately, just due to space. However, most of our events are listed on our website. We do parties about once a month. We take a couple months off here and there to do smaller events but we are at www.lifestyleconnections.net okay and our party's there normally there's a link to sign up to reserve a hotel room and you book your party fee and your hotel room together I like y'all's website for the record I get frustrated when you have to have like a membership and you gotta i mean i'm i get it right i understand why these clubs and places do that but like he doesn't do any of that i have to do all of the signing up and stuff and it was really nice to just like go in there and like basically like book a hotel room it was as easy as booking a hotel room it was pretty nice like i have to say i appreciate that because i hate we have to go, like, get a membership. I mean, I get it. Submit pictures and family history. I get it. I get it. But it's nice. I do. I will have to say I like that part. Do you guys have any type of screening process for people that sign up to come to your party? Not necessarily. We kind of, the way we manage it, the way we've networked, we kind of vet people pretty well. We do have a membership form on our website. However, it's not necessarily required. We do require acknowledgement of our rules and liability releases and such that are on our website before you attend an event. We are getting some software. Hopefully the first year will be up and running with some new membership software not not intrusive but it's i get it i get why people do it i do yeah for us it helps because well we know screen name i love to fuck two one three yeah but we don't know the real name and they left their purse in their hotel room yeah yeah that and then also uh you know we we run a pre-type ship uh we do have paid security of all of our events all of our staff are paid and so if there's ever any any issue which we don't really have that happen too often um those people of course are removed yeah and membership kind of help us track that to make sure somebody doesn't try to get into one of our events yeah it makes sense. It protects us, but it protects the attendees as well. I will say that I've always thought y'all's security was awesome. We were actually just chatting about that before we started recording. There is a restaurant in the hotel, and some of the workers, like, tried to come up and get in. And now, they were cute. So, I mean, like, I mean, if I was a security girl. We're like, Steve, tell your security to let the girls in. What are they doing? But the security was like, no, you are not coming in. So they definitely did a very good job. So, yeah. That's awesome.
Speaker3:
All right.
Speaker2:
So they go to your website. They get signed up. And then do you, again, I really don't know because Lacey does all this. But then you send emails with the address.
Speaker3:
They don't know until they pay. Is that how all that works? It's on it's public knowledge it's again another thing so some hotel takeovers do keep it private i mean they'll tell you like maybe like the city and the state but until you book they will not tell you the location and that's something that we we just haven't done um i mean we could incorporate that but if it's not necessary exactly yeah um so yeah you get to the website you can book your room and your party however uh at door tickets are are not done online they're only done at the door so if somebody wanted to attend the event without getting a hotel room they could okay they would just pay at the door which we've done before we've actually not here but we've been to like some of our first hotel takeovers like before we knew you have to book early we have done that where we went i would say getting a room is much nicer in my opinion you know if you can but don't let it discourage you from having a good time okay and then okay so they booked and then they come they check in i think you guys give out wristbands so that we do have wristbands um they will they'll sign in that's a another step of acknowledgement of the rules that are posted uh so that way there's no misunderstanding you sign in you submit your email address and the signature and your printed name get your wristband you pay your party fee and you're pretty much good to go. Okay. That's really easy. Now, during COVID, of course, we did, you know, temperature checks and this and that. Yeah, we did do that. Yeah. And we also, now we kind of, the one thing that we have that come up with ourself is we stole from a group from way back in the past was we give all attendee ladies bracelets. Yeah, I have some. And so every party has a theme and that theme theme we have a charm that's matched that theme that we put on that charm for them so at the end of the year maybe they'll have a bracelet with six or eight or ten charms on it and they just add to it yeah dan was gone for late four months so we missed a few and i was like my bracelet is not going to be full because of you my bad at this party, we're going to ask people in the audience who has the most charms on the bracelet. Oh, I didn't even bring that. And it would be a chance to win $1,000. Oh, you ruined it for me, Dan. It's all your fault. That is unfortunate. Okay, so they get registered. They get into their hotel room. And then so what's the first place people usually go? Well, can i go ahead so we get a ton of questions about single males single females and so on your website it does show that if you're new or if you're a single you do have to come to an orientation type can you talk a little bit about that first of all as far as single guys we do limit that normally it's thank you about five percent yeah total attendees yeah most guys attend our events are regular so we know them they know us but however every single either male or female and all new couples are required to attend a quick orientation what do you go over in that orientation do y'all teach it yes that's awesome we go over our rules we'll do it at seven oh we may we'll see we gotta get ready we'll try to go down we'll try so we go over our rules. We'll do it at 7. Oh, we may. We'll see. We've got to get ready. We'll try to go down. We'll try. So we go over the rules. We go over what no means. We introduce our security so that they know who to look for if there's an issue or if they have a question. We go through the layout of the evening, the schedule pretty much, which usually at our parties it starts with what we call a pre-party. It's a hall party. We have what's called shot rooms. They're decorated themed rooms. People serve free shots. It's kind of like a big meet and greet. Yeah. People vote. It's kind of like the party before the party. That's from 7 to 9. People will vote on their favorite room as far as the shot and decorations and the theme. And then we have a huge trophy that we give give to the winner and then those people bring that trophy back to the next party and try to keep it and people add little trinkets i saw that on your facebook page yeah people add trinkets and sign names and stickers and glue stuff to it and it's the gaudiest thing it was pretty gaudy i mean if that's right they love it yeah so we are not hosting a shot room but we are unofficially hosting a shot I told him, I was like, let's not do one so if we're tired or we don't feel like dealing with anybody we can shut our door but we brought shots and stuff I was like, we're not required to do anything the shot room is kind of like a, like I said, it's a meet and greet. It is. It's actually really nice to go in and meet people. For the people that host those shop rooms, the cool thing is, especially if you're kind of new, you have everybody come through your room and you meet all the people. Everybody. Well, you know, so I tend to be a little bit shyer than Dan. Dan is definitely the outspoken. You know, he's like pushes me into the hot couple so they'll start talking to us so i kind of like the meet and greets because if it wasn't for something or the room crawl i would just kind of stand in the hallway hallway and kind of hope that people will talk to me so if you are a new couple or you are a couple that are you know participate in that say hello introduce yourself explain you know yourself, explain, you know, I mean, take the shot. They're free. Be careful. You can get a shit face if you don't have a reason. Yes, you can. That's right. Well, even like with orientation, you know, some girls say, oh, do I have to go? Well, they're missing an opportunity. Right. Because you're in a room with all of the brand new couples. Yeah, you can relate. I'm definitely going to the right thing. I know. You go. I don't care. Let's go about the about the newbies. I don't care. Yeah, you're right. Because then when you go up that night, you can see a familiar thing. Yeah, and you'll see all the new people hanging out all year long. Our first hotel takeover, I was pretty intimidated. I'm not going to lie. No, it is intimidating. Yeah, it is. Well, when we went to one with like a lot of young people, which I prefer to have a good mix, like a little bit of everything, they were all pretty young and pretty hot. And I was like, what the hell are we doing? We're young, but they were like, we were like kind of older in the crowd. And I was like, golly, these are all so hot. And they were. Rough problems to have. I know, right? Too many hot couples. No, I'm grateful, but, like like if you've never been in that environment and you walk in and everyone's half dressed and having fun and they all like it kind of felt like clicky like they weren't really that clicky but it felt like everybody knew each other to us even though they may not have it just kind of felt we did he had to like push me he's like go well you're gonna be fine we're gonna be fine we fortunately we we attract a really fun crowd yes i agree it's a very attractive crowd if you look at our attendees on sos it's a very good mix it's a very good mix it's a fun laid-back friendly crowd and there's some really great people that attend our events um but anyway so from there we we do the ballroomroom party. Oh, sorry. I went off on a tangent. That's all right. Lacey likes to do that. I didn't even know we were on a subject. I'm sorry. So we do the ballroom party. That starts around 9. We have a DJ in the ballroom. And it's, you know, just like a normal club you'd go to. Yeah. It's decorated. We do that until about 12, 30 or so. It starts to wind down. And people go to the the same floor the meet and greet was on now called the party floor don't you always do something that kind of makes people talk to each other like what was it like whoever had the most poker chips or whoever had the most what was that we've done a couple things uh i think saint patrick's we did coins with yes that's what it was it was coins whoever find your match or something yeah and then we had cards cards kind of like a poker run yeah that's like whoever's got the best hand wins a couple hundred bucks or something yeah so it forced people to to talk and intermingle with each other yeah i like that okay yeah lacy was going for coins pretty hard one no no i was helping brit and cast win yeah so we do a lot i mean. I mean, Bears You Dare. We've done Jell-O Wrestling Mini. We're the only group I think has ever really done hardcore Jell-O Wrestling. When I say hardcore, I'm talking about putting people in the hospital. Oh, no. That's why we haven't done it. People take it way too serious. I mean, you guys have to ruin all the fun with you guys. One and done. So we have what we call the Naughty Wheel. That comes out a lot. That's fun. That's fun. That comes out at house parties, too. That's fun. That thing could talk. Oh, my gosh. We use that in orientation. Oh, yeah. We'll put kiss a girl, kiss a guy, you know, free party, $100. Oh, that's fun. You know, whatever. To interact with each other. So that when we're in the orientation, you can walk away with some cool stuff, and you can have a little fun. It kind of brings intermissions down a little bit. Yeah, it probably breaks ice a little bit.
Speaker1:
Yes, it does.
Speaker3:
It does. It's cool.
Speaker2:
And then, like I said, we go up to the party floor, and at that point in the night, that's where some of the crazy stuff happens.
Speaker1:
The party floor is where it's at. Yeah, exactly.
Speaker2:
If you're brand new, you can go to our ballroom, and you can party with great people, and we
Speaker1:
don't allow any kind of sex or anything in our ballrooms, so it's all pretty calm. But then when it gets to the party floor, anything goes. Yeah, it's fun. Ooh, with stripper poles oh can we bring that back we can't we vote in we vote in we build a custom stage it would fit in the hall oh that's cool that's cool we's cool. We've done some crazy stuff. Yeah. I love the party floor. We've, you know, had party floor. I mean, they have their advantages and energy. Like I said, if you want to go to bed at 3 o'clock in the morning. Yeah, we always have mixed feelings. Like, man, it's so nice being on the party floor, but there is no going to bed before the party's over. If you're on the party floor. It's crazy. And we try to make it crazy. I mean, I've tried to get a holly in the party floor before.. I thought that would be really cool for all of these naked women to be with a Harley in the hallway. Take pictures and stuff. Oh, look at me. I'm trying to take pictures. You don't take pictures in swingers clubs. No, you don't.
Speaker3:
Sorry. Sorry.
Speaker2:
But that party up there probably goes until 3, 4, whatever.
Speaker1:
Yeah, it does.
Speaker3:
At least 3.
Speaker1:
So, and I don't know the answer to this. Are there rooms that are considered playrooms on the party floor? Do you have rooms like that? We normally have one floor. Hospitality. Hospitality rooms? Tonight, we have a hospitality room, but it's kind of being operated by someone. So, there's some toys in there, some different things. Oh, okay. Gotcha. Somebody kind of facilitate, not just an empty room to go in gotcha yeah but it varies party to party yeah yeah um because i don't remember like i said earlier i don't usually at hotel takeovers you might see like some stuff but like usually i don't see like hardcore sex just happening like you see like blow jobs and girls and stuff like that but i mean usually if you find a couple in my opinion or at least this is how we if we find a couple we'll go to their room or our room and shut the door it's not like a a free-for-all or anything like that um yeah that's what we yeah a lot of hotel parties are not really set up for that yeah that's why yeah that's why i think if you if you just want to watch maybe a hotel takeover might or if you just but if you just want to be like kind of in kind of in the lifestyle, it might be. It just kind of depends on what you're looking for. And then that's the end of the night, huh? Pretty much, yeah. We start cleaning up and we clean up until the sun comes up. Do y'all sleep for a week after? Yes. We try. I usually take Monday off. so y'all have regular jobs and this is you do this for fun or extra or yeah we do this more because of the people in the lifestyle yeah we enjoy doing it it was never about money it was never a business to us um i know some people it is and that's fine yeah like i said um we were talking earlier for probably the first five years, all of our events were free. Yeah. You know, we just asked for donations.
Speaker3:
And so, of course, it got to a point where we had to change that. But that's just kind of how we looked at the lifestyle.
Speaker2:
We just wanted to provide it. If we wanted to do it every week of the month, we could. We choose not to. We have a life outside of that.
Speaker1:
So, just like this is not on topic, but I'm just curious. Are you, does anybody like in your family, your kids, does anybody know your swingers or do you keep it private? It's private.
Speaker3:
It's private.
Speaker4:
Some of my family does.
Speaker1:
Yeah, yeah. So they have no idea that you're hosting these. Do they think you're just like. Just going to parties.
Speaker3:
Okay.
Speaker2:
Going to a friend's house.
Speaker1:
That's just curious. Going to a friend's house. I think we're in, I'm in Anderson this weekend.
Speaker3:
Yeah.
Speaker2:
So we're, you know, we're on TikTok now. We have the podcast now.
Speaker1:
I don't know. going to a friend's house I think I'm in Anderson this weekend yeah so we're you know we're on TikTok now we have the podcast now we've been completely outed pretty much our entire family knows that that we're out now but one of the questions we get asked the most probably uh you know on TikTok and stuff like that is do your kids know and do your family know and like how do you deal with that yeah um but but so you guys have been doing this for almost 10 years and you've managed to to get you know well honestly we were completely like no one had a clue and i think like us outing ourselves everybody was like wait what i mean there are a few people that know us genuinely they're like okay it makes sense but like to everybody else i think they were like completely shocked so um you can absolutely have this lifestyle i don, I don't look at it as, I mean, I probably feel a little different than Christy does. But if it was out there, that's not the end all. I mean, I'm not straying out on drugs. I'm not robbing banks. Yeah, and that's a very good point. So when me and Lacey started this on TikTok and started this podcast, our goal was to push back against some of the perceptions and some of the stigmas that are associated with with the lifestyle and i and i i don't know how you feel about this but i genuinely feel there are people that are worried that if people find out they're swingers they could lose their job you know they could uh you know lose friends and family uh you know custody issues with exes and things mean, we've had people that have come to us and said, oh, we'd love to come to your party, but that hotel is a little close to where I work. Yeah. You know, well, you know, at midnight on a Saturday night, nobody from your work is going to be seeing you at the hotel. Yeah. But, you know, I understand that. Yeah. To each their own. You know, everybody's got their concerns. Yeah. And we do a lot of our swinging not locally. That's what we tell people. We can't find couples. Go away for the weekend. Go to the nearest biggest city. You're not going to see anybody you know. There's ways to be a swinger and stay private. There's also ways to be a swinger and expose yourself to the entire world like Dan and I did. I don't know which is the right and which and which the wrong i guess to each their own but definitely two sides of the thing and our partners for lifestyle connection they're kind of the same boat you know they keep everything kind of under wraps and um you know and that works too yeah uh you said you've been doing this for 10 years have you seen a change? Is it the same for the whole 10 years where there's this stigma? Are more people showing up or less people showing up? Do you think the lifestyle is growing? Probably more. I think probably the last party or two ago, I think maybe we had like 30 or 40 new couples. Yeah. First time at anything. That's awesome. So it's definitely growing, but then you've got some people that are not around any longer that you know or see. So it's kind of a, it's not really a revolving door, but you have new blood that comes in and some older people maybe just drop off. Yeah. Yeah. And, you know, part of what me and Lacey talk about a lot is, you know, the fact that we're in 2021, you know, so many lifestyles are acceptable now. And it really does seem, at least to us, that swingers is one of the last like the last taboo you know non-monogamy is one of the for whatever reason that just hasn't you know it still sits bad with a lot a lot of people and i'm not i don't know if i can really put a finger on why that is and i really think it is the misconceptions that are out there uh that like you said that people think it's just orgy parties and don't realize that it's actually a community of people that, you know, with common interests that, you know, will help each other. And professionals. And from every walk of life. Yeah, that's what we say. I can't tell you the people that attend our parties, but let's just say you'd be extremely surprised. Yeah, that's what, you know, we talk, we don't name anybody in particular, but we're like nurses, teachers, lawyers, military, firefighter, police. I mean, like all walks of life. Some of our parties, you can go way on up above yeah yeah but the cool thing is is you're all in common ground you can't you know you would never know right you just see somebody and you would have no idea and the stigmatism part you know even the people that it's not for them or they think really bad they're curious oh yeah they're all so when we were outed and like especially my hometown you know i've lived in the same town forever and that's what dan said he's like it's big news right now because everybody's curious that's why you know where people find our tiktok so like what did they do what did they click on to get that in their algorithm they obviously are somewhere seeing something so yeah we totally agree with that everybody's curious i mean we do our little parties you know little but uh we do our parties once a month and we get over 4 000 hits on our website yes and we're not really advertising yeah yeah and that's you know so you know we're on tiktok and some of some of our videos have you know she had videos up to 11 million views you know i mean and so like there's definitely people out there what's that tiktok there definitely have people out there that i think are are curious that they are that are looking for information that you know maybe don't want to publicly admit to that that they're curious about this stuff but uh they're looking at something they are yeah and we get it we were curious we just took the leap that's that's the difference yeah yeah and another question we get asked a lot and i guess i'll pitch this one over to you guys is you know we we get questions like are different races accepted are different uh you know are you know part of the lgbt community you know like our gay people are lesbians are they they allowed at these part, you know, we get asked that question. And every time I get asked it, I'm like, to me, that seems like a weird question to get asked. Cause like, yeah, of course they are. But can you guys speak to the type of people that come to your parties and how you feel about that? And, um, yeah, we have, we have all races, uh, ages just for our party is usually, you know, thirties up to seventies, you know, people in their sevents where there's a new couple we were talking with uh that's coming to the party and i think they've been in lifestyle maybe three months and they're like 64 yeah and they're just yeah now but good for them good for them yeah um lgbt um we don't we don't see a whole lot of that yeah yeah i, you know, they're welcome. I don't, I don't, you know, I'm not very in tune with that lifestyle. So maybe they have their own type of, um, environment parties that they do that's more comfortable and suiting to them. Uh, that may be the case, but now we do have some trends. We've had transgender show up. Yeah. I've seen transgender at y'all's parties you know we've seen that and we you know whatever yeah and that's you know oh go ahead oh no i'm sorry yeah it's it's one of the you know we talked about this a little bit it's one of the things i like about the swinger community is that you know it's almost like once you pass through that hotel you know door it's you know whatever you are on the outside you know yeah it is you know there's no politics there's no you know race religion all that kind of stays outside in the parking lot and everybody once they come in these doors there's kind of this common understanding that we're all just here to have fun and none of that that matters and even to elaborate on that i get a ton of women that come to me will i be accepted if i'm plus size or something that it's the same thing that's what's cool about it is there something for everyone no two per you know no two people like the same thing and every i mean i literally met um had a message today from a lady she said i really want to join the lifestyle but i'm plus size and feel like i'm gonna feel self-conscious girlfriend i'm a size 10 come on with it you know i mean like to each their own we're all perfect you know i mean we don't everybody likes something different well we were told by a couple when we first started i can't
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remember who it was but they were like you know you'll meet some of your best friends here and the neat thing is we don't judge regardless of your age or your race or your size we're all just one big family and that's very true that's what we come to find out is true yeah We'll be right back. We don't judge regardless of your age or your race or your size. We're all just one big family. And that's very true. That's exactly what it is. That's what we come to find out is true. Yeah. I think that's why I like love, self, friends so much. You can just truly be yourself and not be judged. Especially in today's day and age where it seems like we're all so focused on our differences. And we like to try to divide ourselves based on those lines. And it's, you know. It's almost like a safe place. It's nice to have a community like this where people don't even, you know, I don't think I've ever had somebody talk politics at a swinger event that I've experienced. I mean, we do have booster COVID shots tonight. That's true. We do. We are walking the line tonight. We are walking the line. All in good fun. All in good fun. I've had people tell us, you know, we do this because we hear everything. But one of the things that's most common is it's a way to get away from the hassles and stresses of everyday life where you can just take a deep breath. Yeah. Just escape. Yeah. I agree. Yeah yeah so i don't know what anything else you want to put out to the swinger community or even a bunch of new people that are probably just curious in listening i don't know if you've heard this but the swing nation is the number one uh podcast on apple apple right now so you're talking to a whole whole nation of people that are at least curious about what you guys have to say. I will play in our children's charity.
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Yes, yes, please do. Please do. Our hotel parties actually started built around our children's charity. We had a group that we worked with locally. We vetted and found groups that did not receive a lot of government funding. It was kind of grassroots. It relied on local donations. And so ever since we started from day one, we've always supplied supplied whether it be book bags or school supplies or children's coats or a big party like our christmas party we uh supply toys i think this year uh we've agreed to have 120 kids they're all in foster care oh that's awesome so we we ask everybody it's not necessarily a requirement but we really twist people's arm yeah we need it yeah we may be a little asshole about it, but I'm just going to tell you. Well, definitely. Bring a damn toy. Yeah, bring a damn toy. You're coming to a party, bring a toy. Yeah. And so we have hundreds and hundreds and hundreds of toys stacked up, and we work with a couple different. We've worked with maybe three groups in the last 10 years. That's awesome. So Dan, two days ago, we were in the hot tub, and he was like, you know what we should do? We should put out on all of our social medias that we're going to this party and ask for donations. And whatever people give, we will match. And so how much did we raise? So we've raised about $1,600. Wow. So when we get done, we're going to Walmart. In the last, awesome. In the last two days, we got about $1,600 worth of donations. Dan's wearing a pineapple outfit. Jeez, thank you. Totally. So it's not us. It's, you know, our wonderful, I mean, some people gave a dollar, some gave $100. And so I just think that shows that like swingers are like just genuinely, we're not bad people, guys. We love children. way and i think that's you know one of the great things about this conversation right is people think swingers are all about just having sex and hooking up and it's not it truly is a community and and we thank you guys for being so passionate about you know and making the difference and giving to that and, so we reached out to not only our followers, but a few of the other. Yeah, TikTok girl Christina helped us. We have, like, a swing talk group of the swingers that are on TikTok. They all were very helpful. They all pitched in. And, you know, honestly, I wish we had started sooner. Yeah, we didn't think about it. We literally just put this out yesterday afternoon. That's awesome. And we got about $1,600. So we're going to go to Walmart and we we're going to buy all the toys you can buy, and we'll come back, and we'll put them underneath the tree. We also kind of entice people a little bit. We get a raffle ticket when you bring toys. Oh, so do we get a lot? Yeah. I don't know. No, just kidding. Here, take the whole roll. Yeah, just kidding.
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We give away trips. We always give away TVs, smart TVs. I think we got a 55-inch show.
Speaker1:
Ladies purses.
Speaker2:
A $400 coach purse we're giving away.
Speaker1:
Oh, that's awesome.
Speaker2:
Some man cave stuff.
Speaker1:
That's awesome. I really don't want the whole roll. I'm just joking. I didn't realize you actually. I really didn't realize you gave prizes yeah so we're happy to do that and honestly uh i hope you know that's something i'd like to look forward to and keep doing stuff yeah it was good job dan i can't take credit for it it was totally down i was like wait what are we doing yeah you know i think that kind of stuff you know like i think you know for us anyway and we totally get that not all swingers are you know ready to go on tiktok and talk about it but you know the power of social media you know is getting those messages out there and the amount of people you know i couldn't tell you the amount of comments you know we do get the negative ones that are like you guys are gross and nasty and std spreaders and you know we get all that stuff but uh you know that's probably one to ten of the ratio of comments that we get that say well thank you for sharing this message you know we've been curious about this and we didn't know what to look or who to turn to um and i think highlighting you know the community of swingers and and the things that they do outside of just sex is i think it's a good light to shed on the community we thank you guys for having us we come just because we like these parties for the record we've been coming to these parties prior to the podcast, to TikTok everything we remember your can't really remember your first party. So, and we just, we're like, we're just continuing. Yeah. Yeah, we're just keeping, so thank y'all for being a part of this. Thank you guys. Thanks for the invitation. Thank you so much. That's awesome. Oh, yeah. Absolutely. That was great. I'm about to go spend some money. Lacey just wants to go shopping. Yeah, I know. And we have our two gifts. We brought our two gifts. We did bring our two gifts. Anything else for the the nation i really appreciate you guys what you're doing thank you the information out there is easily accessible for people to sit in the convenience of their their home or wherever to get information like this yeah and we'll put out we'll put your um link to your website in our show notes and then anytime we go to any kind of events we always say where we're going so um i'm not sure which and the next party is valentine's day uh valentine's weekend yeah yeah roughly around that time so not sure if we'll be there i'm having surgery but we will definitely be probably at least at st patrick's or something like that so we will definitely put out when we're going to be there and if y if y'all want to come and meet us and meet them, they'd love to have you. We'd love to meet you. Awesome. Yeah. All right. So I think with that, folks, in a world full of apples. Be a pineapple. Be a pineapple, guys. Thanks. Bye. Thanks. If you've enjoyed our podcast and want to support us, leave a five-star review wherever you're listening. If you want to see more of our content, you can find links to Snapchat, Twitter, Instagram, OnlyFans, and more in the show notes. Come join the conversation with us and other Swinger content creators on our Swinger Society Discord server. If you have questions or feedback, email them to us at theswingnation at gmail.com. Make sure you head on over to theswingnation.net and keep up
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to date on all things Swing Nation. We thank you so much for joining us and we'll see you next time.
