Send us Fan MailThe Swing Nation PodcastLifestyle Education: Tips For Finding Swinger Events and Clubs | Episode 8 In this swinger podcast episode, Dan and Lacy talk clubs, hotel takeovers, resorts and house parties. They go over how to find them, the differences, common practices, and give some insiders advice and perspective that you may find useful before attending such an event for the first time. If you re newer and trying to figure out WHERE the swingers go for naughty fun, this is the episode for you! _______________ - The Swing Nation - Main Website Quick Navigation Website: -- (Find all our social media links more!) Follow us on Facebook! The Podcast Website_______________ - Swinger Society - Our Website to meet, connect events Swinger Society Discord Our Facebook Group_______________ - Swinger Websites - SDCUsername: TheSwingNation** Use code 36313 for 14 days free! ** SLSUsername: NorthernGuynSouthernGirl_______________ - Merch More - The Swing Nation Merch The Swinger Pride Flags Swinger Society Merch_______________ - Lacy’s Fun Links - VIP OnlyFans PREMIUM OnlyFans _______________ -- THANK YOU TO OUR SPONSORS -- Shameless Care: ED Medication and at home STD testingUse Code TSN at checkout for $30 off your order! Promescent® Make Love Longer, It’s Time for Great SexUse Code SwingNation for 5% off! Pinaq Liqueur; The Official Drink of The Swing NationUse Code TSN at checkout for 15% off! Non-monogamy Couples Course and Single Guy Mastery CourseUse Code ATLANTA for 50% off!Support the show- Thank you for the support! -
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Speaker1: This podcast is intended for adult audiences. Over the age of 18, it contains adult language and situations. The views, thoughts, and opinions expressed in this podcast belong solely to us and not of any employer, organization, committee, or other group or individuals. This podcast is not intended to be taken as professional advice. Welcome to the Swing Nation podcast, a podcast by swingers for swingers, where we look to Speaker2: educate others and push back on the negative stigmas and misconceptions associated with our lifestyle. Come with us and share our pineapple journey as we travel the globe, Speaker1: interview the experts, learn and grow together. Join the nation. Hey there, pineapple people, and welcome to the Swing Nation podcast. We are your hosts, Northern Guy. And Southern Girl. In today today's episode we're going to talk about clubs hotel takeovers um resorts house parties and uh that's it i think yeah so the questions we get asked a lot are hey how do you how do you find these events yeah like all the time like what are they yeah like people are like what are these parties y'all are going to and how are you finding them how can we get invited and i'm always shocked by that because that's pretty much how we swing yeah like very rarely do we go to a bar restaurant with an actual couple and sit and chat yeah we've kind of moved i mean we did do that but we've kind of moved we started that way past that yeah So, yeah, we're going to explain what each one of those are, what the difference is. And that way, we get asked a lot, which one should I try first? I think it's a matter of opinion, but we'll explain to you what they are and, you know, maybe what we recommend. And, you know, you can at least make an informed decision yourself on that. Correct. So the first question, and this really applies to all of these, is how do you find hotel takeovers how do you find clubs how do you find these resorts like yeah where are they how did i mean who how do you even find out that these things exist yeah so you are kind of underground we talked about the websites not necessarily being the greatest a lot of it is word of mouth but there's also other ways to find them right so break that down for me i am a new swinger i don't know anything about resorts and parties and hotel takeovers and how would i go about finding such a thing so first of all i would say do you have a swinger profile on sls sdc cassidy whichever whichever one you choose to use, do you have one of those? And you should. If you're a swinger, you have to have one of these. I mean, I just don't know how you can be a swinger without having some sort of application that you use to find other swingers. Especially if you're new, right? I mean, if you're a swinger and you've been a swinger for a while, you can probably get by without them because you'll know in your area what what's going on but if you are a new swinger and you're trying to discover people and find out about all these parties and events and things you've got to be on one of these websites yeah they all have an events tab um they're all a little different some are based on your location some you have to search a little bit um but they all have events tabs yeah so i think on sls if you go into like clubs and part clubs and events or something like that there's a map of the united states and then you can click through by the states and find the clubs and events that are going on by state sdc i think it has a separate it has like clubs and i don't know something and then there's like an events and parties tab so it's like two different tabs either way though there is an events location on all these websites so if you're on one of them just just look for those tabs um i promise you they're there yeah so whenever we're going to it's like we're going to do clubs first but just as an example whenever we're going to a city like we we immediately change our SLS or SDC profile to that city. Right. And then we start looking for different options, whether it be a club or resort or whatever it may be. But that's usually where we start. We look in events and we ask around. We do ask other swinger friends. Some of the best places we found have been when we changed our location and we started messaging with the locals and they would tell us where to go yeah that is fair because not everything is going to be necessarily listed in the clubs and events yeah some of these places don't want to be found you know at least you know they don't want to be easily found so you really do have to start talking to couples that are in that area and say you know like so if you you know say we were going to Atlanta right we so we'd move our profile location to Atlanta we start talking to couples and one of the questions we might ask them is hey are there any clubs or resorts or you know parties that go on in this area that you would recommend to us
Speaker2:
yeah um and a lot of times they'll bring that up to you and then maybe they'll give you a website
Speaker1:
or something like that yeah go check out you can also google um if you're going like for instance if you know you're going to new orleans or new york city or a bigger area you can google swinger clubs um swinger resorts or swinger in that city and you would be surprised what you could you Thank you. or a bigger area you can google swinger clubs um swinger resorts or swinger in that city and you would be surprised what you could you can find some things on google um and also facebook i know there's some hesitation for swingers to use their personal facebook to find swinging um opportunities or be facebook friends with swingers that you have met. Lots of swingers make a swinger profile. We have one. We don't use it. No, we don't use it. We just use our personal, honestly. Like it's funny because we'll post like a picture of our kids and like you will look through the comments and like half of them are swinger friends. But we are at this point are so immersed into the lifestyle. We are so public with it that we don't really care no it doesn't matter to us now a lot of these groups um whether it be a hotel takeover a club they will have facebook page or facebook groups you usually have to be added by someone um so again once you start meeting people and chatting with people they would be the ones to add you and again you can use like we have one a facebook that's like northern guy and southern girl um but lots of people make them with you know a fake name a whatever their probably whatever their sls sdc profile names are some sort of take on that yeah yeah and i think most most the groups and you know a lot of them are on facebook and i think places like collette's and some of these other clubs that are in the bigger cities have like they're like an open facebook page even they do they also have um like facebook groups that you can you you can be added to you can post your pictures say hey we're going to be at the club saturday night it helps you kind of mingle with people um so there's definitely opportunities via facebook to find some of these locations um it's kind of hard but you can do it um you can absolutely do it yeah yeah so i think you know sls stc um you know cassidy and some of the others are probably the best at finding these prices. Yeah, number one. Google will work, especially in the bigger cities if you're, you know, if you're traveling. And then Facebook. But a lot of times you do have to get into a locked page. So you have to know somebody that will invite you to that group. That kind of sums up the ways of finding them. So if you're not, again, if you're not on sls or sdc those those would really be our first recommendations um well in the show notes you'll have a lacy will leave she's an affiliate of sdc you can get you can try sdc out for free using her link so uh go check that out and you can look through the the clubs and events and parties in that it'll show up in your and don't be afraid to ask people um honestly we found out about secrets from a friend we found out about hedo from a friend um none of these we actually like got on a website and found um and i think if you're newer to the lifestyle or if you've been around for a while you know that like the more you get to know people and the more you chat and you learn about, you listen to podcasts, you hear things, you'll start to figure them out. Um, you just can't be afraid to like put yourself out there, get to know people, ask the right questions. You'll find these places. They exist. They do. There are swingers amongst you. Yeah, they are there. All right. So I think the first one we're going to break down is the Swinger Club. Yeah, so you just heard us do a full review of chemistry on last week's podcast. So you kind of know a little bit about a club, right? We kind of talked about registration through chemistry's website. But basically, most clubs do have a website um some you have to pre-register before others you can register at the door um pretty much all of them require some sort of membership would you agree yeah i haven't been the one that doesn't you don't have to pay a membership and i think, probably legalese, they probably have to fall under that guise. They have to be like a private club in order to operate. Yeah, again, I don't know for sure, but that seems to be the trend. Almost all of them require some type of membership, and you have to be either pre-registered or, like Trapeze, they have computers right there in the lobby. When you first get there, you can register register right there so i'll recommend definitely going to their website and finding out beforehand like trapeze in atlanta you don't have to pre-register where chemistry in nashville you do so if you know you're going i would just do your homework and go to the website figure out what you need to do prior to going yeah and i think the good thing about registering online especially ahead of time is a lot of these websites will show the people that are going that are registered they have an rsvp list right um which you can also do that on sls sdc which is kind of fun you can go and see who's going and um you can even start conversations with people prior to if you see like a super hot couple that you're into, you can message them. A lot of the clubs do have their own SLS-like page, which is a little confusing. No, yeah, yeah. So most, like if you go on SLS or even SDC, once you click to that map and see what clubs are in the area, they'll have landing page within that club um where that reservation list is and then there's also usually a link to their website so you can get to their website from sd because you can't usually register for the clubs in sls or sec you have to go to their basically just give you the link right so they give you the link yeah and a lot of the clubs hotel takeovers stuff that, do have an SLS-like membership profile that you make. It's very similar to SLS. It's essentially the same concept. You can pay and keep a membership on their website and communicate with people through there. You can RSVP through there. I mean, you can put pictures. Honestly, when me and Dan decide to go to a club or a hotel takeover that have those type of websites where you have to create a profile, we do the bare minimum. Right. One picture, I don't spend a lot of time on it. I'm literally making the profile so I can register, nothing else. Now, yeah, I think it depends. So if you were, you know. If that was your home club. If know if that was your home club and that was gonna be the club you went to you probably would spend some time i think us because we travel we usually only go to these clubs maybe once or twice a year we're just not heavily invested in their website and trying to meet people through their website we're just trying to get registered so we're just trying to get through the door okay so you're right you found your club you're registered you're paid and it's time to go um first of all most of the clubs just like with anything swinger related swingers like a good theme yeah yeah clubs are heavy on themes everything swinger is heavy heavy on themes. That's true. That's true. So you're going to want to, ladies especially, you want to look at the website, find out what their themes are. It can be anything from schoolgirl, we talked about fetish night, it could be white night where you all wear all white. The possibilities are endless, especially depending on the holiday that it's around. They're heavy into whatever season it is holiday parties christmas parties new year's back to school yeah saint patrick's day um summer you know there's like usually like a pool party or like beach beach themes yeah so definitely you want to make sure you check out the website you you do not have to dress in according to theme especially if this is new for you and you've never been before. I would not stress out about a theme. If you don't like the theme or it's not your thing you want to participate in, just wear a cute little black dress.
Speaker3:
Yeah.
Speaker1:
It's always a staple. You'll be cute. You'll be comfortable. There's been plenty of times that we've went to one. It was diamonds and denim. No, thank you. I'm not wearing denim. Lacey's got to the point where she'll check out your theme if she likes it. She'll do it if she doesn't. No. Then I just wore a cute black romper with some cute earrings and some cute heels. But there's other where i'm like all about a theme yeah and i go heavy into it so it really depends and so ladies especially if you're listening don't stress too much about the thing especially if you are new or even if you're not new and you've been around and you're just now starting to go to clubs just know that it's there if you want to use it you don't have to yeah and then gentlemen usually for the themes we just wear a button-up shirt that's the same color as whatever her outfit. Yeah. Because somehow color coordinates to her. Yeah. So usually I will pick out my outfit and then whatever color coordinating shirt. Like if I'm wearing black, Dan can pretty much wear whatever color. But like if I'm wearing wearing a red dress he might wear a red shirt with some nice jeans or some slacks i usually get him cute boxers that kind of go along with the theme right and socks and dan always likes the socks because usually three quarters of the night you're in your boxers and your socks or half the night maybe yeah so okay so we've covered registration your outfits. It's time to go. Well, so one more comment on outfits. It might be a good idea to look at the website and see what their dress code is. Oh, yeah. Because some of these clubs, you have to have a collared shirt, club wear. Some of these clubs, you can get in with jeans and T-shirts. Yeah. But they're not universal. Yeah, definitely check that out. Chemistry seemed like a jeans and t-shirt kind of place. Or trapeze. Trapeze. If you're not wearing a collar, they're probably not going to let you through the door. So you really, you know, some of them won't let you wear ripped jeans. Or like nice, you know, like some guys now wear like nice tennis shoes. Yeah. Some places you can't wear that. Right. So definitely check that out. Yeah. So make sure you, you know you know read through the website see if they have a dress code you could always call and ask
Speaker2:
if they have a dress code um but you know i'd hate for somebody to show up with holy jeans and get turned away at the door yeah double check so make sure you check on that uh all right so i think that covers registration and dress code um and then you're going to get into byob yeah so most
Speaker1:
everything swinger um minus resorts is pretty much byob so you bring your own alcohol they always I'll see you next time. into byob yeah so most everything swinger um minus resorts is pretty much byob so you bring your own alcohol they always have setups for you so whatever bottle of your choosing you bring some clubs you check it in when you go through registration and they take it to the bartender the bartender holds it for you um and then they make your drinks for you you just go up you give them your number and they make your drinks um some clubs you keep your um your bottle at your table and then you go to the bartender and get your setups and then you mix your alcohol in some you get it out of a cooler yeah yeah they're all a little different but the general idea is that uh you bring your own alcohol and then usually they provide the mixers correct and some unless you want something super specific then you could bring yourself for the most part lacy brought diet lemonade one day chick-fil-a diet lemonade yeah, generally speaking, you bring the alcohol and they provide the mixers. For the ones that have bars and bartenders, you know, you tip your bartender the same way you would if you bought a drink from them. You just don't pay for the drink. That's correct. It is important if you're going to a club to bring some ones and some small, you know, small bills to be able to tip your bartenders. Yeah. Some serve food. Some do not. Depends on the level of club that you're going to. I would definitely look into that prior to going. We talk about trapeze often. It is our favorite club. Just full disclosure, it's in Atlanta, Georgia. They do serve food. They have a buffet um if you are if you've upgraded to their diamond club you can order off their menu chemistry and nashville had um appetizers out where colette's in new orleans had no food so i would definitely look into that again ahead of time or if you're not sure go out and have a nice dinner and then maybe have dessert there or something you know yeah i would say the majority of them have some type of food but there are a few like you're right colette's in new orleans didn't have any no so we actually when we went to colette's in new orleans we checked in we dropped our alcohol off we realized that they did not serve food we were a little early we left and we got some food we left and had pizza we're like if we start drinking it right now without any food we're screwed so and then came back we'll be right back yeah yeah and so again we didn't know that we just kind of went in blindly and figured it out and and adjusted and made it work so yeah that worked out good a lot some of them serve breakfast too it is typical even not even just clubs but a lot of the hotel takeovers and stuff you know they'll have like midnight pizza or you know bring out some kind of snack at midnight one o'clock it's a little like yeah they know you're drunk and hungover and eat some carbs okay so what's next babe uh so yeah so i think the next thing is this is pretty universal is they all have like a like a dance floor it's very much like most clubs that we have been to usually there's a downstairs or a front area or a separate area that is very vanilla it is very much like any other dance club that you've ever been to um within reason would you say right right yeah i mean there's definitely there's a dj there's dancing there's you know a bar um yeah so it's a typical setup is there's like a dance floor and then there's like seating areas in and around the dance floor right yeah so if you don't want to dance so most club clubs that you go to um you know you'll have a bar area you'll have a dance floor area and then usually there's like a seating seats or whatever somewhere kind of spread out around the dance floor yeah and then usually when you go to a club you start out drinking and dancing and mingling and socializing sometimes they have you know like people that are hosting that there might be some games there might be you know just competitions um you know it's just it's very loose not really structured just kind of have fun um and most of the time after that there is a play. So at some point, you would progress past the dance floor to the playroom area. Some, it's upstairs. Several clubs that we've been to, you take an elevator or steps upstairs, and it's basically like night and day. Like downstairs, it's vanilla. Upstairs, it's like hot sex everywhere all right um some it's you know you just go past the curtain it's in the back um but yeah so next is playrooms so let's talk about playrooms yeah and i'd say so like like lacy's saying there's this dance floor club area and then usually midnight 11 midnight one o'clock people to kind of transfer from at least the ones that want to are looking to play will transfer kind of from that vanilla area back to the like she said either back or up or down or you know it's all different but they'll start heading to the playroom area now different clubs do have different rules a lot of times it's you have to be a couple uh or you you know, a male has to be escorted. A lot of them won't let single males to go back to the play area by themselves. Single males always check the websites before you go. Right. And even the clubs themselves, single males are sometimes only allowed on certain nights. So make sure you check that out. Again, if you're new to a club, getting that tour where they walk you around and tell you all the rules is kind of important yeah some playrooms you have to be naked to go back or you can only wear a towel some will let you back in lingerie and clothes uh it really all depends on where you are yeah i completely we've been to some that make you strip completely butt naked with a towel you put yourself in the locker and you go back we've been been at some that you can go fully clothed you could choose to take your clothes off if you want you don't have to it's really depends on the club we know some people that do not like the ones that they have to strip so they don't go to those yeah um i would say that's those are probably the more typical though yeah they tend usually you have to you know at least be be in your underwear or something to go back to the playroom area. And the reason they do that is so that way you don't have a ton of people that are not interested in playing going back there and gawking at the people that are. It's really to protect, I guess, the integrity of it. Right, right. So I get it. You know, you don't want somebody that this is their first night and they're not interested in playing. They just to stand there and watch you right i get that but at the same time i don't mind being watched and if you're new and this is your first time and you just want to go back and watch me and dan have hot sex i'm personally cool with that yeah so just know a lot of the clubs will require you to to de-robe to go back in that area yeah so just be mindful of that before you go again on the tour um they're going to tell you that usually the website will give you good
Speaker2:
direction on that as well right now the playrooms themselves they're all different right yeah um i'd say usually there's like an orgy area like yeah where several beds are pushed together and there's a large area where a group could be um usually there's a variety of playrooms some will
Speaker1:
Thank you. there's like an orgy area like where several beds are pushed together and there's a large area where a group could be. Usually there's a variety of playrooms. Some will have, you know, windows, windows with curtains, different levels of privacy, depending on what you're interested in. And so if you, if you prefer to be watched, yours rooms that allow that, if you prefer to go in and shut the door and be completely private, there's rooms that allow that as well. Right. And, you know, some have mirrors on the ceilings and wall, you know, there's there's a variety of rooms. But generally speaking, it'll range from completely private rooms where you can close and lock the door and nobody could see you to completely open completely which is our stuff where anybody can go and watch um there are kink rooms yeah there are depending on where you go um getting on every club yeah a lot of them will have to it santa andrew's crosses or the some of the sex wedges um some might have you know areas where you people can be tied up um and things like that um not you don't usually see full dungeon like uh secrets secrets had a separate dungeon but uh that was unusual i'd never been i'd never seen that yeah yeah so but not full full dungeon yeah usually but some of them will have some available toys yeah i feel like of all the all the places, clubs probably do a better job of cleanliness. For people that are concerned about that, they usually have a staff that will, as soon as a session or a group is done, they come in, they change the sheets, everything is wiped down, new sheets are applied. Of course, you're going to pay for what you get. if you're at a higher end club that you know the cost to get in there is much higher you're obviously going to have more staff it's going to be cleaner if you are at a cheaper club you're going to have less staff and it's going to be less clean you're paying for what you get yeah now generally with the playrooms they do have sheets and then they'll have like the waterproof blankets whatever you know underneath the sheets some of them staff you know once you're done and you leave the room staff will come and clean some of them require the the guests to do that so they'll have like a stack of sheets somewhere and like after you're done playing you pull your own sheets off and put them again if you go on the tour right if you read the signs it's all pretty much laid out for you right so make sure you kind of understand how that works yeah you know you definitely make sure you get a clean pair of sheets before you go to play if that's something you want to do yeah a lot of times they have condoms and lube and things like that out for the taking so you can partake in those or you can bring your own it's completely up to you um they usually have lockers that you can use or um some sort of storage space so we usually bring a book bag with um just our necessities my brush some little gauze maybe a change of clothes to wear back um yeah usually you like to take laundry right so especially like places that will let you wear lingerie back to the playroom you know lacy will have a sexy dress on for the the dance club part and then she'll transition to lingerie before we go back into the the play area it's not required sometimes i don't wear it sometimes i do just depending um the only other thing i'd say that's typical of of playrooms is a lot of them will either have a theater room or tvs on the walls playing porn but there are a lot of times you'll see there's pornography somewhere and some of them have like a dedicated room just for for that yeah it's like almost like a theater room right yeah clubs typically we found are in larger cities so if we know that we are going to a larger city, we always are like, where is the club? So just keep that in mind when you are. So like we do travel often just in our normal everyday life. So if we are traveling, we immediately start Googling and start looking it up. So just kind of keep that in mind if you travel and you want to try one out one of these clubs a lot for like well the closest club is not two hours away from us we're like same yeah but we just go we make a saturday night of it we get a hotel room and we just have fun it's a really cool way to meet people that are not in your local area if you are feeling stagnant like you are seeing the same people you want to branch out highly recommend the club yeah um yeah most if you're going major metropolitan's most likely we'll have a club yeah depending on the state yeah make it a fun saturday night take your wife out get her a fancy dress let her let her be a slut for not at the club all right so now the next next thing we're gonna talk about so that's clubs in a nutshell um most clubs are open till two two to four o'clock in the morning ish um yeah you go you know have some drinks dance go to the playroom have fun and then you go home and uh or back to your hotel and that's that kind of wraps it up um now we're going to talk about hotel takeovers right which is different than a club so this is where a a group um usually they're pretty regional and there's you know different groups in different areas um they'll take over a hotel um some of them are full hotel so they'll take over the entire hotel and then some of them will do a partial takeover where they'll just take over floor two or three or four of a hotel, but not the entire hotel. Um, it's essentially a club in a hotel and you stay the night. Yeah, it's kind of the way. Is that the best way to describe it i mean a traveling club correct they are very regional um you again this is probably something you would find at sls sdc word of mouth um most so they're put on by a group usually the group has a name um some some ones that we know of are vibe which is in the national area of friction which is ininn, which is in the northeast. East, kind of, yeah. Jim is in Alabama, I think, one. LSC? LSC. Charlotte. Yeah, North Carolina, South Carolina one. Again, a lot of these have Facebook pages. Right. And we're able to get added by friends, and that's how we. And then once you have registered for their event you get on their email chain and so i'm constantly getting emails so i always know when these these groups are having parties a lot of times their parties are based on the holiday so keep in mind so there's always a halloween one a christmas new year's eve um yeah it seems like most of these groups try to do one about once a month give or take yeah and some of them are maybe maybe every other month but like you have a you have an october 31st or well it won't be on actual we have a halloween one and then you have a christmas so they do skip thanksgiving but roughly once a month um i like hotel takeovers yeah so i guess let's just kind of walk through it a little bit so again if it's a whole hotel that means the swingers have bought out the hotel for the night there's no rented the entire no vanilla people i always wonder how they get staff like do they volunteer like i asked one time i was like do y'all think we're just batshit crazy and the guy was like oh no we volunteer for this night like we love working this um i personally like a full hotel takeover because you don't have to cover you can freely walk them around the hotel yeah in your outfit you don't have to worry we've been much preferful we've been to ones where we walk down to go to the ballroom for the dance party portion and there's kids girl scout troop checking in yeah and it's very uncomfortable as a mom it was very uncomfortable so i personally prefer a full hotel takeover um the quality of the hotels are not great. Just going to put that out there.
Speaker3:
Although a few friction has some nice.
Speaker1:
Friction has some good ones.
Speaker2:
But I guess you're trying to think what type of hotels would let an entire struggle to, for these groups to get a hotel to agree to let them to do this.
Speaker3:
Yeah. Yeah.
Speaker1:
But we know that going in, we're not expecting a five-star hotel. We know that we're going to a hotel takeover. It's a three-star Best Western type. Yeah, but it's fun. Who cares, right? You register very much like you would a club. It very much applies. Most of them have a website of some sort, and you can register through. However, a lot of the hotel takeovers, I feel like're venmoing right they're smaller it's smaller it's not as nice it's you know some probably your bigger hotel takeovers your fancier hotel takeovers you um they do have built-in websites where you can purchase and stuff um but a lot of the smaller ones it's more of a yeah you might you might be venmoing or cash app being the host yeah as opposed to going to a website correct so the basic structure right they're all about the same right yeah usually they'll take a ballroom and that's the club and they'll turn that into the club area so they'll have a dance floor like most hotels do anyway but then they'll have a dj a lot of them will put in stripper poles or cages or things like that into the ballroom uh and that'll be kind of the club ballroom area of the hotel most of them will set up a party floor yeah so it's a floor and it's usually like the core of that group like the people that are always there you know they'll set up that you know it's the I guess the core of the group is a good way to put it. Yeah, it's a floor and it's usually like the core of that group, like the people that are always there. You know, they'll set up that, you know, it's the, I guess the core of the group is a good way to put it. Yeah, it's usually like the regulars that go. You can host a shot room and you basically just make shots. Well, that's not all the ones do shot rooms, but most of them do a of them do a a room crawl yeah which means say at midnight you'll go up to usually it's the top floor but not not always but you'll go up to say the fourth floor you'll do a room crawl which just means you're going from room to room meeting people is the idea sometimes it's a good way to bingle right sometimes there'll be like a bdsm room or you know the people there you know trying to sell bdsm toys or just sex toys right a sex toy room um yeah lsc usually they encourage their party for people to do shot rooms and pass out shots you know some you know i don't they might if it's halloween they might be passing out candy and yeah and muffins and you know who knows the idea is you go up and you go it's a nice way to meet people yeah right to mingle um usually there is a playroom up on a like on that floor i personally have never found that a lot of people play in the playroom what is weird so i guess the thing about hotel takeovers is there's no play kind of boxy right usually there is well no but what i mean is it's not like it's not like a club yeah it's not like a club where everybody goes to an area and has sex like playrooms it's usually people go back to their own hotel rooms because they're right there to have sex so if you're new and you want to go and like do a lot of watching and just kind of taking it in hotel takeovers might not be your scene because there is not a whole lot of watching right most of the time you're going to meet a couple you're going to go back to their room or your room and you're going to shut your door and you're going to play and that's going to be it so just keep that in mind if you're new and you're and you're kind of looking for that you're not going to see a ton of it yeah now we have seen playrooms that have like bdsm things going on in a playroom um we have seen sibians brought to playrooms oh yeah some of our hotel takeovers so i mean you know there's there's opportunities there is opportunity but you're not near as much as a club where a club there's always almost every night something you know at least on a friday and saturday there's there's an orgy going on in the orgy room yeah hotel takeovers is kind of hit or miss whether you know because you're right they usually do set aside a room or two to be a quote unquote play room there's not always play going on sometimes those rooms just kind of turn into like hang out and mingle yeah yeah um again it is byob um but this time you're pretty much just keeping your alcohol and your setups and everything in your room and you would just go back to your room if you needed refill um i would say if you are wanting to go to bed at a decent time do not get a room on the party floor no because the music will play till like 3 a.m yeah so a lot of times don't the djs will be in the ballroom and then once they're done and they're they'll either have a second setup or the djs will actually move up to the party floor it's loud their speakers up it's basically like a party in the hallway in and out of the rooms and then a lot of the party floor people even if they don't have a d if't have DJs up there, they'll bring their own speakers and things. The music is very loud on the party floor. It'll be loud until 2, 3, 4, 5, 6 a.m. sometimes. Just keep that in mind. It is typical to decorate, especially if you're on the party floor. Yeah. So bring your LEDs, your pineapple displays, lots of lights, lots of music. Go to Amazon. Amazon yeah get all the pineapple decor yeah that's what we did so like after we had been to a few hotel takeovers we were I was like I guess we need to get some stuff so now we just literally have a bag that has like some pineapple LED lights and a unicorn little light and a black light and a music star light thingy and we just we load up that and we just take it every time we go to a hotel takeover and we just set up the room um it just is kind of cool yeah um what else so i think yeah that's that room crawl the idea i think the idea is you transition from the part, you know,
Speaker2:
it's almost like that 11 o'clock midnight at the club when everybody transitions from the dance floor back to the playrooms. I think the idea is you get everybody up to go up and do a room crawl and then people start breaking off to go play and things like that.
Speaker3:
Correct.
Speaker2:
Now, the benefits of the full hotel takeover is a lot of times they have the pool.
Speaker1:
Which is fun. And, yeah, so there's, you know, it's naked pool clothing optional pool at that point um lots of times it'll be basically like an orgy there'd be play playing going around the outside of the pool it's fun it's like that's a really good place to watch i mean the first time that we ever went to a hotel takeover that had a pool we just kind of like took it in yeah we didn't play with anybody we just sort of watched yeah so that's fun yeah um and that's it that's it right so you yeah usually you start the night you know you go get get to your hotel room get checked in go set up your room set up all your lights set up all your, make it look cool. And then the girl will spend three hours getting ready, right? So you check in at three and then hopefully by, you know, like usually the party starts at nine, 10 o'clock, something like that. So hopefully in that five hours they can get dressed up. You take cute pictures for your SLS or SDC profiles. Or OnlyFans. OnlyFans, yeah.
Speaker2:
Then you'll head down to the ballroom. Dance.
Speaker3:
Bring your Tumblr.
Speaker1:
You want to bring your Tumblr cup.
Speaker3:
We got some hashtag swing talk ones on theswingnation.com if you need a Swing or Tumblr. Yeah, there you go. But people, Swingers are going, you know, I've noticed people are starting to up their Tumblr game.
Speaker2:
My Tumblr game is on point right now. Yours is strong.
Speaker1:
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Speaker2:
You've had some donations.
Speaker3:
Yeah.
Speaker2:
You got some good Tumblrs right now.
Speaker3:
Yeah, I do.
Speaker1:
Thank you. going you know i've noticed people are starting to up their tumblr game my tumblr game is on point right now yours is strong thanks to heather some some donations yeah you got some good tumblers right now uh but mix your drink fill your tumblr up go down to the ballroom dance meet people grind up on people a lot of times clothes will start coming off on the ballroom they will you know some people might be naked um by midnight well especially if it's a full hotel takeover in the full place you could almost wear like lingerie is type outfits where like if you're getting in an uber going to a club or it or if it's not a full hotel takeover you do want to be a little bit more covered yeah yeah um all right so then you get done dancing usually around midnight that's time to do the room crawl so you'll head up to the rooms you'll go room to room see everybody take some shots see all the fun going on the sibians and the changing to your lingerie ladies that's the time to get in the lingerie or into the naked clothes if you want to do that um and then hopefully know, by this time you've met a couple on the dance floor, you know, you kind of go check out all the naughtiness that's going on on the playroom and then usually you'll end up back in one of your all's hotel rooms for the night. Pro tip. Pro tip. Get a bed. Get a room with two beds. Why would I? I only need one bed. One to play and one to sleep. That's right. Yeah. That is a pro tip. That's a really good pro tip. I know, right? You want the double queen. You don't want a king bed. Nope. You don't know. You might take a squirter back. Right. So if you bring a couple back and you end up making a mess or having a bunch of sex. Yeah, you don't want to sleep in that. It is very nice to have the clean next the clean bed to hop in and correct i guess the only other thing we didn't talk about we kind of brushed on it quickly is theme again they're all going to have a theme just like the club the attire is just like the club for women and men again i just mentioned that you're not ubering so you can probably get away with a little bit more risque i typically after the club ballroom portion i usually change into lingerie a little bit more casual um so yeah so yeah and i say as far as dress code goes they're much looser they're much looser you know a lot of times the guys can get away with not having you know if they just want to wear a t-shirt or whatever yeah um now i will say you know there are levels of hotel takeover so like some of the more expensive fancier ones you might want to wear a button-up shirt and be fancy and some of the the ones that are 75 opposed to 250 dollars you know again just like with the club you're paying for what you get the higher-end hotel takeovers provide pizza at midnight. They have better security. Pro DJs. Yeah. I mean, you're in a better quality hotel. So, again, you're getting what you pay for it. So, what you pay for. Yeah. What about anything else? I think it's in hotel takeovers. Yeah. All right. So, now the next category we have is resorts. resort so what's the difference between a resort and a club or a resort and a hotel takeover a resort usually has a club yeah um but you stay on premise kind of like a extended stay hotel takeover yeah would you that's right would you i mean that's the best way um i can describe it um you usually go you park you're there like for the weekend or the week however long you are summer international um we hear us talking about hedo that is in jamaica we are going um there for seven days that is a resort um but then secrets was also resort in the u.s in orlando same concept you stay there club there you well you didn't you eat there i guess um yeah these these vary right so you have these you know these five star all-inclusive resorts on a tropical beach in jamaica but then you have swinger campgrounds in north dakota yeah that would be a resort yeah so i mean again just like with clubs how to take it you're paying for what you get um keto obviously is five star we're gonna have sit-down meals everything's fancy all alcohol is included but then again on the flip side you might go to a swinger campground and nothing is included right you stay in a tent and they have not my style y'all maybe a pool baby it ain't happening not happening no we could do it nope so again how do you find how do you register we're going to start there with the resort um very very similar similar to all the other. Most of them are on SLS, SDC. But a lot of these are going to be more website-based. Would you agree? Right. Some of these, especially like the campgrounds and stuff, that might just be word of mouth. Yeah. They might not even be on the websites. Yeah. But obviously, like, you have Desire and Mexico, Hedoo those are going to be your higher class you're you're going to go through their website their websites are top notch about the only thing swinger that's top notch as far as websites but um they're going to be legit because you're spending big money like our hito trip was three thousand dollars just for the just for us to stay there so you're you're not talking about two hundred dollars or fifty dollars you're talking about substantial money so their websites and stuff are better quality yeah now i would say google nudists resort or nudist yeah places because a lot of these they might not be swinger centric but it seems like there's a lot of nudist places in the united states and a lot of them are swinger friendly they're lifestyle friendly so keep in mind when you are googling for instance temptations in mexico is lifestyle friendly typically what that means is you can't play in public right so you can be at their pools you can be naked you can kiss you can dance but when it comes to like actual sexual acts you have to be in private or in a designated play area and that's pretty typical for the nudist type so we go to like paradise valley which is in uh georgia yeah it's in north georgia it's a it's a nudist place but it's swinger friendly so they have a swinger um club on premise but but you can't play. It's a nudist place, but it's swinger-friendly. So they have a swinger club on premise, but you can't play in the pool. It's basically a nudist club. The only place you can play is back in your condo or in your campsite or at the club. Yeah. But other than that, it's nudist. But you can be naked anywhere. Yeah, you can. Which is super fun. Yeah, it's very fun.'s very fun like i think nudists and lifestyle people go kind of are sort of parallel but i think they think we're batshit crazy you know um um so typically at a resort you're going they are going to provide your meals so you once you and i love that because i feel like you park you're there and you don't leave you can drink you can laugh you can have fun you're not worried about how are we getting home is one of us being responsible what times the uber coming it's very freeing just to like be there yeah 100 um also if you meet a couple you're into them it doesn't matter if it's like lunch time you can go back to your room with them yeah um so that's exciting um some are alcohol is included some you have to purchase separate i've never been to a nude or a resort that you bring your own alcohol i'm sure that there are those no most of them most of them I've seen, they're selling the alcohol. Secrets, they sell it. Paradise Valley, they sell it. Keto, Desire, it's included. But I'd imagine a campground. Yeah, some of these campgrounds have got to be BYOB. Yeah, they have to be. Yeah, I don't know. Yeah. So a lot of them are pool-associated. Right. Warm climate. Or river or lake. Yeah. Um, so there's going to be like a general area that you, um, have to be nude. Some of them require that you go all the way down, nothing others. You can wear whatever you want. So again, based on your comfort level, if you are not comfortable with being completely new, you might want to check into that prior to going. Again, their website should have all that information. Right. Hedo, I understand, has a pool for nudists and a pool for not or something? Yeah, so I think, like, in one pool, you can wear, like, your bottoms or whatever top if you're not comfortable. But the nude pool, you have to be completely naked, and they do give you, like, a five- a five minute warning like you got to get nude or get out yeah i don't know how i feel about that how do you feel about it i feel like after the first hour we'll be perfectly fine with it so let's tell a little story okay because people like our like personal stories so the first time dan and i ever went to like a resort type place we went to paradise valley in north georgia to nudist colony dawsonville dawsonville georgia thank you um and i honestly didn't know what to expect right you know so it was time to go to the pool and i put on my my um one piece bathing suit okay it was a sexy your one piece mom bathing suit is what she wore to a nudist resort and wore it down to the pool. It had high-cut sides. Oh, my goodness. I didn't know. And honestly, I was really nervous. This is back when I wore sundresses to hotel takeovers and clubs. I was still brand-new, fresh swinger and kind of learning um the ropes so i didn't know and i i come walking out with my bathing suit and he's like what the fuck um in my defense i only wore it for like five minutes yeah that's true and it was off and i never put it back on and we've been multiple times since um so ladies it's okay i'm with you if you have to wear a full piece or one piece that's the thing about nudists they don't you can your body type doesn't matter at all no they don't care at all and you're literally going to see all kinds um but definitely a lot more nudity around resorts where clubs and stuff you do see that some but i feel like resorts are more man
Speaker2:
resorts are like a nude weekend like that's just you can you don't pack one pair of clothes and that's to wear there and wear back and that's all you need yeah except sometimes they eat they make
Speaker1:
you put on yeah sometimes they require you to be dressed to eat no aerial list near the buffet line yeah we have a friend that always does that so um most resorts have some sort of playroom I don't know if does he do i assume they do they have a club yes but uh you know secrets did and uh paradise valley has a swingers club that has yeah so i mean depending on what obviously a campground probably doesn't but like most normal resorts have some sort of club and then again you would transition to the playrooms just like you would at the club or at a hotel takeover depending i'd say definitely if it's a swinger resort it probably will have some type of playroom somewhere if it's just a nudist it might not yeah so just do your research again very theme have like heavy because a swingers again love a good theme um for instance we're going to hito again just a few weeks. The themes are rock star and dress to impress, schoolgirl, favorite sports team, stuff like that. So, again, if you don't want to do the theme, you don't have to. If you want to, you can. Very, very, it all is very similar, as you see, as we kind of walk through here.
Speaker4:
Resort is basically like an overnight club that you stay at. Right. That feeds you. Yeah. All right. So, real quick, the only other thing we got is house parties. That's completely separate. That's nothing like a resort. We've only been to a few house parties in our lives. Yeah. Full disclosure. So generally speaking, the house parties are small groups of swinger friends that are in smaller towns and cities that kind of, you know, just think about a vanilla house party. Same thing. It's just swingers will have friends over. And usually it's, I know that you can, there are things online on SLS, SCC, where they will list their event.
Speaker3:
But every time that we've personally been invited to a house party, it's been like, hey, we're having a house party on Saturday. Would you like to come sort of situation? It's been a personal invite.
Speaker1:
Right, from swingers that we already know and have a relationship with. Yeah, and usually you have a host couple, and there will be the ones that you're basically hand selected would you say right yeah no i mean yeah i mean i'm sure they're on sls i do see i think some people will just host it and invite random people but for the most part it's groups of friends that know each other that go to a yeah like you might say hey can i bring my friend this is what they look like they're a good couple and then you could bring them but for the most part it's hi my name is so and so and i'm the host and i'm inviting these five couples right honestly i would probably be a little nervous of an open house party yeah just trying to bring anybody from from sls or scc because yeah i wouldn't want to be a part of that i feel like you would get all randoms and i personally i would much rather go to a house party so i'd be a little wary of that yeah where it's hand selected yeah um and yeah and so basically a house party is like a vanilla party but then at the end of the night you have sex you have sex um and again it's not no expectations it's if you connect with people you know sometimes maybe multiple you know people but uh generally it's a smaller group of friends that throw a swinger friendly party yeah i mean just like any house party you would probably bring a bottle of alcohol you know and you might bring a dessert or whatever the case may be you it you dress appropriate to whatever the situation is you might bring lingerie again for once it's sexy time you can change um usually a little bit more laid back low-key yeah most of the ones we've been to um a lot of games like um beer pong and um cards against humanity to kind of break the ice um what else about house party no i think Thank you. um beer pong and um cards against humanity to kind of break the ice um what else about house party no i think i mean that's basically typically stay the night um and just because there's so much alcohol involved and everything and then the next morning you get up you say your goodbyes and head out sometimes your friends cook you a nice breakfast but yeah i think with house parties
Speaker2:
it's it's generally a group of known swingers that just kind of hang out yeah and i'm with you
Speaker1:
i don't know that if somebody posted their house party on sls that i would be real eager to i would
Speaker2:
be a little leery of that especially if you're new yeah you just don't know what situation you're
Speaker1:
walking into yeah um but house parties are free yeah no cost no cost unlike the rest um Thank you. you're new yeah you just don't know what situation you're walking into yeah um but house parties are free yeah no cost no calls and like the rest um i think it's a good way if you have local swinger friends and there's not an event going on and you have some kind of in-between time yeah that's a good way to have some yeah i've enjoyed the house parties that we've been not very many but i've really enjoyed the house parties that we've been a part of yeah so invite us back friends yeah we haven't been invited what did you do what did you we were neither one of us were on our best behavior oh well that's a story for another day this was a pretty pg podcast like we didn't give any like real naughty details about anything no no this was pretty pg but i think it's you know we get these questions a lot um what would you recommend for a newbie where should they start should they start i say go to a club club with no intentions of playing yeah so i think i mean resorts could be you know like especially like a temptations where it's like a swinger friendly but not necessarily a swinger i think that could be a lot it could be yeah uh yeah but if if you want to go and just people watch the club is probably the best place for that i agree um and kind of get a feel for and maybe one that you don't have to get completely nude especially like the husband you know i think women's a little bit easier to get naked in front of people i don't know i guess like or at least it would be for me but i imagine if your husband and you had only ever been together for 20 years and then you're like oh by the way you got a strip completely new to walk in here i mean i feel like that's a little much so if i was giving advice i would say find a club that you don't have to do that that you can just go and openly watch um and just kind of get a feel for it yeah now i would say about all these places they're usually super friendly to new people they are um and be honest so this is our first time we don't know what we're doing help yeah they will be extremely accommodating to you now the clubs in the larger cities seem like they have a larger influx of newer people they're not as i guess clicky if you would say um the more regional you get the more clicky it seems to get like some of these you know i think some of these hotel takeovers it's the same same groups always throw you know throw it and usually it's the same people that always show up um yeah resorts i think depending on the resort it could be a bunch of strangers it's not always the same people um we like the stranger aspect that's kind of like i think why we're drawn to it because we know we're going to a big city we're gonna go no one there we know but like if we get on sls and try to plan something to go outside or not most people on there are people that we either talk to or message or it's kind of a i really recommend it for the people that are like we are having no luck in our town or you know or like the closest club is three hours away what do we do well you make a reservation and get a hotel room and you go um take your wife out let her get a cool outfit and you get a new button up and y'all go have a night out take her out to dinner and then y'all go and both drink and get an uber home um i just really suggest that for people in those situations we get so many of those messages daily yeah i think that that pretty much wraps it up you got anything else you want to say about clubs hotel takeovers what's your favorite i don't i well i don't think i can answer that till after hito i have a feeling resorts are my favorite even the ones we haven't been to a ton of resorts um so maybe we'll we'll come back to this once we have but i love the idea of like you don't have to go anywhere no you just
Speaker2:
crash back in your room and yeah even the you know even just like paradise valley and secrets it's so nice to you get up you you go to the pool you go to the pool naked you you lounge around in the pool daydream naked day drinking talking to these super cool swinger couples that you know are open and you know like just getting to know people hanging out all day working on your tan drinking something fruity and nice uh and then you know at the end of the night you're gonna put on some sexy clothes you're gonna go to a club and like party yeah then you're probably gonna end up you know hooking up with some hot people yeah i mean it's just i like what a way to spend a weekend you know i mean like yeah it doesn't get any better than that so yeah i'd say resorts are probably yep me too but who doesn't like i mean any resort even if it's not a lifestyle resort that's that's living right there but anyway what else that's it that's all i got that's all you got i hope this was helpful i hope that this can give people some insight um let us know your feedback hopefully it answers some of the questions we did repeatedly about about these kind of things yep all right so with that folks in a world full of apples be a pineapple be a pineapple guys thanks bye y'all if you've enjoyed our podcast and want to support us leave a five-star review wherever you're listening if you want to see more of our content you can find links to snapchat twitter instagram only fans and more in the show notes come join the conversation with us and other swinger content creators on our Swinger Society Discord server. If you have questions or feedback, email them to us at theswingnation at gmail.com. Make sure you head on over to theswingnation.net and keep up to date on all things Swing Nation. We thank you so much for joining us and we'll see you next time. Goodbye.
