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Interview the experts, learn and grow together. Join the nation. Lacey, we get approached by couples all the time and they want to know, like, where can they learn the one-on-ones of non-monogamy? Yeah, I totally get it. You want to get in the lifestyle, but you just don't know where to start.
We recommend Sex by Sue's class on non-monogamy yeah i totally get it you want to get in the lifestyle but you just don't know where to start we recommend sex by sue's class on non-monogamy she really helps couples learn how to communicate and do the lifestyle the correct way yeah i think this lifestyle you know it's crucial not to to step on the landmines that a lot of us do yeah and you kind of learn the hard way you know so having a class can take online, you know, in the privacy of your own home and kind of learn the ins and outs, learn, you know, how to approach the lifestyle, how to communicate with your partner about it.
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That that's right if you want to party with us and the other faces and names that you know from social media and tiktok head on over to swingersociety.net can't wait to see you there hey there pineapple people and welcome to the swing nation podcast we are your hosts northern guy and southern girl and today's episode we're gonna be talking to you a little bit about lifestyle etiquette we are if flacey wakes up i'm sorry i did yawn i did yawn is falling asleep on me no it's been a long day it's a boring subject you don't want to talk about no no it's important let's talk about it's an important subject it is i think this is a good podcast to do i agree we we get asked about uh etiquette get quite a bit actually we do and we've never done a podcast on it but it's definitely something um i think it's kind of more like learned in the lifestyle you just kind of do it one way and if that doesn't work you kind of adjust and you kind of learn these things but if you're new to lifestyle we can like give you some tips so you don't make the same mistakes that we made tips and tricks yeah for lifestyle etiquette uh okay i think the first thing to say uh is yeah we're gonna go over some etiquette 101 and kind of some rules and kind of some generality uh this is what swingers do the do's and don'ts of swinging um and kind of how not to be disrespectful or or piss somebody off but um i think we should kind of caveat that with it's not the same everywhere correct and it's not the same with every couple like we have some couples that we are very close with that some things that these don't apply some others that we don don't know, so maybe all of these apply.
So it just kind of depends. Yeah, and I've even been bigger than that. Like the way we handle interacting with each other maybe here in the United States might be different than like the Europeans handle it. And I think even here in the South might be different than some of the – there might be some different etiquette kind of things up north.
know so i think this is you know this is kind of us in our experience and you know kind of what we've found to be the best ways of interacting with people in a respectful manner but i think it could vary very much by um where you are in the world correct and in the groups and things like that yeah okay so now that that's out of the way right we're going to go over some general etiquette rules okay uh and i think where we want to start is this is kind of where most swingers start right so if you've got this far and you know you're on episode 80 or whatever our podcast you've figured out at least you know where to go and how to meet couples um and now you're probably thinking okay how do i you know if you're thinking etiquette how do i interact with people in this swinger lifestyle space right um and usually the first place you interact with people is on some kind of online platform yeah all right so what would you say are some good i guess rules of the road when interacting with lifestyle people on a either online or via text or maybe on the discord server um do you have some some etiquette that you'd recommend to people there well i think any kind of online in any of those platforms don't start with a dick pic right i mean some people do some people are like very proud and they just like they start with that um and i think like consent is important even electronically and i think you should always ask before you send anything especially out the gate yeah so kind of our first rule that we have written down here in our notes is always treat people with respect and i think that's kind of is exactly what you're saying right yeah if you.
If you're respectful, if you're interacting with a couple and being respectful, shooting a dick pic right out the gate is probably not the most respectful. Correct. You have no idea what their rules are, what their boundaries are. You haven't communicated with them. You don't know really anything about this couple. If you're leading off with a dick pic, I mean, that's a disrespectful move. It better be a damn good dick pic if you want to get past, you know, like a hello. But yeah, I totally agree. Be respectful. Yeah.
And I, you know, I think the key to this, right, is if you can't be respectful to somebody on an online platform or while you're interacting with them on Discord or whether it be Discord or SLS or SwingersSociety.net if you can't be respectful in that space why would they ever trust you to to interact with them in in human right yeah real life no i respect all you know their privacy their boundaries if you can't even show respect on a on an internet platform they're probably not going to take it to the next the next step with you completely agree yeah and so i think key, right?
So that you're kind of laying the groundwork with this couple, um, for possible future interactions. Yeah. Um, okay. Another rule I have kind of written down here is engage both partners. Uh, that's a very important, I think we've all encountered this, uh, and you know, and it does happen.
I think, I think, you know, some people will have different work schedules yeah i was going to say not not always are both parts of a couple super active typically in most relationships one of them is probably like the person who finds couples or finds people and is probably more of the talker and that's okay that's pretty common but you still want to try to engage the other person and make and one to make sure they're real and two you want to show them that you're respectful of them as well and you're happy that they're a part of this as well yeah i think it's interesting because i definitely do run like most of our platforms online right now if you're messaging us on sls or stc or swingerstudy.net it's probably me that's responding to you or answering those messages but i will say once we get into a group chat situation you tend to kind of lead those more and i don't know if it's because i'm so busy with the business and everything it just kind of depends sometimes if i'm like super engaged with a couple and if i'm you know i'll tend to do more too um but yeah i just think i'm you're one of those people that will wait till the end of the night and have like let's see how you have 43 text messages on your phone right now that you haven't opened right so you're kind of that type of person that waits the end of the night and then you'll respond to everybody where i kind of keep up with it throughout the day because seeing 43 text messages on my phone stresses me out so it's just a personality style but I think it's important to keep both parties engaged rather if you're a single person communicating with a couple or if you're a couple communicating with a couple yeah and I do think that whole you know what you're trying to do here is whether it's on one of these platforms or whether it's via text or you know some kind of group messaging app or something like that is you're feeling each other out to see if there's some type of connection and if you want to take it to the next level if one party is absent from that it's really hard to to make that connection or to get to a level of comfort where you're like oh yeah i really want to meet these people because you're like oh want to meet these people.
And it seems like Lacey and this dude are really hitting it off. But I have no idea who this chick is, if she's even real or if she exists or if she's interested in me in any way, shape or form. And so I think everybody kind of needs to feel some level of a connection in that group space. So it's important that everybody interacts. I do know for me, until I meet you in person, I don't tend to message a ton. Because it's just hard for me to feel a person out. Now, if we meet in person and we have an amazing experience, I'm more apt to respond quicker and better. Just because I've seen you.
I know you're real. I like you. That's all part of that building that trust. Yeah. But so so leading up to it i tend to not be super eager in responding right but you need some interaction to figure out if you're even interested to meet them or not right totally yeah okay all right so i guess that's some etiquette for for the online space uh the next etiquette we're going to talk about is when you actually meet people in person right and this could look could look different, right?
It could be at a club, it could be at an event, and maybe it's you went out to coffee or dinner or met someplace public. So when you're in that situation, what are some kind of etiquette rules when you're meeting people in person? Females generally approach first.
So like I would say, hello, how are you to both the female and the male and you kind of leave like behind me i guess like we say that like a lot of people think that men run the lifestyle but really it's the wives it's the it's the females um so typically the women kind of lead off would you would you agree no i agree especially like in a club space i think if there's like a hot couple across the room and like we're like oh go talk to them it's generally less intimidating and more accepting you'll notice you know and i've heard husbands i've joked with husbands all the time it's like yeah this is great i just come to a club and my wife goes around and like finds people for us to hook up with yeah but that's kind of it often works like that it seems like a safe place like for me especially like just an example of like last weekend we were at trapeze and one of um the wives was like hey lacy my husband is really into you would you like to have sex with him and i was like abso-fucking-lutely i would like to do that but it like made me comfortable because she approached me like had he approached me i would then you know went and checked with her so she we just kind of like skipped that step because she it just seemed yeah it's safer less intimidating yeah you know everybody.
It definitely seems to work. It does. Now saying that, it's not to say that guys cannot initiate contact. Correct. They do, yeah. And even maybe if you're a single guy and you don't have a wife to go send out there to find people for you to have sex with, you have to do that engagement. What is the etiquette for either a guy or a single guy when approaching couples? I think they should go to the husband first How many times have I gotten left alone in a club like somebody went to the bathroom or you know Everybody's dancing.
I stepped off and like the men come swarming That is not the way you do it Um, if you were interested in a female and you're a male you go to the husband husband, like you have to earn his respect before you get to play with his wife. And I think especially single males, forget that. Yeah. No, I, I agree with that a hundred percent. Like the second the husband walks off, they like swore me in. And that is the opposite. Like that's a way to get told no immediately. Right.
So if you're a single male or even maybe a coupled male, if you're the one initiating contact it's really you should initiate contact with the husband first and say hey you know my name's dan um i saw you and your wife from across the room your wife's gorgeous you know i'm interested you guys play with single male you know like that would be the appropriate way to start that conversation not wait till the husband goes to the bathroom and then be like hey baby i saw you across the room you're hot you're like yeah then the husband comes walking back in and they're like to me if i saw you just if i came back and i see you with uh you know maybe a single guy and i knew because i saw him in the club that he was a single guy i would be like like brush him off yeah get out of here dude like what are you doing you know like you know that's kind of like that like you're saying that creepy and it makes as a female it makes me feel uncomfortable that you waited until my husband walked away to approach me like that doesn't give me like the warm and fuzzies like i get turned on by a man being a man like if a man walked up to you and shook your hand was like oh my god your wife is gorgeous like that's a turn on for me not like you're sneaky and you're gonna wait till my husband walks away yeah i think something to note is we're we're picking on the men a lot here but this applies to both we've had it happen the opposite correct you're right i'm glad you said that because we've had that where um one time we were with a big group and the wife the wife had not even approached you and then i walked off and the second i walked off she was like can i fuck you yeah and you came and asked and i was like no which i was a little bitchy but i didn't like the way that she waited for me to walk off i thought that was very disrespectful right and it can be yeah like you said maybe you know that's a little bit that's super aggressive there but maybe it's just you go to the bathroom and you come back and there's this girl sitting on the couch with me or touching my leg or like being super flirty you'd be like why did you wait until i left until right it just gives a weird vibe it does it does so i think we we should you know mention that it can be yeah i know it's it's easy to pick on the single males but you're 100 right the single females can and you don even have to be single female.
Your husband can, you could be a hot wife and maybe your husband's in the corner watching, but I don't know that coming out. Same thing. Right. Okay. All right. So what are some other, so if you're going to approach a couple and talk to them, like, what, what do you talk about? Like, what do you bring up? Like how, how do we do this? What's the etiquette there?
Well, it's not like picking up a girl at a girl at a bar i mean like it's not well i mean not really i don't think i mean i think you need this you know like your husband the husband should be right there too or the or the wife vice versa i mean i think you have to how do you do it i don't know i'm not good at this i think i think you're what said is kind of important, right? It's not like being a single guy at the bar. And I think maybe that's where single guys get it wrong, right? It's because this is a different type of environment, right? Or couples. I mean, we need to think about couples.
Right. If you're a single guy at the bar, you're going to go up to a girl. You're going to compliment her. You're going to buy her a drink. You're not worried about the husband.
So I think guys in general tend to try to, you you know we're used to what we did in high school or in college and that's how we tend to want to engage and approach uh women um but you can't do that when it's a coupled situation you have to you have to remember there's two parties there and you have to you have to show respect for both of them um all right so once you do approach what what are we what are we talking about here like so i come up to you i say hey uh nice to meet you my name's dan nice to meet you your wife's beautiful i feel like we're forgetting about couples okay what about you okay what even so like if we walk up to a couple i'm probably gonna say hello to the wife and of course compliment her compliments are always good comment you know you're so beautiful i love your hair this is my husband dan um is this the first time y'all have ever been here right i mean that's pretty cliche but you know it's you it's something you say do y'all come here often okay what do you avoid talking about politics religion those are the two big ones you don't usually ask about like jobs or yeah sometimes kids come up because it just naturally does come up but that's probably something that you don't want to lead with you want to let them uh offer that to you yeah but yeah religion and politics are definitely stuff that doesn't usually happen yeah your job most people don't ask what you do for a living if somebody offers it that's more than mine um but you don't typically just come out the gate and ask And you also don't ask, where exactly you're from like are y'all do y'all live around here might be like a good question or um you just don't want to say like what state do you live in what city you know you want to keep things because a lot of swingers are very very private and if you start asking questions it makes them feel uncomfortable yeah they might want to withdraw yeah so just keep it very light and airy and fresh i mean think the way i think about it is you're not taking these people home you're not dating these people you're just really there to have a fun time and it's it's almost refreshing to walk into a place and not care who people voted for or what they do for a living or what kind of car they drove.
Like none of that is important. And that's very refreshing. Right. So a lot of the conversations will start around, like you said, clothes or outfits or hair or shoes or, you know, you name it. And then it's like, well, how long have you been in the lifestyle?
Yeah, the life's the like what's your lifestyle journey kind of is a big thing it kind of well one it gives you some good information you find out are they soft swap are they new have they been doing this for a long do they play separate all of those questions can kind of be answered and if they don't answer it you can that's a great opportunity to ask those questions and then it's a lot of like oh have you ever been to hito or have you ever you know like kind of digging a little deeper into that and then you know then the next kind of step is oh what are you guys into like yeah which is really important what are you into and what are your boundaries are very important because like for you and I the times that we've had people cross our boundaries is when we have not communicated our boundaries to them yeah okay so what about touching right if i come up to a girl can i give her a hug and say oh hi you're beautiful you should always ask if you can hug which is different i've something i've had to learn personally because i think i'm like a cute girl and everybody wants to hug me but i've had to learn in the lifestyle that consent is key and you like you have to say may i hug you right um may i touch you um and and even looking at the husband or the wife while you're asking you know like you're getting kind of both of their consent right yeah yeah you know that travels through play but you know a lot of times like oh is it okay if i hug you or kiss you and then maybe even if she's like yes it's like you look at the husband say oh is it okay would it be okay with you if i kiss your wife you know and kind of yeah i mean even to play time i mean i try really really hard that if if i'm about to play with a husband i look at the wife and say is this okay is?
Is this, you know, even though he's giving me consent, I also want to make sure that she is giving consent as well. Right. So in a very common etiquette mistake is just because you're in a sexually charged environment, right?
You don't go up to somebody on the dance floor and grab their ass or spank their ass or lick their ass or, put your finger in their hand you know grab a tit some people i don't know if they're new or they don't understand the rules but they think because they're in that space that they're in a swingers club all those things are okay to do and i get it because i this is something that i again struggle with because especially like with close friends and stuff i forget that but i've, really made it a point to work on this and stop.
I think a lot of older swingers that have been in the lifestyle for a long time, that this is kind of what they did. But as younger, a different generation of swingers, we're really trying to change that. Like consent is key in every single aspect of the lifestyle. No, I agree. And then, you know, I have a note here that says don't take offense to rejection. Oh, it's hard though. Couples are going to approach you. They're going to try to talk to you. You know, you might ask a couple if they want to go back to a playroom or something like that.
And at some point in time, somebody is going to tell you no. Yeah.
And it's really that that can be difficult to deal with but also at the same time i would say especially in a swinger club or you know some kind of environment like that it's pretty common and normal to be rejected or it's okay to be there could be a thousand different reasons on why somebody's rejecting you i mean it may have nothing to do with you the wife could be it could be that time of the month for her or something like yeah but they just wanted to come out and have some sexy fun you know yeah there's so many and maybe she doesn't want to tell you that um there's so many reasons to reject someone or be rejected and it's hard on both sides of it um but you have to handle it with grace which sometimes is hard sometimes we i mean it's hard to be rejected.
It's not fun ever, especially not when you're a grown-up. But in a swingers club and everybody just wants to have naughty fun. I could not agree with that more. Okay. So we've kind of talked about how to talk to couples, how to reproach couples. All right. So we do all that and it goes well.
And now we find ourselves in a playroom with a couple right which is really i think most of our goal right if we're going to one of these events you know especially once we do it a few times at some point in time our goal is to end up in a play space with another couple what are some of the etiquette rules that apply to that type of environment well no means no always no does not mean maybe um how many i mean like i can think of we were at naughty new orleans and a gentleman sat or asked me if he could sit on the bed and i said no and he like asked a couple of times and i was like no you cannot sit on the bed he finally got it but you shouldn't have to say it more than once.
No means no, always. Okay.
I think another good etiquette practice is to, you know, when you get to a play space, whether that's with four of you or six of you or eight of you or 10 of you, is to really sit down and have that discussion about rules and boundaries with everybody prior to play and that's hard because it's like the hot and heavy time we just want to like jump in but you're really really good about that and you've gotten better about it as we've you know had this podcast and got deeper into lifestyle you'll be like hey everybody let's stop let's talk about our rules and boundaries.
And takes like 30 seconds you know and everybody can quickly say we're good with this we're not good with this and i think really we've had a couple of friends in the last year that were soft swap and so we knew that they were and we wanted to be respectful of that so right we want to make sure sure everybody, if we know our friends are a soft swap couple, we want to make sure if we bring them into an orgy type situation that everybody else in that room understands that that's a boundary for theirs. Yeah.
So it's kind of like forced us to get better at that because we want to be respectful of them. So I think that's really important. And like I said earlier, the times that we haven't done stuff like that is when someone's crossed something that it's our fault. It's not their fault. It's our fault because we did not stop and say, this is OK. This is not OK. This is what we want to do. This is not what we want to do. Yeah. And so I've heard this referenced as like the circle of consent or something like, you know, whatever rule you want to apply.
And I've heard other podcasters and swingers and lifestyle people talk about this, you know. So what this looks like is you get to a playroom with whoever, you know, you've invited to that playroom. You stop. You either, you know, kind of all sit on the edge of the bed or, you know, sit on the bed, jump on the bed, stand around on the circle, whatever it looks like.
And you go around the room and you say, okay, before we get started started let's talk about everybody's rules and boundaries and some people even like mix it up okay give me your rules and boundaries and then one fantasy that you've heard something you've never done i'm trying to get it in trying to get it in first 10 people maybe that's too much but yeah it's also kind of a fun idea like oh throw out one fantasy you have because that could get people's you know if i said oh i'd really like to have four women squirt on me at the same time you know like that could be like oh that's hot like let's try that yeah that's you know it is a good way to kind of throw ideas out there well and i've also heard of people doing that and saying who they're comfortable sleeping with and who they're not and i don't like that right yeah that's hard it's hard to publicly announce that in front of of everybody.
I think as a general rule for us, what's worked better is, you know, just throw out there before you do touch anybody. Like we've all, you know, we've all set our rules and boundaries, but that still means before you touch somebody, you ask for consent from that person. Correct. And then that gives them an individual chance to accept it. Yeah, because just because let's say there's six people in a room, that does not mean that I am willing to sleep with every single one of you before. Even though I said I'm a full swap person, right? Correct.
So before anyone touches me and I touch anyone, I'm going to ask for consent. Right. And it is okay to say no. And I've done it. I've said, I'm okay right now. Or, you know, I've gotten a no thank you. Or I'm saying, I just need a minute, you know, like I need to get a sip of water. And sometimes I really do need a water. And sometimes I'm just excusing myself for a minute because maybe I'm not into that at that moment. So I'll like stand, you know, and maybe catch my breath, take a drink of water and then put myself back to where I want to be.
And I think a lot of people are afraid of group play because of that. They feel like if you're in there, you have to be with everyone in there. And that is not the case. And if you're with a group that makes you feel that way, you need to find a new group. Very, very important. Yeah. And I think as we're talking about this, I'm like, man, I need to make sure we bring all this stuff up.
And when we get in those situations and settings more often, we're getting better like you said but i think you know one person just stepping up and kind of laying that out laying those ground rules out i think puts the whole room at ease yeah in those situations no it does okay the next thing is once you've discussed those boundaries and rules um once the play starts you have to respect those rules boundaries throughout that play session right i hate to say it but we've seen it happen where somebody will say you know i'm only soft swap or i'm only or you know like and somebody's trying required or whatever the thing may be and then as play starts somebody acts like they forgot the person said that and tries to do something that's against their rule or boundary.
Don't be that guy. Or girl. Or girl, right. If they said very clearly laid out the rules and boundaries and you don't follow, that's a good way to get not invited to another play session ever again. Not to mention you should really get kicked out of the place if you know, doing that. Yeah. I haven't seen that happen much. Like where somebody just blatantly. No, it's one or two times. But it does happen. Yeah. Um, you know, and that's, unfortunately it could be alcohol. It could be a lot of reasons. Yeah. Just horned up, ready to get it on. All right.
Another common etiquette thing when it comes to protection is? Change condoms with every partner. Yeah. I don't understand why people don't get that. Yeah. I guess I have seen it where somebody puts on a condom and then has sex with four people. I just think there's a little alcohol involved and then you're excited. And men also don't like really wearing condoms for the most part.
So having to take one off and put it back on can affect your erection so i do get it but like we were at a party not long ago and i swear we went through like the whole huge value pack of condoms because it's the non-family pack but listen guys it's so much easier to go buy another pack of condoms or change it out than it is to pay 18 years of child support or possibly infect someone or what or you just don't know it's not worth it change the damn condom right well if you don't change it it's almost like not wearing it because you're you're spreading all of the the things yeah i don't know if people just don't understand that but it's it's you're not just protecting people from you you're protecting you don't want to spread things from one person to another either um so yeah you definitely have to change condoms yeah that's that's a very good etiquette um rule and yeah like you said you can go through some condoms in some of these situations we've definitely um have supplied uh there's a need out there for that That service Okay what else Pay attention to body language This is such a an important one i think um you know in a swinger situation you do have to have a connection with the person you're engaging with yeah and pay attention to the way they're responding to the things you weren't doing.
Yeah. And I'm going to be honest as we've like done this journey together. And even before I've really found my voice, you know, I am comfortable saying no now, and I'm comfortable saying not right this minute or I'm okay. But it took me a little while to get there. There was a lot of times that I probably said yes, when deep down, I probably meant no. Or sometimes, I'm not going to say a lot, maybe a few times. But I've had to learn that.
So I think it's important for us to watch the other person and their body language, because if they're saying yes, but their body is saying no, or they look uncomfortable or feeling, you know, I just think we just need to recognize that well i haven't thought you know not even a consent thing but it could be something as simple as you know i've experienced it a lot if if i'm going too hard or too deep or you know that person can react to that you know i mean um and you know i think we've all seen that guy that just wants to go in there and jackhammer people yeah and the girl just looks super uncomfortable and it's like she's not enjoying that like you know like um or looking up at her husband while you're doing it and maybe he looks uncomfortable and maybe she doesn't know because she's in bliss yeah you know maybe that's the time to like hey go check on you know go check on your husband or you know or something like that so we just i think it's just important we're we're having so much fun you know in the moment sometimes it's hard to like pause and like look around and think about it but it is very important especially like partner to partner you know if you look at me and i make eye contact with you and i'm like you know immediately that something is wrong i can tell you with my eyes um that something is wrong so i just think like partners should definitely be aware of each other but we also need to be aware of our friends and what's going on i i think that's 100 right it kind of shows how this is like you know i've always said like swinging is like like it's like the master level of sex right because like you're saying is i'm you know i'm having sex with this girl and i have to pay attention to her and her body language and her needs and desires but then i also have to be aware of you yeah and what you're doing your needs and desires and body language and then i also have to watch her partner to see if he's having issues or problems and what his body language is and what his, you know, reactions are.
And then if there's more than, you know, and then if there's more people, then there's more people that are involved. And then you also have to enjoy yourself. And then I'm trying to also have a good time, which I always have. You also may have somebody on your face at the same time. Two hands. Well, you know, all the places. All right. I think with that, what we're going to do is we're going to take a little break and hear from the partners and sponsors of the Swing Nation podcast. Okay. And then when we get back, we're going to talk about some more etiquette stuff. Okay. We'll be right back.
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Make sure you join the Swing nation stc group and send us a message all right guys welcome back we're back we hope you enjoyed our commercial break with our wonderful sponsors yeah all right what I was gonna say let's get right back into it let's get back into it all right so next etiquette thing i want to talk about all right so we just talked about play sessions and how you deal with that oh we didn't we didn't finish that i have one more thing to say about when you're playing with each other okay and i forgot to say it throw it in let's go um what about finishing oh that's a big one when you're playing with with couples and you're gonna finish what what's the rules on that well first let's talk about if you don't finish okay because i think that's important a lot of guys in the lifestyle don't finish um it's actually more common for me for men to not finish than to finish i would agree with that i think it's more common for men not to or you know orgasm during swinger intercourse than it is for them too one there is ill-eyed eating medication you're drinking it's late you're nervous um and there's a lot going on so it's kind of hard to like concentrate it depends on the guy though i know some guys that that finish every time and then there's other guys that just don't um so it's okay if like for females it's a really okay if the male does not finish with you like because i can i can see how some people will get that hurt their ego yeah yeah and it's really okay like for you like you just very rarely finish so if a girl is really really trying for that she's probably going to struggle getting that yeah okay so now what was the second part uh so i was the thing i wanted to bring up is as a general etiquette rule before you do finish you let the person you're engaging with know that It's going to happen correct and i think this can apply to both males and females specifically for females if you are a squirter yeah if you you know i don't announce that though typically no it just goes it's just maybe i need to work i've heard you say like i'm gonna squirt or you know yeah i think i'm to squirt or you're going to make me squirt.
Like, those kind of words come out of your mouth. Okay. Pretty common. Oh, okay. But I still probably need to work on that based on what you're saying. Right. Well, no, what I'm saying is, you know, just like you probably wouldn't want somebody to come in your mouth without letting you know that's going to happen. You definitely would not want that. Oh, I would punch them straight in the balls. Just if you're listening to this and you play with me.
Lacey's a big fan of coming or face or anywhere in that general area yeah um but similar to that some guys might not like it for you to squirt in their mouth or face or correct um i personally love it and please do that to me if you're you know listening and you're somebody that we we engage with uh but some guys might not like that yeah um maybe in some guys might not like squirt other places yeah so just say um for men you obviously have a condom on we always do i mean i would assume most people in the lifestyle do have a condom on at least i hope so but for our play we do um there's been times where like the husband like come on her and by the time you like pull it out get the condom off it's kind of messes it up but i think that is hot right i think another reason and i kind of have this in the notes here another reason to announce that is people sometimes the partner wants to see it right like if if you're about to squirt maybe i want to be like oh let me watch this or if if the guy's about to come on your tits or, you know, like maybe I want to see that.
You know what I mean? So like letting people know there's something sexy is about to happen is not necessarily. So you're giving the person a fair warning, but you're also kind of telling other people in the room like, oh, this thing is about to happen. And you might want to watch it. Look this way. Yeah. Yeah. So I think that's hot. So like if you are finishing, I like for you to know. Right.
You definitely know right you definitely you like to know and i don't you know it used to be you didn't really like me finishing with other people i think now it's just you want to see or you want to um yeah i have mixed emotions that is a personal like so personally we do not have that boundary that you can't come with anyone um i i tend to like for you to wait for me i feel like it's kind of part of like the reconnection the reconnection okay so part of that is if i come when we swing we don't usually have sex after that because dan's like a i'm done yeah you're done especially if it's been like a night of sex like a long night of sex sometimes you know it can still happen but yeah um so i do really enjoy that reconnection um if you haven't come but there's also times that it's like 2 a.m and i'm just like just do it because i'm tired because i'm tired just go to bed after this i mean i don't have to do it yeah for you yeah but i do like to know and usually we can just like make eye contact and i'll like give him a little nod or something and but now like me on the other hand i can finish a lot of times so all the times all the time i don't know if there is a limit to that so far there hasn't been so that would be a very hard situation for me to like kind of look at you each time all right so i think that's finishing orgasm etiquette in a lifestyle I think we covered that yeah all right i'm glad we didn't miss that all right so now what's the etiquette for the day after like you send them flowers and thank you and killing chocolates and i can't wait to see you again well you don't need to be clingy but i also think you you know it's kind of like this weird thing when you go on a first date with someone right you don't want to text them like immediately after but you don't want to wait like three days so like when do you when's that sweet spot and i mean it really just depends on the couple like i would like to hear from the couple the next day like hey we had a really good time with y'all last night i hope to do it again but like and that's and that's enough for me right but i know all couples are different but i think you know i think following up and hearing from you is important but i don't think being you just don't need to be too much there's that final i think right that the proper etiquette is what you said send a text or a message or you know if you're if you're only exchanging over sls or sdc maybe send a message if you're texting or in some kind of group messenger in that group chat send a message and say hey guys just wanted to say we had a great time last night i really enjoyed it you know maybe it was it was so hot when this happened um hope we can do it again sometime let us know if you're gonna be back in the area or you know yeah maybe you know let us know when your next free weekend without kids is whatever the case may be um and you know we hope to do it again that that's the normal that's a good you know makes them feel good you let them know that you enjoyed yourself yeah because if i didn't hear from you at all i would think maybe we didn't do a good job.
Yeah. Right. But you also don't want to be the – you don't need to now text us every five minutes just because we had sex with each other. Correct. Right? Like we're not automatically – I mean if we are BFFs, that's great. But I don't think that automatically makes us where we need to text 20, 50 times a day and check on what we ate for dinner and what we – Yeah, because we're swingers. We're not polyamorous. Not that there's anything wrong with being poly. We fully support – There might be some polyamorous people that don't want that either. But yeah.
But yeah, but we are very much in this for like the physical and the friendship but we just don't we're not trying to like right be a part of your life every day yeah and we do have a few couples that we talk to quite often and that's and that's great but yeah not everybody okay that's about it right anything else on following up with with couples no when should they leave the couple's house after they get finished that's a good that's a good thing we didn't talk you might want to check in right so like if you're like you know the night before if they're getting up and they have to go you need to get up and go you don't want to stay there all day yeah and some people are like what happens when you finish you just like you leave but i mean like if you're staying the night then yeah you just go to your room and stay the night but like if you're in a different hotel room within the same hotel you know like you don't rush out as soon as you're finished but you don't you don't hang around for a few hours either you know i mean you just kind of like hang out chat talk for a little bit give it an hour you know 30 minutes an hour and then say okay we're tired we're gonna head to bed that's perfect yeah right you don't want to stay like if you finish fucking you don't need to stay there for four hours and chit chat um unless like you're staying in the room that night because you're splitting a hotel room or something but other than that you know give it 30 minutes give it maybe an hour uh you know we've cuddled with a few couples after kind of hung there and just kind of drank water and kind of you know I'll see you next time.
night because you're split in a hotel room or something but other than that you know give it 30 minutes give it maybe an hour uh you know we've cuddled with a few couples after kind of hung there and just kind of drank water and kind of you know just be again listen to body language if they're like oh i'm so tired okay that's your cue to leave so just you know just be respectful yeah okay so what else do we need to talk about etiquette on all right so we've talked about all that let's talk about some other general swinger lifestyle etiquette stuff all right um say you're attending a party this is a free party kind of maybe like a house party or something like that um so if we get invited to a house party what's the etiquette do i do we bring something it depends so like we've been to some that they'll put out their venmo so you can kind of cover costs and you know we always try to give because I'll see you next time.
Do we bring something? It depends. So, like, we've been to some that they'll put out their Venmo so you can kind of cover costs. And, you know, we always try to give because that's super nice of them to open their home. You want to bring your own alcohol. You don't want to freeload off of their stuff. We usually bring a gift of some sort, whether it be alcohol, whatever, you know, something you can order a Miss Swinger shirt from Amazon or something, just something simple. It doesn't need to be anything, you know, a bottle of wine, bottle of vodka, something like that. Right. Yeah.
So I think if you're going to a free party or an event, there's a host couple. It's almost like going to dinner at somebody's house.
You want to bring, yeah, like a bottle of wine or maybe some chocolate or i don't know a snack tray or you know something to kind of to give to them uh like you said some part some couples who host parties often do put out their venmo or cash app or something like that so that you can contribute because there there is you know an absorbent amount of cost that they you know a lot of times they're buying balloons and decorations yeah you just want to be respectful of them and their time and their money. You know, bring a snack, bring us some alcohol. Just, you know, just chip in somewhere.
Now, I will say if this, you know, if this host couple is providing the venue, really respecting that venue is another huge thing. Because it's probably their house, you know, treated the way that you would like to be treated we went to a house party not long ago we didn't talk about this in the podcast but somebody had used the room prior to us and we went in there and there was used condoms right yeah if you're playing in somebody's house and that's the room they sleep in or you know maybe a guest room or something like that don't't leave condoms everywhere. Don't leave trash.
Generally at the end of the night, help them clean up the food and alcohol. Be respectful. Be a decent human being. That's a good etiquette. I wish there was more of that. I think there are people that don't get that for whatever reason. That's how you don't get invited back. Exactly. What about paid parties?
If we're going to a club or a hotel takeover or something like that is there etiquette to those kind of events i mean yeah i think so i mean you need to be respectful of the employees that they have there first of all you know if a security guard tells you to not do something just don't do it um you're just you know take care of the the venue itself pick up after yourself same thing i mean it's all the same yeah i think another thing for i don't think it matters if it's a paid event or a free event don't cancel last minute or not show up um because oftentimes there's a wait list to go to these things especially you know like maybe they can only invite 20 couples right and you got invited and then if you don't show and you don't tell them or you wait till like an hour before to tell them that you can't make it there's likely another couple that could have went in in that spot uh and you you essentially wasted it because you were you know you waited till the last minute to tell them yeah now obviously if there's emergency or something like that those stuff happens but don't don't be that no-show couple yeah uh yes respecting staff right so if you go to a hotel takeover parties they're gonna you know a lot of these or even a club a lot of them have like bartenders the bartenders are working for tips and they're not even serving alcohol they're just serving mixers and stuff like that yeah don't harass them tip them well treat them good like you said there's security guards probably standing out front or you know making sure people aren't smoking or aren't making sure people aren't walking outside naked and stuff like that like be respectful of those security guards follow the rules what they're you know if they're telling you you can't bring alcohol into this area because that area has a liquor license like don't be trying to sneak stuff past them like just be kind and courteous um venues are another huge thing for the you know we we you know now we attend and throw events and stuff like that um it's hard to get a venue for a swingers event because swingers well they can make a mess they can you know they have a bad name and it's the stigma of people don't want to have sex parties at their but some people leave condoms around right and drinks and break bottles and tear up stuff so let's just not be part of the problem.
You know, let's change the stigma. Right. And as somebody that throws events, that we host events, it is, you know, you put a lot of energy and work into getting these venues and spaces and working with club owners and working with resorts and having a rapport with them.
And you need your members to uphold that that and if they don't handle themselves well you can quickly you can lose the space and not be the host parties there i will say you know another thing there's not i think people think when you're organizing events you're making tons of money off that it's it's not that case right mostly people throw events because they want their lifestyle people right they want to be able to have a community come together and engage with each other and they want to provide a safe space to do that and are they going to be are they making some money i hope they are right but there's very slim margins and uh to make profitable events happen and so you know anything that you can do to help that and help facilitate that um please do it and be respectful of all those places i agree and if you if you have to buy you know pay to clean glass out of a hot tub or you know who knows all these things that could happen um you know it could it could be it could go bad real quick nobody wants that all right let's talk about some other things uh what about all right if we're attending an event and we're watching a couple do stuff which a lot of people do right a lot of people just is that okay can you watch people oh yeah you can totally watch people that is like a whole thing where people just go to swinger parties just so they could watch and get all turned on and then go home and and fuck each other yeah so first of all you want to keep like a respectable distance you don't want to be on you know you don't want to sit super close to someone where you're basically touching them especially if you're just watching and you're not wanting to participate you know stand in the doorway sit on a couch you know kind of close but not on top of them definitely just maintain your distance a little all right What is is roughly what's a respectable distance you think i mean like probably covid six foot i mean right i mean if it's a tight club and there's a lot of people maybe that's not possible so obviously you have to go with what you got but i just don't feel like there's any need to like crowd anybody if they're trying to have fun you – they don't want you on top of them.
You essentially want to stay out of arm's reach of them, right? If you're within arm's reach of a couple, you're in their play space. Like, you're in their scene. You're part of their thing. And unless they invited you to be in it or asked you to join or you asked them to join, that's too close, right?
You should be at least an arm's distance away, like you said, maybe maybe six feet away depending on the play space but we've had that happen several times where we're playing on a bed or playing like you know in the chair a trapeze and somebody will come up and like stand like you're in the chair and they're standing like almost touching you like legs up against you and like that's just creepy and weird and uncomfortable and it's we love being watched like we enjoy being like generally enjoy being watched.
But if you're coming up to where like if you get hard, your dick's in my mouth, you know what I mean? That's too close. You know what I mean? Like you're way too close. And that happens sometimes, right? It does, yeah. Okay, if there's a bed, generally speaking, you don't get on that bed unless you've been invited. Correct, yes.
So if you're coming up and sitting next to a couple while they're engaging and you weren't invited to be on that bed you're you're violating their their space yeah and i've even had like women will reach out and like touch me like they're not being like they're not touching my privates or anything like that they should she may just like stroke my back like she doesn't want to in she doesn't want to join but she's still like it's like i know they're there and i don't think that's appropriate if a couple is you know having sex you don't walk up to one and start rubbing on them unless you've asked to do that or you have asked to join yeah yeah 100 100%.
Another thing I'll say is is don't be distracting yeah um it's often we're like a couple it's even happened to us we're in a playroom people will come in i think you're coming into watch but then they're in there standing and talking and laughing and talking about the weather or talking about the football game that was on earlier that day like we're trying to do a thing here like we're trying to have fun we're trying to be sexy yeah you don't come in talking loud about you know whatever yeah sports you know i mean like that's very just that's distracting to us yeah don't do that right if you want to talk about sports go out into the club area and talk about sports not in the playroom while we're trying to do the thing right i agree another Another thing that, if you're a watcher, don't try to direct, don't tell them what to do.
Yeah. in the playroom while we're trying to do the thing right i agree another thing that if you're a watcher don't try to direct don't tell them what to do yeah like don't say like spanker yeah fucker harder oh get on top or like you're not that this is not a live action you know uh porn yeah like uh we're doing what we want to do you're welcome to watch but you're not telling us so basically you just need to stay back and stay quiet and just enjoy the show. 100%. Yeah. That's the proper etiquette is stay back, stay quiet, enjoy the show. Yeah. And if you want to ask to do something, ask.
Yeah. But that's it. Yeah. And that's usually somebody will say, may I join? May I sit here?
And that's when you have to say no thank you or yes or um and you know and you can even have them get on the bed and not wanting to play with them you can say you're welcome to be on the bed but we're just playing by ourselves or something like that you know you just have to be um you have to be direct and honest with them yeah i think you know we're talking general etiquette stuff but there are times where we've been in play space where bed space is very limited yeah so couples cramming into a space and maybe being within that bubble of each other kind of because there's you have to be in order to find places but a space to play yourself that kind of stuff that happens but still ask say hey you know we're not trying to jump in your thing here, but there's not much space.
Do you mind if we play right here? Correct. Most couples say, yeah, absolutely. They'll understand. Yeah. Okay. What about the etiquette for declining people if they approach you? Is there a proper way to decline?
Yeah, I think you need to be respectful, first of all all i think it's good policy to treat people how you would like to be treated you know i think just being kind is is the most important part of it right yeah and i think it's the best you know if somebody comes and says hey would you guys like to go back to a playroom with us or hey can we join you um i don't think you need to like come up with an excuse no i don't think you need to lie i think it's easy to want to come up with an excuse because we don't want to hurt each other you know so it's easy to be like no she's not feeling well or and we've let's be honest we've all done it but it's you can say no we're okay right now and you don't have to give an explanation like you don't say hey no thanks you know we're not not right now or, you know, like, we're okay right now.
And you don't have to give an explanation. Like you don't. You say, hey, no, thanks. You know, we're not, not right now. Or, you know, like we're not interested. Thank you. You know, oh, you guys are beautiful. You know, you guys are a real sweet couple, but we're not interested right now. Thank you. You know, something like that. That's fine. The problem with if, you know, like you said, a lot of us want to give an excuse or give a reason.
The problem with that is if you say, oh thank you you know i'm not feeling well tonight or we're not playing tonight or oh she's you know it's that time of month for her tonight and then 10 minutes later you're in a playroom with a different couple like you just made them feel like like it's obvious you're lying and well and some people are like we're not compatible you remind me of my brother um i've even heard of people being just downright mean right to each other and that's just not necessary like imagine if that was you that someone had said you know i'm just not super attracted to you that's i mean even though that's not necessarily me but that's still it just it kind of stings i could ruin your night right and what if that was that couple's first time ever there and they were finally there and they were finally ready to do it and then that's what someone told them you could fuck up their whole swinger journey by just one little sentence yeah so just a no thank you i think yeah you know and even maybe a no thank you with a compliment like oh you guys are really sweet but uh you know no no thank you yeah um or you know you're really beautiful but, no, thank you or not right now or something.
And that's hard. Yeah. I know that's hard. It's hard for me. I just want everyone to like me and I don't want to hurt anybody's feelings. So that's, that's something hard.
If you, if you've been with the same person for a long time and you're not real comfortable, like letting people down like that, that can be hard, but I will say it does get a little easier the more times you do it right but if you said something like oh you know my wife is feeling sick tonight we're not playing tonight and then 10 minutes later you're in a playroom with somebody else they're gonna be like oh yeah you just because i'm fat it's because i'm ugly it's because i wore this god-awful dress you know i mean you're gonna come up with all the excuses right so you're better off being direct and that that tends to work the best yeah uh okay what about we see this couple at the club right and we have a great time with them um and then just so happens the next day we're at the baseball field or at the grocery store and we see that couple yeah we run up to them we give them a hug we what do we what do we do no we don't do that we don't do that but we just saw them at the club we just do we just sleep with them then of course yeah we just fuck them no we don't do that um we don't we be you don't have to be weird like you don't have to like run the opposite direction but you can be like hey how are y'all good to see.
You know, in that and just leave it at that. I think the less awkward you make it, the better. Right. What about if they're with, we see them and they have their kids there or they're with another couple or maybe it appears they're with family or what do you do that? I just, I still do the same for me personally.
I just, I think that if you avoid it all together you make it a like super weird i'm just like hey if i see them like on the other side i'm just like hey how are y'all right you know and just leave it at that like don't make it a big thing but don't make it weird either right yeah you definitely want to be careful not to out people um and there's also that you know like you don't you can put them in a situation where they're having to come up with a quick lie or you know i mean so yeah the quick a little head nod a little hey guys a little oh hey it doesn't have to be a big thing right yeah but don't try it don't run up give them a hug don't don't say oh we had so much fun with the club with you guys like you know oh my god no don't do any of that yeah don't do any of that right it's always you know if you see somebody like that in public you know maybe later text them and say hey we saw you at the yeah this guy see you guys you know yeah uh but you don't necessarily have to make a big scene no we are all professionals and respectful of each other let's just behave that way you know and the good thing about swingers is they're very discreet i mean i know that like you're like okay lacy you're on a podcast talking about it but really and truly we always have been before the pilot now everybody knows we're swingers we don't we don't out anybody that isn't already outed um we're very protective of our friends that choose and remain choose to remain um private so i just think that's really important i would agree that's good especially if like people know you're a swinger but people don't know that they're a swinger you probably need to be extra um careful right i didn't even think of that that's kind of a that's like maybe we should not waver maybe maybe we should just walk by awkward maybe i don't know yeah less is more let's just say that Less is more.
Let's just say that. Less is more. Okay. Okay. We talked about all kinds of etiquette things here today on the podcast. Is there anything, anything you can think of that maybe we missed some etiquette stuff? Maybe it's on your list in front of you, like one or two more things. Hygiene. Hygiene. We get asked about that a lot. People are like, what happens if you start going down on someone and they are smelly or blah?
So, first of all i am um dancing and hugging and and flirting so somebody smells bad i'm probably gonna smell it before we get to that situation but um let's just be respectful of each other so first of all let's shower let's let's bring some deodorant in our if we're at a club our club bag because a feminine wipe cleanup yeah it has some feminine wipes or body wipes we get sweaty we're dancing you know we get nervous so let's let's clean up ourselves let's make sure that we're handling that but if you do get in a situation where somebody maybe isn't as fresh as you like, just be respectful.
Be kind. Move past it without making a scene. Yes, you can choose to not do the thing that you were thinking of doing because of that. I just think there's ways to be kind and nice to each other without being like, damn, you smell. Right. I agree. Don't say that. Don't say, damn, you smell. Yeah. There's ways. But first of all, let's just avoid all of that. Let's be clean. Let's take deodorant. Let's do all the things. That's the more proper etiquette is take care of ourselves. Let's take care of ourselves. The thing. Yeah. Okay.
The only other thing I can think think of is drinking yeah or any kind of you know some states now marijuana is legal uh you know what's the proper etiquette for alcohol just don't get sloppy substances i do understand that like a drink or two takes the edge off and that's fine but there's a very fine line between a drink or two dates edge off to your shit face because you walk the line of consent um it's just not fun for anybody if you're a sloppy mess so um let's just be careful with our alcohol yeah let's be respectful that's the proper etiquette uh you know and truthfully over the years we've declined playing with couples because of their level of alcohol intake oh yeah i mean if they're slurring their words and they're you know it's just not a good look well unfortunately it's been well not unfortunately but what's happened is a lot of times the female gets drunk and then the husband's more sober than the female is and he's like oh yeah we're good let's go play yeah and he's like she's consenting but it's like i yes she's consenting but she's i don.
Yeah, she's clearly intoxicated. You guys have a good night. We'll see you tomorrow or see you next time. Yeah, people that we really wanted to swing with. Yeah, people that we generally wanted to play with. Yeah, it's happened a few times now, which is another, that's the right thing to do. It is the right thing to do. If you see somebody in a situation like that declining to engage until they can properly consent to things is the right thing. So like just hearing everything, like the things I'm hearing is be respectful, be kind, be courteous of each other.
If you can like do all of those things, you pretty much can nail everything that we've mentioned. That's correct. Yeah. All right. That's all I have for consent or for etiquette. Yeah, same. All right. Anything else you want to – what do we got coming up in the pipe? So we will be at HEDO May 13th through the 20th. We'll be at HEDO. We'll be at Splash Atlanta. This is not a Swinger Society event, but one that we enjoy going to and a large group of people are going.
It is the first week of june in atlanta you can book through swingerstuddy.net because we're affiliate with them so that is there then naughty in new orleans first week of july which is just a super fun time new orleans is fine you add 2 000 swingers it's a blast it's really like a swinger convention so um i highly suggest it for people wanting to go right and we should be hosting a few parties at nadi um we might even host some parties at spot or some of the pool party stuff at splash yeah still wouldn't hear back on that but uh you're gonna see us you're gonna see dj life of spice is coming to all these things he's gonna be djing yeah um it's gonna be awesome it's a busy next couple of months um You can vote for us for the ASN Awards.
We'll have that linked in the show notes. Yeah. Between us, Swinger Society, Alt Life Magazine, and DJ Life of Spice, I think we have like 10 nominations. It's more than that. 11? 10, 11? Something like that? Something like that, yeah. Out of like only like 15 categories. Yeah.
The Discord, if you're not on our Discord on our discord please join it it's amazing it's run by a group of amazing individuals but between the discord i mean we have hump day quickies on there we have us we have bang bang pineapple gang yeah um life of spice kylie sexy swinger chick i mean there's a lot of our group on those. But we would love your vote. We'll link it below in the show notes. But Best Content Creator, Best Podcast, Best Magazine for Alt-Life Magazine. New Business, Supporting Business. All the things. Yeah. All right. Yes, Discord.
We just hit 25,000 people in the Discord, which is the largest single lifestyle chat room server, whatever you want to call it, that I think exists out there in the world. And it's completely free. So if you're not part of that, I don't know what you're waiting for. Yeah. Discord can be a little challenging, and I think it intimidates people. But we have some awesome individuals who put together a YouTube video just for our Discord. It's on Swinger Society's YouTube page. So go check that out. Shout out to Joe. Thank you for helping make that for our group. But it'll walk you through.
It'll give you some behind the scenes. I will say it took me a while to get on the Discord train.
But just keep at it you'll figure it out right if you're a modern day swinger um discord's where you want to be i think yeah and what's really cool is we have these chant like these rooms so whatever event is coming up there is a room for that so like right now we have a heat room and everybody's chit-chatting and then i've noticed that the splash room is really starting to amp up people are starting to chat even secrets um our takeover in september people are already in there chatting making plans so if you really want to connect with the people that are going to the events that's a really like even if you're not sure about the rest of discord if you start there i think that's an easy place to learn the rest yeah another thing worth noting and then i'll let discord go because we uh but uh there's even events that were not not swinger society events correct are popping up um users have an ability um to to you know put events post events that they're attending um and so like you know the different clubs um colettes you know there's almost every almost every weekend now there's a collect group going there was a red room for tonight groups going all the time so you know if you want to get a group together to go to an event or and talk and get to know people and chat and send pictures and all that stuff uh discord is a great place for that and it's completely free so definitely go to our go to our bio go to our links and go check out discord yeah all right anything else you want to share with the swing with the Swing Nation listeners out there?
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