Send us Fan MailThe Swing Nation PodcastLifestyle Education: Advice for the Single Male | Episode 68In this swinger podcast episode, Dan and Lacy break down their advice for single males looking to be a part of the lifestyle. From how to respectfully approach couples and navigating play sessions to making the perfect online profile, we have suggestions for you. If you are a single male in the swinger lifestyle, this is the episode you don t want to miss! Hear all about these things and more in this episode of The Swing Nation Podcast. _______________- The Swing Nation -Main WebsiteQuick Navigation Website: -- (Find all our social media links more!)Follow us on Facebook!The Podcast Website_______________ - Swinger Society -Our Website to meet, connect eventsSwinger Society DiscordOur Facebook Group_______________ - Swinger Websites -SDCUsername: TheSwingNation** Use code 36313 for 14 days free! **SLSUsername: NorthernGuynSouthernGirl_______________ - Merch More -The Swing Nation MerchThe Swinger Pride FlagsSwinger Society Merch_______________ - Lacy’s Fun Links -VIP OnlyFansPREMIUM OnlyFans_______________ -- THANK YOU TO OUR SPONSORS --Shameless Care: ED Medication and at home STD testingUse Code TSN at checkout for $30 off your order!Promescent® Make Love Longer, It’s Time for Great SexUse Code SwingNation for 5% off!Pinaq Liqueur; The Official Drink of The Swing NationUse Code TSN at checkout for 15% off!Non-monogamy Couples Course and Single Guy Mastery CourseUse Code ATLANTA for 50% off!Support the show- Thank you for the support! -
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Come with us and share our pineapple journey as we travel the globe, interview the experts, learn and grow together. Join the nation. Lacey, we get approached by couples all the time and they want to know, like, where can they learn the one-on-ones of non-monogamy? Yeah, I totally get it. You want to get in the lifestyle, but you just don't know where to start. We recommend Sex by Sue's class on non-monogamy.
i totally get it you want to get in the lifestyle but you just don't know where to start we recommend sex by sue's class on non-monogamy she really helps couples learn how to communicate and do the lifestyle the correct way yeah i think this lifestyle you know it's crucial not to to step on the landmines that a lot of us do yeah and you kind of learn the hard way you know so having a class can take online, you know, in the privacy of your own home and kind of learn the ins and outs, learn, you know, how to approach the lifestyle, how to communicate with your partner about it.
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That that's right if you want to party with us and the other faces and names that you know from social media and tiktok head on over to swingersociety.net can't wait to see you there hey there pineapple people and welcome to the swing nation podcast we are your hosts northern guy and southern girl in today's episode we're going to talk to you a little bit about being a single male yes we get in the lifestyle we get so many questions about this and And to be fair, I am not a single male. You're not a single male? No, I'm not. But you have lots of experience being a single male? No. Okay.
You have lots of experience. And we know we have lots of friends that hang out, entertain single males. We just know. I think that's... We do. We just know things. Trust us. I don't know.
hang out entertain single males um we just we just know um i think that's we just know things trust us no i mean we're voices on the internet no i mean like we're engulfed enough in the lifestyle to i think be able to um come to the people with the good tips and also you were a very successful single male in the lifestyle so a lot of these tips and tricks and stuff came directly from you um so i think i think we have enough knowledge to speak on this yes so full disclosure i was a single male me and lacy met in the lifestyle and if you haven't heard that go back and listen to episode one um and i was a single male at that time yeah and i did play with couples and so i do have some experience of course that was five six years ago seven years ago six five four years ago at this point in time um so it's been a while but uh yes we do encounter single males i was successful i think some of these tips are tried and true um so yes we're going to talk about being about being a single male in the lifestyle.
We come across a lot of them, and they seem like they could use some tips sometimes. Well, and let's talk a little bit before we really jump into it. Single males kind of have a bad rap. Yes. And why is that? I think that's important. I think single think single males are very quick to say well i'm a single male so nobody wants me you know i think they kind of like have a bad attitude right yeah but you as a single male i did not i never felt that way from you i never you know i feel like the guys who are not successful in the lifestyle are the ones that are like, I don't have any success.
Nobody wants a single male. Everybody wants a unicorn. I think those are the guys that said the ones that are not successful, but the ones that are having good luck and finding great couples, um, are, they don't do, they don't say that. Yeah. So I think, yeah, there's some clarification to make here, right?
One, there's a lot of single guys in the lifestyle that are very very successful think yeah there's some clarification to make here right one there's a lot of single guys in the lifestyle that are very very successful yeah and there's also space there's a need for single guys in the lifestyle so many of our friends actually play with single males more than they do couples right i would you know i don't have any statistics to back this, but just from our experience, I would say there are more active single males engaging with couples and or hot wives in the lifestyle, probably, you know, a lot more than there are single females engaging with couples.
yeah so there there's a lot more um there's space in the lifestyle for males that are looking to do this um but you know there's some rules that there's a lot more, there's space in the lifestyle for males that are looking to do this. But, you know, there's some rules that they, there's just some, there's some tips and tricks and some rules that they need to learn. A lot of this is pretty basic knowledge. And I think these guys are thinking with their dick and not with their brain. I think they get excited. They would want to get laid. And I think they forget some of that.
So if you're a single a single guy hopefully this will kind of help you i know a lot of it is pretty basic knowledge but maybe sometimes we have to be pointed in the right direction yeah and then another thing that i will add into this conversation is yes there's lots of couples looking for single males um we know lots of couples that play with single males we know probably more people that play with single males than we know that play with single females. Um, so there definitely is a space out there, but, but here's the flip side to that coin, right?
Um, because we now run a lifestyle website and then also our affiliates of a few other websites, we get to see the stats of people signing up to try to become, you know, part of this lifestyle. Right. And if we go to SDC and we look at the numbers, it's almost a one-to-one of single males that join and couples that join, right? It's a little, usually a little less. So say 60 couples join, like 45, 50 males join. How many single females would you say? Per month. And this is pretty consistent, you know, looking at our like affiliate sales. Maybe five.
That same month, right, it would be like like five maybe ten on a good month females right yeah so single males get frustrated because they're like why does everyone want unicorns and not single females well think about it there is five just out of our just out of our little bubble right for every five unicorns you have sign up you have 45 50 single males right so that's why it's just so much harder to find right but there's also 45 to 50 couples so what i will i would have thought you know if i hadn't been able to see these statistics i would have thought 50 couples would join in a hundred single males would join right that in my mind that would make sense but when you know we can look at the numbers from the last year and a half now because we have these affiliate links and it's really there's less males joining than there are couples joining um not a lot less but a little bit less and then there's significantly less single females joining and that's it's it's funny that's interesting not only you know for our personal website it's like that and that you know for story society.net and then also looking at affiliates for sdc and sls is it's similar so this seems to be a consistent kind of across board.
These are the ratios of people that are quote unquote joining the lifestyle by joining these websites. So I think that's a, probably a pretty good representation of what's out there in the lifestyle. So I think, I think that's worth noting. So, you know, there are a lot more single males than there are single females. And that's why this space I think is more competitive for them than it is for single females. Okay, so let's just jump right in it. So there is definitely a difference between just a single guy and a single guy in the lifestyle, correct? Hands down.
So as someone who was a single guy in the lifestyle, can you kind of elaborate on that a little bit? Yeah.
So I think some of the phenomenon that you're seeing of you know all of you know this this higher rate of single guys joining the lifestyle you know joining these apps than single females is i don't think all of them are what you would consider genuine lifestyle males right who's a it's not a legitimate single guy who's looking to become a swinger and go to parties and engage with couples i think uh you know i don't know what the ratio is i would probably throw it out there is like half of these guys are just trying to get laid as fast as they can and i respect that you know i think like if you just want to get laid i get that and you know what you might be successful you might find a couple of couples that couples that you link up with and it works.
But I think that a true lifestyle single guy is someone who is very respectful of the lifestyle. Respectful of the couple. They really follow the tips that we're going to talk about tonight.
They really take the time in educating themselves on the lifestyle and what's acceptable of single males and what's not i think they're the guys who put in the work yeah and this is you know probably another misnomer if you were a single guy and you're joining a lifestyle a swinger dating app or a lifestyle you know website to try to get laid quick that's not you have the wrong perception you are better off on tinder plenty of fish you know bumble this is more of a long game fuck a chick yeah get on one of these other websites these swinger websites are you know they're not it's not the get laid quick um you know that's not what they're about yeah is it possible yeah probably it is babe you got leg quick with me yeah i did yeah it can absolutely happen you know things happen you can get on tinder swipe the first girl and you may her you might get that lucky but nine times out of ten you're not and that's kind of the same um and especially for males you and i have talked about this so many times over our relationship i could find somebody to come over and me within 30 minutes for a male to find a female or a couple or whatever to it's it it takes time and energy yeah it takes work and a lot of single guys that don't care anything about the life so they don't they're not willing and able to put in that work right and i would i would argue hands down if you were a single male looking for a quick hookup you are gonna be have better luck with that on tinder or bumble or any of those other hookup kind of dating sites than you are on a lifestyle app and i find that probably the people that come into our tiktok lives are like the ones that mouth off about you know single males get such a bad rep.
Those are probably the majority of the people that are saying that are probably the ones that are, you know, just a quick trying to hook up with someone. Yeah. They've been unsuccessful.
I mean, there's, there could be a variety of reasons, but yeah, I think there are guys that join these apps, you know, they, they message a bunch of couples, nobody replies to them and then they just are assumed that like the space isn't for them yeah um because they haven't put in the time and effort yeah now there's a variety of you know there's probably males that have been on lifestyle apps for years and not successful and tried and not successful but that's you know and we'll get into some of that i'll be brutally honest with you know you guys what i think some of those reasons are well i think sometimes people need you to be brutally honest yeah and i think because you were a single male that is now married to a swinger like a single female and in the lifestyle i think you give a very unique perspective like you know that's one thing that we can offer you know i know we're not your traditional couple who are married for 20 years and then decided to be in the lifestyle.
So I think, you know, this is an avenue that we can be really beneficial for. Okay. Let's get in there. I think before we start, we need to clarify some terms for people. Yes. And I'm going to say that I've seen some people like on TikToks and different ads. And like a lot of these terms are loose.
You know, like if you Google, you might google you might find right yeah to be clearly honest most of these terms i didn't even know they existed until we got in this position of yeah lifestyle influencer educator some of these terms i'd never even heard of yeah and some of them cross over um and we'll kind of talk about it as we go through so just keep that in mind you know and and everyone's knowledge of these terms may not be exactly so when someone refers to something you might even have to ask them what they mean by it because they not may not even realize that they're not using it correctly so what okay so the first term is a blue fish yeah can i just say oh before one more thing about all that yeah i don't like the shaming people for not knowing terms i don't either this seems to be a thing on tiktok it seems to be on staying on social media when it's like no the proper term for that is this and and like you said a lot of these terms people have different opinions like yeah i mean it's not there's no like you know i'm sure there's an webster's dictionary i'm sure there is some there's not okay i mean there's sites and stuff you can go to where like you'd give them more credence but there's no like webster's dictionary of swingers terms where like this is the bible this is the truth yeah yeah so i think we should just give each other a little grace petty arguing i don't yeah and if you meet a couple that are looking for something specific maybe say okay explain to me what you feel like that is i think that's a better way to handle it so um let's start with we'll start with the the most common one a bull a bull right and in my opinion if someone was to come up to me and say what is a bull of say a single guy in the lifestyle right according to some people that is not correct right it it technically is not correct but a bull most people think a single guy in the lifestyle is just a bull.
And that's their opinion. That's what they understand that to be. Yeah. And I don't think they're necessarily wrong. Agreed. But there is some more connotation that comes with that term than maybe some people realize. Yeah. So the definition that I found when I was Googling, a bull is a sexually dominant male, ideally well hung, who has sex with a married woman, often while the husband is watching or also participating. So let's talk about that. Because I've always considered you a bull prior to us meeting, but that definition very much fits you. Well, thank you. Well, you are dominant.
You are well hung, which I enjoy.
So I think this, and you did fuck women sometimes with their husbands there and sometimes not so it really did i mean it nailed it i mean to be honest with you yeah without being yeah i'm not again you know he's embarrassed yeah it's not i just don't like coming across as like arrogant or cocky so that but i appreciate what you're saying and i think there is some truth to that um but what i would say is yes that the the term bull to me and kind of the way it's used in the lifestyle does mean that this is some alpha type dominant male who you know maybe he doesn't have to have a giant cock but the idea is he's going to come in here and he's you know come into the into the scenario and just give the female a good experience.
Right. You know, maybe he's just has more sexual experience and he knows what buttons to push, whatever the case may be. The idea of bringing in a bull is, you know, kind of bringing in this alpha male. Right. So, you know, a bull is literally you bring in a bull to like to breed to breed the herd. right like this is this you know dna superior you know male that you're bringing in to to spread you know you bring in a bull to breed the herd, right? Like this is this DNA superior male that you're bringing in to spread good DNA. Why am I getting turned on? I don't know.
But the general idea, he's a stud, he's a bull, this is an alpha, a little bit above the average type male that you're bringing in to give the female a good experience and that that is the term bull you know do you have to have a giant cock no you know but you know do you have to have six-pack abs no but the idea is you're coming in to give the wife whether it's a hot wife right an experience yeah i mean that's that's really what that bull um role is about yeah no i totally agree um okay so bluefish is a term that we had never neither one of us had ever heard of until we got on tiktok and people were like what about a bluefish and i think we are in the southeast u.s i think that's more of like a west coast that tour that type you know midwest i think that's more of a term that they use there but technically a blue fish is just a single guy in the lifestyle so to me i don't like that term because okay so what does that mean you're not dominant you don't have a big dick i mean that's like a little bit not i don't know if degrading is the right word but like i don't know i don't like i don't like that there is a difference between a blue fish and a bull.
I don't know. I guess that's me trying to be sensitive to a guy. No, I feel different about it. I think it is important to say that this is just a guy, right? This is just a normal guy who you want to bring in and play with. Yes, but who determines what you are? Because I'm going to be honest. A lot of guys think they have a giant dick and they're dominant, and they may not be.
be honest every guy thinks they're a bull every dude thinks they're a bull yeah so i mean like i guess i guess that's my problem more so than there is two different but like who gets to choose what you are you know i agree with what you're saying but if you truly think about it out of the guys that we know in the lifestyle there are some guys that would probably have enough self self-awareness where they would say i'm not a bull i'm more of a bluefish yeah um most people probably don't even know that term but but you know if we're gonna propagate the right terminology essentially if you're not a bull you're right you're not this dominant you know alpha type male you're just a dude who enjoys couples.
Yeah. You're a bluefish. Well, and to be honest, some husbands probably don't want a dominant man. I would agree. I personally, if we were going to bring a male into our relationship and have an MFM, I would rather him be a bluefish than a bull because I don't want to deal with the – You want a bull, right? Because that's hot and sexy to you, right?
But to most guys, I don't want this cocky guy who thinks he's going to come in here and like rock like just you know like i do want him to come in here rock your world i just don't know if i want all that i've heard you know bang bang and some of the other people talk about this like they just don't like bulls because they don't like that attitude they don't like that cocky arrogant kind of and like you said a lot of guys think they're bulls and then they come and they're not bulls you know i mean, or the guys that say they're dominant. It's almost like if you claim it, you're not real.
You know, like if you just are that, it just kind of naturally happens. So, yeah, I agree. I don't know. I see both points. Now, I do. We had also never heard of a dragon. However, I do agree with the differences here.
A dragon enjoys sex with both the male and the female of the couple in the swinger world so essentially a dragon is a bi male who will play with both both the husband and it's a bisexual male and i honestly like i think a dragon you know as a straight male but who has engaged with couples a dragon to me is almost like finding a unicorn like there are so many couples out there that are looking for that and you don't see a lot of males identify as that yeah um and to me that's a maybe an untapped you know i think there is a lot of males in the lifestyle that do either are bisexual or maybe had those curiosities and then never um tapped that.
So I definitely think that there is a space for that that's needed. Yes. And a hundred percent, I encourage males to open up more about their sexuality. And if they are curious about, you know, bisexuality to explore that, not, not have that negative connotation associated with it.
And I definitely, I, you know, I've said this before on this podcast and I'll say it again when i was a single male most of the couples would reach out to me and say hey we're interested in playing with you and then i swear half of those couples at some point along the conversation with them would at least half of those couples would bring up are you okay with male-on-male play contact even though they did not have sex whatever 99 98 of them did not have bisexual male in their profile it was something they kind of tried to slide in under the radar or maybe just kind of feel you out on some of them would wait to you like you were in the room playing with them and the guy would like whisper you to you hey are you okay with it and it's like what that's not like whoa bro like yeah again i'm very comfortable with my sexuality i'm very comfortable with very close contact i don't you know i'm i'm you know will help you live out your fantasies as much as you can but i have rules and i have limits that i'm not comfortable passing and i just want to make sure i would i would play with a couple that has a bisexual male i just want to make sure that male knows where my boundaries are and that's communicated prior to so i don't like the sneaking that on you in the middle of play to try to kind of because there was a few times where i felt like i was being pressured maybe a little bit to engage and play i would not be comfortable with yeah because they kind of got you in the situation yeah makes total sense and you know i mean this is not really about this podcast but there definitely is a double standard about how females are all expected to be bisexual and males it's a different story almost expected not to be yeah and i you know we'll talk about this because we're going to talk about like creating your online profile and what you should put on there and so we kind of have that in our notes to talk about it later but i still think it's important that own who you are you know like out the gate if you're a single male and you are interested in other single males be honest with that yeah um i think that that's really important i mean this whole lifestyle journey is to explore your sexual fantasies and if you are not tapping into some of that you're not really fulfilling and i would argue if you are a dragon if you are a bisexual male and you are more open about that you'll probably have more success because i think there's a lot of couples out there that are looking for that that just don't feel comfortable advertising it so if you advertise yourself as that they may be they might be more likely to approach you than other other males yeah okay so that's our definition so i think we've kind of covered all the different types of single women i mean there are more um like when i was doing research you know you got your I don't like that.
um that term i don't like that term um i think i just don't i think you i think a guy no matter what color of his skin i mean if he's dominant he needs to be a bull if he's bisexual he can be a dragon i don't think the color of your skin should dictate what you're called but that's just me um so let's move on so we came up with 10 tips for single males a lot of these are pretty common like pretty common sense but sometimes guys need to be reminded i've always joked that guys are not the smartest yeah so we're gonna you know this is some some tips and i think this is important right like you saying there's all these guys that want to get in the lifestyle i feel like a lot of them maybe they're just lazy they don't want to put in the work i just think they jump in and think it's going to be easy like instant gratification yeah i think they're gonna they think oh i can just make a profile everybody's going to want to fuck me which to be honest with you when i was a unicorn that's exactly what i did i just i didn't do any research i didn't do any i just made a profile and everybody started messaging me but i just unfortunately single males is just a harder road and you do have to do a little bit of work it's not anything crazy i don't think anything that we're asking of these single males is far-fetched but i do think that you you need to do a little bit of work right and you guys heard the ratios right the unicorns don't have to do the research because there's there's 50 of you males to every one of them and yeah it's just the way it is and you know i wish i could change that but i can't okay so tip number one do not come on too strong yeah i mean that's pretty simple um if you've been so guys get mad and they're like why do single guys can only go to clubs on circle nines well that's because single guys can be pushy you know they can come on too strong um if you've been to any swinger club on a night that singles can go single males you know how it is they'll line up out the playroom door just waiting to be taken back of course that's if you they have to most of the time they have to go back with a couple um so a lot of times they're very very pushy like they just they're a lot just almost desperate and it just it's not a good look like i don't want the guy that's over there basically begging for someone to fuck him i want the guy that's like dancing and having a good time and if he gets fucked great if he doesn't okay too you know like i don't want that it's almost like you can smell the desperateness on them i don't know if that makes sense no i i agree with you this this idea that on like single guy night you know the guys come in and wait in front of the playroom and then as a couple goes back to the playroom it's almost like they're like that panhandler like don't look them in the eye if you've ever been to like a you know a different country that where they're trying to like sell you things like that's what it feels like going back to the playroom it's very uncomfortable all these guys and they're like oh hey are you going back are you interested you know like they're trying to give you their two minute or their two second spiel and it's like i don't want yeah you know there's probably some couples that would grab a guy out of the lineup and take them back.
Yeah, but okay, if there's 10 couples like that, you might get two. You might get one. Yeah. I mean, think about that, guys. Of all the single guys there, maybe one is just going to get rain. I mean, some people are into that. Some people are just fine. Come on. Let's go. But nine times out of 10, you're not going to find success doing that. We're not judging that act. No. I think what we're saying is just trying to – There's a need for that.
I wouldn't put all your eggs in that basket if that's the – Mm-mm- you fuck the shit out of the wife and then they want to go home you know and and we support that live your best life if that's what you're into but for a single male the odds of you getting chosen is that one to go back are very few and far between so we're just saying just don't be that guy okay and this leads right into number two which is don't lurk and don't wait until the husband leaves his wife's side to go then try to approach her and yeah like if he leaves her you know kind of next to the dance floor to go get her a drink refill or something and you come swooping in that's not a good look or she's standing outside of the bathroom while her husband is inside the bathroom like that's not the time to try to hit on her no and um and i you know this comp this advice goes for single females single males husbands wives couples um if you're interested in someone of the opposite sector it really doesn't matter if it's not the opposite if you're interested in someone you need to make a conscious effort to include their spouse in that get to know you act the worst thing to me is when i feel like they're waiting for me to walk off to swoop in and make that predatory kind of it's just not a good look i mean if you don't have the balls to come up and introduce yourself to my husband you're not sleeping with me i mean it's just that's just what it is i mean like you have to i don't like using the word court but you almost have to like kind of court the husband and the wife you have to make the husband like you to be your friend but you also got to wow the wife to like turn her on so it's just a weird balance and if you're not prepared to do that the lifestyle is not for you yes i think with that oh we take a break on number two we're going to take a little break okay go hear from the partners and sponsors of the swing nation podcast and when we get back we have eight more tips yeah and uh some more advice for single males looking to be part of the lifestyle okay we'll be right back be right back guys we here at the swing nation podcast are proud to partner with promessant listen guys we've all been there you're having a hot night with a hot chick maybe a few hot chicks but you need to kind of delay the time before you pull that trigger that's where promessant comes in they have this awesome product called the delay spray you literally spray it on and it delays the time that you orgasm so you can make sure that your partner is well taken care of.
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Make sure you join the Swing Nation stc group and send us a message all right guys welcome back we were in the middle of giving you tips and tricks on how to be a single male in the lifestyle how to court these couples and not come across is a douchebag douchebag okay so we're on number three be confident not cocky and don't oversell yourself that is we find this in in males just in general you know it's the worst when you meet a guy you're into him you know he's hot you're feeling it and he's like i'm gonna fuck your i'm gonna rock your world it's gonna be so fucking hot just you wait wait you see what i can do i'll make you come and they're like they're talking it up and you're like fuck yeah this is gonna be hot i cannot wait and then you get in the back and it's it it just doesn't happen it's like you know or it's mediocre at best and honestly if they had just kept their fucking mouth shut and just you know fucked you it would have it would have been fine but they had built it up to be this like well and it's the same whole ordeal and then it was lacklustering well it's the giant dick thing too right like oh i have a giant dick and i'm gonna rock and then you can't get hard or they send you a picture and it's like well that's that's average at best you know i mean like so it's you know like sometimes less is more guys we don't you know you want a confident guy you want to like i said earlier if you're not confident enough to walk up and shake my husband's hand and wow me and sweep me off my feet then i don't want you but also don't want you to come in and be like, I'm going to fuck you so much better than he did.
There's such a fine line between being confident and cocky. Yeah, and I don't know. Like you said, it's a very finite difference there. And I think you can be cocky and confident without – to me, if you have to oversell yourself, you're doing that for a reason, right? You know, most of the guys that I've ever met, whether it's in business and, you know, professional, you know, sports, whatever the case may be, if they're always talking about how great they are, it usually means they're not that great, right? Because they're having to overcompensate for where they're lacking.
You know, usually some of the most badass dudes I it's you know in the gym or you know in business you know whatever they don't have to say anything you know i mean they just they just do they just do it right they just they just when it's game time they they come and they show up um and i think that's just true and everything and i think it's definitely true in the lifestyle when you can you know that guy that's sitting there and he's he has confidence he is cocky but he's not constantly trying to sell himself like he's some kind of billboard you know i mean like those are the guys that usually when push comes to shove know what they're doing as a female if a guy doesn't oversell himself so you don't really have any height you just don't have any expectations and then he comes in and he like does a really good job and it's almost like fuck yeah you know because you didn't have any like preconceived expectations they just came in did the job rocked the world had a good time you know it's like that's why i hate this podcast you're over trying you're you're constantly overselling me well and you know i think that's important i can oversell you but you you shouldn't oversell yourself you know and i so i think like if you want to relate this to a couple swap scenario you know i think building your spouse up is important yes um but yeah i mean there's such a fine line there just don't just don't be cocky guys okay number four you want to read it be respectful of the relationship of the couple that always comes first yeah that's pretty self-explanatory um you okay so the way i would describe describe it when i was a unicorn i was the shiny new object that got to come in and have fun and leave but the relationship of the couple should always come before me i'm just like the fun play toy and i think that guys need to remember that like the husband and wife is for first and foremost and if you're trying to step in and replace something or make up you're just not in the right space go to tinder yeah go find somebody to hook up with no and i agree with that 100 i will say you know if you're serving this kind of bull role there are couples that you know the husband wants to be humiliated you know i mean like there's it it's a weird dynamic right so you really have to understand what that couple's looking for and then kind of fill that and you know and if you're a single guy and you approach a couple it's very much you know like not like oh i want to do this to your wife or i'm gonna you know and you approach it as almost like the advice we give to couples when we talk about them and their new lifestyle is hey guys i just want to make sure i want you guys to have a good experience yeah like what do you what do you like what are you guys into what do you like to do maybe what are you curious about what are some of the things you're interested in and then try to yeah try to make them have a good experience that's i think that's really the goal of what the goal should be of any single coming into a play relationship with a couple yeah you are very much there to try to help facilitate i mean you want to have a good time but i mean they're bringing you in for for their fantasy yeah and so we'll switch around our order because i think that's important to kind of go so number nine so this will be our number five now um make sure you understand each couple's boundaries and that they are different with each couple, which I think is important.
Because if you are asking these questions, what are you like? If you find a couple that you're really vibing in with and you say, what do you want out of this? What are your boundaries? What can I say? What can I not? Like, sometimes those conversations can be hard to have. But if you have them up front, it saves a lot of awkwardness on the backside.
And again, you can apply this to couples and single female, you know, it's across the board is before you engage with people sexually, it's a very, you need to know what their limits, their boundaries, what their kinks are, where their hard limits are, you know, what do they like, what, you know, what's okay, what okay what's not okay because it's so simple something as silly as putting your hand on a girl's throat you know like that you know like maybe you're into choking but if you do that to somebody that's maybe been abused in the past and that's you know they didn't talk about it but that's a that's a trigger for them well you just turned what could have been a very good night into a very traumatic night you know what i mean so you know i think we swingers you know a lot of times we think of this as like just kind of free sex right and you just kind of go with the flow and nobody you know again i've talked about this before is i really like the way bdsm couples engage or you know partners engage with each other is they literally call it like negotiate you negotiate a scene before you do a BDS scene where you really like let's sit down and let's talk about what we're gonna do what we're comfortable with what you know this is what's gonna happen and i get like you can't like things are gonna happen that you didn't talk about you know i mean but like okay that's why there's safe words and that's why there's you know hand gestures or whatever i think really swingers as a whole could be more self-aware and talk through all that stuff better ahead of time and really kind of look at it as negotiating a play session you know before you do it instead of just jumping in blind and then triggering you know having a bad experience correct i mean if you ask what their boundaries what they're comfortable with up front then you know like if the husband's like i don't want to be there I want to you know take a couple of pictures you know going into it what you're expected if the husband wants you to humiliate him you know going in with or if the husband is interested in and playing with you as well as a single male and you're not like all of that has been discussed prior to.
So there's I mean, they're still going to you're never going to cover it all. But if you could get the majority of it, you know, talked about before you engage and play, I think you're going to have a better play session. Yeah, I agree. And the only thing I would add to that is we get that that's an uncomfortable conversation. It's so hard.
We get that if you're a soft swap couple and you're in a room with six people and all of a sudden people start playing it's really hard for you to say hold up guys before we start i just want you to know we're soft swap only and it's probably super hard for a guy to be like yeah i want you to fuck the shit on my wife and humiliate me but what what i will say is we totally understand all those conversations are really difficult to kind of bring up and to have, but when you do do that, I think everybody feels better about it, right?
Everybody in that room, if you stop and you say, Hey, this is, you know, these are the rules. Are you okay with this? Are you okay? And have that little conversation. It just puts the room at so much more ease and you're, you're able to then enjoy your play session so much more.
least that's been my oh i totally agree every time that we've had bad experiences it's because we did not have those conversations before you know people might have crossed the boundary but they had no idea that that boundary even existed so i think we have done a better job like as a couple of learning that and i have to say like you are probably better at it than i am about like stopping at you know because when things are hot and heated up you the last thing you want to do is stop and say okay we're going to talk about protection now we're going to talk about and i get that that's not a fun conversation to have but it's just so necessary yeah and i again i think you know this doesn't apply to just single males but as a community if we all start doing normalize that like hey before swingers played they usually have this conversation yeah and it becomes more of a normal thing i think everybody it's just going to be a better experience for everybody involved yeah okay number six don't over drink yeah don't over drink i mean that's mean, well, one, because your dick's probably not going to work.
I mean, you need it to work. Um, two, you're going to be sloppy. You're not going to have fun. Um, three, you know, you borderline consent when you over drink. And I just think, I mean, that can kind of go for any type of, uh, person in the lifestyle, you know, which is hard. We get nerves, get the best of us. Um, you're partying, you're having fun. I get it. I mean, we've all been, we've all been there. Yeah. And you know, I don't see this on our list here and we, you know, think seriously about investing in some, um, you know, performance pills, um, some ED medication.
Uh, you know, if you're new to this lifestyle, this lifestyle um you know it might be worth going and getting some of that stuff because if you are drinking if you are newer you know even when i was a single male there's been times where you get in a situation and things just don't work um and that's the worst you know for everybody and we've talked about this multiple times but if are a single male, it's not a bad idea to head on over to shamelesscare.com and get yourself some medication. It's actually, in my opinion, more uncommon when people don't use it.
Like nine times out of ten, people have ED medication. Yeah. Again, consult with your doctor. Make sure you need it. Make sure you're medically fit to do that, but it just, it'll help, it can help prevent awkward situations. Yeah. I've lost track of our numbers, so we're just going to do the next one. Okay. Don't waste your time chatting with couples who are not looking for singles. So if you approach a couple in a club and they say, we don't play with single males.
thank you for your time have a great day bye that's it like you're going to end up wasting your entire night because if they tell you no you should be respectful of that and that goes for online platforms i know we're going to talk about that more in a minute but if a couple says they're not interested in single males, guess what? Believe them. They're not interested in single males. And that's okay. They have the right to that prerogative. I mean, let's just, you know, they just do.
And it may be like, for instance, Dan and I don't typically play with single males, but that doesn't mean a single male is completely off the table.
If you come in and completely wow it may happen yeah or you know we you know as you we've talked about several times we usually play as a group um and if there was a respectful single male that lacy was attracted to um we've never done this but we would be open to say you know because a lot of the couples that we know would be into oh for sure yeah bring an extra guy back cool you know yeah um the problem is is like we just don't find many that fit all of these things you know they they're either too pushy or you know i don't know just there's so many different you know they seem desperate i mean there's just so many different things that one of the secret sensations i would have brought to a room which one that nice guy that was oh really he was nice you weren't into him i mean he was a little dorky oh but he was nice he was a little he just seemed he seemed a little nervous i felt his nervous energy yeah but just okay you know it's just i don't know how many times he's been around he just again you want to be confident not cocky but you also don't want to look like a deer in headlights.
You know, there's that whole, that whole boundary there. That whole, like, what's the correct term? Like, you got to, it's hard. You got to fit right in. You got to shoot that gap perfectly. Okay. So expect to be rejected. It will happen more times than not. So, yeah. I mean, people are going to tell you no.
People are, you're going to send 10 messages on on a swinger app and you might get one response again because there are so many single mails it's just it's just part of it yeah and again you know we're going to get into the the website thing but the mass messaging everybody hey or a copy and pasted message or uh you know not reading the profile when it says we're not looking for single mails or if we're looking for single mails, we'll reach out to you and just blasting all like you're just wasting. You can tell when you copy and paste it, guys. We can tell. And then the whole, hey, like, okay.
I've looked at our DMs before and there's been people that send us, hey, once a month for like a year have been sending us, hey, once a month and that's it just hey take the hint once a month for a year yeah what is that what is that i don't know um okay yeah so just again just you're going to be rejected it's just going to happen not everybody is out there looking for single males and even if they are you may not fit what they're looking for you may be the hottest guy on the app and you still may not be what they're looking for okay okay next one always bring your own protection yeah that's that's the yeah if you're playing with a couple and things are about to go down and then you ask them if they have condoms like what what is that or ask if they use condoms always assume that they do like and you need to protect yourself as well guys if you get herpes or you get whatever um guess what it's going to be hard for you to be in the lifestyle i mean you also need to protect yourself so um you you know and you want to have the condoms that fit you best if you're really a bull you need the magnums i mean let's just be honest you don't want to have some little rinky dink you know crappy condom bring what you're comfortable with and um i think for me it shows like respect if you're getting ready to play and you whip out you know your you know i mean like to me that shows not only is he kind and nice and he's made it back to us now he's respectful of us and our bodies and i just think it's just a good look all the way around yeah and those you know the little details like you know it's you know i have this lube is that okay with you or hey i have these condoms is that okay with you like a latex free one right or even asking those questions ahead of time will show that you're cognizant of that stuff oh I've had guys that say do you have any allergies like before they go to put on their car and I'm like oh my god you're the sweetest thing ever like I just want to like hug their necks okay so the last tip that we have is be well groomed and follow club party's dress code so obviously take a shower guys I don't know but if i hug you and you smell like a good smelling man,'s going to do it for me if you smell like bo it's it's going to be a turn off so yeah i mean you just need to be well-groomed and taken care of um you know obviously hair some girls like a hairy man some girls don't so i mean you know you're going to have to do what you feel comfortable with there um as far as i would say well groomed is probably the better i am i would err on the side of well groomed when it comes to your bush and your private parts i don't like a dick with a bunch of hair on it right um but that's just me some girls might think that they like a manly man i don't know you know it just depends um and then you know i don't want to tell you what to wear because i don't think that's my place but i do think that wherever you're going you need to look up their dress code a lot of women can kind of get away with everything you can wear you know fancy dress down to lingerie men not so much so definitely look up whatever club hotel takeover what and like dress according to um their standards their standards you know and like we even go so far dan has coordinating boxers like you know like don't wear your crappy hands her way with holes in the butt you know like wear your good boxers wear some nice socks with no holes in them you know like you are wanting to um wow these women or men and you want to put your best foot forward so dress the part it doesn't have to be expensive stuff it does not as long as it's clean and well kept that's all that matters yes you want to stand out you want to be noticed so yeah go get yourself some nice clothes yeah maybe ask a girl friend you know if you have a female friend to help you i know i am is a male terrible at picking out clothes yeah i just get it when dan and i started dating he did have like hanes i did i had all those things yeah i fixed him up never stopped me from getting like why don't you go to tj maxx never stopped me from getting laid by the way i bet your dick was shaved and clean it was that's true okay so now we're going to switch gears um because a lot of those were geared towards like a club atmosphere.
Obviously, you can apply them to different scenarios. Meeting for coffee. Just as, yeah, in-person stuff. Yeah. But we definitely wanted to talk about website-specific things because I think, to me, that's where males start out wrong. Right.
If you fuck this part up, you're not going to get to the meet and greet or you you're not gonna get invited to a hotel room or out to coffee or or any of that stuff so we have just a few quick little tips one whatever website you use rather it be SCC SLS Cassidy whatever that may be swing our society you need to pay for it don't be a damn don't listen if you are invested in the lifestyle and you want to be someone who is taken seriously spend the damn money if you can't afford the 10 20 a month um to be a paid member then uh there's not a lot of couples that are going to be wanted yeah and i can't you may not can do all three of those or all four of those.
Pick one, and that's okay. You know, it definitely is cheaper if you go the lifetime subscription roll. You know, I think like SLS was like $150. Yeah, I don't know. I don't remember. It's been so long since we purchased it. But, you know, obviously you don't want to jump right into that. But try it out for a few months, and if you find success on there, you know, just get the lifetime membership. Invest in the lifestyle. Correct.
I'm not going to spend time messaging someone that's not willing to spend 25 30 bucks sorry no i agree um next having a well written bio yeah don't do it at 2 a.m when you're horny and just put like a few little words look in the rock your world huh oh is that what yeah um do read other people's profiles hear the fuck the shit out of your wife yeah read other people's profiles you know if you if you're new into this and you're like what the fuck do i put i get it it can be a lot at first I mean read other people's profiles you know just kind of get some inspiration but it doesn't all have to be done day one you know you can spend a little time getting it up to par but take some time you know obviously like the sexual orientation like if you are interested in um men which that was later in our list but i'll go ahead and talk about now if you're interested in playing with other men put that own who you are like this is the space to be you yeah and i think you know for the well-written bio complete sentences spelling punctuation again if you're not the best at that maybe have a friend look at it or copy and paste it into word or something you know like where there's a spell check feature i mean because i get this is like kind of a private thing you don't want your friends to read yeah yeah you know my point being that you know if you can't spell words yeah or complete a sentence you're starting off on the wrong page yeah it just to me it comes across sloppy and thrown together like i'm just here to get fucking laid not i'm here to invest in you and help you right or i'm not educated and you know i'm not engaging i'm not you know like it just might be somebody you're not interested yeah okay so next you want to put good pictures up of yourself like good body pictures don't like do the selfie with the toilet in the background yet that it's like hard you may not have a ring light and stuff like that but you can you can find a clean place in your house lay in your bed or you know like or you know somewhere with a clean wall or yeah don't have dirty laundry or garbage or beer cans or you know like you don't want to look at what only not only your body but look at what's behind your body on the wall yeah um of course if you're not comfortable you do not have to put your face up or anything like that but you need to have a face picture at least there if if you really get to know someone they're gonna want to see your face and they and honestly I feel like if you're gonna fuck them they kind of deserve to see your face and if you're not comfortable with giving it right out the bat that's okay but you definitely need some like good face pictures to share one thing that drives me crazy is when people like have a really good picture of them but their kids or something was in the picture and they've like cut it out they crayled like blacked it out but you can obviously tell that like it was their kids or an ex-girlfriend or something come on guys go out into the light take a good selfie like again put the time put the effort into it i scrib crippled my ex-girlfriend yes you know you've seen um also guys listen let's just we're gonna call it like we call it we want to see the dick we do right take it in the best light now i've had guys send me a picture of their dick next to a monster can i don't suggest that right so so here's what we're saying right on the profile most of these profiles have like public pictures yeah right this is you want to have a full body picture right that shows your body you know if you're cut off your head if you're not in good shape maybe it's a shirtless picture right if you're not you know if you want to have clothes on but maybe you know nice clothes these button up you know look professional maybe not your work uniform right not if you're you know if you're a fedex driver you probably don't want to be in your fedex uniform whatever not that there's anything wrong with that but that you know you want to do some neat casual type clothes yeah you well one you're on a swinger website and you need to be careful for your work but two you just want to present if you have that means you have to get out the iron and iron a dress up shirt and put it on and take a picture right damn it do it it's not that hard now if you're comfortable sharing face in the open do that a lot of people won't be yeah but like like lacy's saying they're probably going to want to see your face to make sure they're attracted to you so then there's most of these websites have a locked gallery and you can put a face picture behind that locked gallery okay same thing with The dick picture, right?
Yeah. Yeah. If you're a dick picture, if you're a locked gallery, and you can put a face picture behind that locked gallery. Okay, same thing with the dick picture, right? If you're going to take a picture of your dick, don't have hair everywhere. Don't have, you know, I don't know. Don't lay it on the counter at the bathroom. That's all dirty. Like, you know, like, let's pose it, man. You know, like, treat it like the wonderful creature it is. Let's pose it.
it right let's get a little hard you know like if you got some viagra maybe take some get it nice and good and so that dick pic can be if you're okay with sharing that in the public that can be open to the public or again have it behind a lock wall um and then when you approach a couple that you're interested in say hey like i'm interested in you guys you seem i think. You seem, I think I'd be a good match. I see you're looking for males. I've unlocked my picture. You know, I have some pictures, but I've unlocked some pictures. Or, hey, I unlocked my face pictures. I have other pictures.
I have more other more intimate pictures if you would be interested in seeing them. I love that because so many, and that's another thing that's on our list. Don't start out with a dick pic. Right. Don't have a dick pic be the only picture on your profile. Yeah. Because, I mean, like, I'll be honest. I genuinely enjoy dick pics. Like, some girls are like, eh, dick. I genuinely enjoy it when I want to see it. I don't want to open my Snapchat or whatever app and, like, it's just your dick. Right.
I don't want don't want to i need not a soft hairy dick above a toilet or hanging dangling in the toilet you know i think that like a little common courtesy goes a long way yeah and i think the way that you said that is so perfect i have these pictures i would love to share them with you if you're if you're okay with it yeah i think that just like a little common or even like a dick pic with your body you know like a you know like i just got out of the shower or like the tower ones or you know gray sweat pant picture you know like these kind of it's sexy but it's not like a dick in your face like yeah implied sexuality like a little teasing um i think those pictures are the ones that go you know a dick with abs is better than just a big hairy dick in your face you know like stuff like that yeah yeah i totally agree okay so again expect to be rejected guys so like we talked about this a little earlier but it's very common for single guys to copy and paste a message and then send it to you once a month.
Yeah. Like they don't even realize that they've already sent it to you. They don't even go back and read. And it's literally word for word. They copied and pasted it. Like you, so many single guys do that. So unless you just blow somebody's socks off, you're probably not going to get a response. And just know that.
And if you, you know, if you've reached out and you haven't got a response that's that's your response right no answer is the answer guys now if you're super interested in that couple and you like maybe give it six months and then say don't copy and paste or even a month you know and say hey but here like you're saying right that first reach out message instead of instead of it being a copy and paste. Oh, my name is Dan and I have an age dick and I'd like to fuck the shit out of your wife. If you're interested in that message me. Right. And then you send that 100 times.
Instead of that, look through their profile. See, hopefully, that they're looking for single males and say, hey, nice to meet you. My name is Dan.
I'm in this, you know, i live in in nashville i see you guys are you know here are here um i think you're very attractive i see you're into wine tasting i love wine tasting like you know if you guys are free one weekend i'd love to meet you at a wine bar or at a winery or you know like uh you know my treat you know like something like that very much is not a copied and paste and like you can tell that you know and i've even seen like for instance our profile says single mails we will reach out to you does that stop single mails fuck no they message us all day every day so like even if a pro i'm not even gonna be mad at at you if the profile says no single mails and you say hi my name is dan and i read over your profile and i noticed that you said no single mails and i completely respect that however i think you're very attractive i would really like to get i see your podcasters i've listened to your podcast i think you guys are great in the event that that ever changes I would like to let you know that I am very much interested in y'all um I'm not even mad about that because it shows that they took the time to read the profile that they they understand your boundaries and they're they are respectful but they're still going to shoot their shot and you know what to me that's confident not cocky and that's what we're looking for right so no i agree okay we've kind of went all over the board on our list um okay we talked about don't start a convo with dick pics um recouples bios before we've read all of this okay yeah we've pretty much covered all of our profile um tips and tricks so now we have a little time left and I was just gonna kind of give the floor to you Dan because I think as a single male that was successful in the lifestyle I mean I can tell them all the things but I think the real advice comes from you so what do you have to say to these guys no I think I mean I think mean, I think we've touched on the majority of it, but you know, you need to reach out, you need to be genuine, you need to do your research, you need to read their profiles, you need to make that connection with them and find something that they're interested in or looking for.
You know, if you take the time to read their profile, you know, the amount of time you spent copying, pasting the same message to to a thousand couples if you spent that same amount of time and messaged 10 couples genuinely and showed that you read their profile you know and address things i think you're going to have more success in that space right limiting the amount of people you message to and really trying to find the people that you genuinely would match with and that are looking for you know this service so to speak that you're you're providing um you know another thing i would say you know i've had couples reach out to me before you know i mean um certifications help yeah you do meet couples is a single male and you know ask them you know hey if you guys had a good time if you could leave me uh you know a review uh most of these profiles you can go in and say oh i met up with dan and you know he was very respectful of me and my wife and showed my wife a great night uh and you know if he's back in our traveling in our area again we'd love to have you see him again or meet him again you know it's a little you know once i got like two or three four of those on my profile the the amount of couples that started to reach out to me or the amount of couples that would respond to my message went up, you know, infinitely because then they can see, you know, I repeatedly got from couples like, oh, my God, you showed up on time or oh, my gosh, you were early or oh, you look nice or, you know, like, you know, like so it's little things like that.
couple i'm telling you that the bar is not very high for single males um so if you if you approach a couple You know, like, you know, like so it's little things like that because I'm telling you that the bar is not very high for single males. So if you if you approach couples respectfully, if you dress nice, if you show up on time and if you do the things that you say you're going to do, you're going to have success in this space. And I just think you just have to take it seriously. You have to put in the effort and then you'll be rewarded for that if it's something you want to do.
Now, the brutally honest part I think that we maybe need to talk about that is a little bit of an elephant in the room. Couples are looking for an experience.
guys that are in shape and that have big dicks are just going to have a better success rate yeah on these apps looking for couples because let's be honest no no no there's no wife out there that's like let me go find a guy that's less attractive and and not as well endowed as my husband right that's just not realistic yeah so you know don't only invest in invest in yourself right like go to the gym eat healthy get in shape you know like you know i understand you can't change the size of your dick but like you know i mean like have realistic expectations right and if you are a bigger dude with an average dick maybe don't go after the tens and you know like there are couples there is a couple out there for you but if you have unrealistic expectations of the couples that you're going to engage with you're you know if you keep trying to message supermodels you're just not going to have success and that's just the brutally honest truth behind it i don't like it you don't like it but like don't waste your time you know what i mean yeah um and i think that's that's all i can really say that was perfect babe it babe.
It was perfect? Yeah, I think that's very true. You think it's true? Yeah, because I've met a lot of single guys that, like, I think they think that they should, not that we're tense, because we're not by any means, but I've seen them only want a certain type of couple. When if they would have just had more realistic expectations, they would have so much success and they could be an amazing single male in the lifestyle. But they're so caught up at finding this like perfect couple in their eyes that they're missing out on what's around them.
So I think that I truly do believe that there's somebody for everybody.
But I do think you know yeah like for instance i don't necessarily me personally i'm not super into guys with like muscles and cocky that's just you know that's not who i gravitate towards like if we were to find a single man that's not like i like more of like a normal looking guy i mean like it would his penis be average to large yeah i would prefer that but he doesn't i you know like if we were looking for a single male i i wouldn't go for like the six-pack perfect no you know that because that's just what i'm what i like you know i like a more normal average guy and that's okay and there's something for everyone out there right right but if you don't take care of yourself if you don't put in the effort if you don't take good pictures if you don't show up when if you're a married dude faking it if you're you know i don't there's a hundred different things that we could say but yeah people are gonna figure it out and they're not gonna they're not gonna engage No, I totally agree.
All right. Anything else you want to put out to the single males for advice from the Swing Nation podcast? No, I think we covered it all. Okay. So this comes out next week, which means we are on our way to the LSC party. We are.
We're about to party down with Jay and Jay we're in charlottesville daphne and mike um nc hot wife nc hot wife swinger ed which is the first time we get to swinger ed we get to meet them yeah there's actually more people than i thought this party yeah there's a lot of people um super excited about that um so if you are happen to be in the charlotte area because you know this is party is literally saturday and it's you're listening to this on thursday um look up lifestyle connections um they are rooms are sold out but i am told they've never sold out of door tickets um so if you are that's not true they have sold out they sold out at the last party so my tip would be to come before 10.
yes yeah that's what uh they they did actually They're Halloween party, you're right.
Yeah, they sold out they sold out at the last party so my tip would be to come before 10 yes yeah that's what uh they they did actually their halloween party they sold out so their suggestion is it's if you want to get there get there before 10 come early yeah come early um i think what eight you probably what time can you check in well you can check in at three no no i'm not checking oh i don't know i would get there sometime between eight and ten with eight nine maybe a good yeah um you can go to their website, lifestyleconnect no. I'm not checking. I'm sorry. Oh, I don't know.
I would get there sometime between 8 and 10. Okay. Would be 8, 9. Maybe a good. Yeah. You can go to their website, lifestyleconnections.net. They're also on Facebook, so you can chat with them there, ask questions. But they're a cool group. They are accepting donations for a local children's charity. We always try super hard to give to them as much as we can. They are so passionate about it, and that makes our heart happy. We're going to talk to give to them as much as we can. They are so passionate about it, and that makes our heart happy.
We like to incorporate charity work as much as we can because we like to show that swingers are not just all about sex and getting drunk and partying. They're good everyday people. So if you're in the area and you want to come bring a toy, if you're not in the area but you'd like to help us we do have a gofundme i'm sure it'll still be open when this podcast comes out we're probably cashing it out tonight i would bet tomorrow yeah so um we'll link it in the show notes so if you see this in real time you can donate um so yeah so if you're there say hello to us we're excited we are excited.
And I think that's really all the time we have to talk about events. But if you want to come and meet us and we have events almost monthly for 2023, head on over to swingerside.net, get signed up for events. Kind of something for everyone. I mean, we've got stuff that is $100 all the way up to thousands of dollars. So really, it doesn't matter your budget. We have something for everyone. And that was kind of our goal. So check out our calendar at swingersociety.net. We're going to be going all over the country this year. Yeah, come hang out with us. We look forward to seeing you.
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