In part 1 of this topic, we talk about the pros and cons of having familiar play dates. Some pros might be:Super comfortableExplore fantasiesYou re familiar with your partners likes and dislikesSome cons might be:Lack of spice or creativityBlurred lines in relationship status (are we poly now?)Check out the Podcast-a-Palooza site here! Trust us, you do not want to miss out!Follow Cate and Darrell from Wanderlust Swingers or PCAP on Instagram!As always, thanks for listening!Be sure to , RATE, REVIEW! We appreciate any and all feedback!Check out our show and MANY others on FullSwapRadio!How to stay in-touch with us:Email: thesuitelifepodcast@gmail.comFollow us here for info on upcoming LIVE episodes:Instagram: @thesuitelifepodcastTwitter: @suitelifepodFacebook: Livin the Suite Life (Tryst Loq Suitelife)Don t forget to to the Livin the Suite Life Podcast YouTube Channel!
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Living the Sweet Life is a podcast intended for mature audiences only. We'll be using sexually explicit language while discussing many different adult themes. So if you're under the age of 18, please stop listening. Also, please know that our thoughts and opinions should not be taken as professional advice. We're here to answer your questions about the swinger lifestyle.
From newbies to longtime swingers, or if you're just curious, we hope to engage you all and to encourage a sex-positive discussion. Now that we've got that out of the way, make yourself comfortable and join us in episode 64 of living the sweet life she is my beautiful sexy co-host and wife the lovely trist and he is my sexy chocolate husband lock all i can think right now is i want to taste the rainbow babe taste it the rainbow.
And listen, this is for my sweet talkers who are only in podcast land. Make sure y'all check out the YouTube so you know what I'm talking about. Because Trist is looking skittalicious right now. Huh, babe? You know, I try. But what's the occasion? It's April. I'm trying to bring the spring.
You know, let's bring in in the spring let's start getting warm and start wearing less clothes i'm here for all of that all of the above yes all of it so again ladies and gentlemen thank you so much for joining us in episode 64 tonight is gonna be fun we got some sexy stories to tell i know we've been giving y'all the medicine for a little while now you know giving y'all the existential crisis that we going through philosophically but and mentally and mentally but we here to tell some naughty shit this time right babe yes just a little something a little bit just a little bit of spice yes but but also to think about, you know, saying some stuff that we're going to we want your opinions on some stuff.
We got some opinions on as well, but it should be a fun conversation. So first, let's knock out some housekeeping. Follow us on Instagram at the Suite Life Podcast and follow us on Twitter at Suite Life Pod. Hopefully, you know, the email address by now.
If you don't,'t i'll go ahead it's the sweet life podcast at gmail.com and thank you to all of our podcast listeners you can find us on all the major podcast catchers and for those sweet talkers who um want to join in on the fun follow us on uh what is it youtube check us out on youtube and hit the subscribe bell uh and we'll be you'll be notified anytime we go live oh and that's right for my podcast listeners make sure you subscribe rate review always appreciate that yes tell us if we suck we're great you know all feedback we welcome it so we can understand how the show needs to go that's right all feedback is welcome hit us up hit us up um some other cool housekeeping things listen y'all know we got folks that's going out to this pcap joint out in palm springs that is going to be taking place june 3rd through the 6th we so bummed that we're going to miss out but i am i'm i feel like, you know, that I'm about to have FOMO.
Oh, big time. Oh, man. But I really want people to go so that I can hear, so you can tell me the story so we can go out, have some drinks, and you tell me all about it because I want to hear the stories. That's right. Yeah, the FOMO is going to be acting up real bad, for real.
But that doesn't mean, just because we're not going to be there doesn't mean that you should miss out um take your tails over to uh palm springs check out podcast the palooza um all of her are there um what instagram uh what else babe instagram twitter and twitter yeah all that yes it is is a great event guys you know we've talked about it before about PCAT but definitely joining to that event um the organizer Kate she does a really great job as far as setting it up and making sure everybody's having a great time and and the app there's like an app set up where you can meet people and kind of like greet make your own connections yeah your own connections and friends it actually like the app better than like when they put you into this like uh when you have to log in on the computer right because you have your phone with you majority of the time right so i don't have to log in into some site i could just stay on this app and kind of like go in and out as i choose so it's i like that part i'm lazy don't mind me one of our sweet talkers chimes in and says hey y'all loving the bright colors yeah thank you it's springtime it's springtime and sweet talker number one chimes in says hey sexy people trish that top is fire thank you see that's what i'm saying podcast listeners jump over to youtube check it out yep and um what else we got going on?
So, yes, check out the PCAP for Palm Springs. That's Podcastapalooza. Our folks at Full Swap Radio, they have launched an app. So check out their app as well. I think you can get in all the major stores, the app stores, all that good stuff.
and wouldn't you know it if uh tristan lock living the sweet life podcast has not been nominated for an asn award yeah that's right that's right y'all we've been nominated for a lifestyle podcast award and we hoping to um give them some go out here yes we want you guys to go onto this website and vote for us that's right voting starts it's from may 1st to june 30th and we would love it if all of our sweet talkers would chime in and let them know that we're here you know what i'm saying let them know that make some noise coming we bring us some noise that's right that's right so that's asnawards.com Check it out.
And then again we're going to promote it again but um the voting starts may 1st may 1st through june 30th so that's pretty much two months of voting for your favorite podcasters trist and lock and it's free to vote so make sure y'all get in there and vote tell your friends multiple times and vote and vote us in that's right that's right so uh yeah i knew all his friends says what congrats thank you thank you yeah thanks to uh duchess cashmere for nominating us thank you for now make sure y'all appreciate it yeah that's right that's our folks another wonderful thing that we have going on trust uh-oh it's getting real new year's eve y'all new year's eve we taking this show on the road because we adults because we grown we getting up out of here so we had such a good time last year last new year's uh ringing in the new year at temptation resorts we decided to run that thing back however run it back run it back that's right hey duchess duchess cashmere of the cashmere room podcast listen check this sister out she is everywhere she is everywhere you want to be she is working with the meow university she hanging out with um she did a live stream with that uh awesome awesome sister i can't remember her name duchess check check me out i know what you're talking about yeah we did the live stream yeah man but listen duchess is out here hustling she's working hard putting out some great work man i'm i will always promote you out here delicious yeah she did that work with delicious yes yeah we always here to promote you duchess so whenever you need us let us let us know, sis.
Absolutely. And I answered your message back, Duchess, by the way. Oh, right. So, yeah.
So New Year's Eve, y'all, we're going to be, instead of Mexico temptation, this time we are going to the Dominican Republic to christen their resort for their first New Year's year's eve party so the new resort is opening in october um it's officially opening in october uh so this would literally be their first new year's and of course we're going to go stay at the temptations grand meaches yeah because we want to be naked when we want to choose to be naked that's right we're gonna live our best life that's right y'all so y'all come anytime during that time uh what is it december 28th through january 2nd yeah we there we are going to be there and we're not gonna be by ourselves man we bring in other podcasters with us we got uh bedroom bliss coming through coming through so we're thinking about christening this thing we're this, what did I say?
Sweet Bliss. Sweet Bliss. That's right. Sweet Bliss New Year's Eve party. We want y'all there. Come through. If you can, join us. Join us in the DR. It's a brand new resort. Brand new everything. So, yeah. And make sure you come by and say hi. Uh-oh. One of our sweet talkers says, what? We going to be there. Yes.
Let's go.'m serious it's gonna be the truth let's go let's go uh someone uh dutchies nope someone else says do you guys also do the role play thing in bed you know what we should we should be locking trist in bed every now and then we should try to be locked in bed let's see how it goes that's right wear our masks and it's not too much different than actually who we are but it's just the mask though we should do the mask mask okay yeah yeah you're right it's not much different at all we talk a lot of and then you always uh getting in trouble yeah yes yes and then i put my foot in my mouth yeah it's much like real life it's about the same thing yeah you know that's why like when you meet us in person you're kind of like oh you guys are just like you are on the show yes pretty much yes pretty much so last thing um by the time this podcast is live online um this message will be too late actually you'll have like a day uh but for all my people who are live in the suite tonight what is today four three yes april 3rd yes um live tonight so you have a week to get your shit together because we are going to be a taboo social club this saturday four nine april 9th and we are going to be kicking it we kicking it with casual swingers they're going to be in town they're going to be in town hanging out and again bedroom bliss is going to be there kicking it with us and any of you sexy people who want to join so come through taboo social club we'll make sure we tag it in the um in the uh description here and we'll do some more posts throughout the week to see if more folks want to join us.
But come through, man. Come through. Let's have a drink. And it's near Baltimore if you are in the DMV area. It's near Baltimore. So, yeah, if you're there, you know, come by. Say hi. We're going to have a section. Yeah. Definitely come by and say, what up? That's right. Come through. Have a drink. Let's dance. Let's talk shit.
Let's get to know talk shit let's get to know each other man dance love meeting our sweet talkers man let's do it and i'm not sure what color my hair is going to be on saturday so you know but it it all works that's right hey my folks nk swingers checking in check them out nk swingers check them out the tribe chat these are folks man good good people been a long time since y'all joined welcome back y'all know we're gonna save a seat for y'all right in the front row y'all my folks they say how's everyone doing this evening i'm sure they're checking in with the other sweet talkers but we're fine also we're we're good thanks for sharing no i'm kidding that's right uh one of the sweet talk says that glad we didn't take it personally as far as like do we have a role play no hell no yeah i didn't take a person though no man we only took one thing personally and i was uh they had to get kicked out of the chat room that one oh that one time that one that one time now one time yeah crazy right you had to get kicked out that's right it's all good so who my beautiful sweet talkers my wonderful wife nope i'm going ahead of myself y'all know what it is before we get to any shenanigans the whole party all the sexy stuff and before she comes out of this taste the rainbow shirt i always got to check in so baby how you feeling i'm feeling like adulting much lately kind of like question mark for us because we have been adulting i mean we've been going to a lot of social events um different type of parties and we've been adulting adulting so much that we are becoming a little bit too comfortable in ourselves at home to where um our adult child he comes home from school and we forget um and our friend uh first we had some friends over like weeks before that keep it real and funky man no we had some friends over weeks before that.
and one of them allegedly may have had i know i know i'm just saying may have had some uh fishnet uh see-through boxers that were red right and they were on the table because of course we went into the hot tub nude they were on the patio yeah they were on the patio um table and we went into the hot tub nude. They were on the patio. Yeah, they were on the patio table. And we went into the hot tub nude. So those fishnet see-through boxers had been sitting on the table since then.
And our kid comes home. And I didn't think anything of it. Because it was just like, oh, they'll get it whenever they come back over.
And, yeah, so our kid saw the boxers and moved them them over and i went in there to kind of like tidy up and move some stuff and i realized that the boxers were moved like across the room i was like oh my goodness like she literally saw these red see-through fishnet boxers like what does she think right they are it's like at this point we if we haven't been outed by now we were definitely outed at this point for some freaky shit right like anything could have gone on like could these be locks you know stepdad's uh fucking see-through draws that he left out on his way to getting naked in the hot tub?
Yeah. Hmm. Or uh like Thank you. fucking see-through draws that he left out on his way to getting naked in the hot tub? Yeah. Or, likely answer B, do these belong to another male person who wears fishnet see-through draws and then got naked at some point because they're out and then went to the hot tub. So either way, it's a freaky shit going on Thank you.
draws and then got naked at some point because they're out and then went to the hot tub so either way it's a freaky shit going on and she didn't even ask about it she didn't ask she's just over it yeah I think she's over us she's over it she knows that we some freaky people and she's like you know what fuck it yeah just screw it just leave it so yeah I just think that we forgot it was like not on the top of mind at all until she moved it i will i mean we saw them shits for like a week two weeks like at least two weeks yeah and they were sitting on the table um and someone asked a question about uh taboos in it is on premise yes it is thank you for the person that answered that question it is on premise.
Yep honey spoon how are you hey hey hi guys that's right what's up honey spoon hey and uh duchess chimes in also yes right check out her work that she did with casey carter that's the woman that's right duchess thank you for that it was casey carter that she did the uh the live episode with on that wednesday and it was awesome yeah um. I actually, I caught that one with Locke. And that was great. It was a great episode. Huntsman said, hey, baby, better now. Ah, that's my response. I love that.
I know. Right. So those are the things. And that's how I'm feeling. How are you feeling, Locke? Me?
I'm feeling rejected in the kindest sweetest kind of way i felt relieved but go i'll let you explain i'll tell you i'll tell you guys why i felt relieved after he explained no no don't say that you felt really a little bit i'm gonna tell you why here we go so we went to a party about a week ago yeah about a week ago a week or so ago and uh we're going to tell some awesome stories about that party but it was a lot of people was tremendous it was fantastic uh we met this wonderful couple they were really nice um but we flirted and you know we felt like okay okay maybe we can hang out with them and then you know i run it by tris i'm like tris you know we got access to them in the uh party chat group or whatever so maybe i'll just shoot our shot and see what they see what they say you know see how if we could you know uh start a group chat that's what i wanted to do shot my shot sent the email over or whatever the message over to the to the woman of the group um and she politely in the sweetest kindest way declined and it was okay she just simply said you know you guys are sexy you guys are hot it was fun flirting with you but our dance card is full right everybody knows what that means you know what that means when you hear it when you heard the you hear the term you know right now our dance card is card is full.
You hear that out there here on TV, but actually took a second to Google it, to actually look up the history of dance cards.
So it turns out, I mean, that like in the early 1900s, 19th century or something like that, there was a tradition where people would go to parties and women had a little booklet wrapped around their wrist with like a little pencil where people would um men had to ask them to dance and write your name in the little pencil and then come back at that time you had to wait in line and if your dance card was full that obviously means that i don't have any more room for you buddy sorry sorry there champ wait till next time and i felt relieved i'm gonna tell you why because we never say no to that's not true but no never we don't okay when you always say never is exaggeration but it's majority of the time we don't say no too much uh when it comes to socializing right and the thing is is that our dance card is so full at times and we just keep going and then we end up having all of these things kind of moving basically simultaneously together to where sometimes some people get lost between the the cracks because we literally don't have time to like foster those relationships because we're so busy with all these other things but it's like I really want to talk to these people and I like them but you just don't have time and I felt like when he said that it was kind of like I was sitting here like like kind of like a relief because I'm like yes we have a lot going on when it comes to like just socializing in general yes they're really cool people and i would love to hang out again however we just have a lot going on as well so i was just like kind of like thank you this is like one more thing i have to worry about right now right one less thing one less thing that i have to worry about so that's for me is where the relief came from and actually um i had a conversation with lock and i said that we should be more cautious about saying no yeah at times like it's cool to meet people and i think that is because when you go to these social events you don't always see the same people again so i understand the basis of it um as far as trying to make that contact but sometimes it's it's a lot like to kind of like try to keep up with all of those relationships i mean we do a good job we have a lot of friends and we do a great job as far as like figuring it out but i thought it was a great way to kind of like to yeah it was a nice easy let down and i appreciate and i told her that it was very kind it was very honest and i appreciated it and i'm definitely going to steal it and use it one day but um i want to know this when is your dance card full when it when does and this is to my sweet talkers and if y'all don't know how this works um where ask us anything that's the point of us being live ask us shoot us a question um and we'll respond immediately and we're going to ask you questions so feel free to just respond um so when is your dance car full like when do you know that you're giving uh too much to you know lifestyle friends and when you should say you know enough's enough we're good we got enough friends we have a pretty good social circle we're pretty busy um and uh you know maybe we'll just catch you out and about on the street sometime instead of like really trying to nurture a relationship what do you think trist i think it's when our weekends are double, triple booked because we're trying to split hairs at that point of trying to hang out with this person and hang out with that person at a certain time to where it's just like we should just spread it out and just say, no, we can't do something with a person that weekend so that we're not feeling like we're kind of like being it's fun yeah but it's literally you're exhausted exhausted so it's like how much energy are you really putting into hanging out with people if you're tired because you've hung out three times yeah like with three other people Yeah, it's really tough you have like a young kid too or young kids plural whatever it is because look let's just be real something like four weekends in a month yeah and you're spending two three of them you know with friends and you want to spend some time with your kids and then maybe just have a regular weekend with your wife or your spouse or whatever or just have a weekend to do nothing to do absolutely nothing then you start breaking the weekends down okay friday is open then saturday might be open yes and how about a sunday brunch yes it gets crazy sometimes because you want to do it all but you know we're still learning that balance yeah and then you got to ask okay all right well we played last time with you guys.
guys so this time can we just like do a kid-friendly date you know yeah that kind of thing so it's definitely it's definitely a day a balance and a dance yeah so i guess dance card dance and a swing all of it ah well done you know i did so nk swingers chimes and says lol it was while reading corinne stevens aka superhead where i learned what dance card meant and honey spoon says when you can't balance lifestyle family work and vanilla friends yeah yes and then that too then when you have to put the vanilla friends in so that actually happened to us so we went out we went out did some lifestyle stuff and thought that and we're supposed to go out the very next day and do some more debauchery lifestyle stuff like later on that night so i'm thinking we had this span of time where we hung out you know the night before okay we're gonna have at least these many hours to kind of like chill relax you know not do anything but no we also had to fit in a vanilla birthday party i was like are you kidding me right now yeah we sure did wedge that thing right in between wedged it right on in and i'm sitting here like and this is why we couldn't do the show that sunday because i was like there's no way that i'm doing a show on sunday i was like i couldn't do it we showed up to that birthday party sunglasses and our friend was like aunt and uncle they're like um why do you guys look so tired heathens they're like we don't want to know he was like no you don't want to know.
Heathens, that's why. I was like, nope, you don't want to know. You really don't. Okay. All right. That's how I'm feeling. That's how y'all feeling. We appreciate that. So, baby. All right. Now I can get to my other phrase. Okay. Here we go. My beautiful sweet talkers. My wonderful wife. Are y'all ready to get into tonight's episode?
Let's do it let's go all right ladies and gentlemen thanks for hanging in there we are back for episode 64 and we're talking about the pros and cons of play styles or playing with people who are familiar that you're comfortable with versus play with um newbies new people new experiences new couples or whatever it is right and we came down with like a little bit of a list but we want to know what you guys are thinking and again don't worry we got some sexy shit to tell you it's all good so let's talk about the difference between the two first you know for the sake of conversation people please allow me to break play partners into just two groups i know there's a lot of gray here it's a lot of gray areas but we're having fun and it's so much easier if i could just break it into two just the two groups which are uh familiar again comfortable people you've played with multiple times multiple situations for i guess extending a period of time right versus new people uh somebody you just met at a party someone you just met online something like that right so what is Thank you.
situations for i guess extending a period of time right versus new people uh somebody you just met at a party someone you just met online something like that right so what does that new thing mean again that help me out here tris how did you class how would you classify somebody as like new for you like some again i said somebody that you met at a party or somebody that you met online it also can be new it could be new to the fact that it it could be somebody you already you already kind of socially new and y'all hung out before but the experience that you guys had is new so that could be still considered new because you had this kind of like new experience okay together that maybe you didn't play before okay yeah so somebody you may have like met at a happy hour or you probably you know you probably met them before yeah met them online or something and say okay let's do one date yeah let's do a date we do a happy hour but then you get yourself into that newbie kind of situation where you're kind of familiar with them but this is still your first time yes playing with them yeah okay so yeah all right that makes sense yeah you're like your first time playing with them all right um so i'd put down something like you you have an understanding of the basics of who they are right they're attractive they're not threatening and they down they down the fuck it ain't not crazy and they're not crazy that you know of right or they're just enough crazy that they're not scaring you off you're like yes they can be a little bit yeah you got a little weird with you but i'll still hit it yeah right a little something like that yes and then a long-term friendship is not really required it's somebody you don't have any expectations of being a long-term friend with but those are good that that's besides the point i know which side you fall on okay but i'm saying that's how you would categorize like new okay where a long-term friendship is not necessary yes you know there's some people like that you might run into people like that on a vacation right true yeah you know like okay this is fun for now like this is cool this is great but you know it ends here yeah yes yeah so what about the other side of the coin where you got comfortable We'll be right back.
is great but you know it ends here yeah yes yeah so what about the other side of the coin where you got comfortable what does that look like i mean comfortable could be that we have a relationship um to where we are social swingers what is the social swinger what does that mean to you that we socialize we go on you know we go to dinner like normal people we have drinks right you just get to know each other better and you have a bond that is not like a bond like a relationship per se but just like an understanding yeah of that we can also hang out go out for drinks and go to the movies but you know maybe know, maybe the next time we hang out, I may fuck your brains out.
Nice. And then the next time we go back to, you know, like eating ice cream and watching movies and chilling in our sweatpants. Right. And having that kid-friendly weekend that we were just talking about. And that kid-friendly weekend. Yeah. Exactly. And it's all great. Yeah. So, yeah. And I agree with that.
That social aspect is kind of where we've been for the most part yes majority of our play experiences have been with like repeat offenders repeat offenders that's what we call them it was like i repeat folks like we have our close little circle or our close bubble and most not all not all i was about to say because he's trying to emphasize this most and that's not again yeah no no that's right anything other than that would be an exaggeration yeah it's been most but anyway um so yeah like for social swingers it's kind of like a slow burn it's kind of like you know yeah we'll play or whatever but sometimes especially for tris and correct me if i'm wrong you enjoy the anticipation i do i enjoy the anticipation because it keeps it fresh right if i just know every time i see you that i'm about to smash it's just like okay yeah it becomes robotic okay yeah see now you're getting into what i was talking about as far as like the pros and the cons and we're gonna get to those too so um i have a question for my sweet talkers though um recently we were in the hot tub kicking it chilling hanging out with some folks and some converse in a conversation ensued one of the questions that was dropped out was um your intellectual connection on a scale of one to ten what does that connection have to be for you to engage in to in sex with somebody right to play what does your intellectual connection have to be on a scale of one to ten one being i don't need it at all you know what i mean i intend you know you have to you know start you have to resonate something that you said like resonate like i have to understand you like you you have to read me like we have to i have to get it you know you have to get what i mean understand like my um oh jesus like if i'm insinuating something like you have to be able to pick up on my vibe okay what do you think mine yours i think yours is pretty high man like i wouldn't i wouldn't say that it's, like, intellectual connection.
I think it has to be, it's tied up into a couple of different things, like intellectual and, like, humor. I think those two things are very high on your list. But I would say that your number would have to be probably, like, an eight or a nine. It is. Yeah. I think so, too. Yeah. Yeah. Thank you.
say that your number would have to be probably like an eight or a nine it is yeah i think so too yeah yeah okay so what do you think mine is yeah so y'all don't judge me don't judge me because i yeah he's probably like a three or four okay allow me to explain myself yes please explain explain to the wonderful people you might be correct in certain situations right like no for real yeah like if there if we are like on a vacation and again that that's how i think like the clock's ticking uh you know i don't know where these people are from the the intellectual connection can be pretty low it can be low i don't i don't need to feel you spiritually you know i don't i don't you know what i'm saying i don't need to have that deeper mental connection if i if i understand the circumstances like if the circumstances are like you know you guys are hot we're hot you know what i mean and drinks are flowing and all this and it's like craziness happens but that's not all the time that's not all the time like again if we shifting back to the social aspect social swingers like we put the social hat on and it's like okay we're going out to date these people to see if we like them and you know to see if anything else happens yeah i'd say it's higher than that it's definitely higher than a three or four it would probably be like a seven or an eight y'all see my eyes right why would you do that to me in public why would you play me like i don't know about that really not a seven no i know seven oh eight that's too hot for the social aspect honey like if we're going out on a date you completely playing me for a slut now i mean i'm playing slut is a powerful word we're gonna take that word back i am a slut he is he is let's see sweet talker says that uh a couple of things ohville says that top is fire on you, Trish.
Thank you. Thank you. You had to get that one. Uh-huh. And then it says that both sides of the coin have their advantages. New energy can feel amazing, but also playing with repeat players can mean being comfortable enough to introduce new fantasies and kinks. And we're actually going to get into that. Ooh, I like where you're going. Yes, we're going to get into that. We use the term repeat offenders, too, all the time.
season kinks and we're actually going to get into that yes we're going to get into that uh we used to term repeat repeat offenders too all the time oh goodness and mr honeyspoon says an eight for his intellectual connection but you you're not giving him shit about it because i know you so mean um and also also our friends in New Orleans says about an eight for us as well. Okay. And says that. Swingers help. Oh, yeah, that's right. Check out Swingers help. Check out their website.
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we both enjoy how intellectual connection can lead to a better flirting yes and know how to maximize the physical fun absolutely that's good that's a good way to say it too and honey food says i'm questioning questioning his eight or mine no his eight all right so let's see uh what else we got so we got that part so recently y'all we had two distinctly different uh play sessions or at least opportunities for play you say opportunities that's for tris it was opportunities for you opportunities yes um and then uh right so the first session And we're gonna go into our little details here she's questioning both yours and his number no you know what i'm saying go ahead see trish i mean we're getting bad out here in these streets no i'm telling the truth i know who i'm dealing with man go ahead anyway um the first we decided actually how did this how did this party come up what happened go ahead tell them what happened the party came up because we have a mutual friend that kind of wanted to get into our unicorn friend yes that wanted to do some bdsm um stuff like basically doming um wanted to try out doming and of course lock was like so not here for it like that's just not my thing necessarily to have you doming me however you know we may can find someone else that can kind of help you with that and we did so we found someone else to help out with the um fantasy of doming it was gonna be cold doming so i was going to participate as well which was going to be great um and that would fall into your vibe of being comfortable right right so we had a group of people who have kind of like played together um in different other type of environments but nothing involving like doming well um well no of not sure they press their boundaries also but real quick i'm sorry real quick was that we've played with all of these people before right and we've known them for years and that's the thing that's the comfort part right that was just a little piece that was missing there tris yes so we've known each other for years all of us in one capacity or another and all and we've seen each other naked in all all that good stuff yeah so all Yeah, so all of that good stuff.
So all of that has happened, and I think that that set the tone to be able to kind of, like, discuss. Yeah. So what are you looking for? Kind of just figure out what, kind of how this will play out and what everybody's comfortable with, right? Yeah.
The vibe, the whole vibe was like a small, intimate setting with us two and three other people again one other couple and our single friend who wanted to do the the whole co-doming femdom thing right and it was supposed to be super duper sexy right we we got this whole place all set up um but before we get into that since this is the comfortable space again this is a group of people that we've known for years played with in different capacities and different configurations so everybody's kind of comfortable enough to share that they're down for this thing right they're down and to do this all together and to try this thing together so what are some pros uh one of our new orleans sweet talker they already chimed in but give us some pros to that comfortable space what do you think tris um so i had a i have a new thing guys it's it's not like a new thing it's just a thing i want to try um is that i want to put a collar on a guy here we go guys okay so i know because we started with the whole like you know i want to step on someone right and now there's this other thing that i also want to like add into that i still want to step on another person but there's this other part of that is that i want to put a collar on a guy um with a chain and kind of just boss him around and just have him sitting face like toward, like facing my vagina, but he can't do anything.
He has to just sit there with me holding his chain and he can do nothing but just sit there and stare at it and then when i tell him he can blow it like lightly and then he just has to sit there never inside never blow inside the vagina not inside he blows on the vagina like gently you know and then he does nothing and then he has to listen to me when I tell him no. Yeah. So it's a whole thing of like not letting him touch me, but he wants to touch me and he has to urge. But you can't.
It's that part of it that I want to see how that would turn someone on that when you want to do this thing, but you can't. I love it. So that's a whole nother piece of it, you know, that I'm going to try. Okay. And it looks like you have a volunteer already. Someone has raised their hand. Our friend in New Orleans. And NK Swingers chimes in and says, word, I agree with Locke. That ignorant sex be slapping sometimes. That's right. Thank you.
He didn't leave me out there on the island he appreciates it oh my goodness that's good looking out yes yes but no so that's a pro though that you get to share that kind of fantasy right yes and then i know that you know you're not gonna get freaked out and like run outside or something like that right um that you're just gonna be like okay you know cool i you know i'm okay with that i could try that right so right so one of my bullets was that trust is there you already have this kind of ingrained trust that you know you know them as far as you know them right you know what they've shown you for these past couple of months years whatever it is extended extended period of time you know most of their likes and dislikes and if you don't you're comfortable asking those things yeah because i mean i definitely had to ask some questions and let and also kind of like put down their guard like i'm not going to like i don't know like try to uh stab you or something you know or anything like that you know here's the extreme account of where it will go um and and that's about it i think so i think that helped yeah but i think a lesson learned in this particular setting is that uh communication there can't be too there can't be too much there's no such thing as too much communication so that's something that we had to learn together uh with this other couple that you know we have to keep communicating have to keep sharing answer all the questions that need to be answered yeah but again that comes with that familiarity too that we can make these kind of mistakes and not be killed for it right you know and we could just talk about it and handle it and figure out where you know how did we get off b or whatever you know i'm saying right so and again uh with one of the sweet talkers they said they jumped right ahead and got it that with familiarity you can explore fantasies together and that shit is awesome yes i love that i love the idea of being in a comfortable space with people and being able to say you know what i've never tried a dp are you down or you know somebody saying they're in the mood for a dp and i'm in the room and like they want this thing to be done and you know not to say that this can't happen with a stranger right but let's say it's trish.
Most likely it's not going to be with a stranger. Most likely it's going to be some familiar dick in the room. Yes. Familiar dick is great. You know? So it's those kind of things that I see the benefit of. Like, you can express your fantasies without a fear of, like, rejection. And it's more understood.
Like, um you know you feel less judged in these kind of situations uh and you have the opportunity to just be more vulnerable so real quick what are some of the cons what are some of the like downsides of like um the being with the same people oh it's so it can be too much being comfortable right that you feel like you don't have to put any real effort into the PlayStation. PlayStation? Not PlayStation. Play session. That you feel like you don't have to put much into the play session. Right.
Right. So you kind of get lazy with it and you stop being creative, you know, trying to come up with ways to kind of make it fresh.
i agree with so then it gets kind of still and then you don't want to really play anymore and another one i got is that it could lead to some relationship uh status confusion like uh are we poly now you know if you're not clear if you're not having those conversations or whatever if you're not like on the keeping it on front street you know how you feeling and that you're you know we're dating other people or whatever it is it could get complicated it could get confusing that internal jealousy might come into play yeah you know what i mean if you're not having those conversations um so those are some of the cons so let's tell the wonderful story babe so again we got this message from hallie and was like you know she wanted to do the fem dom thing like the co-doming thing and like Trish said we sourced a suitable sub for the ladies and I was going to play wingman and uh you're gonna be a good wingman I was gonna be a good wingman and keep the wife comfortable and uh let the ladies their thing and maybe participate.
That was some of the conversations, too, because Hallie, you know, while she wants to play that dom role, she still likes to be a sub every now and then. She likes to switch it around and, you know, she likes a good ass slapping. I know you do, too. Yes. Yeah. So that was the plan.
We was going to go in and just kind of wing it and tell tell them about the setup babe so the setup was uh we turned the gym into a sex room basically is what we did the red room the red room it's the red room and turned the lights to be red in that room kind of had candle well not real candles but candles like set up um had the s chair in there massage table we had a table set up with different vloggers different sex toys um nipple clamps nipple clamps and a blindfold blindfold the collar was there so we were ready to like try that's right up these things we were ready we were so ready oh man it was such a sexy sexy night right um so we got our friends the friends came and we said happy birthday to hallie and it was all wonderful and beautiful and then everybody got naked yes got into the hot tub yes and we were chilling and drinking and having conversations about the night and expectations and trying to level set a little bit.
But we realized, again, that a lot of communication had been missed up until this time. But still, everything was getting better. Everything was getting better. And then life happens. Stuff happens. And people get off track. Emotions start to come up.
the party came to a screeching halt right yes it literally did the party it was like you know the dj's playing the music and we're good we're partying we in there yep somebody bumped the table y'all yeah yep everybody's naked and but life happened and the thing about being comfortable and the thing about being a true friend you know lifestyle stuff aside is that this gave us an opportunity to stop address the situation help our friends listen every you know tears were falling hugs group hugs you know what i mean uh back rubs and you know what i mean it was just a little bit of everything just trying to comfort your friends now if you weren't in if we were not in like a comfortable space with people that we really truly care about what would have probably happened oh they crazy and we would have we would have left right like if it wasn't our home like y'all need to handle this yeah you know kind of like oh okay right right and then just been like okay night's over whatever everybody have a good time uh you know try again later and whatever but that comfortability gave us that space to it gave them that figure things out.
It gave us a space to listen and be friends beyond sex. And once we were able to, like, put the issues to bed, everybody was kind of comfortable. People actually had their clothes back on. Like, we were really, really chilling. I thought that it was going to be done. Me too. I was ready for it to just be a chill, vanilla rest of the night. You know, we're going to sit around, joke, and that's it. I was ready to just that, you know, scrap it all. But oh no. So we got this giant beanbag.
It's like a big, giant, eight-foot beanbag that sits right in ridiculous slab in the middle of the man cave it's ridiculous it's wonderful it's fantastic for just such an occasion ridiculous where Tristan and I were kind of laid out on the bean bag and we were just kind of chilling you know snuggled up well I was snuggled up underneath a blanket I was cold I think I was still still naked i was i remained hopeful yes always i remain hopeful always to degenerate always maybe so it's like you know what honey you know what honey spoon i think i'm questioning the night's not over you never know but anyway so we're laid out and then hallie comes in and she's kind of snuggles up in between Trist and myself and um the other couple they come back in and they kind of laid out but everybody's like smiling now okay we're smiling we're laughing we're comfy everybody's still kind of naked underneath their robes and towels and I'm just chilling and then i started feeding off the vibes of uh hallie and um you know start rubbing on her legs and next thing you know start fingering i don't even think i was fingering her to be honest with you um i was just playing around the area and she was just being very very responsive and i would reach over behind her and kind of touch on you to try to hold your hand.
And that energy just started to flow. And I think she stood up and just said, hey, what about massages? Anybody still want to do some massages? Like me? I'll do massage. Here for it. And what'd you say? I was like, yeah. Yeah, that's right. As a matter of fact, I think you were the first one to get up on the table. I was. I was. That's right. That's great.
and what'd you say I was like yeah yeah that's right as a matter of fact I think you were the first one to get up on the table I was I was that's right that's right you were so we went back to the uh the back room and um yeah Trist laid out on the table and had these two brothers kind of just put our hands on you two strong men rubbing you down with the coconut oil. But I'm going to let you tell that part. What did it feel like? It felt great. Go ahead.
Having those heavy hands all over, massaging my derriere, my ass, and my shoulders. It was nice and sensual. and then Thank you very much.
for me to kind of like just try to feel the energy like going through my body but yeah i i like it you know it gets it gets my my uh my clit thumping oh i like that yeah and i had no idea i mean it was cool that you and i got to try it but then we did it again with another person there where there was just multiple hands over you could you just sent could you feel where we were yes yeah yeah it was a lovely massage fantastic massage and then i don't know who went next and what happened next i know that i was up there at some point and i had the three beautiful ladies on me and we have the pictures to prove it oh so hot he's looking at the pictures yeah ma'am and of course it's you know when you're laying on your back and then you have the two women just kind of rubbing rubbing on my my dick and my balls and up my chest and stomach it's just amazing and i'm just throbbing at this point just throbbing just ready ready for action yeah ready for activity so But um miss hallie was also ready i think you were massaging the gentleman right yes you were massaging the gentleman and miss hallie pulled me over to the yes chair and asked me to uh if i was ready and i said yes he was ready to throw it down yep so we laid down uh she laid down on her back and I slid inside of her pretty much down on my knees.
And the thing about the S chair is that it just puts you in perfect position, perfect missionary position. So I was really deep inside of her and I could feel like all of her essence all around me.
And we just was moving and pushing and i don't know man just grinding it was just like a grind from that side it was a lot of moans what did it look like from your perspective it just looked like you were swallowing her from our perspective because we could barely see her and we just heard the moments yeah and what were you doing i was massaging i you know i was trying to stay present in my moment so it was great oh i was massaging his you want to know exactly what sorry guys okay so in his massage um what i was doing for him was just basically giving him what I call like light touches.
So I would take my fingers and just basically like just barely like touch across like his inner thigh of his leg and kind of like go up and down. And then I would do the same thing like around his balls. And he was very responsive to that. That sounds hot. Yeah. Now that Locke wants to tell all my business. There you go. I thought this was this whole thing. It is. We are. We're doing a podcast. I understand. That's it.
And then I saw you kind of like straddling him on like almost look like you were riding his back. Oh, yes. So that part was afterwards. Right. So I was i put so he was sitting on the edge of the massage table at that point and i wrapped my legs around him and and what i was doing was that i was doing the same thing kind of like light touches up and down of his chest and then i would squeeze my thighs oh up against him and then i wouldn't let him go.
And then I would do the same thing like on his like dick and balls. And then I would like let go. Oh, so there was a little bit of BDSM action. Yeah, I guess you could call it that. Yeah. Okay. Okay. A little bit of action there. All right. See, I didn't even know that. Yeah.
You'd be skimpy on the details no i mean i i told you about it i did not know this but anyway anywho it sounds hot i did see you on his back and i saw him like moaning and i could hear that now was hot to me yeah because you thought we were having sex i was like we did not have sex i mean i didn't think in that position you were on his back yeah like you were like literally climbing yeah well i climbed on the front of him too but i still was not having sex all right cool and then you and i connected um which was super hot because you were like kissing hallie across you guys were like opposite sides of the yeah opposite sides of the massage table and you guys were like kissing and then uh I caught up because I couldn't take it no more and I got behind you I don't want to massage no more yeah no I want to stick my dick in a hole that god I'm just kidding Jesus it wasn't like that but you was couldn't take it anymore.
Yes. I wanted to connect with my wife. You did. And I did. And I came behind you, and then Hallie came around. And actually, I didn't even get inside you. I had a very specific request. You did. I asked for Hallie to insert me inside of you. Mm-hmm. That was sexy. And I think she found that very sexy as well. Like the look on her face was just like, Oh, wow. You know, she was like, I could definitely do that for you. Yeah. And she did it. And it was so sexy.
And she was just kind of rubbing me and holding me while I was hitting it from behind hitting you from behind. She was just moaning. And then I would slap her on the ass really hard. And she would moan again.
And then I would slap her on the ass really hard and she would moan again and then i would slap you on the ass really hard and it was super super sexy and then i was trying to do too much yep trying to do too much trying to do too much trying to live my best porn star life and i broke the rhythm of you and i having sex he did and tried to bend her over and get a condom and try to have sex with her and then doggy style is not quite her thing and then it got a little awkward and it was like oh i done fucked up yes i done fucked up he definitely did trying to live my best points all life he was trying to do too much in that moment way too much and it it did killed the rhythm he killed the rhythm killed the vibe and i't tell him right then.
I guess, you know, it's still an experience, right? I feel like there's also a time and a place for it. So it wasn't a thing where it needed to be this dramatic thing that we needed to talk about it right then and there. But we did have a discussion the next day.
And I kind of brought it up to him in a way that, you know, it being a lifestyle, we talk about, you know, you have to communicate with your spouse and tell them what you want and tell them things that if you don't like something and just communicate, communicate. But sometimes it's hard to hear from your partner certain things, right? So I kind of gently led into the conversation.
And I was like know last night was great because it was it was a great night um however um there was a moment where i felt like you did not necessarily you know we should have kind of like kept going and meet my needs in that moment um and it my needs weren't met in that moment and it was kind of like an afterthought like oh okay let me finish this out and i was and but it had already broke the rhythm of what was already happening so you couldn't just come back into that and kind of get back into where you were sure because it was broken broken so i've told him that you know in the future we should be cautious about that i understand there are so many things going on in the room and and everybody's kind of like you know all over the place which because you're horny you're trying to like do stuff but however we're having that connection moment that we need to finish that out and not break it to you know kind of like to cater some to someone else someone else yeah no absolutely and to be honest with you again you were 100 right my stomach sank down to my feet when you when you mentioned it I felt awful um and there's no excuse except no excuse but what I was doing again was just trying I was trying to be too much I saw all this ass and i had a vision of like again porn star i was trying to be my best porn star and it was just like you know sex and oh my god these two hot women are right here for me and ready and and i just did way way too much and again and it was just i broke our rhythm and i i definitely regret that and we talked about it and um and i and i asked you to just make sure that you feel comfortable whenever i don't care when tell me what you need from me you know what i'm saying this is no by no means your fault this is 100 on me but i want you to feel comfortable like you tried to spare me um by you know talking about it later which was very classily done but i feel like i should be receptive in the moment as well to whatever you need you know what i'm saying so if you say you know babe i want to snuggle over here i i want you to know that i'll do that with you you know what i mean absolutely i'll definitely do that with you and i and that i i yeah i messed up i messed up bad it was a great night though guys i don't want to like end it like oh my gosh like no no but because it wasn't that dramatic when we talked about it it was just like you know hey this is this is how i felt it wasn't it wasn't a bad conversation you weren't threatening at all it was just like hey man you know what about me don't yeah I wasn't done yet yeah you know that kind of thing you know so you know what guys I'm I know we're cutting into this story but we are going to have to do the next part of this on another show because I don't want to cut that part short because I was going to keep going we're not going to keep them on the live show for another hour to talk about it's not gonna be another uh a strap-on dick and that's a fun party it is a but i want to do it justice is what i'm saying this next part that we're going to talk about is it's a lot of little segments that happen i don't want to rush through it and there is literally a dick a strap-on dick and yeah a whole shower there's a whole thing that happened that i just don't want to just cut into it all right so i'm saying all right so that means you're ending the show no well let's get to you talking about i just don't want to get into the second portion of it that's where we was going oh well that was that was yeah we're not going to get done with that in a minute okay all right but trust me guys you don't want to hear it all right sweet talkers then uh it looks like we're gonna have to break this into two episodes, y'all.
That's what comes with the live show, right? Sometimes we got to call audible. We ran a little too long. We wanted to make sure we give you all the saucy details. So I guess we got to give you the rest next time. Yes. And yeah, someone says cliffhanger, but Hey, make sure you get that. Uh, let's get that, um, that comment right there. We didn't get this one from our new Orleans friends. Okay. You can become comfortable.
Oh, you can become so comfortable that people forget that consent is still necessary. That's what. Yes. Even if you're done, if you've done that before. So that's actually a good thing that I'm going to write that down for the next show, because that's a part of the conversation that happened at this party at the next part. Right. Because I had to make sure that, hey, yeah, we know you guys. But we had to kind of like, you know, redo the consent to make sure that you're good. Write it down.
Yeah. And then Duchess Cashmere chams in and says, it sounds like sensation play to me. Yes, it was. Yeah. All the light touches. We love that.
And then, yeah, someone sayshanger it is definitely it's definitely a a must um like so yes sorry for the cliffhanger but um we're gonna make sure we get back to y'all as soon as we can and we're going to finish out this sexy story um and we're going to talk about the other side um what happens or the pros and cons of dating somebody new or having sex with newbies new people in your life what's that like what are some of the good and the not so great sides of it so we're going to finish that conversation sometime soon y'all always as always we want to say thank you to all of our sweet talkers thanks to a lot of new people that joined in today and thanks for all of the conversation we really appreciate you guys bye again we'd like to thank you for living a sweet life with us to everyone who couldn't join us live in the suite check out our podcast on itunes stitcher spotify google play and iheart radio be sure to subscribe rate and review feel free to email us at living the sweet life podcast at gmail.com you can also follow us on instagram at the sweet life podcast and on twitter at sweet life pod don't forget to subscribe to us on our youtube channel at living the sweet life podcast so that you can be a sweet talker the next time.
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