Welcome to the world of dating, where love, laughter, and adventure await. Join host AC Maxwell as he delves into the fascinating world of dating, offering a unique perspective on the dynamics between different types of partners. In today's episode, AC will explore what it's like to date a vanilla lady versus dating a swinger female, and share his personal preference for the type of partner he prefers to date.Dating a "vanilla lady" refers to someone who is open-minded and adventurous, but may not be actively participating in the swinging lifestyle. AC will share his insights on what its like to navigate the ups and downs of a relationship with someone who is not familiar with the swinger scene. From the initial attraction to the challenges of navigating different expectations, AC will provide valuable advice on how to make it work.On the other hand, dating a swinger female offers a different dynamic altogether. AC will delve into the unique challenges and opportunities that come with dating someone who is actively involved in the swinging community. He will shed light on the benefits, such as shared sexual experiences, open communication, and a shared understanding of boundaries. AC will also share his personal experiences and what he has learned along the way.As an open-minded individual himself, AC will share his personal preference when it comes to dating. He will discuss the qualities that he finds attractive in a partner, both in and out of the swinging lifestyle. From chemistry and compatibility to shared values and common goals, AC will give his take on what he considers important in a fulfilling relationship.
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Welcome to the Swinging Single podcast, a platform for sharing the unique perspectives of A.C. Maxwell. As your host, I will take you on a personal journey through the ups and downs of my years as a swinging single male. Please note that while my experience will undoubtedly provide valuable insights, it is essential to understand that my views may not be aligned with yours.
My story begins with the departure from traditional path of marriage and commitment as a young vibrant individual i embrace the freedom and opportunities that came with being single this decision propelled me on a journey of self discovery exploration and personal growth and we are here for another edition of the swinging single podcast i. I'm your host, A.C. Maxwell, coming to you recorded from the Upside Down Pineapple Studios here in the lovely city of Houston, Texas. Well, sometimes lovely city of Texas. And we got a doozy of a show for you.
Today, I'm going to talk about, as a single, you got a date. Well, I'm going to talk about as a single you got a date well i'm going to talk about dating vanilla versus dating a swinger single woman because there are very very big differences as you would know and you know my uh let's say my uh audience is well educated and well uh um-adverse in this topic, I guess. I don't know what the hell I'm saying, but I am going to have a discussion about this because I thought it was a very good discussion topic to come up with. I was supposed to have my Mr.
Podcast Producer was supposed to be here today, but he has a business elsewhere, so I'm on my own.
I want to see a group of men together you know single men not guys who are married guys who are in a couple i want the perspective of the single guy and i want to have a round table with these gentlemen so if you're out there you want to you can do it by zoom you can come into the upside down pineapple studios give me a call or email me at swinging single podcast at gmail.com get me on twitter swinging single m uh get me at tiktok at swinging single podcast i'm all over so you know you can find me if you want to all righty so in all my years as a swinger and doing all that lovely stuff that i love to do you know that type of sex is very fun and all that i have dated both vanilla women which is kind of you know what is a vanilla you know it sounds like a boring type of person but it really isn't uh i don't know about you but i don't consider someone who's vanilla boring now i see on tiktok that they are going to that term analogy where the person that the person says that is boring, the partner is, you know, boring.
But to me, it's not. It's just that means you're not in the lifestyle. And I came upon as I was doing my research of a couple that does a podcast and all that so i want to go over there as we have been before and go and listen to their tiktok this is i gotta give them credit life of spice uh they're on tiktok life underscore of underscore spice and i thought they really tackled this definition very well Thank you. Thank you. Bye-bye. And I thought they really tackled this definition very well. What does the term vanilla mean in the lifestyle?
Vanilla would be referring to someone that does not participate in the lifestyle. We have a lot of really cool vanilla friends that we call them vanilla spice.
I was just going to say, gonna say or vanilla all right so you heard it someone that does not participate in the lifestyle and i agree with them i don't like calling other people uh that are not in my lifestyle anything negative because what am i doing is pretty negative to them so you know you just don't want to bring that bad karma that bad juju on you so you know they're vanilla so what they don't want to fucking have threesomes orgies and gangbang stuff like that they don't do that kinky shit like that you know maybe they do public sex but i don't know so they were saying that it's someone that does not participate in the swinging lifestyle even have a special name for them uh cute little name vanilla spice is always nice that's uh uh that'd be a good little fucking name to have on one of your profiles if you are a vanilla person or vanilla swirls that's awesome i think that's pretty funny too and all that so you know when you're talking about vanilla we're not really saying it as a negative so if you're vanilla don't think it is that we're talking to you about a negative uh.
We're just saying that we have to distinguish who is for, who's game and who's not game. And, you know, like everything else in the world, we all have what they call it labels. I remember when I first started swinging, there was two labels, full swap, soft swap. And that was it. There was no you're this or that.
There's no hot wife and no stag vixen cock holding no nothing like that uh bbc uh queen of spades stuff like that there was none of that it was just like all right you show up to the club you want to fuck let's go fuck and all that and that was great and now as we get older we got you know ac has to change the times so now i gotta adjust and figure out all these different terminologies vanilla i heard a long time ago so i'm familiar with vanilla the other terms you know that this non-ethical ethical non-monogamy thing and all that stuff poly and all that that stuff is getting new to me so i'm trying to educate myself in that vanilla swirls because they might not participate but they're very open-minded they're very supportive party or something you tell them all your spicy stories yeah so we love our open-minded accepting vanilla friends i'm sure you all have them or are one so that's pretty cool now finding people that are accepting of your lifestyle is very tough and And if you have, I'm going to tell you, if you have a friend that you said, hey, man, me and my wife, we like to go to clubs.
We add other people into our marriage. We swap partners and all that. And they're like cool and they're down for you and they're still your best friend. Those are people you are worth keeping around.
So don't lose those people no matter what always keep them around always include them and all that if they ask questions answer your questions honestly if they don't ask questions do not i repeat do not force the stuff on them because you know what if i was it was the other way around where my best friend was a swinger i would be okay no great i'm gonna love you no matter what you just you know you know keep that stuff away from me i'm happy me and my wife we're happy all right it's when you start pushing that stuff on people that it gets to be annoying and sometimes you know some people don't want to have your some guys don't want his wife fucking other women or men and some women don't want their husbands fucking other women and all that.
So, you know, you just got to remember that couples, even vanilla, need to be respected. All right? So let's start respecting everybody and everyone's going to have a great time. Sure. That says vanilla spice. Oh, yeah. And that's a hit because it'll be spicy. Yeah, people are always giving that to their supportive vanilla friends if you're a supportive vanilla friend shout out to you alright so they're doing it the right way they're allowing their friends to know about their life which I don't agree with I not going to tell my best friend.
I think only one dude that I ever out that I had friends, a friendship with ever knew I was a swinger. Everyone else, they don't know. I don't talk about it with them. Um, if I saw him at a club, it's going to be a different story, but I had never seen any of my friends at a different club yet. So, uh, we're good on that.
But like I said, I'm not really open to telling everybody my business they are and that's fine that's their life they live it i'm not judging them and i'm happy for them they look like a happy couple very good looking couple so they probably do very well but you know i'm trying to keep my lifestyle as much discreetly as possible so you know they're open to allowing their vanilla friends to know about their lifestyle, which is great. I think that's pretty cool. Now let's get back to the topic at hand.
There is how I get asked, how do I find women that are willing to swing and how does it all come about? I them it's all organically i don't not when i go on tinder or bumble or plenty of fish or okcupid i always wrote in my ad that i'm a swinger and i go to the clubs and all that i would get women who would just look at my pictures and click yes and start talking to me. And I always say, did you read my ad? Please go back and read my ad. Because let's face it, no one reads a damn ad anymore. They just look at the pictures and if they thank you, they get a little moisture down there.
They're going to click on you and say, yes, I want to hook up with you. So I have them read my ad and usually what they do, they either say, oh, I'm not into it. No, thank you. Or they unmatched me and they're gone automatically or they have some questions about it or they're swingers themselves and they're looking for, you know, a hookup or something like that. Now, have I found anyone to have a relationship with?
Yes, I have found multiple women that I would have a relationship with that were swinging or swingers have i found vanilla women that would swing with me yes i have found those two so i had luck doing both of those uh vanilla and uh swinger women so you know you join the websites you join sls if you in the Northeast, you're Florida, SLS swing lifestyle.com is pretty good. It's good for you. SDC is good for you here in Houston. Quiver is here. Good for Houston. Cassidy is a West coast website. Now all these websites are regional. There's really no, not one national website other than Tinder.
Now there's a lot of swingers going on Tinder, so you can go on there too now. That's relatively new. Goddamn, I can't even say that word. And Bumble and all that. Bumble is a little tougher because the woman has to email you first, and that gets tough sometimes. So I always recommend joining one of those sites. Now, do I recommend emailing couples? If you're looking for a partner, don't email couples. If you're trying to get laid, fine, then do it. But you can on your spare time.
But to find a female partner in the lifestyle, you are going to have to be almost 100% dedicated, spending all your time doing that. Because there's going to be a lot of you know 90 you might send 100 emails out 99 of them are not going to respond but the one might all right so with that you have to be very patient if you're on the swinger website once you if you are on a vanilla let's say tinder or of fish, and you are honest with people, you will find women that either, one, are very curious about the lifestyle, two, are in the lifestyle already.
And three, the ones that you don't want don't have anything to do with it, which is fine. Okay, they don't want to have anything to do with it. You move on with your life your life she moves on with your life so when i sign up for tinder and all that i always talk about i'm a swinger and i'm looking for just friends i don't sit there say i'm looking for you to swing with me because you never know i have met vanilla women who had no clue about swinging that would eventually come in and want to swing want to have that fantasy of two guys and all that. And, you know, AC is a pleaser.
So I'm down for helping them out. So let me see if there's any good stories. So I'm get on Tinder for the very first time. I'm on a, on a dating website and I'm talking and I'm finding, I'm striking out left and right.
Then finally I get this one lady a beautiful brunette and i'm talking and i'm finding i'm striking out left and right then finally i get this one lady beautiful brunette and i couldn't believe she um what are the what did they call the instance dm you i thought it was instant message but it's dm direct message she directed message me and she taught her talking to me about swinging i was like wow this is kind of weird because this is a vanilla website. This is not SLS. It's not SDC. This is not Quiver. This is a vanilla website. So she's talking to me about it.
And I'm kind of hesitant to talk to anyone anymore. When I meet, when I talk to someone, I match up with someone. I don't tell them about the clubs. I don't tell them about where they're at and all that stuff, because this is what happens. A lot of times they're just digging for information so they can go to the club. Now, if you want me to be your teacher, you better let me be your teacher where you go with me. Cause you know, I'd love to have a partner to go to a club with and, you know, get that cheaper rate and all that.
But with that being said, I'm also not a sucker and you get a lot of those uh people like that so she's talking to me i'm a little hesitant you know and talk about it so i put in like i said in past episodes i have the 48 hour rule what that means is so say like you messaged me on thursday we have to meet by saturday if we don't meet past saturday then it's a no-go for me because i'm i don't want to waste my time another thing is are you legit are you for real and there's a lot of fakes and we all know there's a lot of fakes out there look at the swing light come on swingers we all know that you get ghosted no one has never been been not ghosted.
Who has never been ghosted? Email me at the swinging single podcast at gmail.com. I want to hear your story because I will say you are one of the very lucky few people that have never been ghosted. Even the hottest of hot women, hottest of hot couples, hottest of hot single dudes have all been ghosted in this lifestyle. Like I always said before, it's the fantasy. The fantasy is a lot better than the reality. All right? So I'm talking to her. She's fucking sending me pictures. And I'm like, damn, she has three kids, which I don't really care about. That's not my problem.
I don't mind dating and marrying someone with kids. It's no big deal.
At my age, especially now, it's really no big deal because everyone in my age, if I'm dating someone, I don't mind dating and marrying someone with kids it's no big deal at my age especially now it's no really no big deal because everyone in my age if I'm dating someone I don't you know I don't sit there I'm not like one of those douchebaggery guys where I want to date married someone who's 25 or something like that I like women my age or older you know and I'll tell you why but she's emailing me sending me pictures and she's fucking gorgeous brunette curly hair I love curly hair on a girl a lot of people don't she didn't like it on her but i love that like just keep your hair curly baby we're good and all this so and she's got a fucking nice romp and all that her tits are nice i'm like wow and she's like i'm and she's a swinger so i'm really like i'm like this is too good to be true so i for within 48 hours she's she agrees to meet me on a sunday we go meet at a bar and all that still you don't know she's going to show up because you never know what's going to happen so i we make a we make a decision back and it's in detroit so we go to a bar we go to an irish pub and lo and behold she shows up this beautiful brunette uh shows up and i'm like wow i'm like this is awesome because now she's real now i know she's real she ain't fake she ain't uh what is that what do they call catfishing she ain't catfishing me so now we got to figure out is this girl for real is she a swinger does she like fucking and all that so we're just talking now i'm gonna be a fucking gentleman i'm not because she's fucking beautiful i'm like and i i wish i could show pictures of her but she was very beautiful i still i don't have pictures of her anymore which sucks but she is so beautiful to me I'm like I'm not gonna fuck this up I'm going to put my fucking a-game on this woman I'm gonna make this woman fall in love with me and we're gonna be swinging happily ever after and all that so I'm sitting there talking to her I'm giving my best rap making sure the is flowing.
She's really into me because I can do manly stuff. She says guys her age are just fucking, because she was younger than me, guys younger than her are just, you know, the millennial guys are just not her type. They don't, they're not manly. They don't know how to change a tire. They don't know how to do anything manly. And she's like, she liked the fact that I was, I was working at Ford Motor Company, I'm building cars and she really got off on that. So I was like, yes. So I'm in like Flint. So, you know, we talk, we have a good dinner. We talked for three, four hours. She has to go back home.
She got to go pick up her kids. No problem.
Give her a nice fucking nice fucking kiss and when i kissed her it was excellent you know she's good mouth the tongue ratio inside me and inside her we were it was like we were meant to be all right so we're sitting over here i'm thinking fuck hopefully it is she texts me so she texts me back and she does i text her thanking you for meeting me i really hope we get together and all that and we decided to get together again now when we get together again it's for dinner am i trying to fuck her i want to fuck the shit out of her but i want to go slow for her so because i don't know she i met her on vanilla site i met her on a vanilla site i think plenty of fish i met her on there that's a vanilla site that's not a swinger site maybe now it is uh but no it's not so i'm worried about the vanilla side is she really saying this just to hang out with me or is she really down for uh the fuck dtf is she into threesomes and all that so we decided to meet up again and i take her out to dinner get all dressed up she's all dressed up she's all slutty dressed up she's got a mini skirt on no fucking panties on and i could feel her pussy under the table she's letting me feel her pussy under the table and she's fucking soaking wet so we're eating and we decided to call it the night because you know she has to get back to her kids she has three kids her fucking husband is nowhere around whatever it is the ex-husband's nowhere around so you know we still got 30 minutes i'm like you know well you know let me play with your pussy and she agreed and i'm and i'm fingering her pussy i'm you know getting her all rouse of fucking she's wet as a fucking niagara falls and she becomes a gusher she starts squirting all over my fucking uh leather seats and all that and she's coming and her dress is drenched from the bottom to all the way up to her pussy or ass crack and all that because all the water that she's squirting out is coming back onto her so she's soaking in there and we're we're in the parking lot i'm just making her come and i'm making sure that she remembers me that my ability to make her come is seared into her brain so when she decides who she's going to let inside of her it's going to be ac it's not going to be no other dude it's going to be me so i do that for the 30 minutes that were there take a break let her calm down get her going again and man it was all over the place she would squirt and i this was one of my very this is um this is my early encounters with squirters you know my first encounter was at an orgy party and the girl squirted down my face I don't know.
of my very this is um this is my early encounters with squirters you know my first encounter was at an orgy party and the girl squirted down my face but this was one of my very first one girlfriend that i knew could squirt that would become my girlfriend so this is good i met her on a vanilla site worst case scenario now is that i fuck her we have sex we might not have any kinky sex but we might have sex so you know days go by the weekend comes up her kids are going off to the ex-husband and she wants to go she initiates me she says let's go to a club i'm like all right let's go you sure you mean what type of club you mean like a dance club she goes let's go to a swimmer I'm like, all right, let's go.
You sure? You mean what type of club? You mean like a dance club? She goes, let's go to a swinger club. And I go, okay, no problem. Now, we're in Detroit. There's really no swinger club. There are swinger clubs, but they're off-premise. And off-premise means that there's no rooms or anything like that. You just meet, you go to a hotel. Fuck that. I don't want to do that. I want to make sure she goes to a great club. So we go to Cleveland.
And there's a couple clubs there override the flats in cleveland and i took her there it's on premise we meet someone we find people we fuck and have a good time so we go to a weekend well actually not a weekend it was a saturday we left saturday afternoon takes us two hours to get to cleveland from detroit excuse me and we go to the club i can't remember i think it was fuck i can't remember what the name of the club has been so many years so all good she shows up saturday at my house i we drive my mustang convertible to oh, Cleveland, and we have a great time. We get to the club still.
So I had success meeting in the vanilla world into the Swingers Lifestyle. Now, that means you can also have success dating in vanilla. And my advice would be to you, as I would say, dating in vanilla is going to be controversial. I know. So don't get all pissed off. Don't be banging on your cell phone right now. I prefer to date vanilla women over single swinging women.
The reason why is I just don't think vanilla women go in with a clear mind a blank canvas so if you could find a vanilla girl who would go with you to the club and actually understand what swinging is all about i would take her over a woman that has been to the clubs before who has been in the lifestyle for a while because their canvas is dirtied up not a bad dirty i'm just saying this is it's just saying i'm it's it's been painting over over and over again the vanilla canvas is free and you could put your stamp on it now a lot of guys don't know how to get a vanilla girl into the lifestyle because they become too gung-ho.
All right, Missy says, let's go to a club. All right, let's go to any club. You can't not take your girl to any club. All right, we'll talk about that later.
But going back to I would rather date vanilla women over single swinging women, even though i'm a swinger is because of the fact that vanillas have a clean slate and all that i know it's very controversial i could already hear fucking single women bitching and saying oh yeah whatever and all that listen ladies i will still date a single swinging woman i just have a preference i know what i want i'm not the problem i have with single swinging women is when you do meet them they have been had their ass kiss so many times this is controversial i know i already hear it fucking couples oh that's just bullshit it's not bullshit couples walk in and they see a single woman and they tell her everything she wants to hear so they can fuck her so they can get her in bed that's the golden child that's the golden goose that's the everything that's the gold medal that's like lending 10 gold medals in one olympics they are the crim of the crim the prize of the prize and when a single woman gets told every time she goes out with swinger other swinging couples how great she is she's fucking her personality is great she's so funny and all that it gets into their head now i know as a veteran that a lot of times these couples will say that to get you in bed it's just like guys girls we will say a lot of shit to get in bed.
You know that. Remember, go back to when you were single. How many guys told you, oh, you're so beautiful. You're so funny. Women are not funny. I'm sorry. Girls, I already know this is pissing you off. You're not funny. Men are funny. It's in our DNA. That's why when women are funny, they're manly-ish. All right? Look it up. Heartbreak Kid. Ben Stiller. Jerry Stiller.
He said it best best go back and watch that movie all right so these women start the swinger swinging swingle swinging single females start buying into all this bullshit now you might be beautiful but is your personality do you have a great personality can i talk to you about anything uh if we have a disagreement are we going to be able to be adults and just say we were disagree and enjoy because that's what i because i love politics i love sports i love religion and all that i love talking about all this stuff and if you can't have a conversation with someone how the fuck are you going to have a relationship with anybody i'm not going to kiss your ass just to be with you a relationship is a relationship it's 50 50 it's give and take you got to compromise anybody in the marriage knows that you got to compromise you just can't have it your way and I think a lot of times when single women in the lifestyle have been single for a long time they get so used of having everything their way that when they finally find a man it's just tough for them to give up that uh independence and which they should they should give it up because it's better to be a couple than it is i'm i'm saying it's better to be a couple i wonder how much pussy i missed out on because i'm single guy because i go with friends i go with girlfriends i have dates these clubs and the funny thing is when i'm there by myself no one wants to talk to me Thank you.
Like I said said this is my perspective this is my view if you don't like it go start your own podcast all right so i like i said my only problem with swinging swinging single females is that the fact that they have kind of been um i don't know what the hell you would call it what's that word i'm trying to think of it's right there off the top of my my tip of the tongue i can't remember but oh well but you know they come used to a certain way of doing things i always tell every when i would meet a single woman that's in the lifestyle i don't want to change you there's no nothing i want to change about you all i ask is that you take me into consideration because now if you have two people you're fucking some dude you know and i know girls they don't they don't like condos just as much as dudes they won't wear one and next thing i know i'm getting fucking sipless or kind of rear fucking air something else because she just wants to fucking bear back some dude at the club so you know when you are swinging you got to take the health of your partner into consideration whenever you fuck someone and that is very dangerous and I always tell I always tell girls 99.9 percent of the time is a guy there that you want to fuck it's going to be yeah let's go let's i'll watch i'll participate whatever there's that 1.0 percent 0.01 percent that i'm going to say no because I know the guy.
I know he's not to be trusted and I know he ain't clean. But, you know, sometimes girls see that as controlling. I don't want to control you.
All I want you to do is be a good person to me, treat me well, respect me, respect my decisions and all that and you and we'll be fine but i think for swinging single women it's still it's a little difficult because like i said they had their asses kiss so many times so many years that it's not going to you know work out i want someone there to kiss my ass and you know if you know me ac you know i'm not someone's going to kiss your ass i already told couples i don't chase couples around anymore i'm too old for that shit i'm here you want my dick come and get me sit on my face i'll lick your pussy until you come i'll eat your asshole i'll fuck the shit out of you and i'll send you out back off to hubby happy as a you know happy as a cucumber but i'm not gonna not gonna kiss your ass So, you know, happy as a cucumber, but I'm not going to, not going to kiss your ass.
So, you know, vanilla women are just, to me, more fun to hang out with because they are not, you know, diluted with all that information. They are a blank canvas. all right so so how do i have success in the novella in the novella the vanilla world to bring them in well you know i think it said this woman said his best and i'm gonna play her on tiktok and i think she said it best. Okay. Women on these shows, I don't know. It's for me, it's really clear that they haven't even mastered vanilla dating.
Because had they mastered vanilla dating, which means basic understanding, vetting processes, if they understood that, they would probably pick different partners and all right so you hear that she is not talking about swinging at all she's just talking about regular dating and i thought this was a great point to be able to pull a vanilla woman into this lifestyle, you have to have mastered the vanilla dating world. You have to be able to be honest with yourself, be real with yourself and be able to bring that experience to the vanilla world.
now how do i get successful in the vanilla world and bringing in women to the clubs and having threesomes with them and having partnerships with them it's very simple i don't ever bother them with it one thing the only way i talk about swinging with any of these vanilla girls is if they ask me about it i never say hey i'm going to a club you want to come with me i don't bother them with it i don't do anything with it because you know what the ones that will answer my ad on any of the dating sites in the vanilla world they will ultimately know i'm a swinger they will ultimately ask me about it and they will ultimately get curious about it because I do believe a lot of women would be curious about going at least once you know going once with someone it could be a lot just as much as one is going all the time some of the best times I have with women that were into it they weren't into necessarily fucking other guys partner swapping with other couples they were all about you know watching people fuck and fucking in public and those are some of the best nights at a club i i ever had in my life not the ones where you know you fuck a bunch of women and you know and all that and you go home by yourself but it was what with them you have hang out you dance you talk to other people you watch someone fuck you go fuck and have a bunch of people watch you those have been some of the best nights that i had in swinging so i don't sit there and beg them to go i don't talk about it i let them ask and they always 900 of the time the ones that are willing to hang out with me out you know at a bar go to dinner go to sporting events they will ultimately ask me about it they will either decide then and there what they're really doing they're deciding that they're gonna if they're go or not.
Because I find out a lot of women do or would if, you know, I think it's societal norms is what stops a lot of women from acting out on their fantasies. Like most of the women I know, their fantasies are male, female, male threesomes, not female, male, female threesomesomes most of them are over two guys and you'll see that on online on tiktok on youtube and stuff like that where they talk about they want to get fucking tag teamed by some dudes so knowing that i just lurked there waiting for them to come to me now do they come to me? What if they never come to me?
Well, then it hasn't happened. But if it does happen, I don't bother with it. I just so I can move on with my life, find someone else. There's someone else coming up. When one door closes, gentlemen, another door opens. So I don't get, you know, all angry and all that stuff if they decide, well, I'm not don't want to have any friendship with you anymore. That's fine. But I love dating more in the vanilla world than in the swinging world, because I just think that these girls have a blank canvas.
You can the painter you can paint them any way you want in a good way don't manipulate these women because if you do you're gonna fuck yourself and you're gonna fuck up everything you work for so if i all right so let's fast forward say i like this girl says i meet a girl on a vanilla website and she says let's go or even fuck shit meet her at a bar or anywhere always be open to meeting people anywhere i met a girl uh damn i think it was 2010 i was at a houston texas game one of my very first one i met her we went together i had an extra ticket so i said hey man uh you want to come uh houston texans they're pretty good you know they got andre johnson and all that bullshit i think it was the year of the fight with the the tennessee titan dude but i don't know i can't remember so i talked to her tell her go i just want to tell you something at half it was at halftime i told her go listen i just want to, listen, I just want to let you know I'm a swinger.
I really like doing the swinging lifestyle. I'm not asking you to do it. I just want to, you know, I really like hanging out with you. You've been fun. You've been asking all these questions about football and all that stuff. And you're in your game to do stuff. And I just want to let you know. Well, we go home. We drive home.
She's fucking 10,000 questions all that and you know she grabs my hand puts her finger puts my hand down her pants and i'm fucking fingering her driving uh down up 45 then you know when we get to her house she pulls my pants down and blows me in their parking in their driveway so it's you know you just don't know you don't know who you're gonna meet and i met her out fuck what did i meet i met her out at a hooters when i was getting my order and then she's a nice thick blonde girl and i was like yeah you know i'm new in town uh can i get your number yeah and we hit it off so that was that so always be open to meeting everyone so okay let's go back you want me to meet these people I have a vanilla girl she's now I was that.
So always be open to meeting everyone. So, okay, let's go back. You want me to meet these people. I have a vanilla girl. She's now interested in going. I said, that's great. So we got to find a place to go. Gentlemen, if you want her to stay in swinging, you do not take her to a cheap ass swinger party. You find a club that is fucking top-notch classy. And when I mean classy, they look like they cleaned the place. Their toilets are clean. It looks like they mopped and all that.
The playrooms don't look like they have used condom wrappers all over the place and used condoms laying around everywhere make sure the place is top-notch if you have to leave the city to go to one go do it because if you take her to like a fucking smoochies or fantasy land you know those type places you might freak her out now you might not freak her out but chances are you probably will because she is very new and the very first time she gets a bunch of zombies following her so take her to a place where there's not a lot of single dudes all right yes as a single dude i will say sometimes we are overbearing we push too much so keep it mike where maybe it's a couple's only night.
All right? Especially if she's, you know, very new. She has never done anything like this before. Not even in college. She didn't even experiment in college. So do that. So find a great club to go to. Do not, I repeat, fucking go to a scummy hole-in-the-wall club. Because you will never, ever get her to go again. Because she's going to think every club is like that. Thank you.
fucking go to a scummy hole in the wall club because you will never ever get her to go again because she's going to think every club is like that because that's what she hears from her friends that's what she sees on tv that's what she sees on those pornos all right you got to fight that negative stereotype of swinging uh right off the bat so take her to a nice place if you got to go out of time town go out of town there are some great clubs you know tpc is a great club to take someone it's not dirty it's clean and all that they keep it well south is south tpc south is a great place to go it's very new modern and all that so that might be a good place colette's uh go on a saturday colette's depending if they have a party it's a great place to go same thing it's all clean and all that nice and big tng same thing you know the music's way too fucking loud in tng but it's clean and it looks like it's a fucking respectable place and it's got and it's nice you know and all that if you go out of check all the reviews, go on a swinger website, find out any reviews you get from anybody else because this will help you out.
So if she decides you're going to be lucky and that she's going to go with you, make sure you go to a great place. Also, two, communicate. What do she want to do when she's there? She might just want to watch. She might just want to sit and watch the people on the dance floor. She might not want to go in the back to the back rooms. Do not get upset if she decides you're there and you're having a great time. You're talking to all the other couples and all that. And she says, no dice, no good. I'm not doing nothing with no one.
Do get upset i have seen so many dudes i was at tpc hempstead i think it was like a couple weeks ago and there was a couple there very good looking white lady and a very handsome black guy they were there she was blowing them in the uh in uh where the two stripper poles are and she's blowing them and having a good time well later on in the evening there's a girl she was looking for black cock and you know him being black he up lied and whipped out his dick and she was sucking on him but it was just funny like i go isn't that that i was like is that guy what's that white girl like i'm trying to think is that him because i thought he was with that girl and where is she so i'm like looking around is she around but he's looking around like i don't want to get caught like he's he's gonna get caught right i'm gonna get caught i'm gonna get caught so this he's sucking his dick and he's looking around trying to make sure she's nowhere to be around so i start i leave for the back i'm gonna take off i busted a couple nuts already so of nuts already.
So I'm looking in here, low and low, here she comes like, oh shit. And I'm watching her and go back and you see her husband duck out of the way. See, don't do that. You don't want to be that guy that does that shit because if she sees you fuck another, I have this, I fucked up one time when I was in Corpus Christi. If she sees you do that, she might be turned off and not want to have anything to do with you. I don't know if she saw him. Hopefully she didn't so he don't get in trouble. I don't want to see a dude get in trouble for, you know, fuck. It's a fucking nice mouth.
The girl was good looking and she wanted this dick. So, you know, I can't blame him for that.
Anyways, I was, you know, I was in Cor corpus christi i met a single girl at a club we were there it's a swinger club it's a house party you know and all that so she got pissed off because i was fucking someone else and she didn't want to have anything to do with me damn i just messed up uh the damn power went up but anyways get your shit and get out of there because if you have that patience with her she might come back she might go well you know what you know what let's go back i want to you know i'm gonna watch this time maybe she watches she gets horny and she gets horned up she wants to fucking suck dick she wants to lick another girl's pussy all all positive things you get the benefit from it because you are patient with her be patient with any vanilla girl that goes into the lifestyle if you are not patient with her you are going to ruin it for everybody and that's including me ac all right so all in all like i said very controversial i know i'm gonna'm going to get hate mail.
Send it to swinging single podcast at gmail.com. I love it. Give it to me. I want to hear it. But I would prefer rather to date someone in the vanilla world and go to the swinging world than date a swinger female and be partners with her. Now, are there exceptions to the rule? Are there? You are 100% correct. There are exceptions to the rule. There are some, I have met some great, fantastic single women in that, in this lifestyle that they know the deal. And I love it because they talk shit about couples all the time and all that.
They know that they're just being used to get fucked they're they're just doing it so they're gonna use your cock your pussy too which i love i love it that they know that because a lot of these girls you talk to them think they're the shit that their shit don't stink but it does everyone's shit stinks buddy mine shit stinks your shit stinks everybody's shit stinks so these girls get in there they're thinking oh i'm the shit no one can touch me but these girls that i know they know those couples would have nothing to do with them if they didn't fuck with them and i love those women uh shout out to you girls that know that you are wanted that you understand the game and all that.
A lot of single women in the lifestyle do not understand the game yet. I think maybe that comes with age and all that. So who knows? I don't know. Like I said, this is all from my perspective. This ain't no from any other couple's perspective.
I'm not a couple, so I don't have that couple's perspective or anything like that so you know i just enjoy you know i'm just going to enjoy my life but i enjoy it more with the vanilla friend than i do with the swing swinging single female that's all i don't like you know and i honestly i like to chase i like to be able to say i converted you to the dark side but you know what i'm always very nice i will make women's dreams come true their fantasies i always ask women what are your fantasies and they don't really say anything i go you got to have a fantasy you might and i always want i always tell them you could tell me anything because for one i'm a swinger i've done it all seen it all so whatever you tell me is not going to shock me you want to get game banged by 20 guys hey let's set that up it's gonna be fucking hard to but we can set it up all right so that's just my take ac would rather deets vanilla women than swinging single women all right and plus you know what when i go on those swingers websites do you guys notice that a lot of these if you click on their ads a lot of them are from uh a lot of them are already married they already got a spouse and all that so they're not really single it kind of pisses me off it kind of sucks it's like oh look at this chick oh yeah she fucking fine she's nice and thick brown hair brunette oh nope she's got a husband and all that so it kind of sucks for that.
So it's tough. All right, so what else do I want to talk about? I don't know. Oh, let me see. There is a big party at Colette's this Friday, April 5th, I think it is. What's the third, fourth, the fifth? Yeah, April 5th, there is a good party coming. And it's sponsored by, I think, they're called Front Porch Swingers. They are having a big party there.
it's sponsored by i think they're called front porch swingers they are having a big party there it's for couples that love single guys now reprieve this is for couples that like single guys it's not for hot wives who are good looking who are looking for other couples all right now i know it's tough but hot wife is a chick that has a married woman that fucks other men or women all right it's not you know just to look in a swap couple all right so let me see i think that's a party all right so i'm on sdc i go there hot wife party front yeah so it says new toy world come out and check collect has to offer check out a membership okay it doesn't really say anything but it says, New Toy World, come out, and Chuck Colette has to offer.
Check out our membership. Okay, it doesn't really say anything. But it says, Front Porch Swingers presents the real hot wives of Houston. All right, so let's see how many people. Oh, there's a fucking 20 people going. Look at that. All right, so it's all guys. Okay, Kinky Stag Vixen. Ooh, yeah. She looking good. All right, it's mostly all guys anyways. Pleasure for her. More dudes. More dudes coming. Ooh, wow, this one. Hot Houston X Fun. HT X Fun. Look at her. Damn, she got a nice ass. Buddy, okay, let's look.
But see, the problem is, on SDC, you can see what they're looking for because they'll have a couple, like a silhouette of a woman and a man and all that. So if they want couples, they'll be both together.
Then they'll have a silhouette of a woman that's single and a silhouette of a man that's single and all that but they don't have that and when i click on their profile this member does not wish to be contacted by single male so i don't know see i think what this is is where they think she's a hot wife she's fucking beautiful i'm telling you right now she's got fucking nice tits her pussy is looking good it's nice and shaven now ac don't care about the shaven pussy. I like it a little here. All right. Let's see. What else? All right. There's another one. JLF, whatever that is. And let's see.
Height rate proportional, 28 to 53 in rage. That's me. Straight, single, or in a NEF. Well, well, clean, well-groomed. Living 35s on Montgomery. All right. So that might, you know what?
May have a proud shot with that but she's fucking hot too so i don't know but i think i can i think i you know she i would be able to you know bone her and all that have sex with her listen you got to have confidence and so it's a lot of okay here's one oh another one let's see i think i know these i don't know but let's look at what the what they are all right so what they're looking we're looking for like-minded people to show us lifestyle we like m f m m f all right so they like everything all right but they don't say see this is what kind of sucks when you are answering that's why i don't bother with with these damn websites emailing people because when you do, they don't put a lot of information on what type are they looking for.
It would be nice if they said, we need you to be six foot tall. I appreciate those. Even though I'm out of the picture, I appreciate those because I won't waste my time emailing them.
So I have that ability to say, say okay i don't have to waste my time on this one and all that because i personalize all my correspondence i don't sit there and just have one stand and say hey that's fuck like a lot of guys i don't understand dudes you got to stop it with this you got ai now fucking use ai to write a damn ad uh answer to an ad jesus christ people but oh they have a little thing we are we enjoy we do enjoy single male and single men as well he is straight but loves to share her either watching or participating in the mfm she has to approve before to reach out but initial contact would like to be from him all right so okay no it doesn't say she's a blind girl's him it doesn't say what they're looking for.
Like, you've got to have her hung, you've got to be well-endowed, you've got to be sick-packed abs, shit like that. They don't have anything like that. So it seems like there's a lot of people coming from out of town to this place, this thing, too, for front porch speakers. All right, we have been together 15 years, open for five. All right, we value honesty. We have anything, music, food. All right, they are predominantly a hot wife couple, but are open to a variety of the night. Diamix and the connection is there.
All right, so they got three pictures, not much, but they are hot wife, so that's another possibility. If they show up, because a lot of times these people post that they're coming, they never show up, which is fine. I don't know it's no big deal like i said i love going to these places and all that so i don't know let's see uh here's county x god damn that girl's fine let's see let's see what this one uh let's see she's a hot white fixin who loves a lot of attention to experience okay good um I'll see you next time.
let's see let's see what this one uh let's see she's a hot white vixen who loves a lot of attention to experience okay good um but it doesn't say like oh yeah it does it has that little click thing down what we are looking for good now this is a great this is a great ad to have if you're a couple put what you're looking for what turns her on what she liked does does she like bears no beard stuff like that regravitate towards other educated children respectful single males and couples we need to click with a person so the ability to hold a conversation is necessary prior to play for her the play begins with chatting before the meetup if you reach out please indicate you're interested in her him or both we prefer to get the sense of the couple person and all that they have telegram i.
I got a fucking telegram. So stupid. I don't know. I don't like it anymore. Let's see what they're looking for. Update. No, they're doing nothing. They're not looking for anything. They don't say what they're looking for. I guess it's anybody.
But they're a good looking couple so anyone's anybody who fucks these people they're gonna be happy so that's a good guest list they actually have now problem is they say there's 20 but i only get a couple so i think they block i guess basic if they're not looking for a couple or a single dude they've just blocked me on there so that is something you If you are a single guy, you're a couple that is looking for a guy for your wife and you're probably looking for some good quality talent it might be at the front porch swingers uh real hot wives of houston you gotta be in houston texas it's at colette's off of 1960 and 45 but i'm telling you it might be a good place to go to find especially if you're looking that's april 5th so hopefully i'll have this up i gotta cut this up because uh my power went out i don't know what the hell thing i haven't got to get a new thing for my podcast but you know i'm up great i'm learning uh you know i'm trying to figure out how to do all this stuff so that's going on let's look at speed date does anyone know they might just put a speed date in saying hey we're gonna go but didn't put down that they going on.
Let's look at speed date. Does anyone know they might just put a speed date in saying, hey, we're going to go, but didn't put down that they're going to that specific place. Because that's happened sometimes where they'll put it in there and all that and all that. So let's see. No, they're not going. No one's looking for a single guy. Nope, not single guy. Here's another one. Now, this one, I think it's the same lady, but I don't know. She's on a work trip here. Ooh, what was on her ass? Honey? Oh, she's got a honey tattoo on her ass. I don't know. Yeah, she does. Looking good.
Female half is standing on her work trip to have a little birthday fun, stay in the Woodlands area, plan on Colette's on Friday.
Oh, so she's going going so i wonder if she's going by herself or she's going to have a date probably i would if she's fucking out of town i don't know i think she should have a date with her because you know somebody's but then again you got to watch out who you bring as a date because some dudes are just fucking horrible people i mean just horrible uh this couple they're looking for a guy but they're thinking about tpc south friday and or saturday so they're nothing there so there's one that didn't post that they're going to colette's uh on friday no they're not going no no not going nope nope there's a sherwood forest renaissance fair i don't know where the hell that's at but it sounds fun uh let's see here's one they look like they're gone they go to wow damn they go to uh secrets and if you haven't gone to secrets you need to go get your ass to secrets this summer have a great time there fucking just do whatever you got to do to get there just get the the secrets, man.
I'm telling you. All right. So that is pretty much all I got for today. So what we learned today, AC loves dating vanilla over swingers, singles. Now I would date a couple and I love, you know, I enjoyed having my relationship with those couples that I had. So, you know, there's none of that. Like, I'm not saying that I'm talking about single women. I repeat single women.
having my relationship with those couples uh that i had so you know there's none of that like i'm not saying that i'm talking about single women i repeat single women all right this is not couple i would date couples i have dated couples have been in relationship with couples before where it's just me her and them and all of us having fun and all that so oh looks like queen love bbc got a man, because now she is uh, she all that so oh looks like queen love bbc got a man because now she is uh she has a guy now look at that good for her you know so my boyfriend and i are newbies to the lifestyle we don't make friends i don't know she's a newbie but let's see i wonder what let's see he's hispanic too So I don't know Like I said I just don't I like watching my girl fuck anybody.
I just don't have that, ah, I gotta watch her with black men, and black men only, I just don't have that in me. I love watching my girl fuck anybody. All colors are good, it don't matter. It just matters that you can fuck her good, make her cum, and make her happy, and fucking pound her hard.
But if you can't do that, then it's not really, don't matter it just matters that you can fuck her good make her come and make her happy and fucking pound her hard if you can't do that then it's not really don't matter what color your cock is it ain't gonna happen so you know but you know good for i'm happy for queen love bbc uh she finally got a man she's in there being a couple together so let's see how that turns out and she's always put she was always posting before be four and all that so that's why i noticed that she has a man because there's another age and they're sexy divas coming to town though all right cool all right so with that i think it's time to get out of here remember gentlemen shave your cock and balls no one wants a forest down there you don't want a forest between her legs don't have a forest on yours i'm seeing a lot of you dudes now having so much pubic hair stop that shit clean it cut it shave it smack it down oh no all right america the world i hope you enjoyed this episode i hope to see you uh later on hopefully i could get on some podcasts if you want to come on my podcast let me know email me at swinging single podcast at gmail.com i got especially if you're a single guy i would love to hear your story we don't have enough of your stories guys don't be scared i scared.
I could change your voice. I won't take it. There's no video or anything like that, so don't worry about it. All right? No one's going to know who you are. When I change your voice, no one will have a clue. So we could be honest and candid. All right. Have a great night, America. Have a great night, world. I hope you all have lots of sex and keep on swinging.
