Handling Rejection in the Lifestyle

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Welcome to the Swingin' Single Podcast with your host AC Maxwell, broadcasting from the legendary Upside Down Pineapple Studios here in the heart of Texas. For over two decades, I've embraced the swinging lifestyle as that single male that you love to hate. On this show, I'm here to share my wildest tales and experiences with you. Today, we are going to talk about rejection.

yes as a single male i'm rejected a million times a year and i'm going to tell you how to handle rejection and all that great stuff and other stories so grab some lube gentlemen grab some tissues for cleanup you don't want to be a slob if you got your spouse with you have her sit on your face shave your cock and balls for that special lady get cozy and settle in for some uncensored eye-opening stories on the swinging single podcast the swinging single podcast with host ac maxwell is intended for entertainment and educational purposes only the opinions views and content expressed or shared on the podcast are solely those of the host ac maxwell and any featured guests or contributors and do not necessarily represent those of the podcast's affiliates sponsors advertisers or partners any information provided is given with the understanding that it does not constitute a contract engagement or formal advice the content of the podcast is protected by copyright and other intellectual property laws.

in her backdrop pink motel and i'm not telling spell my name until she's yelling lipstick lover all pink covers mommy mommy kiss your mother please don't call i need another hour three more girls are piling in the shower all right welcome back to another episode of the swing and single podcast i'm your host ac maxwell please go to swing and single podcast.com support me whatever want listen to the podcast if you have any disagreements you agree you want to email me you want me to come to your club do a special live session of the swing single podcast do email me at swing single podcast at gmail.com and we'll talk all right but today we are going to talk about rejection because you know what everyone gets rejected in the lifestyle no matter how hot you are or how hot you think you are there are people out there that just won't touch you with a 10-foot pole or you just come off of that vibe that it vibe that a lot of people have and all that stuff so you know i want to talk about that rejection so i saw an article on partners id and i saw about rejection in the slinger lifestyle or or the lifestyle in general.

Now, you know, when you get rejected, it's not always a great feeling. It's pretty, sometimes it just feels downright shitty. And you don't feel right, you feel bad about yourself, you get dejected.

There have been two Reddit listeners that have emailed me about, you know, she's 60, she's in in her 60s she feels bad because she feels useless because no one really picks her and then i have one about a couple who husband got rejected by the other couple where but they want to fuck the wife and so on and so on so we're going to talk about all that on the swinging single podcast but first remember to shave your cock and balls gentlemen and shave use don't forget to use shaving cream and also don't forget to use some aftershave down there because you know what it might burn it might hurt you but anyways so rejection is never pretty regardless of how we dress it up rejection is still ugly it is hurtful and often feels personal course, every time you get rejected, especially in a swing or lifestyle, it's going to be feel personal.

For everyone in the lifestyle, this is something we must face at some point, either as a rejecter or a rejectee. Let's face it, this is normal. Everyone will not like everyone else and we will not be attracted to everyone. tricky part is letting people know we are not interested in a kind way and let me get that straight a kind way a lot of people don't are not kind or they don't do stuff like that they're very nasty human beings out there listen just because we're swingers don't mean we're nice people some of us are just plain assholes you may say i you don't know me.

But anyways, so, but you got to reject people in a nice way, you know, figure it out. Lie if you have to, I guess. Anyways, swinging is a lot like dating. Swinging is a lot like dating, except there are some more people involved. Dating is fairly straightforward. One person must like one person. If this happens, the two will move forward.

move forward swinging is much more complex of course because you got a bunch of people which with each additional person thrown into the mix finding the match because more much more difficult every couple in the lifestyle will agree that couples finding couples can be complicated yes i hear a lot of a lot of time about that complaining about couples on couple stuff and finding four people finding a four-way connection is tough swingers often like to take to dating sites like sdc cassidy quiver friend finder sls etc to find other swingers they scan photos and read profiles in hopes of finding attractive and like-minded couples to meet i don't think they read profiles fuck it they look.

They look at, they scan photos. For photos and all that, then maybe they'll look at the profile. Even then, they probably don't even read the fucking profile. The process of swinging dating sites generally involves one couple picking out another and sending them an email expressing interest. The receiver of the email will open the profile of the sender and begin with their photos.

If there is a spark of interest, they will the profile once again i don't think swingers read i think swingers just look at the picture and if the guy gets a boner he responds if the woman gets wet she responds if the receiver of the email likes what they see the chances are they will respond to your email what happens if the couple opens the email and has no interest well you know in my time as a single male usually that means they just don't email you back now especially when i take the time i take the time and effort to put out emails put a paragraph uh of about me i don't put well hey let's fuck hey let's meet i put a paragraph about me my likes my interest and so on and so on you know i go above and beyond i do what other single men don't want to do and a hundred emails like i send out i might get two responses back okay so they're not interested uh so i don't know so do you think that i'm old like say no thank you it's not that hard no.

Thank you. Many times they will simply delete the email and forget about it. Yes, that's so true. Because, you know, people are assholes. People will send you the keep you leaving, hanging because, you know, they're too goddamn cowardly to say no. Thank you. Now, what you can do, I think there is a button where it says you just click on it, says no. Thank you. Simple, easy, no harm.

Obviously, you will realize that they are not interested, interested right you don't know because you don't know if you read the fucking email or not many couples feel it's the easiest way to convey there is no interest so saying nothing says no interest i don't know i think that's stupid but hey what do what i know i'm just a creepy single guy some couples feel you owe some type of response to people who sent the email yeah just send them a no thank you it would seem logical that no response means no interest if you reply to the person you must reject them in the email what is kinder i think kinder is saying no thank you kinder is not sitting there leaving these couples out on the lurch saying hey you know hey honey did they ever respond back no do they get our emails they read our emails you know you just don't know so how do you reject someone without hurting their feelings is it possible to turn someone down without hurting their feelings it seems that whatever you say will cause some pain of course it's going to cause pain because they're rejecting you physically oftentimes couples say they simply reply we are not a match surely the couple reading that email will take it personally especially if their profile seem to align this truly is the kindest possible response no need to explain why just a simple reply to let them know now if they get upset because you say we are not a match then you know what's the point you don't really need need to talk to that couple because they're obviously not a match for you.

Listen, you don't owe, you know, as much as I want to say, no, thank you, we were not a match, it's good enough. Other than that, you don't owe any of these people anything. You can just go on with your life. If they get upset about it, that's their problem. Like I said, rejection is hard. I get rejected all the time. It just rolls. It's like water off my back. It just rolls away. But as a couple, you've got to realize that not everyone's your cup of tea and not everyone wants to play with you and all that stuff. So, you know, it ain't no big deal. This truly is the kindest response.

No need to explain why. Just simply reply to let them know. And I think I said, like I said, I think the best thing to do is let them know. But just one sentence, one, two, three, four, five words. We are not a match. Would we suffice? And if they get upset about it, well, then that's their problem. They got to deal with those issues, not you.

Sometimes couples feel compelled to be honest honestly is the best policy right here i have to disagree there is no need to explain that one of you is not attracted to the sender i always feel that if they reject you they're just not attracted to you in the first place because like 99.9 believe that they just looked at your pictures they didn't look at your profile they didn't look at what you write it's just like when i email they don't look they don't go directly to what i say they look at my cock you see if it's big enough for them and stuff like that uh no need to comment on their age weight or their other physical characteristics there is never a reason to be cruel or hurtful yeah don't say they're fat fucks or something like that just say no thank you and just move on if they reply just delete it if you specified in your profile that you're looking for something specific that does not match the sender then it's okay to point that out even in the case there are ways to say things without being mean i wouldn't even point it out i would just go no thank you we're not a match whatever and that's it never talk to that person again what if you interested in the couple you meet in person?

Ooh, this is even tougher because now you're face-to-face. You're not online. Online rejection is a lot easier. Rejecting people online is a lot easier. Rejecting couples in an email is not that hard. What happens when you are face-to-face with a couple and you have no interest? If this is a couple that approaches you in the club, it is easy to walk away.

you make an excuse about going to the restroom or wanting to dance that's what everyone does when you do not return that should be easy for them to understand if they seek you out upon your return letting them know that you would like to walk around and talk to other couples who should hopefully be enough or we got to do this just say we're not interested not playing today. You know, because then you know what they're going to do. They're going to keep bothering you. If you just do that, just say you're not interested in playing with them and all that stuff.

Tell you you're on your period or whatever, ladies. That always works.

If a couple is trying to join you while in the play areas, usually simply not responding to their advances enough to let them know yes of course that's good for the bolder couple who does not seem to pick up on non-verbal cues which is a lot of people this day and age which is couples saying no thank you should send them on their way the most complicated situation comes when you are agreed to meet in person after exchanging text messages or emails it is probably a good idea to make your first meeting a quick cup of coffee if there is interest you can always move to sharing a meal And we'll see you next time.

After exchanging text messages or emails, it is probably a good idea to make your first meeting a quick cup of coffee. If there is interest, you can always move to sharing a meal. If your date with another couple is over a meal, this can be more complicated. And you and your partner should think about this beforehand and come up with a plan. A simple gesture that you agree upon will let each other know how you are feeling.

If one of you wants out out the gesture will let your partner know the plan should include a way to graciously end the date as soon as possible this is what what's good about kids if you have young kids or kids at home you can always say oh a babysitter needs to go home or whatnot and you can get out of it so the kids excuse is very good very easy no one can bitch about that one this can be a follow-up with an email explaining that although you thought they were very nice the chemistry was not there okay that's nice what about the couples who simply won't take no for an answer which are a lot of people like that a lot of couples are just as bad as single guys guys rejection is always hard because you know you're hurting someone if their other couple is gracious, this makes it easy.

When the other couple simply won't take no for an answer, it can lead to much uglier situation. We have found ourselves in situations where a simple no thank you has turned sour. In a case like this, it is important to remember that it is not your problem, but theirs. While we choose to take it high road and be kind, there are couples who somehow feel entitled to your time and attention. Whether this Thank you. it is not your problem, but theirs. While we choose to take a high road and be kind, there are couples who somehow feel entitled to your time and attention.

Whether this occurs online or in person, it can be frustrating. Blocking the couple online is a no-brainer. In person, it becomes a bit more difficult. Avoiding them seems to be the only way around a future problem.

If they hang out in the same club as you, chances are you are not alone in your dealings with them eventually these couples are isolated because of their behavior the bottom line is at some point in time you'll have to reject couples and couples will reject you do not take it personally just move on and that's the article and i'll post the link online on my show description when i post it on wednesday So, yeah, you know, like I said, rejection is tough. It's not always the best. You know, you kind of get feel bad for a while, but then you move on because guess what?

There's always someone else there out there that wants to bang you and want to hang out with you. So you get what you want and you move on. All right.

Don't stalk these people or anything like that because that's just fucking crazy okay so we go back to the rejection and all that stuff at the club and you know we get people to email and they talk about their rejection and stuff like that so you know why we get rejected physically we're not we're not good enough looking we're not six foot six inch cocks stuff like that six eight pat six um pack abs we're not fucking five foot five or big round ass juicy pussy and big fake titties and stuff like that so you know we get rejected for a lot of reasons so you know people email me and we go.

So in our first swinging experience, I got rejected quickly and got lost in the moment watching my wife with them. Please help me out and share your thoughts and opinions. Man, I'm still wrapping my head around that night. Me, 44, my wife, 40, a few days back had our first real dive into the swinging scene.

We clicked with two other couples there, cool folks, and they ended up at one of their houses for drinks the vibe was great with easy conversations some laughs everyone seemed on the same page but holy hell things took a turn i didn't see coming and i'm left wondering what went down and how i can play it better next time so after a few drinks things heated up and all three couples decided to swap partners it was wild like nothing i never experienced i was paired up with one of the other wives and damn she gave me one of the best blowjobs i ever had i warned her to slow down but she just went for it and i couldn't hold out and popped way too soon all right so you popped too soon that happens all right what do you do Well you just chill Wait hang out eat pussy Drink a fucking bottle of water Piss and get your fucking shit back in there it's not embarrassing he says it's embarrassing but it happens right yes sir it does happen happens shit a ton a shit ton you're lucky you can pop some guys can't even fucking get hard right after that she kind of smirked and moved on to join the others leaving me to uh work on getting myself back in the game with my three inch situation so i don't know what the three inch situation maybe as a small cock but anyways so i'm sitting here trying to get hard again okay here's the problem you're not going to get hard instantly again unless you're shooting up with fucking trimax even when you're on brag or you're gonna have to fucking do some refraction time so like i said go drink a bottle of water chug it down whatever you gotta do take a piss get back in there eat all the pussy you can eat for as long as you can so if you can eat pussy for 30 minutes guess what that's 30 minutes now you can try to get hard again which you might get hard again so i look over to see my wife in reverse cowgirl her big tits bouncing like crazy getting absolutely pounding by the other guy this other guy he was going at her hard like some dominant alpha shit and she's screaming oh god i never got fucked like this before and i'm not gonna lie hearing that got me rock hard there you go all right what it was hot as hell here's where it weird.

I figured ladies would circle back to me or someone would pull me into the action, but nope. I ended up just watching all five of them go at it like animals. We were lost in it, but moaning, switching partners, having a total blast. I felt like a ghost man. Like they did forget I was there. Like, did they forget I was there? Yeah.

They probably might've forgot that you you were there or they didn't get fuck your three-inch cock didn't turn any other girls on so these fucked it did i get cucked out on purpose or was it just so caught up watching my wife and the others that i missed my shot to jump back in uh i don't think you were cucked but i think they said fuck your small penis i guess i don't know, and you can't, and the whole point of it, you shouldn't be grateful that your wife had a great fucking time, because you know what, guess what, your wife's going to want to do it again, if she had a shitty time, she might not want to do it again, now you're fucked, because you're out there with your hand, you're dicking your hand, wanting to go swinging, and wanting to fuck new pussy, some strange pussy, and you can't because your wife had a shitty time.

Now she had a great time. She got fucked like she never got fucked before and all that. So you're fine. You should have jumped back in. Looking back, I'm wondering what I could have done different. Maybe I should have been more assertive after I finished early, like joining the group instead of hanging back. Or maybe I got too memorized by the show, especially my wife getting railed like that and lost my focus. I don't know. You said you got hard again, so what's the problem?

I'm not saying I was disappointed or got bit insecure by feeling left out, but weirdly, I kind of enjoyed watching all five going wild, including my wife. see her get lost in the moment kind of made me so hard like never before which i found weird first and unknowingly i began to pleasure myself while watching them yeah because you're a cuck you're not a cuck you're a stag what you are sir you are a stag you like watching your wife fuck other people and that's perfectly normal join the club i'm in the stag. I have a few questions in mind. Did they leave me out because I came too quickly?

Or was it just the heat of the moment? That could have been it. They could have left you out because, you know, you came quickly. Also, they could have done it on purpose because you weren't that good looking. You were the ugly of the three husbands. So they just decided, fuck it, he came. And, you know, they just got I'll see you next time.

it on purpose because you weren't that good looking you were the ugly of the three husbands so they just decided fuck it he came and you know they just got rid of you all right seeing her get lost in the moment kind of made me hard so i never before which i know i want to talk to my wife about it but i don't know how to bring it up without sounding insecure we've've been married almost 16 years, and we have always opened up about stuff. This feels tricky. All right, so what I would do is say, hey, honey, you know, that party was awesome. You know, what sucked, I hope we can do it again, Jane.

I hope we can do it again because, you know, fuck, I came so quick. That girl gave me a great blowjob, you know, not as good as your blowjobs, but it was so great, and it was so raw and cool that intense that I came so quick and I felt like shit because I came so quick. But then, you know, I'm sitting over there on the sideline, Jane, and I saw you getting fucked by that guy like you never got fucked before and stuff like that. And it just made me rock hard. I was so turned on by watching you fuck those two guys, those three girls, those other two girls.

just loved it and you know but did you know did i do anything wrong by just sitting back and watching should i you know should i got back in or should how would i have gotten back in and stuff like that that's what you can say to her just be honest i i also want to be ready if this happens again how do i keep up with the group and not end up on the sidelines? Well, take Viagra would be good. You know, learn to eat pussy. Once you come, fucking eat pussy. Eat the pussy because you know what?

It takes time to refract and your refraction time is getting longer and longer as you get older and older. All right? So just do that. Learn to eat pussy, fingering, do stuff, kissing, making out, stuff like that. Should I work on lasting longer or is it more about confidence and jumping into the mix? Yeah. What you should do is instead of fucking first and getting a blowjob first, go down on her. Make sure the woman comes first. Your number one rule in the swinging world should be women come first. You hear that? Shaving your cock and balls, gentlemen, and make sure your woman comes first.

Then you don't have have to worry about everything you don't have to worry about coming in 30 seconds or anything like that if she already came up multiple times you are good to go and all that stuff so he felt i don't really see he was i don't think he was left out or he would he was rejected i just think he's he's just thinking things too much he's he's not he's over analyzing everything now would that happen to me no i would have got back in there and stuff like that i would have made my way back in there or you know or my wife is getting out of there you know my partner's getting out of there i'm not you know we're we come as.

He got hard again, so it wasn't like he had issues with the erection after. So he got hard again. But like I said, he probably found something that's scaring him, that he likes watching his wife fuck other men. I think that's what happened.

And now he's shook and he wants to think that he was think that's he reject he he was rejected but i think what happened was he now realizes that he's a stag or he might be a cuck who knows but you know it's tough for some guys i know guys it's no uh and all that stuff so you know it's it is what it is so you gotta just be able to you know uh and all that stuff so you know it's it is what it is so you gotta just be able to you know do what you gotta do all right another rejection and this one is really tricky because of the way it is i'm posting this unanimously because i know some people in here i'm i i'm in my upper 60s and seriously thinking of getting out because i no longer feel relevant the next two generations have ruined the pure and simple way it was too much drama and need for attention please remember this isn't everyone but a great majority in my opinion by the way i'm a single female so like i said before and i know you guys can't deal with it but as a woman gets older in this lifestyle she becomes she has less value people don't seek her out anymore as much as she used to when you're in your 20s and 30s you and you're a single female bisexual female in this lifestyle you will have uh you will have everyone and anyone seeking you out because you're young, pretty, got a tight body, whatnot.

But as you get older, you become less and less and people don't start seeking you out because there's another crop of 20 and 30 year olds.

You're 40 now, you now you're 60 now you're still sexually active but you're you're what do they call it your options are limited now and you can say the same thing about single men or couples as they get older options become less because you know you get older maybe other things take precedent over swinging maybe you have grandchildren now that you want to uh be with and stuff like that so it doesn't you know things change and unfortunately swinging is a shallow lifestyle people look at it's your looks first everyone says oh personality we care about personality is bullshit because you wouldn't even look at the personality if you didn't like how the person looked it's just like dating if you don't if you when you think about when you started dating your husband your wife or whatnot and you looked at her oh she's hot so i'm gonna go talk to her now if she was ugly but had a great personality would you ever have known that because you would have gave her the time of day no you would never have done it and we have to accept it in life that once we get older where our value goes down you know i see it as me when i was young i was the young bull i was a young buck and everyone couples would seek me out because i was young and i and all that i'm fucking i'm a fuck machine now you get couples they won't even touch me because i'm over 40 now oh no you know you got these young couples oh we don't play with anyone over 35 and then they're then they're saying they're saying they're the same couples that bitching that they can't find anybody of course because swinging is mostly 40s and 50 year olds anyways so you you lose your value as we get older it sucks but it's just the reality of it i feel bad for this woman that she feels like this that she's irrelevant she's not irrelevant it's just that her value is down now because she is in her late 60s what are you gonna do with you know i would would i?

Yeah, if she looked good, I was going to, I'll fuck her. I don't care age. I care about how a person treats me and how they, you know, look at me and all that stuff. The age don't matter. The body type don't matter. Just as long as you look, you know, you're a good person. But, you know, but the problem is people like me are very rare in the lifestyle. People would look at the, how they look.

If they look good, they'll good they'll talk to them if they don't look good nope we're not talking to you so i hate to say it to ladies right it that as we get older we become more irrelevant and shit like that yeah so you know it's it's tough when you at the auto get the this shit happens to us. But, you know, like I said, swinging is a shallow, you know, materialistic lifestyle. You know, they look at how good you look and stuff like that. You go to a club, the best looking people, people stop and watch them fuck and have sex.

And we'll talk to them all all try to talk to them all the time so you know it is what it is but you just can't get dejected like that and i hate that this this lady is rejected like that she feels bad because uh she's no longer wanted but this is also the case where sometimes where women are looked are put on a pedestal in the lifestyle and the minute they are no longer looked at is the same way as they were 20 30 years ago they get upset so it can be both angry jealousy and stuff like that but also it's sad that she feels that way and and that's and it just hurts my feelings and all that stuff.

So let's see what else, you know, rejection, jealousy, jealousy and rejection. I don't know if they go hand in hand, but you know, jealousy could be one of the reasons why people get rejected because they heard you're a jealous person, you're a jealous couple. So, you know, is there jealousy in the swinging?

Naturally, my wife and I have had these jealousy problems we had to work through my wife hates sharing me when she is getting less than and she just has it naturally popped those nights she isn't being taken care of i of course had my moments of insecurity which being being jealous jealousy but i'm a little better at not letting it show and working through it myself we thought maybe this was this just wasn't for us and we are not ready for it a few bad encounters in a row really made us rethink what we are doing all right the people listen i'm not i'm just reading it word for word so i'm not this stupid we tried to mix up some things when we decided her being more proactive in search for couples would be better for us you know what i actually believe this that if more swinger couples the women would pick the partner swinging would be a lot more fun because i think that the women will know what they're looking for and they'll go find it we previously had me doing the work and her a proven vibe turns out with her and more control of the search we hit on a couple we both thought was attractive pretty quickly pew first step out of the way then come some dates some flirting some making out and over ended up sleeping with them full swap.

Okay, why the hell did it take you all that time to fucking full swap? Why was it that night you met, you didn't fuck? I don't understand this shit with the dating. Stop dating, you're not getting married to these fucking people. Go out, if they want to fuck, fuck, if they don't, move on.

I was not at my best the first night but the hey we got it done and some jitters out of the way with not being my best i felt kind of how she felt in previous swaps a little insecurity and had some full small emotions of jealousy pop shoot it shoot still there but the bigger issue my wife was not feeling as jealous as she found herself before huh i wonder why so what do you think swing and single podcast listeners and don't forget to shave your cock and balls gentlemen fast forward through a couple more weeks and we met up with the same couple again this last time everybody was at their best enjoyed the hell out of each other but first time in years we actually slept, the actual sleeping thing, with other people.

Same room still, but after a fun night, we kind of just laid with our partners of the previous night and fell asleep. We wake up, say our goodbyes, and head out. The debrief on the ride home was the lightest we have ever been. We talked and both announced, that's weird, do you feel any jealousy because I don't. Couldn't believe it.

Couldn't believe the little hitch in our nights evaporated with what we just experienced we have checked in with each other the last few days since and yep both of us still great feel great about it no insecurities no jealousy even though we did something out of our comfort zone completely funny how all that works something we never thought would be able to figure out finds itself solved with a good match and a fun night for all see i think they're being too cocky they had a great match now what happens in the next match isn't so great so they have to have great matches for them to feel good it's when they they have the bad matches, they don't feel good.

I don't know. I don't think that's a good recipe for success. I think that if you have bad matches, you're going to have bad matches. I don't think there's a couple. There ain't no one on the play. It's like the saying, we don't ever take one for the team. Bullshit. Everybody has taken one for the team. We have bad matches. You're going to have bad matches. No matter how long you swing, a year, six months, 20 years, 30 years, you're going to have a bad match. It could be obviously creeped back, and we are aware of that.

But the feeling of having a successful night is a fun feeling that we are going to bask in right now. Enjoy.

Good, enjoy it said the next one could be shit turns out the work we needed was not necessarily work between each other but the work to make sure our partners and us are a complete match and work well with each other during the night out and play it makes us doubt it will be easy to find again but we at least have hope we can have successful nights and swinging going forward yeah you're just gonna have to work you're gonna have to work on it with your partner because you're gonna have bad matches and you're gonna have bad sex you can't let that deter you and if it makes you jealous or anything like that then there's something you need to work on because what should be the ride home after a bad match match?

You go, God, that couple was fucked up. Or that dude was fucked up. Or that girl was fucked up. God, you can't believe that, honey? Yeah, me too. Me either. Crazy. Well, what are we going to do next week? And where are we going to go? The biggest takeaway from all this post is asking, what's wrong with us? We don't match or we don't find partners. It's okay. We don't saturate ourselves with fits that don't work completely. Doubts come from all sides. We are right for it. Are we right for this? Yes, you're right for this. Don't ever doubt that.

It's just that you got to work on you and your partner. You're worried about the other partners. You should not worry about the other partners. You need to worry about your wife, your husband.

Those are the people you go home to you have to fix what's there if you have a great communication great lifestyle together fucking those those bad shitty matches you get those bad shitty fucks you get they're not gonna bother you they're not gonna make you jealous or insecure are we attracted to them i hope you are attracted to them find out when you do find it a lot of these insecurities a lot of that jealousy solves itself no it doesn't i'm gonna tell you right now you're full of shit right dude it doesn't solve it it's between you and your partner you had a good night you saw you had someone attractive you got to fuck someone that you thought was more attractive than you so it all solves this problem but what happens when it doesn't i'm telling you we're gonna get an email from this guy and he's gonna have a bad one processing negative thoughts are important but you have so many less negative thoughts when you find the right connection of course it took us a year to find that in the lifestyle we don't necessarily have regrets but we wish we figured out that sooner these thoughts, when you do find yourself in a good situation, are put in the back burner.

But we should have seen these things as a warning on the match we made. So to all those thoughts, and are still looking, I'm kind of jealous in a way you are holding out for the right fit listening to the voice in your head which i wish we did keep on holding out till you find the people that bring those warm good thoughts in your head they are the ones you can you want to spend time with learn from us well sir no one's going to learn from you because they're going to do it anyways like i I said before, I've been doing this over 20 years. I've seen couples come. I've seen many couples go.

And always what happens when they go to a club, they go to a nudist resort, the blood flow starts going down from their head to their genitals, and both the male and female make stupid decisions. Decisions they might regret later on, but still, they're going to be stupid decisions because they don't know how to communicate with each other. It sounds like you two, you and your wife, don't communicate well enough. You've got to be 100% communication. If you're not, you're going to have bad matches. If you communicate well, a lot of bad matches turn out to be okay matches or great matches.

Because you and your girl, you and your husband can fucking communicate with each other. So, you know, it is, you know, you know, it is what it is, I guess. Just, you know, just communicate with your wife, your husband, and you'll be all right. You ain't going to have any problems in the swingers lifestyle if you do that. Now, listen, not everyone's going to be a fucking 10. Remember that. Swinging is a lot of mom and dad bods. If you can't fuck a mom or dad bod, then this is not the lifestyle for you. Go fucking, just go to a regular vanilla bar and try to, you know, play your luck.

All right, let's talk about young. Thank you. Go fucking, just go to a regular vanilla bar and try to, you know, play your luck. All right, let's talk about young. We talked about old, now let's talk about young. Younger couple here. Not really sure what to call ourselves as far as swinging goes, but we need your advice. We are closer to being exhibitionists than swingers, but some aspects of swinging definitely interest us. But we can't find an exhibition of advice chat form.

If you know please help us out yeah just google that shit you'll find a ton of exhibition advice we love the idea of being watched get it on by other people especially couples or females oh they want to have couples and females watch oh boy good luck not sure about a dude standing there and jacking it while we bang so what's the difference between a girl jacking it so you're basically uh sexist okay great we're sexist good job did the lead of their account so you know sexist delete we plan on going to a resort next month on vacation that is swinger oriented as well as nudity we really want to meet a single girl for areesome eventually but probably not this go around we mostly just want to meet some people to become buddies with and fuck in front of for the fun of it okay you'll be able to find that wherever you're going sir hopefully you mention this in your post you will be able to find it and it'll be all good and good luck in finding a single female because those are the gold standard for all swingers ideally we would we find a couple outside of the swinging resort so we won't be so inclined to fuck us we just don't want to be pressured into something we will regret later on not sure swingers are into peer pressure or not but since it's human nature we will assume they are not saying you guys aren't lovely though i'm gonna tell you something if you get peer pressure in as a couple to fuck another couple then you're a fucking idiot how can you get peer pressure at this day and age it's fucking 2025 it's not 1988 when i was young you know and people were not getting laid people were scared of fucking aids during this time and you were lucky to get laid if you even got laid at all now people fucking put out pussy like it's fucking candy and sling their cocks everywhere so you know there ain't no peer pressure we will be able to find a couple into the same things as us at this resort or would it it be better off approaching a couple at the airport or something like that?

Fucking dude, this is the problem with young people, you guys are the dumbest fuckers, alright? I'm sorry, but man, this generation of kids are just dumb, how are we gonna, hey, uh, hey, I see your luggage, you're going to where, you're going to Orlando to, okay, uh, me and my wife would my wife, would you be interested in watching me and my wife fuck? How do you, dude, go to the fucking resort. You will find what you're looking for. You might not find a single girl to fuck because you're a fucking sexist pig, but you'll be able to find it, all right?

We are staying at an all-inclusive resort and getting day passes to the Swinger Resort for a few nights at least.

Should people at the inclusive or would we be fine at the swinger nudity resort you were going to be perfectly fine at swinging nudity resort unicorns we know everybody's sex drive automatically raises on vacation would it be idiotic to approach solo women at either resort we find ourselves at or does it give the lifestyle a bad name no just approach them because you know what even people women fucking online like on tinder who are not looking for a three-some get approached by couples on tinder or filled or just going out and doing something they get approached so it ain't gonna give the lifestyle abandon we already got a bad name why do people think that we got such a good name we don't swingers do not have a good name in it at all okay so you know it is what it is and like i said you finding a single girl is gonna be tough you're young ask one of your girlfriends your wife's girlfriends or whatever the fuck or whatever or go get a hooker pay a hundred dollars pay two hundred dollars five hundred for a night, fuck her and have a good time and move on with your life and all that stuff, but I want to remember, I want you, this young cat, young cat, if you're listening, remember to shave your cock and balls, but also remember, your wife ain't going to be young forever, she's going to get old and she's going to have desires change.

Her hormones will change. And are you going to be okay with her fucking another woman or another man? Because that might happen. She might wake up at 35 and say, you know what? I never had two men at once. I want to have two men at once. Then you're over there, you know, I don't want to have you fuck another guy. We want to do girls and couples. Well, honey, I want another guy.

You get girls girls and couples all the time i don't get my dick so you're gonna have that awkward conversation remember don't do anything that you you sound like a no i'm gonna say it like a dick head you sound you don't want another guy because it's just weird you're okay with another girl another, because you're going to get pussy either way. But if a single guy does it, you don't want that single guy. You got to be careful because guess what's going to happen? Like I said, people get old. Things change. I changed. You know, I was never into single guys.

Now I just don't want to fucking deal with couples. I just want to deal with single guys because they're a lot easier to fuck around, you know, do what they need to do. Fuck my partner and get on out of here. But, you know, so you got a lot of, you know, you got a lot of growing up to do and it'll be all right. You'll be like I said, you'll be all right. You just got to realize that swinging. Sometimes you don't have control over something.

You know, you go to a swing resort, you're're not gonna be able to control who's jacking off to you if i could be happy that someone's jack listen i'm gonna tell you something be happy someone's jacking off because you know what i see i've seen a lot of fucking couples fucking and at swinger resorts and no one was jacking off looking at them i'll tell you that and that's a bad sign if they're not jacking off then you or something's going on and it's not you know it's not you all right but anyways enough of my bullshit i gotta get on out of here it's been over 40 minutes like i said make sure you know check out my podcast go to swinging single uh swinging single podcast.com Go to swingingsinglepodcast at gmail.com Get at me.

Remember, club owners, club people, if you want me on the show, if you want me to do a live remote resort, remote live broadcast, I can do that there too. But anyways, have fun. Remember, shave your cock and balls. Get tested for STDs and all that stuff. You're good. Keep everyone safe. And just keep on swinging. Have a great day, America. And keep it on swinging, world. We'll be right back. I want to be there forever on your shoulder I want to be the angel when it's over You'll get lucky like a four-leaf clover Baby, I'm a holly to your choker Closer