WE NEED ACCURATE LABELS

Because they won't spend the money to make the improvements that many of the members have asked for.

It is frustrating that SLS does not make some of the easy changes. It is 2024 and they have been at this for about 25 years. How has SLS not adapted to allow for same sex couple profiles?

I agree that we need to have a more diverse set of labels. I'd like to see performative (heteroflexible), bi-curious, bisexual, pansexual

If you are 54 and still listing as curious and you refuse to hear the voices of actual queer people, you are part of the problem.

*ally

And this fucking site still has this idiotic 1989 newgroup tech that doesn't let you edit or have subthreads

You don't get to pretend to be an alky and then get indignant when you prove you clearly are not.

"Scare away the normal people"
Thank you for showing who you really are with your whole chest.

You are disgusting and part of what makes this lifestyle horrendous and pervy.

Labels are a bit dated. Accurate labels do not change the reality that the large majority of bi/bi-curious/bi-comfortable men on this site are listed as straight.

This site is so unaccommodating and stuck in the 80s it's unreal.
Love meeting a str8 male bi female , get to know them and they are bi male and bi friendly fem. If not a pillow princess. Ugh
Get with the times please!!!

If you do it know than once, can you really still be curious?? After a cpl times your not curious anymore because you already know what's what... Lol

Perhaps I'm simple, but I've never been very confused about who is attractive to me. The websites choices make sense, and work fine for me, and I think also for the vast majority.

I do get that for a small number of people this subject becomes horribly complicated, and if that's your case, you're covered. All you have to do is write a paragraph, or several paragraphs in your profile explaining in painful pedantic detail about your definitions, desires and determinations so you can scare away all the normal people.

"I hate to say it, but I actually agree with Espy for once."

Why? People's stated orientation is just the starting place, plus it's not like it's onerous to look at profile snapshots and move on. It's certainly faster than opening a profile and rejecting for more substantive reasons.

Searching isn't something I normally do, but I thought I'd do an experiment. I'm currently in one of the US's major cities and even here, if I confine myself to couples who have paid memberships and have logged into SLS within the past two weeks, it's only 745 couples with a straight man and a bi/bicurious woman. The OP could run through those in the time it takes them to post one day's worth of their ill tempered and willfully ignorant screeds.

Chronic Complainer Syndrome

Research from Stanford University has shown that complaining shrinks the hippocampus—an area of the brain that's critical to problem solving and intelligent thought.

I hate to say it, but I actually agree with Espy for once.

A question though, does "pushy self-righteous asshole" qualify as a sexual orientation?

This again… facepalm

And while they are at it,
I suggest adding "Performative" to indicate that the person is actually STRAIGHT and only plays with same gender to put on a show.

Bi curious IS NOT THE SAME AS bisexual and NEEDS to be separated for the search criteria.