Suggestion

We used to think having an acknowledgment that our message was read would be a good idea. Especially when the Message system wasn't reliable. Now, we know that no response is actually a response. And if the recipient doesn't bother to open it, or deletes it before reading it, it means there was no interest. We can take the hint.

A "Flirt" button is more useful. We'd be much more interested in knowing that a profile had opened a private gallery to us. Maybe a button that combines the two?

And the notes appearing on the profile flyover? 4 thumbs up from us.

At that other site when you accept a friend request you are giving access to all our pics. We do not always accept the numerous requests we get from the pic collectors. I believe that if you accept a friend request here on SLS they still don't have access to your pics.

I occasionally use the Flirt feature on that other website, but I usually try to send an email/message first. On SLS, someone could do a Flirt and open their pics up if interested as a quick way to reach out and/or show interest. That is, if SLS had that capability.

More often than not though I see a Flirt and a Friend Request from SMs, so it's likely we'd see the same here. I already do see Friend Requests here with no other correspondance.

A different web site has a Flirt feature that would allow you to see if someone is interested or for you to express your interest without sending a message.

Agree a wink is different than a friend request. Friending us implies you know us or we’ve met so we decline unsolicited ones unless we’ve had some interaction. A wink would be a nice way to show interest or start a convo for more shy couples.

I do remember a time before the current IM system where we could save canned responses to send out. We used to have some basic “Thanks for the interest, but I don’t think we’re a match” or “We’re not actively looking for singles at the moment”, etc.

Well, since we are on the email topic.........

This site was a lot better when we had email and not just the PMs.

Emails still come in from group notices, so the functionality is apparently still within the system.

"I also like wink features. I met my wife online because she winked at me. With that being said, many people are using the Friend request feature as a wink feature and people complain about that. Seems if we created a feature that does the same thing and call it a "Wink" that the same people might complain about it. For the picture unlock notification, what if someone unlocks and locks their pictures 100 times in a row and you get spammed with 100 notifications?"

The Friend request asks me to do something. The photo demand asks that I do something (I mean, it does it badly, because the wording is still all screwed up, but it does ask for something). A wink? That's just a thing that someone is offering. If the canned message did not actually open photos, but was something someone could choose upon opening their private gallery for a particular account, again, it would just be something that was being offered.

There is a qualitative difference between things that require a response from strangers and things that do not. I'm betting things that do not require something from strangers are going to be less annoying than things that do. And might even get a pleasant voluntary response more often than the demand notices.

<p><a href="https://www.swinglifestyle.com/profile/lookup.cfm?usercode=62068881">goodgollymsmolly98226</a>,</p>

<p>I see your point. I guess if someone can see that their message was opened and not responded to that it gives closure and they can move on.Maybe some of the people requesting it can respond as to how they would use it.</p>

<p>I also like wink features. I met my wife online because she winked at me. With that being said, many people are using the Friend request feature as a wink feature and people complain about that. Seems if we created a feature that does the same thing and call it a "Wink" that the same people might complain about it. For the picture unlock notification, what if someone unlocks and locks their pictures 100 times in a row and you get spammed with 100 notifications? When features are added, I/we have to think of the positives and negatives and how someone might abuse those features.</p>

<p>I just posted in another thread about how a few months ago we updated the messages to always show unread messages first. We did that due to many requests to do it. After we did it, we had far more people complaining about it. Turns out, there are many, many people who have 100s or 1000s of unread messages that they are intentionally not reading and they did not want to have to constantly see all those first or spend the time to go through and mark them all as "read". We had to undo that update.</p>

"Because if we add such a feature, they would know that you opened it 3 days ago and have not responded."

I just don't see the point of knowing I opened it and didn't respond rather than knowing I've been online and didn't respond. Either way, the chief bit of knowledge is that I haven't responded. I mean, if someone has been online and your message hasn't been responded to, what practical use is it to know whether they bothered opening your message or not before deciding not to respond.

A wink would be useful. A canned message you can send saying you've opened your gallery would be useful. Knowing whether someone opened your message before deciding not to reply would not.

<p><a href="https://www.swinglifestyle.com/profile/lookup.cfm?usercode=62068881">goodgollymsmolly98226</a>,</p>

<p>"<span style="color:rgb(0, 0, 0); font-family:open sans,sans-serif; font-size:14px">I've either not bothered opening your message (because I can look at the profile without opening the message) or I've opened it and not bothered responding. I don't really see any purpose for knowing it was the latter rather than the former."</span></p>

<p><span style="color:rgb(0, 0, 0); font-family:open sans,sans-serif; font-size:14px">So basically, you would not want us to add a message opened indicator to show the other member? Because if we add such a feature, they would know that you opened it 3 days ago and have not responded.</span></p>

"Adding some sort of read/opened indicator is something we are looking at getting done after the new year."

The only point to that is to eliminate the possibility of an error in the SLS message delivery system. If you send me a message and I've not responded in three days, but my profile says I've been online, I've either not bothered opening your message (because I can look at the profile without opening the message) or I've opened it and not bothered responding. I don't really see any purpose for knowing it was the latter rather than the former.

If you’re open to continued suggestions, can we add notes for when you hover over a profile? I’d love to be able to see my notes without actually opening a profile..that usually leads to back and forth looks. Thanks!

<p>capecpl81 and New_and_Naughty,</p>

<p>Thanks. I passed your compliments along to the team. Adding some sort of read/opened indicator is something we are looking at getting done after the new year.</p>

Whatever yourself. I’m guessing you’re one of those “mean words are violence” whackos. Have fun with that.

Whatever.

“ Wayne and those that made this happen and endured the abuse.”

Agree that the site is a thousand times better. Disagree that criticism is abuse.

First off, I give credit where credit is due. For a while the site was having major problems and Wayne took a lot of guff from many, including myself. For the past few months the site has run very well, so kudos to Wayne and those that made this happen and endured the abuse.

Now on to my suggestion. Is it possible to add a feature for us to know if an email to another member has been read? Just curious. Thanks again for the work you’ve done.