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"I follow all the rules and still am striking out. "

And I see the EEyore poster child has landed on another thread with his same "woe is me" garbage!

I follow all the rules and still am striking out.

Yeah... you can lead a horse to water but you can't Make him drink.
That was Obviously Their Loss !
Geez...

bsfire - "I have always set up a GB for my wife's birthday,"

I was considering trying to set one up for the Mrs for MY birthday ;-) We already have a big party planned, so just need her to stop playing the host so much and play more.

I have always set up a GB for my wife's birthday, and have been disappointed in the results. Always invited and had commitments from at least 6 guys. Most of the time only a couple showed up. One time it was just one guy and he had a great time for a couple of hours. However being tired of no shows and commitments that never martelized I invited 10 guys, and actually 8 showed up. You should have seen the look on my wife's face. I have to say she handled them all with one guy staying behind for several more rounds with her. We keep talking about that night but could never repeat it.

When we came back after my back surgery July of last year my wife was ready to get going so, we decided until my back was back in shape, we were going to just look for SMs. She thought this was going to be easy and she was ready to fuck, when we were on here from 2002 to 2014 never had an issue finding couples or SMs. This time around it almost gives you a headache dealing with this shit. We are on 2 sites between the 2 we get 15 to 20 offers a day we might find 4 a week that look like they are worth pursuing maybe 2 of them answer back when you try to contact them back and they tell you they will meet, after vetting a couple days exchange numbers talk a couple days enough pics exchanged to make sure we are good with each other the day we are supposed to meet excuses start to fly or crickets, tell you they are on their way and never show we have there number but they never answer back after the day you were supposed to meet, now 1 out of 100 one will show. It's just a lot of work to give a horny guy some pussy. Now we are meeting couples too, seems like the ones that want to meet us are too far away and we can never set nothing up. we are not complaining, we just wonder why guys are so different than they were 10 years ago. I do agree with the ones that say the guys talking with you is enough to satisfy their fantasy and probably never intended to meet at all, or they are married and could not get away and did not want to expose their self...

“This applies to everyone. Not just singles. We run meet and greets and will regularly get 60-70 couples RSVP. Yet we only ever see half of them show up to the event. It's so consistent it's a rule now.”

A&J, as hosts ourselves this is def a rule to go by. Whenever we view an event posting and see the # of signups we always deduct 25-50% depending on the host group and their history.

Just noticed - "We spent 1 week setting up a meet this morning with 3 guys."

This was posted 2 days ago, so this was a weekday morning. I realize the guys committed, but for guys to attend it may mean they would have to dodge work and their wives, if married. This means a higher likelihood of getting cold feet for potentially a couple reasons.

Not to say an evening meet will be more productive, but it does seem as though it'd be a little more likely to succeed.

"recommendation was to invite twice as many unvetted/unknown guys as you thought you'd want, because at least 1/2 would be no-shows."

This applies to everyone. Not just singles. We run meet and greets and will regularly get 60-70 couples RSVP. Yet we only ever see half of them show up to the event. It's so consistent it's a rule now.

The fact that none of the 3 guys showed probably doesn't surprise most people here. In a gangbang thread somewhere in here the recommendation was to invite twice as many unvetted/unknown guys as you thought you'd want, because at least 1/2 would be no-shows.

Unless the invites for this involved Bi male play, there really wasn't much room for a bait and switch. I suspect all of the no-shows would have done the same even with the most legit profile, but it never hurts to improve your profile where possible.

Fwb, I am totally in with others in thinking your profile comes across as bogus. One of your answers also feeds into that guess as well.

No worries, FWB. Sometimes it takes a set of outside eyes to see things.

Even with that, you'll still have no-shows and Caspers turning up, because people suck, but hopefully that'll improve things. :)

Sidenote;

Only one of the three were from SLS. Didn't intend to suggest they all were from here.

BINGO... Sorillo!

Sorillo, you are absolutely correct. It was a single profile and changed to a couples
I edited a little until we both could rewrite it
Guess we need to fix that quick but the guys we have set things up with know we are a real couple. We expect to be vetted the same as we vet.

Another reason is that your profile kind of looks like a single guy using a photo of an attractive woman as bait. Unfortunately, there's quite a few people out there who pull this kind of bait and switch (both Bi and straight folks), where the attractive younger woman suddenly gets a headache and decides not to come out to the hotel room, but the older partner shows and is ready to play...

I'm assuming that's not the case with you, but your profile tends to point in that direction. At the very least, get some photos up of the two of you together. Plus, do a rewrite so that it sounds like BOTH of you wrote it.

Good luck.

We actually ask everyone if they are married. We go through a pretty good vetting process. We prefer married. Less chance of catching something and married guys tend not to brag and keep their mouth shut.

Fwb - Looking at the female half, I can see guys really wanting to do her and gettting all excited and commiting to something that they can't carry through with, most likely because they aren't really single. Perhaps they get off on knowing what "could" have happened, and just getting the nod to come fuck the wife/GF gets them off.

Only they know for sure, but I know for sure that it certainly has nothing to do with the GF, other than she might be so pretty that the guys are actually intimidated by her. As much as I get to play, I am still somewhat intimidated by really hot looking girls. I think it's more me "swimming in my own lane" as I think someone else put it, but I certainly wouldn't pass on the opportunity if given the nod.

The other issue is a lot of the guys are probably not really single. We run into this all the time with excuses on why they can't meet and such (they're trying to work around the spouses schedule)

They know up front and say they are fine with it but you may be right

You do mention a couple times in your profile that you would also like to suck their dicks. I’m guessing most single guys look at the picture of the woman and say sign me up. Then they later on read the profile and see the male half wants to blow them as well. Straight guys will run pretty quickly when they see that.

Why is so hard to find people that won't flake on you?

We spent 1 week setting up a meet this morning with 3 guys. They were anxious to get the chance to fuck her. Now, this morning we get two excuses why they can't make it and one not responding at all.

Never knew good pussy was so hard to give away