General tips for finding potential playmates

PLEASE Don’t upload a public picture of words that say:

“Nudes are played out.

Send me a video of you reading out loud so I know you’re not fucking dumb.” - Single Male

lol

~Allen

So true! There is this one guy from the DC are who's sent messages a few times. He's outside my distance zone. I've always told him if he gets up to my local club and sees me, feel free to say hi" nope, doesn't show.

Silly wabbit, corners are for showing, not telling.

:-)

~Allen

Magjoy - Yes, we have seen couples do that too. Sometimes they give themselves away. They'll sign up for 2 different parties on the same day and time and not go to eaither of them.

Perhaps they do 2 on 2 meetings and do this to try to give themselves some cred? If I've learned anything it's that the LS is a smaller world than many realize. They aren't fooling as many people as they think.

I'm assuming if single guys do it for "profile traffic" couples probably do as well.

Not our parties. No single guys allowed

I know a lot of single men sign up just so their profile hets "traffic". lame.

I'm not the thought police, so you're safe. You're probably even safe doing all or most of it. Just don't corner me and tell me about it ahead of time. ;-)

It's a public event listed here on sls. Can't really stop them from putting themselves on the attendee list.

We factor them into our space constraints. We only count on half of those who sign up actually showing. For example, last event we had 78 couples sign up and 32 showed.

We've got 96 signed up for this Saturday's event. We're expecting about 50 couples to show.

Back on point, we think some people sign up for these events as a way to add legitimacy to their fake profile. They can reach out to you and say "we're going to the same event" and try to get you to open pics.

AandJinNNJ - might be time to take some of those couples off the invite list - especially if you have limited space!

" I have seen people sign up and never show,"

This. We host meet and greets. We have some couples, not just one or two, who have signed up for every one of the 6 events we've hosted over the past 10 months an have NEVER showed to one. Not a one.

GGMM: Well, just my mouth shut and put a tin foil cap on me to block my thoughts..

~Allen

"She wasn't just turned off for that guy. It actually ruined the mood for her for the rest of the party. She wasn't upset. She just wasn't "feeling it" after that."

I'm with Mrs. mayhem. Anyone that's ever had a cat probably has seen it back up hacking (because it's no fun coughing up a hairball unless you can do it on a rug). That's pretty much my response to someone telling me what they're going to do to me instead of just doing it. There is an exception, but he tells me so I'm mentally prepared and there's no boasting involved. Otherwise, it's all backing up and looking pissed at the universe, because it's a complete buzzkill.

Was at a party this past Sat and the Mrs tells me she's going to play with a guy we know. No problem.

The party wears on but no play time happens. I asked why after the party and she told me that the guy started telling her all the things he wanted to do to her and it was just a big turn off.

While guys likely get turned on by that kind of conversation, seems it has exactly the opposite effect for many women (including the Mrs). Had he just led her to a room and DID the things he was telling her, I know at least two people that would have been happier at that party.

Chances are if you're telling a girl how well you're going to lick or fuck her silly, neither of those things are going to happen.

FWIW - She wasn't just turned off for that guy. It actually ruined the mood for her for the rest of the party. She wasn't upset. She just wasn't "feeling it" after that.

Sorry for the dup topic. I posted it, saw nothing, refreshed my screen and still saw nothing, so reposted. I can delete my posts but not a topic. Wayne, if you come cross this please delete it.

Thought this may be helpful as there are a couple things I do that I haven't really noticed being mentioned. Should be common sense, but....

I will look at couples that RSVP to local parties, and especially ones we attend. This indicates that they are very likely to be actively looking for playmates and are actually willing to get off the couch and drive someplace to meet people, assuming they actually attend. I have seen people sign up and never show, so something to keep in mind.

I also like to look at "Who's On". It shows members that are at least actively online and lists them by distance (closest to furthest).

Lastly, if someone viewed us and opened up their pics and they look interesting I will check them out.

Of course reaching out will be based on whether it looks like we're a match, but sometimes you can find gold from flipping over a few rocks in the stream.