Agreed. I haven’t chimed I’m because I don’t know where to start to offer help.
My gut feeling is OP is doing this on a phone, and the smaller the phone, the greater the chance for disaster.
This profile is a Gordian knot. Kudos to anyone who can straighten it out, but me, I’d take the simple, classic “slash of the sword”approach and start from scratch.
“We I'll still scratching her head”
“...see people have you. Profile multiple times.“
I’m still trying to figure out what all of that means.
Sorry for the extreme bluntness. But your grammar, in your profile and your responses here, is horrendous. That alone would make us nope out really quickly.
Why? We find that people write like they speak. So we'd assume that we couldn't follow a conversation with you face to face either.
If English is not your first language and that's a contributor to the grammar issues state that somewhere in the profile and/or your first message to people.
Yeah - we're all here for sex. But some of us enjoy the more social aspects of the lifestyle as well.
Yes it was. We I'll still scratching her head on how that even happened
Much better - that was so odd and confusing to see another profile appended to yours!
Remember the standard disclaimer that this is all about your profile, not about you personally. We're not mean just to be mean but we tend to be blunt and have strong opinions. We truly want your profile to help you have all the fun you are looking for.
Definitely need to get a few pictures of all three of you together. And the bathroom selfie has got to go - it is not a good look. Read Velma's DEBauCH system for default pictures for your public gallery - save the sexy/risque pictures for private or personal galleries. General photo advice is smile, watch for clutter or visual chaos in the background and avoid selfies. Most friends and even strangers are happy to take pictures for you and obviously you can take individual pictures of each other or the other two together.
In Looking For there is no need to yell at single men - since you show no interest in single men they can't see you (the "no interest but visible" doesn't work). You show interest in single ladies so should talk about them as well as couples.
Since you are a triad you can say something to the effect that the couple stats are for Bunny & Poppy and then give all the same information for Kitten. Then talk about your relationship, personalities and interests. Add information about your vanilla interests also to give people a way to connect with you.
What you have in Fantasies/Experiences repeats some of what you have in Looking For. Instead you might want to mention things you've enjoyed in the past or want to try. And leaving Additional Comments blank is wasting another opportunity to connect with people. Maybe mention if you can host or if you play in combinations other than all three together.
You'll want to compose your text in a word processor so that you can run a good spell check and grammar check when you think you're done. If only one of you is writing the text then have one of the others carefully read the text out loud - it will help find where you are missing words or have used an incorrect word.
If you want additional advice after you've made changes then let us know when your updated profile has been approved.
Good luck and have fun!
~Phoebert's Wife
Well then clean it up a bit, delete the extra crap and let us know when it's been approved and we'll take another shot at it.
Ain't SLS grand! ;-)
We can see where the confusion lies cuz we're confused to the upper part of our profile is us we have no idea how any of that information got into our additional we did change our ages we forgot to update them from original profile. We did ask for help and we're not taking it personally that certain people decided to take the s*** on this approach. But we did read it looked at our profile and was left scratching our head on where the hell all this other stuff came from
Hi. Please don't take anything said here personally. It really is about your profile, but it can feel personal and mean, especially if you've really put some thought and effort into what is being critiqued. The purpose of the bluntness is to starkly highlight what might be getting in your way, you know?
So, that out of the way, your tagline has a typo and needs punctuation, so it's not a great start. Your toggles, at half the age of the youngest to six years older than the oldest, are not a great optic. We want what we want, but the indication you think your eldest member is only a few years from being undesirable is not a good look. You'd be better off raising the upper limit and then saying thanks but no thanks to anyone you feel is too old. Then, SLS does not automatically update ages, so what is in your stats does not match your text. The suggestion there is to update your stats and only include Kitten's age in Description, saying the stats are for the other two.
Which reminds me. I have known a number of triads over the years and for those who play, they've been really successful, so I don't think it's your relationship configuration that is causing any difficulties. But it does mean your profile should be even more carefully crafted and that starts with photos. If you're a triad, then your photos should be of the three of you and that's not currently happening. If you choose to include risque photos, then they should be of both women, which I don't think is the case now. Also, please don't do selfies, bathroom photos, duplicates or photograph breasts from below.
In Looking For, a section where I'm usually pretty firm about not talking about yourselves, I think you should start with the information that you're a triad and you're looking for...whatever you're looking for. That means moving up what is currently in Additional comments (although it's women and men, not females and males, for reasons of grammar) and then figuring out a graceful way to explain what you're actually looking for and who that includes. Also, if you're looking for single women, mention them as well as couples.
You can eliminate the ALL CAPS thing about men, because expressing no interest automatically blocks that group. Yes, I know SLS indicates you can express no interest without blocking, but that has never worked. It's better to concentrate on what you do want and avoid the negativity.
In Description, you have a ton of typos, including some that indicate you've been writing this on your phone. That is a bad idea and you'd be much better off using a tablet or computer and running a decent spelling and grammar check, plus reading out loud to catch things like "closer" when you mean clothes.
In addition to leaving off two of the ages and fixing the multitude of typos, part of the problem with your approach in this section is that it's about the three of you as individuals instead of as a triad. So, nobody really has a chance to get a sense of you as a unit. What are some of the things you like to do together? Vanilla things I mean? What kind of people are you? Less sex and more person, along with emphasizing your togetherness, is probably a better way to go.
In Fantasies, since only two of the three of you are interested in full swap, you might consider accounting for a fantasy that includes the three of you or one specific to the partner who isn't interested in full swap. And if you have experience, this is the place for it. And, yes, you can make a joke about having significant FMF experience, if that's the case.
End on a high note in Additional comments. So, be as charming and personable as you can, thinking of this as a way to cement any interest you might have garnered.
Good luck. Make some changes and then come back for a review.
I hope you've read other reviews and understand that we might be a bit blunt and seemingly mean but everything is about your profile and not about you personally.
Your profile is very confusing. There appears to be an entire male/female couple profile under Additional Comments in addition to the triad profile. The ages in the text do not match the ages in the stats. You have a lot of incorrect words that make it difficult to make sense of your text. I didn't examine the pictures closely so I'm not sure if all three of you are represented. Selfies are not normally a good idea and yours are not well done. And you have one of the warnings that indicate that you're probably gullible.
I'm afraid I can't do much more until your text only reflects one profile (triad or couple - pick one).
~Phoebert's Wife
I opened a private gallery for you to show you the kinds of pictures you should have.
I don't think the triad thing is an issue, but I'd like you to work on your pictures. I think you should ditch the nudes and the sexypics and focus on classy, clothed pictures. Let's start with that. Use my private gallery as a guide. When you've taken the pictures, come back and repost so we can review.
We've been tweaking our profile now for the past year. We know it's kind of hard with a dynamic of 3 people for a couple but we've seen it work with others. We'd like some honest feedback as to what we're doing or saying wrong. Get a lot of foot traffic with the option of who viewed me and can see people have you. Profile multiple times. We've set up for hot dates at one point we were doing them three weeks in advance just and then we get the people who respond back to us that have certs but then they just flake out
