SM Profile Review Request - Couple Feedback Preferred

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OK - I'm fully caffeinated and just started on wine so I should be able to string a few sentences together about your profile. I'm usually the kinder, gentler version of blunt but your profile really annoys me. This pandemic also has me a bit out-of-sorts so it's not all your fault.

First - your profile is only about a week old. This is not an easy or quick way to find swinging partners. You are going to need some patience. An excellent reply rate is 20% or less - including "no thanks" replies.

You have changed some text since I looked at your profile earlier. Lookiing For is better but in my opinion just toss Description and Fantasies/Experience and rewrite those sections from scratch. And put something in Add'l Comments (will travel, can host, etc.) Don't describe how you look - when you contact someone you'll open a private or personal gallery with unobscured photos so people will see what doesn't show in your public photos. Tell us a bit about your personality and interests in a conversational manner. Don't go into detail about your fantasies and experience - save that for messages or conversation when meeting. Again - conversational manner rather than a list. We just need enough to know if there is something about you that appeals to us. Your profile is an enticement or advertisement not a tell-all novel.

I agree with MsMolly that a golfing photo is a great default given your profile name - perhaps you can find one that is from the front and is more obviously you playing golf. Of your current pictures I'd delete everything except maybe the one in blue Tshirt and white shorts. You want to show off your body and style - photos from the back and wearing jackets don't really help you. Remember to smile, watch for clutter or chaos in the background and avoid selfies.

Good luck, have fun and stay safe!

~Phoebert's Wife

You should go and read some of the other forum advice.

I think in your case, again, I am suspicious that you are a married man. It's the way you dress and the way the pictures were taken. Something just doesn't smell right. The picture of you in the yellow shirt on the beach was obviously taken by a woman based on the shadow.

Your wife maybe?

Swingers hate cheaters. So let's start with this. Are you married and does your wife know you are on here. If you are are she does, we can work with that.

I removed all pics that include more than one person. I will add more me only pics later today or tomorrow.

Thanks!

I didn't read your profile but I did look at your photos.

For me, men who post photos like you have raise a red flag. Why? Because you cropped out some people in a few photos, but blacked out faces in others. That makes me think you cropped out women because in the others you didn't crop out the men. You just blacked out their faces. The beach photo, you can see the shadow of the person who took it. And it appears to be a woman. All of that would cause me to wonder if you're married or attached. You may really be single, but looking through your photos I have doubts.

As far as more direct language, clearly communicate, without detours into how you feel about the question. I'm looking for couples and (if you are) single women (not females, for reasons of grammar, at which SLS is shit, so don't follow their lead). Primarily interested in MFM threesomes, but also open to (if you are) twosomes with hotwives and single women. Then include information about whether this is just for NSA or if you're looking for fwbs or whatever. And do it in a way that centers on the people you're looking for instead of on you. If you keep the personal pronouns to a minimum in this section, it works better.

Description doesn't need to include any physical aspects, because when you contact people it works better if you open face pics. Describe yourself with an I statement: I'm friendly, etc. And then include interesting things like hobbies or other things that give a flavor of you. There are thousands of single guys out there just like you, looking for the exact same thing, which isn't in abundant supply. What makes all of you different from one another is your uniqueness, so capitalize on that by showing some.

Fantasies would look better as a narrative instead of a list. Also, MMFF is a very different thing than MFMF and neither is a threesome, so don't group them that way. Additionally, the bulk of your fantasies have you acted upon instead of acting, which isn't necessarily a good strategy. Maybe pare down some and include any experience if you have any instead. And while the final paragraph is probably well meant, it misfires if your intention is to be appealing. You can either leave it off or content yourself by just saying you're always interested in hearing about the desires of others.

In Additional comments, you show a core misunderstanding of how this works. While it's possible couples and women will contact you, you could get old waiting for that first message. You're new, you have no certs, you don't have washboard abs. That means you'll have to work at this to get anywhere. So, in addition to good photos and an inviting, representative profile, you will also have to figure out how to effectively contact others, all without getting discouraged, in an environment that is very discouraging, even without a pandemic to increase the difficulty level.

That's what I have for now. Good luck, collect opinions, make changes, and please come back for a review.

Hi. I hope you've read other threads here and are prepared for the bluntness. Even if you have, it can sometimes be uncomfortable, but it's kindly meant.

Okay, so there's actually a fair amount of crossover in the way couples and women will look at profiles, because in both cases women will likely have unquestioned veto power. And I'm telling you this to blunt any inclination you might have to disregard what I'm saying on the basis of my marital status.

First, I don't know if this was genius on your part or accidental, but using the golfing photo as your default was actually a good idea, as your profile name is a little too aspirational to work well for a third otherwise. But, hey, Swinging_Soon as a golfer? Yeah, that is clever. It's not a great photo though, nor, for various reasons, are any any with your face blacked out. Plus including other people, even anonymized, without their consent is a definite no and calls your discretion into serious question. So, at the very least, remove the group photos.

Instead, photos of you in clothes that fit, preferably taken by others, is the way to go, along with using technology instead of a Sharpie to blur your face.

Taglines should be interesting in some way, so clever and short is good. Being informative instead, as you've done, does not invite people to open your profile to discover more, because you have everything right there. Photo of guy who wants to meet with couples for intimate (in this instance, btw, it's not a good synonym for sex) encounters. Bang. Onto the next profile. Plus, only the first word is capitalized.

For the text, my first piece of advice is to eliminate all the talking aloud stuff like the first paragraph in Looking for and most of Description.

The rest of Looking For isn't great either. While some couples are looking for a fairly meek third, most aren't. While meek might not be an accurate descriptor for you, that's how your profile is coming off, along with a bit entitled.

Try more direct language instead, without the "you decide!" caveat, but also without going so far into setting up the scenario of drinks or dinner. This is kind of subtle and hard to explain, plus it also has to be authentic for you, but... as thirds, we don't do the driving, unless that's part of the turn on for couples. So, any mention of how you want to meet has to be a suggestion instead of a scenario and where you put it matters. If it's down in Additional comments as an 'I like to meet first for drinks or dinner,' it goes over better. I hope that makes sense.

You need to set interest in singles to "maybe" or higher to allow MsMolly to read your profile - and you really want her to review your profile. The "no interest (profile viewable)" level of interest doesn't work as advertised - it blocks access even without the "block" box checked.

I haven't had enough coffee yet to do a reasonable review yet - would have reviewed last night but had too much wine and couldn't corral my thoughts.

It is a picture of me golfing. I went ahead and changed my default picture.

Profile is now open to females as well.

Hi. Your profile currently blocks single women. SLS has an option that appears to let you express no interest but leave your profile viewable, but it doesn't work.

Good evening - I would like to have my profile reviewed and pictures examined so I can improve my
chances of at least getting a response.

Are my standard to high?