Hi there..looking over your profile. Your wording, interests outside of playing, what you are looking for play wise look really good. As far as your profile, all I found was that your wife is bi situational but, she is listed as straight. That can be a bit confusing to women that do want a bi curious woman so, they will most likely pass over your profile cutting your target audience down. As far as your pics, the body shots are really good. No angle shots, that irritates the crap out of us but, you both look great so I wouldn't expect you to be trying to hide anything. The only thing I found was the numerous face shots with the face covered up. If you're not comfortable showing your face, just put those pics in the private folder. The action and beach pics were good. Other than that, good profile.
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Your thoughts are spot on about having pictures of both male and female. Like you said, too many profiles only have pictures of her. It may work for some people, but my thoughts are that the better matches are with those who have pictures of both , because that is more likely what they are looking for as well.
We personally would not contact profiles that do not have pictures of both.
That's for the great advice. I'll work on re-writing it and then have my wife look over it. We'll remove a few of the pictures and try to shorten our profile up so that is more to the point and flows better.
I guess our thought was always, so many couples have pictures of only the lady and none of the guy. Most time, the pictures are all the same and it's hard to gauge what they do other than have the wife bend over from different angles. That said, we over compensated.
You guys look great and use complete sentences so that's a big plus #onhere
I did think your profile lacked a certain sexiness to it. It just sort of lays everything out there in a not particularly interesting way. There wasn't a lot playful, fun, or mysterious about it. I did like that you had a couple little messages on your pictures - more of that kind of thing would be great.
I don't see major issues with your profile - just a few minor ones that might be impacting your success a bit.
I tend to prefer relatively short profiles - both text & pictures. My theory is that a tag line should entice me to look at a profile and the profile should entice me to send a message. If I have to slog through a lot of similar pictures and mind-numbing text then I'm probably going to pass. Avoid repetition - move similar pictures to another gallery and allow your stats & photos to speak for themselves.
Pick a way of referring to yourselves individually - I noticed he/she, male half, husband/wife (my preference is he/she). Way too many of your sentences start with "we" - see if you can vary your sentence structure to avoid the we-we-we-we-we effect. You've included a lot of explanations that can either wait for that first meeting or should remain between the two of you. And much of your information would be better moved to a different section.
If you were not happy with others expecting bi-female play when she was listed as bi-curious then list as straight. Her curiosity can be expressed during early messages or first meetings.
Let us know when your revised profile has been approved if you'd like additional advice.
Have fun and stay safe!
~Phoebert's Wife
Hi. I'm not the nice one, but my intentions are kind even though I'm really, really blunt. Try to roll with it, if you can.
So, I usually default to Velma when it comes to photos. Hers are great, her system is super flexible while pretty much working for everyone, etc., and once she's spoken, I almost always leave it alone. However, I think you have about twice as many photos as you need, or at least that's a guess because I bailed before I got to number 20. But, really, if you can't tell your visual story in ten or fewer photos, you need different photos. Since yours are fine, it's really just that there are too many.
I see your dilemma with sexual orientation. I wish SLS had more than three options, but it doesn't, so you get to choose being pressured by women or ignored by couples who insist on g/g play. If it was me and I had any idea what straight felt like, I'd just pick straight, since it's easier to negotiate an addition than to manage expectations downward. Also, the other woman will appreciate the compliment.
As to your profile, it's not terrible, but it is unfocused and somewhat repetitive and has some room for improvement.
In Looking For, you start out well with the first two sentences and then in a section meant to be about others, you make yourselves the focus in the remainder. If you change your phrasing so that the word "we" isn't used, move stuff about how you want to meet down to Additional comments, pull up the stuff about him also looking for MFM when he travels (more about that later), I think you'll have a better chance of appealing directly to others.
In Description, my standard advice is that we will all assume you have a solid, strong marriage even if you don't mention it and mentioning it sounds rather defensive. I'd leave it out and just demonstrate it instead in your interactions with others.
The second paragraph doesn't need to be here either. It's part of the introductory negotiations once you've made that initial contact, but it doesn't serve you in what is essentially a resume. It's like detailing your work flow process in your resume, if that makes sense.
I'd rewrite the section about her bi-flexibility, because I think that's part of what might cause an expectations problem. She enjoys playing with women is what you've written, with the tossed off afterthought of chemistry. So, it's like there's a built in rejection when she's not up for playing with a particular woman. Instead, make it sound like a very rare thing, don't mention chemistry (even though that's what will make the different).
Fantasies could be a little more tightly written. There's nothing wrong with it (except that's not how elipses - the ... - are used), but you sound a little like Golden Retriever puppies. So, maybe just confine yourself to more of an overview and then say a little about your experiences. Oh, and while it's lovely that she thinks he's an amazing lover, this is an instance where you let your certs speak for you.
Additional comments is great, so long as you've mentioned it in Looking For. I like her obvious enthusiasm, plus you've handled the practical details as well and it's a nice note on which to end.
Other than that, I noticed a few places where words didn't exactly flow, so you might want to read your revisions out loud before you submit them.
Good luck.
I think it kind of goes both ways.
I’m not into oral sex personally. If a man or a woman tries to do it on me They better let me get my knitting first.
I don’t mind going down on girls. It’s really not that big of a deal and if they are into it it’s fun to watch them go wild.
I prefer tribbing with other women - Meaning rubbing pussy on pussy or pussy on thigh. It’s hot, the boys love the show, and I can actually orgasm form it.
Maybe if you’re lucky you might see it one day... I’m sure there’s a race in Charlotte coming up.
But anyway, if mandatory girl-homo has been a problem in the past then keep her listed as straight.
@Velma Thank you for taking the time to look over everything and comment. Also thank you for the super nice compliments! We originally had my wife listed as bi-curious, but we'd get so many very bi women wanting some sort of "guaranteed" bi play. She enjoys kissing, caressing, but has no interested in orally pleasuring women. She did enjoy strap-on play and having a women go down on her. She's just much more interested in men, than women and felt pressured by every women we meet or chatted with about bi play. The truth is, she just doesn't know until the clothes come off and the mood starts. I definitely don’t mind updating it to bi-curious, but we try not to be misleading.
Honestly, I don't think you need to do anything. You seem fun and interesting and you take good pictures of you doing interesting stuff. If we were to do a Marathon in North Carolina, you are exactly the kind of couple we would like to meet.
I created something I call the DEBauCH method to create five core pictures that will increase your chances of success. This means DATE, EVENT, BEACH, CHICK, HIM. You hit every note in the DEBauCH method, so no suggestions there.
I did open a private gallery which explains more about the DEBauCH method if you want to know more.
The only thing I would change is flip the lady's sexuality to "BiCurious." Yeah, she's straight. So am I. But she sounds like me in the sense that she engages in light FF play.
You could be losing couples who are searching for bi-girls.. So you will probably get more interest if you flip your profile to BiCurious for the female half.
That's about it. Good job with this.
Please look over and give some suggestions on how to improve our profile. We really don't have much else going on, so we mind as well make the profile a bit better.
Thanks again for your time and advice.