Profile review, please?

Much better!

Other than some current pictures (generally try for no more than a year old) any additional changes I might suggest at this time would just be nit-picking.

Hi. Your profile is much improved. I particularly love your tagline, even though it's a mile long.

There are a few places that could use some refinement, but if you're completely happy with what you have, I'll keep them to myself.

Thank you all for the feedback. I will for sure be making the suggested updates. I was in a dark place when I wrote most of this, and it shows unpin reflection of your comments. Truly thank you.

Since I'm going to be mean I'll repeat the disclaimer - all criticism is about your profile, not about you!

Your profile was so off-putting to me that I'd never have seen that silly warning at the end if I was searching for someone in LA. I'd have noped out partway through Description and just forgotten all about you. Way too much negativity and way too much "me-me-me" going on.

Looking for needs to be about who you are looking for - one-time encounters while traveling, on-going hometown FWB, club going dancers, quiet bar conversationalists - give us a clue. We all know about the bad single male profiles - just show us how good you are. Description is too long and rather scattered. Excessive emphasis on oral skills is usually perceived as an indicator of performance issues in other areas - hopefully not a problem at your age so you might want to dial that back. Don't waste space on things that your stats and pictures should cover - height, weight, beard, long hair, etc. Fantasies is great - you need that sort of clarity in the other sections. Additional comments is probably a good place for the info about traveling and the cities you frequent.

You really need to get some better pictures - the one you have is not doing you any favors. Have a waitress take your picture when out to dinner and nicely dressed; have a friend take pictures at the pool or beach if you want to show off your body, Selfies usually don't flatter anyone and give the impression that you have no friends. Go find Velma's more detailed advice to other single guys if necessary. My advice is simple - smile (it affects your whole body language), watch for clutter or visual chaos in the background and avoid selfies (especially bathroom selfies).

So ditch the negativity (about other single males, about your looks/size) and refine Looking For and Description. Most people aren't going to wade through a lot of text to find common ground so keep it all relatively short - two or three sentences in Looking For and maybe twice that in Description should be enough.

Oh - and find a better tag line - I'm not looking for anyone's older, less attractive, out of shape brother! It's fine to be older, less attractive and out of shape (I probably qualify on all three) but it's not how you attract fun people.

Good luck and have fun!

~Phoebert's Wife

The writing on the profile was kind of a turn off. Sounds scattered and weird.

I'm traveling for a race this weekend, so I really don't feel like opening my profile up to single males and dealing with the dicknado that comes with it.

Based on your certs, I think you're doing pretty well. Honestly, I would add a full-body pic of you at the beach and a full-body pic of you dressed nicely like you are going on a date.

I would remove the part about you being liberal. I'm a pretty die-hard Republican. My husband is the liberal. I really don't want to talk politics with you. Take it out.

Steve, from the certs you have it seems like you are doing well or just keeping up with old relationships.

With the profile, it was written in 2017? Be sure to update it so that it is current. As suggested try and not use the first person singular so much and try and write according to the section headings as much as possible. When talking about other sm's you don't need to bash them. Just simply state you understand that role and reference your past experience. Mention what you would like to add to or help a couple with. There's nothing wrong with talking about oral but I would not be interested in you simply because of how you talk about it. Most guys who spend that much word space on oral are pretty deficient when it comes to the main event. Be sure to frame it in terms of foreplay or preparation of better things to come.

Pictures are definitely something you need in the default gallery. The one you have really doesn't say much or show much and therefore won't garner much interest. If you don't have someone to take the pictures for you then use the timer on your camera app. Put on a nice shirt and a tie, get some recreational shots, and be sure to let some of your personality come through.

Hi. It's late and I'm tired, so you get the condensed version. You do get the full warning though, which is that this process can feel mean and critical, as well as intrusive. Please keep in mind that any criticism is directed at your profile, not at you, and the purpose is to help you see and remove roadblocks that are between you and whatever amount and kind of sex you're looking for.

So, first, your tagline is terrible. Like, yeah, I get it, but you're starting out with implied criticism. How enticing do you think that is? Short and clever is a good look and you should try it.

Second, I defer to Velma for photos, but will say a selfie of you in a bulky hoodie is not a great idea. Have other people take photos of you and crop accordingly.

As far as your text, here's where I'm really going to give you the short version.

Looking For is an opportunity for others to I see themselves in what you write. You've pretty much given everyone shirt shrift here and would be better served using more words. And focus those words on others (if you use the word "I" more than once, you probably need a rewrite).

Description is really long, has multiple syntax errors and insufficient blank space between paragraphs. Because it's the longest section by far, it might be seen as an indicator that you'll spend all night talking about yourself. So tighten it up, read it aloud, run it through a decent spelling and grammar check (don't use your phone) and consider moving the stuff about oral sex to Additional comments.

Which is good, because it can replace that silly, completely unenforceable warning you have there now. Not only is it based on an internet legend, it has no basis in law.

Fantasies is good, really good, with just one punctuation error.

Anyway, that's all I have for now. I'd suggest collecting more opinions, making some changes and then coming back for a review.

Good luck and I'm very sorry for your loss.

Hi everyone. I am hoping to get some help with my profile. I was a couple for many years before my wife died and have recently taken some time off. It’s hard for a single guy b/c there’s SO MANY bad apples... but I’d like to make my profile the best it can be for anyone interested.

Also, I open up private pictures when I reach out to people, I just need to be discreet with PUBLIC face pics.

Thanks in advance for your help!!