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Might be about time to start a thread on how many angels can dance on the head of a....

Guess we are just doing the good lord’s work!! ??

Sorillo

That and their profile creates 4 or 5 Angel's everytime someone reads it.

Heh.

It'd be easier if you just admit that you want the puppet. ;)

wiggles puppet

I'm still scheming and plotting a way to have Velma invite me over

Get in line...

Tell the truth. You saw one of Velma's other posts about taking it in the pooper, didn't ya. sticks out tongue

I don't blame you. I'm still scheming and plotting a way to have Velma invite me over....

Definitely will let you know if we are ever in DC!!

If there’s two rules over all - I wouldn’t post more than 10 pics and be wary about posting more than one of the same shot.

Like a swimsuit pic at the beach is fine. Three or four different pictures in the same swimsuit is overdoing it. But it could be fine to have a swimsuit pic at the beach and then the same swimsuit under a waterfall.

Thank you all again for the constructive feedback! We will continue to make changes and update as we go. We really do appreciate it.

We made a few small updates and will continue to do so as the ideas keep coming!

Hi. You've gotten some really good advice and your profile looks way better than the first time I saw it. It's kinda up to you whether you want to keep making changes or just let it sit for awhile, because it's perfectly okay for a new profile. You will need to make some changes after about six months or so, to account for having been on SLS for that amount of time in a way that doesn't sound quite so new and raw.

As far as your profile now, Looking For is really all about you, with a brief nod to the groups you're looking for, which is everyone. No one is really going to see themselves in that section and you might be a little more successful if you made it less about you and more about other people. I get that you want some hand holding, but perhaps it would be more effective to recast your sentences to say things like you're looking for couples, etc., who are willing to take their time and be patient with you. Also, it's TMI in this context to talk about being really excited. That is a conversation between the two of you and one none of the rest of us need be privy to.

Description is pretty superficial and doesn't really give much of a sense of you. I think it's fine though, because everyone is going to be patient your first few months. But if you ever relax, this is a section that could definitely benefit from greater depth. And by that I mean to think about what makes you unique as a couple and give some of that flavor to this section.

Fantasies is good. Just remember to update as you have other experiences.

Additional comments again has that TMI moment, this time regarding your nervousness. Your profile already shouts "newbie," and while nervousness is assumed, it doesn't serve you to make it part of the conversation. The rest of it is fine, although you could do a slightly better job of ending in some sort of enthusiastic and/or charming way.

I'm going to end with something no one else mentioned but it struck me when I first looked at your photos, which is that they don't all seem to be from the same year. None of your photos should be more than a year old. So, that's my last piece of advice.

Good luck.

"Lastly, you will quickly come to realize that the vast majority of LifeStyle (LS) people look like everyone else. We do not act any different when meeting new LS people than we would meeting vanilla people. If you interact well with new vanilla people you will find breaking that ice comes easier than you might expect."

THIS THIS THIS THIS

One of the things that I've repeated..... repeatedly, is that LS etiquette is pretty much identical to vanilla etiquette. Except that it's more likely that you'll have more than two people on the bed during wild monkey sex. ;)

That goes hand in hand with what I was saying earlier about practicing your interactions with people. For example, I'm naturally kind of reticent, also, I'm a bit inclined to be quiet and uncommunicative. That's a joke, by the way. ;) But over the years, I've FORCED myself to be more outgoing, by practicing it at every opportunity. I'm still somewhat quieter and less outgoing than many other folks but through repetition and practice, I've made it so that I'm fairly comfortable while meeting new people. You can definitely do the same, and besides, it's fun to meet new people! Especially if you wake up with a bunch of strange people's clothing spread around the room and your crotch feels like a glazed donut.

Of all of your pics, the one you selected as the default Profile pic would likely have been my least favorite. You have so many others that are better. Keep in mind that the default Profile pic is usually the first thing people see.

It would serve you better to flesh out the Description a little more. Hobbies can be a way that others see common interest and it makes for conversation starters.

In general, it almost looks like you have a bit of writers block. I'd suggest checking out other people's profiles for ideas that you like and can use. Plagiarism is a perfectly acceptable practice here.

As for getting over the shyness of reaching out first, it's natural for some of that to be fear of rejection. When you're new it really feels like you're especially vulnerable emotionally. In time, you come to realize that, just as you aren't interested in everyone on here, others will feel the same about you. It IS personal, but it doesn't mean that you aren't nice people or are somehow inferior. This will likely become more apparent to you the first time someone reaches out to you and you are faced with having to decline nicely.

As for other ideas, I definitely suggest looking into local LS events. Perhaps start with Meet & Greets and see how it goes. Keep in mind that some % of the people there are looking for pretty much the same thing you guys are and may very well be just as nervous/shy. The fact that the Mrs can strike up conversations easily will serve you well.

Lastly, you will quickly come to realize that the vast majority of LifeStyle (LS) people look like everyone else. We do not act any different when meeting new LS people than we would meeting vanilla people. If you interact well with new vanilla people you will find breaking that ice comes easier than you might expect.

You guys are looking pretty good-I actually like the Christmas picture inside the CrossFit box.

If you to ever come up to DC you should definitely Come fuck me.

I didn't see your initial attempt but what you have is better than most relatively new profiles!

In absolutely no order here are things I noticed:

Take a closer look at your Looking For section - it seems that most of it is about you not who you're looking for.

Don't repeat so many times how new you are.

There is at least one instance where you use "your" when you mean "you're" = "...let us know if your interested..."

Your text says you're interested in couples and single guys yet your interest levels show full interest in single ladies as well - you need the two to be in synch.

Your pictures are pretty good but I'd replace the selfies as you get other better ones. Dress up & go to dinner and get a waitress or hostess to take a few pictures of you - it's an easy way to get a nice picture of the two of you together.

You seem highly motivated and you've got a great start - profiles are always a work in progress. Sometimes it is easier to copy all the text into a word processor and make your changes at your leisure without having to wait for SLS approval for each little change you might make in quick succession during a rewrite.

Good luck & have fun!

~Phoebert's Wife

Much improved! Thanks for taking the advice in the spirit on which it is intended.

Totally agree with the ass out of water pic. It's a keeper.

Our only nitpick is the term like minded. It doesn't mean anything unless we know your mind. And we're not going to get that from your profile. Not a big deal and probably not something that would make someone on the fence about you say no.

That's an improvement. It's still a bit sparse, but it's a decent starting point.

At this point, the next thing to work on is text that looks kind of generic. New Swinger Couple, Government Issue, 1 Each, Green in color. ;) The photos hint that there's a totally awesome couple here, you've got great smiles that scream "Meet us, we're fun!". But the text isn't showing that yet. Not to worry, it just takes some work to find that couple and show them in both your photos and text.

One thing that you did that's absolutely fantastic is that you obscured the faces of all those folks in the background of the weightlifting pic. It's rare, and it shows that you're respectful folks. Good job.

We will definitely get a good “date night” pic the next opportunity we have. Thanks again for the advice. We really appreciate it!!

I like your updates. About the only thing I would suggest is a picture of you to dress nicely like you’re going out on a date, but I think what you have works.

Be careful with your beard length-some of your pictures have a beard, some of Them are clean-shaven.

I personally don’t like that because I feel like I want to know what I’m getting. If you currently have a beard all of your pictures should have a beard. If you’re clean-shaven all of your pictures should be clean-shaven.

Ok. Thanks for all of the feedback. It looks like our updates were approved. We added and removed a couple of pics and will add more when we get some new ones per the recommendations. Let us know!

Ps. Kept the butt out of water one because we both liked it...

Would suggest not contacting anyone until the profile is filled out more. Don't start making impressions until you all get it done. Definitely work together to write out the profile. The more of this you do as a couple the better the journey will be. This is your opportunity to essentially advertise yourself to the swinging masses. Definitely go through the mountain of advice in the forums but also read a lot of profiles and get an idea of what you all like if you haven't already.

You should expect a fair amount of no replies from messages. Non-response simply means no. Also, resist to the urge to get too excited about your first few messages and be prepped to filter flakes and fakes. Find a decent way to vet people before you all agree to meet for drinks, disco, roller derby, etc.

I don't have much to say on your profile since there really isn't one. Not trying to be snarky, I want you to JUST be annoyed enough to say "Oh yeah? Well hold my beer and watch this!", and then write a really bitchin' profile just to spite me. :)

Since you're basically starting from scratch, start going through the other threads here in Better Profiles. Read some of the advice given to others, I think you'll find that most of it applies to you as well. Once you're done reading..... read some more. THEN start writing. You'll need to put in some work, serious work. There are no shortcuts.

Look for Velma's Debauch method for photos in the other threads here. Especially if you're just starting out that's a great starting point. Also, no selfies. Selfies need to be killed with fire, especially the dreaded bathroom selfie. You're a couple, which means you have someone to operate the camera for you. The one exception is the action selfie, where you take the photo while doing something interesting (hanging off of a cliff face while rock climbing, camera is mounted to your bike handlebars while you're blasting down a trail etc).

As to the fear of reaching out first? It's the same how you get to Carnegie Hall: Practice, Practice, Practice. Practice talking to EVERYONE. Talk about the weather with the cashier at your local HEB, ask the guy behind you in the checkout line about the Merrill hiking boots he's wearing, etc. Obviously, you don't NECESSARILY want to start asking your grocery cashier for a threesome (depends on if she's hawt, of course :) ), but getting comfortable being friendly with people is going to translate fairly well to making approaches via mail here on SLS.

Damn Velma. Sorry to hear that.

Next time, let us know you're in town. We're not far from the city and I'm sure we can keep you occupied.

Guess we need to start checking out the hot date section more often.

Velma is currently alone in NYC, sans mari and can't get laid in a city of 8.6 million people. No bullshit. I had 3 hotdates up Friday, Saturday and Today and nobody had the balls to reach out to me. The only guy I had in my mouth last night was Basil Hayden. I'm returning home to my husband tomorrow who thankfully has a dick and isn't afraid to use it.

So maybe my profile and advice are just bullshit. It couldn't seem to get me laid this weekend, although I didn't try that hard. All the men at the hotel bar were pussies and all of the women looked like just got off their shift as cashiers at Auto Zone.

So take my advice with a grain of salt or a shot of tequila. I certainly need one.

Let's see... I like your pictures. They are creative and framed well. The only thing I would do is decide which picture of her tits you want to show because three pictures of the same tits aren't doing it for me. I might take one picture of you doing something interesting - go rock climbing or do a 5K.

I think showing that hobbies is important because it's a way to develop an instant connection with another couple if you like the same things.

Your profile needs work. Like - there is no profile. Want to know what your profile sounds like? It sounds like this:
*****
Hi. We are new.

We like fun. We like sex. We are fit. Sex is fun.

We had fun once. It was fun.
*****

Wow, you sound like every single dud who tried to cheat on his wife with me at the hotel bar last night. Show me that you are passionate about something.

Rewrite, maybe take one or two additional pictures. Narrow it down to one pair of tits, and repost.

Thanks! We rewrote everything so hopefullly it represents us and what we are looking for better. Look forward to any other feedback.

You really don't have a profile to review. We suggest you rewrite it from scratch and in each section take 3-5 sentences and answer the question being posed.

Looking for should describe the folks you're looking for, description should describe you (and you can leave out height and weight since that's at the top of your profile. )

Tell us a little about you beside the fact that you want to have sex. Give us reason to reach out.

I'm sure someone will be around shortly with more advice and we're hoping Velma comes around for pic advice.

You're going to get some blunt advice. Understand we all mean it in the best intention - to get you laid.