I know I’m extremely late to the party but, i was a bit compelled to reply. The myth that women are the draw to any event isn’t quite so when one examines this a bit deeper. Men are in fact the draw or at a minimum create an atmosphere of sexual reciprocity. Women get off on attention alone and if there’s no men present, what do they have? The issue is, there’s just a surplus of thirsty men in this lifestyle who are willing to do just about anything to get laid but i assure you... a party with zero men involved would be a snoozefest for women. Even lesbians, for example, have a prosthetic penis handy which uhhhh, represents a MAN! Let’s look at the facts; single men unknowingly finance most parties by being charged sometimes 4x the amount as couples with zero guarantee of sex. . Husbands Virtually do all of the online leg-work to find suitors with arranging play dates with couples or singles. Men are the filters for the female’s taste. I personally always assume I’m talking to the male-half when I’m online. . Men provide protection for their dates. We buy the drinks, etc. Husbands typically Cater to the wife’s fantasy first. Husbands film and takes pictures etc. i could go on. Now, imagine if men simply refused to do any of this, what would you have? I’ve been in this lifestyle on/off since 2002 and ideally a fundamental shift needs to occur. There’s very little respect for men, namely, single men. No one sees sex as an act of reciprocity. And the only reason most wives one to swing is because they want to explore new dick. It’s as if single men are getting something for free yet busting a nut drains a man for 3-7 days, clinically speaking. It would be marvelous if one day single men aren’t generalized by having bad behavior or as being a hindering aspect to events. I’ve never witnessed one incident of a single guy stepping over boundaries and I’ve swung in 3 states. I’ve seen plenty of drunk, belligerent women, though.
[LOCKED]Why aren’t single men allowed at parties?
When i/we signed up on here, you couldn't be a single male without paying. The proclivity for men (single or pretending to be) to behave in a manner that strains a fun, LS environment, would be my guess..? Single male jackassery, yep..thats probably it. :/~
If you're a single guy and want to attend a party that doesn't allow or limits sm, get a couple or SL to accompany you. I never have been told I could not invite a special guest.
If you're a single guy and want to attend a party that doesn't allow or limits sm, get a couple or SL to accompany you. I never have been told I could not invite a special guest.
I know this is going to be blunt but there's more need for single women. I have found most single men don't have respect and most think it's a free-for-all I also think the word etiquette is no more I'm old school and people don't seem to care anymore.. Back in my day we would take seminars/ classes to know what to do in certain situations...
The lifestyle is not a free-for-all more respect is needed...
The parties that we go to that do allow SMs do limit them. If a party catches your eye, don't wait till the last minute to sign up or you may be wait-listed. That means a guy would have to drop out before another is allowed to attend.
Shit happens and there may be times you'll need to cancel. Make sure to let the hosts know as soon as possible, and if you're constantly changing plans, you may be overlooked in lieu of someone more reliable. With hotel parties, even the host doesn't know the room # usually until the day of the party, so they can just not send it to you to keep you from attending.
We know people who thought they were being kind when they opened the sm floodgates at some parties they hosted. What happened was that there were about 4 sm's per lady and most of the couples had no interest in sm's. Now keep in mind how rude people act when they are horny and drunk coupled with the delusion of many sm's: all these ladies want to fuck me. It's funny at how shocked many of them are that I am not interested in them. A few bad eggs in an overcrowded situation made things unenjoyable.
There are more sm's out there than couples who will play with them. When parties are left wide open then they get overwhelmed. Most will employ some time of vetting system for the sm's that come or deter them by over charging them.
It is a great suggestion to start up your own group and host a small party.
There are a number of parties by us and some allow SMs and some do not. A lot has to do with the couples that typically come. Some couples are just not comfortable with SMs and will not attend a party that has them. Others (like us) prefer parties with SMs, but we will go to either if they look like fun.
Depending on where you live your options may sound limited as a SM. If so, form a group and plan a M&G as suggested and see if you can find a couple that enjoys SMs to help you set up a party. All you really need is a Hot Date and a hotel room/suite. The reason I suggested a couple to assist is they are the least blocked group on SLS, so can reach out to just about anyone.
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why are you yelling?
hush joey. calm down
~rabbit~
WOMAN LIKE WHEN YOU ARE WITH SOMEONE THEY TRY TO TAKE YOU AWAY FROM HER
Everyone has their reasons for how they plan a party but I think what you really want to know is how to find parties where single guys are welcome. Check your area for SM friendly groups and if there isn’t one, start one! Invite other couples who are SM friendly and invite single guys into the group who you think would be a good fit then plan some M&Gs to get everyone together.
Once you have some level of comfort you can plan to host a party or ask someone in the group to host.
Good luck and have fun.
~Scamp
Thank you for standing up for single men swingcurious5045 It’s not often you have someone wanting a single male in the mix I certainly appreciate the thought and the irony is I can’t look at your profile because you don’t allow single men to look at yours it’s the thought that counts thank you greg
Thank you for standing up for single men swingcurious5045 It’s not often you have someone wanting a single male in the mix I certainly appreciate the thought and the irony is I can’t look at your profile because you don’t allow single men to look at yours it’s the thought that counts thank you greg
We have been going to parties both house & hotel & are just wondering why single women are allowed but not single men? I think this is a great place to meet one & be able to do MFM? Thoughts?