Bucks county PA

Well, I am single and live in Bucks County. I have been focusing on myself over the past five years and am now starting to put myself out there. Feel free to chat!

"I am fit. Job. Great family. Financially secure. Home. Cars. Basically everything I would think a woman would want."

Your first mistake is assuming that the ladies on this, or any other swinger website, are that shallow. That opening line would be better served on Match dot com, or any other similar dating website.

I might not be the sharpest knife in the drawer, but my personal experiences tell me that you are nowhere close to what will get a reply, online or in person.

To use a fishing analogy, you are trying to catch Sharks, using worms for bait.

"I am fit. Job. Great family. Financially secure. Home. Cars. Basically everything I would think a woman would want."

LMK has given you valuable advice and is offering the information you need in order to connect with people in person in a way that is far more efficient than messaging profiles. Please listen to her.

The sentence of yours that I've quoted above is why I looked at your post shortly after you wrote it, shook my head, and moved on.
It's such a narrow, parched and transactional view of what women want that I don't think you'd make a very good partner for a woman who is comfortable in the lifestyle, not without a major adjustment in your attitude.

Here's what I admire and am attracted to over the long term (and I don't think I'm alone): Character, brains, a sense of humor, the ability to roll with adversity, a love of women, their company as well as their bodies, willingness to talk about complicated, uncomfortable things without bailing, a great smile, kindness, generosity in all things, including sex. There's more, but that is my baseline. Please note none of your qualifications are included. I mean it's great that the people I love have jobs, places to live, and cars, but I have my own and don't need anything of the sort from others. Not alone here either.

Also, to answer your question about where do people meet, I see you’re in Pennsylvania. There is a very active and social LS group in PA. Most of their activities are in the Lancaster/ York area so a bit of a drive if you’re in Bucks County. But I attend from Baltimore and I think it’s definitely worth the drive. Their “home” club is the Korral. They have a very active FB page but someone has to meet you in person first to sponsor you. To make that easy, they have a first Thursday Meet & Greet every month. The next one is this Thursday. If you’re interested, PM me and I’ll give you the details.

nicely written, LMK.

Big: I looked at your profile and honestly, as a SF, it wasn’t one that would make me respond. Perhaps this should be moved to “Better Profiles,” but here we are.

I would love to see you succeed here and find what you’re searching for. As others have said, this really isn’t the venue for finding LTRs but I also know there are exceptions. Maybe you’ll be one of them.

So your profile…. here’s what I look for in responding to someone (Again this is just me. YMMV): First, I can’t see your face. I know that’s a thing here, but I have over a dozen face photos on my profile. I always find it amusing when I get an intro from someone who compliments me on my photos and yet doesn’t have theirs open. It’s just weird.

Next, saying you are Dom doesn’t make it so. Believe me, I’ve had plenty of experience here. The more you have to say it, the less I believe you. Why do you think you are? Give examples or better yet, paint me a verbal picture.

Finally, Your profile says nothing about you. Your interests, hobbies, what you like, why you’re in this lifestyle etc. I know nothing about you after reading your profile. And I don’t know what you look like. What would make me respond?

Again I’m just being honest from a SF perspective. Please rewrite your profile and then go to the Better Profiles section here and ask for honest criticism. And then take it. It will help move you toward the goal you’re seeking. I wish you the best of luck.

~LMK~

Hot, don't you have to be hard to have sex?

I have a single friend whom I convinced to join this site. She was very interested in the lifestyle and fantasized about meeting a lifestyle-friendly man for a long term relationship.

She has met several men. She’s had amazing sexual experiences. However, she’s still searching for a compatible long term friend.

Moral of the story: sex is easy, love is hard.

If you are hoping to start a new and long term relationship with one woman, try Tinder or some other dating app.

Most of the women on here, both single and in committed relationships, already have their own Jobs, great families, Financially security, homes, cars, etc. Basically, they have everything they need.

What these women want is sexual adventure.

True. I should update and for a while wasn’t ready for a relationship. Took time to heal and better myself.

Maybe you should put some of the attributes listed in this post on your profile instead of emphasizing how "dom" you are?

Wouldn't get a second glance from us.

“ I am fit. Job. Great family. Financially secure. Home. Cars. Basically everything I would think a woman would want.”

Did you have all of those material items 5 years ago? Maybe you’re slightly confused as to everything a woman would want?

Good afternoon and hopefully this is allowed.

I have been divorced for 5 years now and been searching for a partner that is interested in the life style.

I am fit. Job. Great family. Financially secure. Home. Cars. Basically everything I would think a woman would want.
Where are people meeting? Feel like if I send a message here is one of a million a woman gets. Any advice or maybe you know a woman also looking.