Giving out your number to someone who is phishing can be a nightmare. You may actually be giving that number to 500 people and not just one. Yes, they are on this site. Using kik or other means to establish that the person is real and legit is always safer.
Well, if someone wants to think less of me because I have a different comfort level over my phone number than they do, I can't help that. And I certainly won't apologize for it, or feel the need to explain myself. By the same token, I have no business thinking less of someone who is more willing to take that leap sooner. We're all different people, with different needs.
Vive la difference, or something like that.
Up until recently if you had very lax Facebook settings and your phone number was connected, people could look you up. Facebook fixed that after all of their security issues came to light.
A few years ago a real single (but attached) woman reached out to us. She gave us her name & number and asked us to look her up so we knew she was legit. She was. And she had a few friends in common with us. After that we looked up numbers when they were sent. Quite often "single" men were really married with a family.
We use a Google number. For us it isn't so much about being outed. I don't want my real number Googled then having info about my family in someone's hands in a few clicks.
Giving out my number or Kik exponentially increases the number of dick pics I receive, so I don't usually do so until we've met. It's not paranoia, just laziness. Plus, I'm always looking for reasons not to meet people and an insistence on talking to me on the phone is a pretty good one.
Back to the op's question. People seem to freak out about the phone number thing. Not sure why? I look at people willing to give it out as more honest and straightforward than folks that don't.
So basically that was your "out".
I simply prefer to establish that rapport before exchanging phone numbers. Thing is, it doesn't necessarily take a lot of emails to establish that rapport, IF the other party has decent communication skills. In this case, she didn't. Just my preference in how I approach it.
Sorrillo... I'm just asking... Not at all telling someone what to do. What exactly concerned you about giving out your number??? What could she have done with it??
we had exchanged emails with a couple on this sight. Their last email included a phone number. Since the wife was at work I decided that we would call later that evening. Figured it would be better if we were both present for the call. Opened our mail at SLS and they had blocked us. No clue as to why, very strange.
Just a week ago I gave a SF a polite pass, because she asked for a phone number after exchanging two VERY short emails. I dont see a problem with keeping your phone number private until you reach a rapport. As to when you reach that point, only you can make that decision for yourself.
BTW... INSIST on the face pick RIGHT OFF THE BAT! If they can't show a face pic right from the start they are generally just fat ass slobby pic hunters...
I've had to tell several after just a couple texts.. "If you don't send a face pic with the next text, DO NOT BOTHER TO TEXT!"
They usually disappear faster than pumpkin pie at Thanksgiving.
I give out our cell phone number frequently. Sometimes on the first email. We have never had a reason not to and emailing back and forth just sucks. Honestly I can't really think of what harm there is to it. I mean... What REALLY is someone gonna do that has your number? Maybe i'm naive, lucky, or just don't give a damn if someone finds out our name. It's Aaron and Tracy Snyder by the way. It just makes communicating WAY easier and if we don't click it's a simple matter of being firm and telling someone to BACK THE HELL OFF!! We believe 99% of the people on here are decent enough to go away once they are told that were not a match. We also believe that 99% of the people on here are also overly paranoid.
Have gotten email messages from 2 different people in the past few days giving us their phone number asking us to either call or text them. This is after an initial site email and our reply. No IM or further site Email conversation. Are we just being overly suspisious or does this set off any red flags with others.
On the bright side one of them have some face pictures on the site but the other one has no public pix.
Does this happen often or should we just reply thanks but no thanks.
