Polyamory Couples

Hypocrites of the first order all over this fucking site.

You all will spew any amount of bullshit to avoid facing the facts about bi-erasure and bi-phobia, which all further proves my point that that is exactly what this is.

Disingenuous fuckery, at best, to insist that bisexual has more than one meaning.

You fail to understand that words may have more than one meaning, and insist that your definition is the only one.

There is NO SUCH THING as "bi play." It's sex.

A bisexual woman isn't "playing bi" or "playing gay" when she is with another woman, you ignorant twats.

Learn what bisexuality actual is and do better. Jeeezus fucking christ.

Deal with it.

Awwww what's wrong? Don't like it when people point out actual facts abiut how most of y'all have ZERO respect for the LGBTQIA+ community

Fuck all the way off.

Esp is always nasty. Nothing new at all!

@Esperanza911: The meaning of "bi play" is well understood by those on this forum. If you don't understand the same as everyone else, it doesn't make them all wrong. No need to get nasty about your disagreement with what everyone else agrees to.

There is no such thing as "bi play".

Holy fuck, people.

Silly me. I thought this subject would be more popular.

When we had a poly relationship, we each had our own separate relationships with different people. That's the norm for most poly relationships. IMO, it's very difficult to find someone who will love you both and want sex with you both for a long time, and it's unrealistic to expect that. We did occasionally have threesomes, but without bi-play since we're both straight..

@ayoli

It's to bad you live so far away we have had several relationship where we welcome someone into our life and hearts for as long as they want to stay. Bit harder since we moved to the islands of course.

Same here, don't want to be a third wheel that is alway trying to fit in. I just want some chit chat a little food and drink and a good fuck/suck then go home...Mary Jo

Playfulduopcb stated "poly is about love, swing is about sex." That is exactly what I realized after two poly relationships with older couples. The sex was incredibly hot but I realized I just needed the sex, I didn't desire a loving relationship. Casual sexual encounters with couples provides complete satisfaction for me. I envy people in successful poly relationships, it just doesn't work for me.

We had a semi successful polylite arrangement with another couple for a few years until it started to fade and eventually died. We essentially dated the other couple, the other wife for me the husband for my wife. While we were emotionally invested we weren't in love with them. We traveled together often but as with most things it faded over time. We would do it again but the work involved in finding the right people is more difficult than the payoff is worth.

We had a poly relationship that lasted 3 years.

Ours ended when one of the partners found a love relationship outside of the poly relationship. She left.

That was 22 years ago.

Poly relationships are inherently more complicated than mono. With complication comes instability.

Well, as previously stated. Clear expectations & transparency would be necessary for any version of a polyamorus relationship to work. When one party claims to want an equal and fair relationship between two other people & in reality is looking to create an entirely separate relationship, it's doomed from the get go.

Polyamory and swinging are totally different mindsets, with a very small overlap. We've done both. Our poly relationships lasted 7 to 10 years. Our swinging relationships ranged from one time to multiple encounters over a few years - but with a very different dynamic. Poly is primarily about love, swinging is primarily about sex. And the poly relationships had one of us romantically and sexually involved with someone else - NOT both of us.

My first wife and I tried to create a poly lifestyle for 10 years while in the LS. 7 attempts & 7 failures. It always went the same way. Our "third" would always become more attached to one or the other & it would create a problem. 5 times they became 100% interested in my wife & I would get thrown out of the sexlife entirely, although try both supported the idea of me continuing to be the sole income provider. That situation was not good & led to me sleeping on the couch (not by choice) until I forced it to end. The other two times the addition became 70/30 ish favoring me & while still including my wife in every part of the relationship & my interest was intentionally 50/50 between them. In both cases my wife forcibly ended the relationship without consulting me first. I blame youth & lack of transparency from my wife (now a lesbian ) for the failures. I believe it could work between 3 adults with transparency and managing expectations properly.

I would like to be in that lifestyle that's what I am looking for it's very interesting.

My wife and I were in a poly relationship years ago. We are considering doing it again with a couple. It was so much fun being with a long term couple.

Wife and I have been in the swinging lifestyle for many years now. While it is great, fun, and exciting we have been exploring more of the polyamorous lifestyle for long term.

We live a poly lifestyle. Communication and trust is always key. If not it will fail. Open-minded and compassion while the other is finding their poly mate is needed as well.
My husband has had a girlfriend for almost 2 years and we'll I have been through 2 boyfriends in 2 years. I just can't find one I think fits well in the life we want to share.
Don't forget your poly mates have to fit well in your "family", they are not side pieces. It is a process. Make guidelines and rules, you will tweak them with one another along the way.
Be fair so everyone is included and knows what you want your life to be like.

Bad idea in my view. It's difficult enough when people who were already poly oriented bring in new partners, but when it is monogamish types moving to it, it often puts a ton of stress on the relationship.

One thing to keep in mind is that when you start bringing other people in, the complexity of the relationships increases exponentially.

With two, you have one (some would say two) relationships, person 1 to person 2.

In a triad, you have 4 relationships, 1 between each person and the triad relationship.

With 4, you have 7 relationships.

And so on...

Moving from playmate to a relationship that includes emotional attachment is the equivalent of tightrope walking without a net. Some people do so successfully, usually because they're honest with themselves and their partners, are good communicators who always work to get even better, and have excellent organizational skills. Everyone else pretty much flirts with disaster.