Yea we posted pic of me with my hand touching my crotch though panties, was told it was too nasty and moved to my personal pics then the next male profile we looked at his pics was of him in action with everything showing, I just know this site is going downhill especially for unlimited members. That is the only thing I can figure, the wants that pay time to time are the ones with the dirty pics
I don't really have much of a problem with Hot Dates.
While we are a couple, we both have a hall pass, and would sometimes want to play as singles, so it would be nice to see requests for single people.
A word on moderation...
I have been here a long time, longer than most.
The moderation of the site has been generally inconsistent. Sometimes strict, sometimes not. Which is not unexpected when dealing with humans.
"somewhere up in that food chain of management making rules is someone totally clueless to actual swingers"
you got that right!
LoveMeKnot, it is actually simple. The PTB here running a swinger website have zero idea how real swingers actually operate in a web based platform. Therefore, they create rules and blocks as a "courtesy" to the members that no one wants or likes, then defend them as doing us a favor whenever anyone complains. It is always done as a "courtesy" I'm told (insert facepalm here). The inability to even see someone's hot date if you are out of their age range or whatever is just the tip of that iceberg.
Don't start me on the "taking a break" topic which is my biggest pet peeve here, but believe me if you break your leg in an accident next week and are down for a couple of months, do not post that you are "not seeking anyone at this time" as your profile will be taken offline. We tried to "take a break" back in 2020 during the early COVID crap when no one knew what it really entailed (just as 99% of the rest of the world did). We changed our tagline to "taking a break from meeting new people" and POOF, our profile got locked out as a "courtesy" so we would not be bothered by others.
I have no idea if Wayne makes up the rules or if he is just stuck with enforcing what the PTB tell him to do, but somewhere up in that food chain of management making rules is someone totally clueless to actual swingers.
I’ve had great success in both posting Hot Dates, and responding to them. My preference for both are single males. So that’s the box I check.
I guess I’m confused as to why that process is confusing or an issue. I would think you could check any or all of the boxes so your HD was visible to whomever you had an interest.
Now, I’ve only been on the site since December. So I have no basis for comparison as to what things were like “before.” I can only say that it works pretty well for me. FWIW.
~LMK~
<p><span style="font-size:14px">"OK let me take a stab at explaining it. You are taking it on yourself to assume that the "preferences" your members have set in their profiles are "absolutes". They aren't. For just one example, there are many reasons people close their profile to single men. In many cases it's because they get tired of single men not reading a preference such as "Single men: If we want you we will find you" and/or are really sensitive to unwanted single men propositioning them. In our case (my GF and I on our couples profile) we decided to live with the occasional unwanted approaches and left our profile open to single men.</span></p>
<p><span style="font-size:14px">I'm not a fan of over moderating the forums. But moderating what you THINK other people's preferences mean is definitely out of your wheelouse.</span></p>
<p><span style="font-size:14px">Mostly it destroys an interesting part of the site. I would be very interested to know what the volume of hot dates posted were before and after that change. I think you could probably figure that out. My guess is, it's way down. I can tell you quite easily what the number of correspondences my partner and I have had with others through hot dates has been since you made tha change. Zero. Unity. Nada."</span></p>
<p><span style="font-size:14px">Over the years, we have made small tweeks to the Hot Dates page (mostly bug fixes) as I recall. I am not sure what change you are talking about? What was changed and do you remember when it was changed?</span></p>
<p><span style="font-size:14px">I am fully aware that some people's preferences are not set in stone. But other people's preferences are very well defined and set by them. So I guess my question is, how would you solve this Currentrider? If SLS ignores the Hot Date poster's preferences, those people (the ones where it is set in stone) will be upset. </span></p>
<p><span style="font-size:14px">As it is right now, if someone MIGHT be interested in single males, they can just enable that preference when they create thier Hot Date. And they may very well have to weed out a whole bunch of clueless single males and rude males. </span></p>
<p><span style="font-size:14px">I'm using single males as an example because this problem almost always boils down to "the single male" problem. </span></p>
