Your wife is like my 1st ex hotwife. My ex wife was not jealous of my fucking other wives/gfs in 4somes or orgies, but she was plain greedy in that she wanted every cock in the room to please her only. Because I am bi and loved seeing her with other men, it didn't bother me at all !
Warpig... I think your response says it all. She doesn't want you playing with a couple because then she might have to/want to play with the female. Sounds like for now, all she wants is the male half's. She is happy this way because it is all about her, attention doesn't get shared. Put another female in, and even though she may not get involved, she WILL peek to see what you two are doing, while she gets hers.
mayhem8.. thanks for the advice and your two cents. And I realized that most of us are not therapists and I do take all the advice with a grain of salt. Also sometimes getting device from people that may have been in the same position is more meaningful then, what a shrink in an office could tell me.
EdandBritney... thanks for the info I wasn't aware that the position of the Letter's mattered. I am still new to this trying to get all the lingo and abbreviations right.
Nipplelucious.... when she is getting stuffed I do get involved and participate. I have never noticed her get snugly or affectionate with another woman. The reason her profile says bisexual. We were talking one day and she said she wouldn't mind if another woman went down on her. Just to experiment to see if she liked it. Know as long as i don't touch the other woman or she doesn't touch me.
@OP FWIW - Wanting to do something is not generally a problem. Like drinking, it tends to become a problem when it gets in the way of healthy/normal behavior with no intention of stopping. Taking your significant other's feelings/experience into account is something normal in a healthy relationship. Wanting to continue doing something while telling your significant other they can't do the same is a problem. hence the "addiction" thinking.
As always though, take any advice here with a big grain of salt because, as far as I know, none of us are trained therapists. Even if we were, we haven't even heard her side of the story directly. While we can offer opinions, the ones that matter are hers and yours, and how you two work it out together is between you.
Male side here- I haven't heard your position on what is happening when she is getting stuffed. Do you watch, or try and get involved? Has she EVER touched or gotten snuggly with a female, in your presents? I think just because she says Bi, but hasn't yet, is a self suggestion that she might want to, but under her terms, meaning, when SHE finds the right one. Setting up dates is difficult at best, but that is why we always meet them before hand. If we don't feel it before, we surely won't feel it after, regardless of male/female playing. SHE has to feel it. Now taking multiple partners at one time is great for her and great to watch, but while you are watching, think of how another female would fit into her pleasure....meaning, a cock would be left out so muff diving could take place, something she may not want to happen. Talking out that this would extend play with her males while she is taking the female could help. Explain to her how you see it. Let her tell you how she sees it. Then you have a base to start from.
"Ed, are you saying his listing may be why she gets emotional when he mentions another female/couple or is this your way of showing interest?"
Allen ... neither, I wasnt correlating the 2 things nor volunteering ... I just noticed the straight label and the order of the letters and there are a lot of folks who dont know the order means something so was just being informative.
EdandBritney... me the male half i ment MFM.
@OP - You asked, so my $.02 is this sucks, plain and simple. Simply stopping may not be an option for you at this point as she may do it anyway, with or without you. Sex can very much be an addiction, just like a drug. Can't say for sure that she is a sex addict, but it certainly sounds that way.
On one hand, you have to have feelings about someone in order for there to be jealousy. If she didn't give a shit about you, she wouldn't care what you did or with who.
The flip side is that she doesn't care enough to have a good sense of fairness, which is why I suspect she'd do this with or without you. This definitely seems like a case where some professional help is needed. For whatever reason, hearing the same message from a professional (or even someone other than you) can hold more cred.
In the meantime, if you do continue to play you can either suggest separate room play and/or play while she's distracted. If she has a cock in her mouth and pussy she isn't likely to be able to keep tabs on what you're doing. It still sucks, but at least you're making lemonade in the meantime because rarely does going cold turkey (if she is actually an addict) work the first time, much less without professional help. It could well be that, after professional help, you both leave the LS. Good luck.
Well without knowing what exactly was discussed and any boundaries that were set before you guys started, lets just assume that it was a mutual decision to to start swinging and that each of you would be expected to be able to play with others. That being said this is a huge red flag and something is terribly wrong with the arrangement as it stands. Taking it a little further, if she initiated the discussion about swinging and then wants only her to reap the benefits then you have a serious relationship problem on your hands. Now if you like having MFM and thats exciting to you then maybe this is workable but looking at this from a surface level you two need to leave the lifestyle until both of you are on the same page.
Ed, are you saying his listing may be why she gets emotional when he mentions another female/couple or is this your way of showing interest?
~Allen
WarPig ...
side note ... You (male half) are listed as straight, but you do MMF? Do you mean MFM? ... the order makes a diofference
total double standard sorry to say shes in the game for herself and her pleasure you are secondary.. Now if you liked just the MMF thats cool.. Something you will need to discuss with her and find out what the real issue is.. But this is a two way street not a one way
She must have a male sexual brain, LOL.....
Ok thanks for the feed back I really appreciate it.
You have a tough road ahead, it seems. You should be talking with her about this issue and if that doesn't work, well...….. there are other avenues.
Allen
I have been with my wife for 23yrs. We have recently started swinging. (It's been less than a year)...... So the wife likes MMF, getting gang banged and getting DP'd. She will take dick for hours. If I try to set up a couples meet and greet or talk about another woman she comes unglued and all of a sudden has these feelings about it all. Funny thing is she doesn't have these fillings when she is getting cock or I talk about inviting another guy over. Any advice for me?
