Don't know whats wrong

You've gotten some pretty good advice here, but I am going to take it another direction.

How much porn do you consume? How do you watch it? Today's social media, swipe right/left, instant access culture will wire your brain and lead to the very thing you're experiencing. The result of months of instant access is frustration, lack of stimulation, and general unhappiness with life. If this is what is happening/happened to you, I would suggest going on a porn fast for a month or more. Replace the times you are looking at it with reading well written erotica. Reading about sex engages the imagination which may rewire your brain back to a point where visual stimulation is once again a turn on.

BJ.

Couple4u,

That sounds like a frustrating problem, but the good news is that it’s all in your head. It could be any number of things, but sounds a lot like classic performance anxiety. Tackle the problem head on. Talk in depth with your wife. When ready, bring another woman into the conversation. Role playing may help. Lots of hypnosis and visualization may help.

You may also want to try a little blue pill; even if you physically don’t need it, it may be a good confidence booster.

I have a similar problem. When at home or anywhere with wife im good to go. Once another lady comes in he goes away. Cant fathom why?

I think this is more common than most guys care to admit. You may try and start off with some more simple steps like getting more exercise (naturally brings testosterone levels up in some men), clean eating, less alcohol, and some stress relief. Assuming these are factors for you. Outside of that, as others suggest - get a doctor who will spend the time to help you figure this out. I was told by a doctor that once you start taking testosterone injections, creams, etc. that it could cause your body to no longer produce its own natural testosterone. You may be dependent on supplemental help for the rest of your life. That said, this is only something I was told and have no data to prove that. Just something to look into and consider.

Mike,
Get yourself a NEW doctor and don’t look back.

You can inject yourself with T once or twice a week to build up your T level. Tell the doctor it’s important to you and to test it regularly, every 2-4 months.

It WILL make a difference. I have two friends that do this, and both have had very favorable results. The important thing is that your MD follow you closely, resting regularly. IGNORE what the “book” suggests should be your T level “as you get older”!! That’s bullshit, bullshit, bullshit!!! Don’t be embarrassed to tell your doctor exactly what’s happening, that you don’t like it, that you want to be able to have sex with a 19-yo fuckbunny all night and have the desire to do that. He should be able to keep your T level in the high 700’s to amid 800’s. Press the doctor! If he seems disinterested, dump him and get still another MD who is SERIOUS about helping you.

SLO

SLO, Your a genius, LOL....Mary Jo

Towner that makes since now that you mention it

YOU ARE suffering from DEPRESSION. Look into that: see your doctor, and for a possible referral.

—- SLO

Thanks.. glad to know its not just me.
I'll look into all this advice

Yes. In the same age range as you, and also hit a point where the desire leveled off and took a dip, sometimes major drop. You arent alone. T levels came back normal but going to check what normal means. I can still perform but with a few exceptions, my interest level seems to drift.

I found getting the shots every two weeks didn't work because you would get the initial spike in the first couple of days and then it would drop off quickly. Doing it 2x a week has given me much better results.

There are loads of possible reasons for guys to develop low libido. Rather than list them all here, you can look them up online and see which ones may fit your situation. Internet search something like "men low libido causes." There are also lots of blog sites where you can interact with other guys dealing with this.

Lots of discussion of Testosterone here. And, that could be the problem. (I get injections every 3 weeks, and that keeps T levels at between 300 and 400.) But, it also could be psychological. You might be able to reinvigorate your libido by some new fantasies, or Role Play with the Mrs., or some other approach. I know that if one does the same thing in the same way for too long, one can become desensitized to it. It can be like looking at too much porn. Eventually you become saturated with it, and it doesn't do it for you. You might consider checking T-levels, make sure you're eating a healthy diet, and getting proper exercise. Then, change up your sexual routine for a while. Find something that turns you on.

<p>Mike,</p>

<p>Your testosterone is probably within the norm for a person your age, but is probably low as compared to a 25 year old. You need to find out the exact number. For example, 300 may be "normal" for a 50+ year old, but a 25 year old may be closer to 800.</p>

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Thats one thing I was wondering cause when I asked my doctor it was a ( its fine)
Non concern answer

What is your T level? Many Drs. don't know how to deal with low T issues. They use a rather low range as normal. I use to use the VA for my T shots and I was never feeling like it was helping. Went to a place that specializes in low T and my numbers were so low the T from the VA was basically a waste of effort. I now inject myself 2x a week with the correct amount and have lots of energy and sex drive.

I been having a problem the last few years where I just don't get horny anymore.
We go to partys naked half naked women everywhere but it really doesn't affect me its really no different than talking to a woman in wal mart.
The tool seems to work but its seems to be more in my head. Just kind of a rarely care anything about it anymore.
I asked my doctor about my Titestrone (don't know how to spell that) all he said was it fine.
Anybody else have this problem? Or is it just time to give up.
Aggravates me cause I've seen many guys much older than seem to want it way more than I do. 54 by the way