The flow

While I (the male half) am by no means an expert on profiles and feel one should put one's own thoughts, use one's own ideas for pictures, etc so they convey who they are and not paint some "perfect" picture of themselves I do feel the need to point out one thing. Get rid of that damn "warning" it seems people constantly are taken in by. It's not just here (or on other) swinger sites but all across social media. It is a hoax and honestly regardless of what it says the only thing that matters along these lines is what you agreed to when you created an account. Honestly the wife and I laugh at it when we see it and will pass even though the profile we are looking at is otherwise interesting.

BTW in the end your profile is just that your profile and should paint a clear picture of who you are and what you are looking for and be up to date. There is nothing worse than meeting someone in person and finding out they are nothing like what they say in their profile. Worse yet is outright lying about preferences and then suddenly when you meet one partner or the other is not interested in playing (usually the female) and yet the profile was all about what she (or he usually she) was looking for. To us that is even worse than your picture being 10+ years old or lying about your age or weight. Of course that only matters when you actually do get to meet but it has a bearing when it comes to creating YOUR profile even if it means others who are not compatible pass on by. In the end it should be about quality not quantity unless all you really want is quantity which is okay too.

Meeting people online is much different than in person - you profile cannot react to different situations! And most people don't realize how their profile is perceived - it's often not how you intended.

Go read the advice to other couples in the Better Profiles forum for ideas on how to improve your profile. My quick advice - delete the warnings in Additional Comments (they are useless and make you look gullible) and redo Looking For and Description to include more useful information. I have no idea if you are looking for one-time encounters with ladies or on-going FWB relationships with couples or something else entirely. Nor do I have any idea what we might talk about if we do meet. You have a few good pictures but several bad selfies as well - look for Velma's DEBauCH system for core pictures in your public gallery (you definitely need a DATE picture showing how you'll arrive for a first meeting). My photo advice is more general - smile, watch for clutter or visual chaos in the background and avoid selfies.

I would expect you'll do better once there is more information in your profile.

Have fun!

~Phoebert's Wife

Yes that does sound like a good idea and thanks for that tip, it just gets frustrating sometimes,

We are not new to the swingers scene but it seems like we constantly get told not interested, but most the couples in the area don’t ever say why, but by the profiles it seems like because we aren’t supermodels or have loads of money we aren’t worth the time to even reply to, how do you break into the scene or have people show interest without looking desperate???