Starting out, should I join a party in NY

I'm a huge fan of clubs, but for you it will depend on your social skills. Do you have them? In particular, are you good at projecting interest without being pushy? Are you able to approach a woman or a couple without a sense of entitlement? Would you have a good time at a club if you did nothing other than sit around and talk to people the first few visits?

As far as your profile, I kinda see where you're headed with it, but it's not currently working and I'd like to second the suggestion to head over to Better Profiles. It's generally not a pleasant experience, especially for a single man with a sloppy profile and without a photo, but you might find it quite useful. Otherwise, yeah, definitely read the suggested sections and take the advice to heart.

For a brutally honest profile review once you get done with your rewrite go to the Better Profiles section of the Successful Swinging Forum. Or just read through some of the advice given to others. Then also read some of the threads in the Achieving Single Male Success section - you'll start seeing a pattern to the advice.

Good luck & have fun!

Yeah seeing the error of my ways and started working on profile, expect an update soon.

Thanks for the friendly advice.

You're definitely not going to rely on your profile to get laid so you need to do something else. Parties and clubs are decent options.

But, please put more effort into that than you did your profile.

I agree with RonKathy that your profile needs work. I can't even tell why you are here. And use a computer to create your profile, not your phone - it is so much easier to see the typos (you have several) and what doesn't make sense. At least one smiling picture will be a big help - full body or just your face - but definitely smiling. Most couples and single ladies will pass you over unless there is at least one picture.

Are you looking to play with couples or ladies, on-going FWB or one & done? Put that info in Looking For. Then tell us about you in Description - what you like to do in addition to sex. We need something to talk about while deciding if you are suitable for us. I assume you have fantasies - want to try MFM with a couple, looking for two ladies for FMF or FFM, maybe a hotwife you send home to tell her hubby all about the fun you had together - give us a hint.

I've never been to a club or party but it would seem to be the quickest way to meet others in the lifestyle and find playmates. Even here in the country we have clubs and parties so you should be able to find something in the city. Searching online and actually finding someone to play with is a lot more work (screening out the fakes and flakes).

Good luck!

Okay welcome.. you asked and so far no response as some are just getting home from partying last night.. But really, work on your profile it is very juvenile and doesn't say anything about who or what you enjoy.. next do not be one of these guys with no photos.. Look around at some good profiles, don't reinvent the wheel. Make it your own to include nice smiling photos and always change it up.. our SLS guys have great profiles and nice photos always classy and sensual.. now yes attend some clubs and get your own group of friends with benefits.. but listen to those who are successful swinging . If you don't.. like life it will be a waste of your time.. and watching from the sidelines of life! Good luck..

Completely new to this and need some guidance on how to he bear way to start out.

Lots of clubs in NY cater for singles but I'm glad I read through some if the posts here as they sound like loads of zombie singles roving around..

So my question is whether a club is the right place to get my wings?