New to this

You do not need to jump right into any sort of swap if you're not ready for it. The Mrs and I had our first actual experiences with just us playing in a private room at LS parties where we could hear others around us and they could hear us (the Mrs is VERY vocal...lol). Before that we just went to Meet and Greets. One of the 1st things you'll notice is that swingers look just like everyone else.

As we got more comfortable we started to leave the door open at LS parties so people could peek in at us, then watch. We eventually took the leap to soft swap with a couple we got to know well, and eventually full swap, but it was a process over time.

One of the first things we needed to work out was if "kissing and cuddling" were OK. It's a common first hurdle when you get to actually swapping.

The key thing is that this should be something that you both are doing to enhance YOUR sex lives. If it's not doing that for you equally then you need to step back and discuss how to fix it or if you even want to continue with it.

Begin, if you haven't already by discussing together how the two of you want to play with another couple. Take an inventory of emotions as you go through or revisit the discussion and make sure that both of you are ready to take the step. Too many men create a profile before their wives are ready to begin swinging. Walk together throughout the process. Be sure that both of you know one another's boundaries and can communicate them well to and for one another. Don't push one another to go beyond them or let someone else push either of you beyond them. Too many people make the mistake of giving ground to have their first encounter. Don't do it.

Now let others know how you want to play and who you are looking for by filling out the profile more. This is how couples begin shopping to see if you all are compatible. The more information you have there the better off you all will be.

You really need a picture of both of you together in your profile. Often when there is no male present people will assume that he is fat, ugly, etc.... or that the profile may not be legitimate. Get some good pictures in a non-cluttered environment and definitely not a selfie. Just set the timer on your camera app.

Get out to a club, meet and greet, or a party and talk to real live people. It is far more encouraging and gives you a better picture of what swinging is actually like than slogging along online.

Good luck.

NOT SHURE WHAT COUPLES WANT,INTO BI,LOVE TO BE WITH UNDERSTANDING COUPLES JOE

start with a better profile and some more pics. then try the hot date section of the site. from the looks of her pics, it wont be too hard to find some fun. good luck but it does take time.

We are wanting to try having a bedroom relationship with another couple and not sure where to start