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<p>Other members can give you good advice based on what they see (your public pictures and profile text). They obviously cannot see any private content. As an SLS staff member, I can see that you have a lot of good private pictures. You already have a public picture showing your faces so you should probably upload some of those private pictures as public. <br />
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<p>Also, you are reaching out, but sending a relatively generic "look at our profile and let us know if you are interested" type message. Yes, that will cause lots of people to view your profile, but the ones that are not interested will then just move on. You need to engage more with your introductory message. Comment about one of their pictures that you like or reference something in their profile text that you have in common with them.</p>

Hi, sorry. I didn't see this earlier or you would have gotten this advice sooner: There is an entire forum section devoted to crafting a better profile, including stickies on photos and common sense changes that almost everyone could incorporate. There are also hundreds of individual profile reviews that can be read for advice that is applicable to you.

I'd suggest exploring that section, incorporating a few changes, and then, if you feel comfortable, asking for specific advice in a post there.

My first impression is that the first picture is not the same woman as in the second picture. Not saying it isn't, but the second picture makes her appear way heavier than the first picture. Also, saying you're new and/or only looking for soft swap can be off putting for some.

That said, a search of your area for couples with straight males and bi or straight women within 50 miles of you that have pictures and are paid members shows over 200 results, which seems decent.

If you want to try to jump start your LS adventures you may want to look for parties or meet & greets in your area and attend one. It can be fairly difficult finding people online.

To look for local parties check out the Hot Dates link in the left pane, if on a browser.

Hey there…my husband and I just joined. He is more familiar with LS than me. We feel we have a decent profile, we have reached out to other couples, couples have viewed our profile, but not getting any interaction. Feeling like we are doing something wrong. Any guidance or advice would be appreciated. Thank you!